Now what? - 08/13/12 06:43 PM
It's been 5 years since I found out about my husband's 2-yr affair. After my last depressing post here a few weeks ago, he and I had a really good honest talk. It turned out that there were a lot of misunderstandings. All we needed was honesty. I had no idea how HE felt until he told me. Our relationship took a huge turn and I *finally* felt at peace. I started to feel that we once again were a couple... something I hadn't felt in a long time. It was a great feeling. I felt "at ease" with him. I stopped being on a look-out for how he could hurt me, or was he cheating again, or was he really dedicated to me and our family...
And then... just last week a bomb drops. I was tested positive for a cancer-causing virus that is sexually transmitted but doesn't affect men (all have probably heard of the new vaccine that is supposed to prevent this -- it's that kind of virus). I don't want to go into the details of my sex life, but it's pretty obvious to me that I got this from my husband and he got this from OW. I can't think of any other possibilities.
I haven't told my husband yet because I know if I open my mouth it won't be pretty. And it'll be a sure end to our peaceful life right now. I'm crushed. Going in for more testing/treatments in a couple of weeks.
P.S. All that is going through my head is "Your affair could very well kill me."
And then... just last week a bomb drops. I was tested positive for a cancer-causing virus that is sexually transmitted but doesn't affect men (all have probably heard of the new vaccine that is supposed to prevent this -- it's that kind of virus). I don't want to go into the details of my sex life, but it's pretty obvious to me that I got this from my husband and he got this from OW. I can't think of any other possibilities.
I haven't told my husband yet because I know if I open my mouth it won't be pretty. And it'll be a sure end to our peaceful life right now. I'm crushed. Going in for more testing/treatments in a couple of weeks.
P.S. All that is going through my head is "Your affair could very well kill me."