How do you stop it?

My divorce from the alien abductee was in March '02. I wasn't surprised to continue to get mail addressed to her old name, since I stayed in the family home, and I just ignored it. In fact, after she moved out in Aug. '00, she had her mailed forwarded to the Mothership, and there was hardly any mailed addressed to her that reached my mailbox anyway - mostly I got the Mr. & Mrs. WAT stuff.

When I changed addresses in Oct. '04, however, her junk mail followed me. Now I get stuff almost everyday addressed to Mrs. WAT. I don't need THIS reminder!

What's a WAT to do?

I've thought of submitting a forwarding address notice to the post office to have this stuff forwarded to her - thinking that maybe that's how the junk mailers found my new address in the first place, via my legit change of address notice. This would be fun, too, to imagine reminding OM when he picks up the mail that he's married to "used" goods. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

So, what are some things I can change to stop this? Best I can tell, I've exorcised her name from mine everywhere I can - maybe I didn't get them all. Where do junk mailers get their address data?

Thanks in advance,
WAT
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Touched by His Noodly Appendage

Another question, anybody need any credit cards?

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WAT

Hey WAT!! So good to see you posting. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> If you find a way to get rid of junk mail let us know. Especially mail that doesn't belong to anyone in our family, LOL

Hi, WAT. You might find this page helpful....

http://www.dmaconsumers.org/offmailinglist.html

Kathi

Thanks for replying, ladies.

Here's some pertinent info from the good link Kathi provided:


The part about checking with the credit agencies may be a good thing to do for me. Thanks, Kathi for the link. The part about contacting the companies sending the mail would be a continuous process.

I kinda doubt some junk mail for me is going to XW's address - if that were the case, I'm sure I would have been getting accusations from her or OM about harrassment, "invading their privacy", any of the other vile things BSs do for "revenge" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />, or demands for me to stop the junk mail, along with solving world hunger.

Thanks again,
WAT

No thank you to the CC offer, have plenty of my own. You're always trying to give away something Dave, first the doggie, now this. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />


Just wanted to say "hola" to one of my all time fav MB members.

Hope you and family have a Blessed Christmas.

Love,
Jo

On the outskirts of Ocotillo Wells, CA, there are a number of houses with 2 mailboxes.

One for regular mail, on a post about 3 or 4 feet off the ground. The other labeled "junk mail" is on a pole about 10 feet off the ground.

Perhaps one of the tall ones with your xWW's name on it?

-ol' 2long

Send the envelopes, pre-paid ones only, back w/ a note that she doesn't live there.....?

FWIW, my x has been gone 10 years and I still get some junk mail for him. From people/groups we never supported or bought from. Who knows...

All mail addressed to "Mrs. WAT" should be marked "Deceased; next of kin at OM, XYZ, CA, 99999"

Thanks for the responses.

I like KaylaAndy's (for fun) and have thought of similar things before, but the "deceased" option has a certain appropriateness, doncha think? Hmmmm, instead, how 'bout "abducted to this new address"??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Seriously, I may not choose to do something like this because it would for sure provoke typical spew characteristic of those in denial living in altered realities. The fact that my son lives with the happy couple part time means the reactions to any such forwarding may be visible to him and subject to alien spin control, of which I certainly cannot predict nor influence.

An alternative is simply to forward all junk mail to her without any "embellishment" and politely communicate to her to please make arrangements to change her name and address. When that is rejected as my problem (like everything else) perhaps I could then start forwarding the stuff to OM at his place of business.

Gotta find fun where you can, right?

WAT

I still get mail for X and my children see it, so I send it to him when we exchange clothes.

When my father passed away, I had all his mail forwarded to me in another state just in case we had missed something. Two years later I received quite a few solicitations for life insurance sales, guaranteed benefits. I thought of filling them out - since they were obviously not concerned that he was dead. It would have been a great investment. But I'm too ethical.

Orrrrr, how about writing "please forward" to:

Ms. Abductee
4567 Mothership Avenue
Alienville, Altered 98xxx

I had too much espresso this morning, does it show?

At one point, I submitted a change of address form for my x - after he had been gone a couple of years. He fussed at me about that because they notified him at his new address. Don't know why or how. But, I explained I was still getting mail for him and that I thought that would stop some of it - which it did.

After I moved to a new house, I once received mail addressed to the OW, and she never lived at either my old or my new house!

I went to the post office and told them I kept getting mail addressed to my ex.
I filled out a form (don't recall which form???) and it let the carrier and the local station that mail addressed to ONLY the names I put on the form (me & my two daughters) should be delivered.
It worked.
If our name was not on the envelope, I did not receive it.

Something else;
From http://www.obviously.com/junkmail/

"If you receive mail for former residents (including ex's) or they neglected to fill out a Post Office change of address card, or it expired, you can fill one out for them. You must fill out one card for each unique last name. Write "Moved, Left No Forwarding Address" as the new address. Sign your own name and write "Form filled in by current resident of the house, [Your Name], agent for the above". You must write "agent for the above". Hand this form directly to your carrier, if possible, as your carrier must approve the form and see that it gets entered into the post service National Change of Address (NCOA) database. This is very effective."

Hi Chris - hope you're well.

Thanks for the good info.

Is there a risk, if taking the approach you described, that legit mail to me or my son could be inadvertantly rejected at the PO because of the common last name of XW's former name? I don't get any mail addressed to her new name, Mrs. Poopforbrains, just stuff addressed to her first name and my last name.

Thanks,
WAT

wat,

I have this problem too. I simply cross out my address and write "Not at this address, return to sender" on the mail and stuff it back in the box.

That is usually the last I see from that particular mailer.

