Not done yet- but emotionally exhausted - 09/25/07 11:56 AM
I filed for divorce after I caught my H in his second long affair 5 yrs after the first one. Both times he's moved in with OW- the first one he moved in for a month then he filed for D on me and came home and we reconciled. 5 yrs later I found out he was in second long affair with his married alcoholic chainsmoking office manager and they both were laid off. I didn't find out about that one till last Nov. as he hid it really well for 6 mo. I filed right away as I was afraid he'd file on me and block my credit cards and I have been SAHM for 20 yrs. Irelocated 6 times to other states for his career- selling our houses each time and moving with 3 kids. My atty filed paperwork to make him move out- he moved right in with OW but continued to come back to the family home to see the kids as I wouldn't let him take them over there- and he was quite verbally abusive to me when he came over. I am now 30K in legal bills and just exhausted. He fought me for 50/50 custody and that finally got worked out- he's getting two long wkends a mo. and one night a week but he had to get his own condo. But now he's filed for reduction of child support and we aren't even divorced yet. We had started a franchise biz together one year ago when I didn't even know he was in second affair so now he claims his self -employed income is two thirds lower than what he had been making in his corporate job the past 3 yrs. I am in night school as I haven't had a career job our entire marriage. I just need some encouragement that I'm doing the right thing. I have had to hire a forensic accountant to go over his biz books as he is so secretive. Now my atty said we'll probably have to go to trial for me to get his income set where it should be. I am worn out!