In-Laws and Mother In-Law Problems !!!! - 02/04/04 05:22 AM
I have been Married for 11 years and a Mother in-law that will not let my husband grow up raise his own children or I should say "one of his children" that is! She is trying to run two house holds her's and mines.She feels I dont't have my children best interest at heart and one of the children and she has my Husband thinking that same thing. I know he has his own mind but if thess accusations are coming from your Mother WELL NEED I SAY MORE! she checks up behind me and if i DONT FOLLOW THROUGH ON SOMETHING OR FOREVER REASON HAVE TO CHANGE PLANS SHE QUESTIONS "WHY" make it seems I am being irrespondsible. But I can not totally fault her because My husband is allowing her to do so. I really feel that she wants my marriage to end .And he is trying to PLEASE 2 WOMEN Mother & Wife though in the bible it states that when a gets married he is to leave his father amd mother's home a cleave to his wife.
Now if I understand that well, they are to love,honor and respect each other forsake all others interference in thier marriage to make thier own decisions in thier home and thier family. The Sad part about this all,his mother knows that she should not be doing this and his happiness should matter to her but what matters to her more is her being incontrol and she still interferes . We have been talking about spliting becasue she and I can not get along. I have a problem with 3rd party people.
My husband does not go through this from my family at all matter fact he and my mom get along wonderfully.I have tried to get along with her but it's hard when ,she trys to belittle me every chance she gets that is when she and I get into it an arguement she calls it constructive critizim ,I call it disrespecting our marriage and me as his wife. I feel she does not like me at all ,she wants me to do as she saids but when I dont follow her lead and USE MY OWN MIND THAT GOD GAVE ME .She then goes to my husband then he and I get into it because of what she has told him. It's like she trys to compeite with me to make herself more fulfilled and addequte, on who is the better mother, like HIS MOTHERS Knows best and I am totally clueless I dont know what it is with her. One would think she would be off vacationing with her own husband instead or doing some kind hobby, it seems she has found her hobby meddeling in our affairs she knows more about what is going on in my home than he does she gets information from one of the children.
I told him we need marriage counseling really bad! Please can anyone one give me some advice !!!!
Now if I understand that well, they are to love,honor and respect each other forsake all others interference in thier marriage to make thier own decisions in thier home and thier family. The Sad part about this all,his mother knows that she should not be doing this and his happiness should matter to her but what matters to her more is her being incontrol and she still interferes . We have been talking about spliting becasue she and I can not get along. I have a problem with 3rd party people.
My husband does not go through this from my family at all matter fact he and my mom get along wonderfully.I have tried to get along with her but it's hard when ,she trys to belittle me every chance she gets that is when she and I get into it an arguement she calls it constructive critizim ,I call it disrespecting our marriage and me as his wife. I feel she does not like me at all ,she wants me to do as she saids but when I dont follow her lead and USE MY OWN MIND THAT GOD GAVE ME .She then goes to my husband then he and I get into it because of what she has told him. It's like she trys to compeite with me to make herself more fulfilled and addequte, on who is the better mother, like HIS MOTHERS Knows best and I am totally clueless I dont know what it is with her. One would think she would be off vacationing with her own husband instead or doing some kind hobby, it seems she has found her hobby meddeling in our affairs she knows more about what is going on in my home than he does she gets information from one of the children.
I told him we need marriage counseling really bad! Please can anyone one give me some advice !!!!