Relationships Between Divorce and Recovery - 01/09/17 04:59 PM
Hi all,
Situation: Wife had an affair, we divorced, were apart (as apart as can be with children involved) for about 5 years, now in recovery and working to repair and improve our relationship.
The problems I am having right now are related to the relationships she had during the time we were divorced. She had every right to do so and I completely understand and acknowledge that fact, but I am having a very difficult time with the fact that she dated and slept with some of these relationships. We truly do love each other and are both very committed to beginning a new relationship together.
My question to start with is what can I do to help get past these feelings about her relationships during our divorced period. When something triggers those feelings, it literally feels like I'm getting punched in the gut. I want to get past this so bad, but have not found anything to help. Any advice?
Situation: Wife had an affair, we divorced, were apart (as apart as can be with children involved) for about 5 years, now in recovery and working to repair and improve our relationship.
The problems I am having right now are related to the relationships she had during the time we were divorced. She had every right to do so and I completely understand and acknowledge that fact, but I am having a very difficult time with the fact that she dated and slept with some of these relationships. We truly do love each other and are both very committed to beginning a new relationship together.
My question to start with is what can I do to help get past these feelings about her relationships during our divorced period. When something triggers those feelings, it literally feels like I'm getting punched in the gut. I want to get past this so bad, but have not found anything to help. Any advice?