Opinions on my situation.... - 08/17/12 07:35 PM
My spouse cheated on me 4 years ago....it was with someone I thought was my best friend. The other person still remains to be friends with alot of my spouse and I's friends.
After finding out about the A, I told the other person to leave my life. I told them to leave completely, do not come anywhere you suspect I might be, do not continue to be friends with my friends.
There is are 2 certain friends that knew about the occurrence and they still continue to associate with this character. Occasionally the other person's name will come up while I am around. Every time this happens, it sends me into a spiral. I become very angry with these two friends, it affects my relationship with my spouse because of my anger, I get very short tempered.
I have recently told these 2 "friends" that until they care for me and respect me enough to not associate with this person, that I am done with them. I have told them they are not welcome around me, my residence, or anywhere I am.
I hate it and harbor so much hatred towards the other person still. I am like many here that I would love the chance to run into the other person.
How do I fix this anger? Did I do the right thing with my "friends?
After finding out about the A, I told the other person to leave my life. I told them to leave completely, do not come anywhere you suspect I might be, do not continue to be friends with my friends.
There is are 2 certain friends that knew about the occurrence and they still continue to associate with this character. Occasionally the other person's name will come up while I am around. Every time this happens, it sends me into a spiral. I become very angry with these two friends, it affects my relationship with my spouse because of my anger, I get very short tempered.
I have recently told these 2 "friends" that until they care for me and respect me enough to not associate with this person, that I am done with them. I have told them they are not welcome around me, my residence, or anywhere I am.
I hate it and harbor so much hatred towards the other person still. I am like many here that I would love the chance to run into the other person.
How do I fix this anger? Did I do the right thing with my "friends?