8 years later... - 05/19/12 09:24 PM
A has been over for years, NC been estabished for years, FWW has made tons of changes, life has gone on. Life has been really good, with intermittent problems, always stemming from my triggering and then becoming very insecure, looking under every rock. Always ending in my wife feeling as if none of the changes that she has made have worked, and that nothing will ever change. I can see why she feels this way, I know that in my worst triggering and suspicious bx, I drive her backward.
She has recently gotten a job as a virtual office assistant whcih requires her to travel one weekend a month. Ok, I thought I could handle it. The first day on her first trip her phone ran out of battery and she had no way to charge it. So, for 10 hours she was unbable to answer the phone or text me. I was in hell! She explained every detail of the trip with proof for everything, but it has sent me into a tailspin and I feel like I'm back in the aftermath of the A 8 years ago.
Since then, I have been a wreck. She feels hopeless that our marriage will ever really be better. I see her point, and I see mine.
Please, someone help me shed some light on this. I'm not a newbie, I have fought the good fight, but I'm very tired and need my confidence back and a strong relationship with my wife.
She has recently gotten a job as a virtual office assistant whcih requires her to travel one weekend a month. Ok, I thought I could handle it. The first day on her first trip her phone ran out of battery and she had no way to charge it. So, for 10 hours she was unbable to answer the phone or text me. I was in hell! She explained every detail of the trip with proof for everything, but it has sent me into a tailspin and I feel like I'm back in the aftermath of the A 8 years ago.
Since then, I have been a wreck. She feels hopeless that our marriage will ever really be better. I see her point, and I see mine.
Please, someone help me shed some light on this. I'm not a newbie, I have fought the good fight, but I'm very tired and need my confidence back and a strong relationship with my wife.