Only one mailer was overly persistant and it happened to be her auto insurance carrier who inadvertantly changed her address to mine. Instead of simply calling her to find out what her new (actually unchanged) address was they instead had a hired a collection agency to hunt her down. (snicker)

We battled the insurance company for a couple of weeks but they finally admitted and corrected their mistake and lost a customer.

If you get a lot of junk mail make some self stick labels with RETURN TO SENDER, PERSON NOT AT THIS ADDRESS on it.

Ooooooo, I like the pre-printed quick stick label idea.

Could it say, "Forward to Mothership, no aliens at this address"??

WAT

I put down all the FIRST and LAST names of those living in the house. Me & my daughters.
If any of our names were on the mail, it came through.
If it's addressed to both of you, it will go through.

It should stop any mail that does not have your name on it, unless it's "Resident". For some reason they have to deliver that crap...

Hi WAT

Credit card applications????

hmmmmmmm

what I am thinking is illegal ... so I'll shaddup <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Hi Pep -

Yep, most of these things are credit card offers. Very early on, the fleeting thought occured to me to just sign her up! - recognizing the illegality that must take place in doing so. Then I thought, hmmmmm, would it be illegal to submit the applications, noting her new name, noting her real address, "forgetting" to sign the form, and mailing them in? Just trying to be helpful! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Bingle Jells!
WAT

Hey Dave, Merry Christmas......

I get mail for him, and I just throw it away......hope he doesn't need any of it...... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Now, that is what I do. Just throw it away. Although, once, since he got married, I sent in one of those we can find you a date things for him - using his then address and phone number. I am sorry. I just couldn't resist. It's been years since I did that, though. And I've never breathed a word of that to anyone.

Sing, how are you. Haven't seen you around in ages. Coming to TN any time soon?

I've gotten mail for my first ex-husband...after divorcing my second husband. This was 10 years and 4 moves/new addresses later!

I've had business calls from people wanting to talk with my exWS...probably collection agencies! When I state that we're divorced, they ask if I know how he can be reached. I just tell them if they can find him they're having better luck than me!

What really bothered me was when my exWS had to sign off on our auto insurance policy...even though I was the holder of it and always had been. Because he was a registered driver...they said he had to sign off in spite of being divorced.

Why not just collect the mail in a civil manner, then arrange to meet so you can deliver it in a decent, adult manner? Why play games? Why not just be real, be the good person you know yourself to be, and stop trying to hurt your ex?

ablocke - to whom were you responding?

If it was me, the originator of this post, rest assured that all attempts at civility over the past, oh, 5 1/2 years have been met with behavior usually associated with those not only incapable of civility, but living in deluded states.

"decent, adult manner" is not recognizable by her, because it takes one to know one. Just trust me on this, OK? If you knew the details, you'd have a different take, I promise.

Games? Hurt my XW? I could not begin to compete with her on these levels. Thankfully, I'm on an entirely different planet. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

WAT

When the STBX moved out and in with the OW at her house he changed HIS address to be forwarded there...the next thing I knew all MY junk mail was going to HER house with MY name on it...LOL

Some things you just can't help but smile <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Though I'm still not divorced after 5 years apart, I rarely visit this forum anymore... too much of a reminder of how difficult my divorce has been and still is... but it's so great to see all you other old timers here!

Mail with STBX's name on it... Well, I still get some mail for our business with his name so I need to see that. Then there was the store that sent mail with MOW's first name and WH's last name - I called them twice to ask them to please stop! They were very apologetic and finally did.

The official paperwork when WH lost his professional license came to my address. I opened it, copied it, then both forwarded it to his lawyer, since I don't know WH's home address, and sent a copy back to agency with his lawyer's address for further correspondence. The true junk mail I just throw away.

The traffic ticket he got this month - at my address when he's lived elsewhere for 5 years but has never put in a forwarding address... threw it away, too. I got tired of forwarding his mail a couple of years ago. He's a big boy. If he wanted to get stuff like parking tickets, etc., he would've changed his address long ago! As far as I know, he doesn't have a driver's license, so what difference does it make if he gets a parking ticket?!

"The traffic ticket he got this month - at my address when he's lived elsewhere for 5 years but has never put in a forwarding address... threw it away, too. I got tired of forwarding his mail a couple of years ago. He's a big boy. If he wanted to get stuff like parking tickets, etc., he would've changed his address long ago! As far as I know, he doesn't have a driver's license, so what difference does it make if he gets a parking ticket?!"



Good point!!! My exWS hadn't bothered to change his address on his license after he moved out and we divorced. Neither of us remained at the old address. We had lived in a doublewide that went into bankruptcy because I couldn't afford it with just my income.

My exWS got in a motorcycle accident and sustained severe injuries. He was unable to tell anyone his address, family members, etc. His driver's license? Had the old address! What made it even worse, the doublewide had been removed from the lot so there was no house there when the police drove there.

His accident was at 4:30 pm. He could have easily died from his injuries. Finally, at 1:30 am, the OW was somehow located and contacted. (They live together but aren't married, so she couldn't even sign for further treatment. Although she did...and got away with it!) The OW is the one who contacted the exWS's adult children.

This situation was obviously more than an inconvenience. As hurt and angry as I have been over his affair, I would not wish this on anyone. But as you noted...he's a big boy who didn't see it as important enough to act on.

Did you try putting it back in the mailbox with a RETURN TO SENDER written across front?

or..even things out by putting her name in places so that she gets her equal share at her new address

you know..
time share info..they will never leave you alone
free Baby magazines

OHHHH how about info for bridal fairs..is she remarried???her abductee may think she is being pushy if she starts getting all this info delivered to her new abode