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Posted By: reading I am divorced - 03/24/14 03:10 AM
D Day was in 2009.

I Plan A-d for five months and went to Plan B.

I was in Plan B for two years and filed, as Dr. H suggested.

It took two and a half years for the divorce to complete.

2-27-2014, it was final.

I am a MB Survivor of an Affair.

I am still in Plan B and always will be, as long as the affair continues.

I am reasonably healthy and still have a wee bit of love for WH. I am parenting my three children virtually solo. They once in a blue moon speak or see their father. I have to say that, due to Plan B, I am doing okay. Otherwise, I would have been more of a mess.

My marriage did not survive but I did and I am incredibly proud of myself.
Posted By: Jedi_Knight Re: I am divorced - 03/24/14 03:15 AM
Welcome to the club.
In the divorce section, we dont need to worry about spyware or maintaining NC between the cheating spouse and their affair partner...because we have eliminated that poison from our life!
Posted By: reading Re: I am divorced - 03/24/14 03:17 AM
Yes, Jedi.

That is true!

The club is not so bad.........:)
Posted By: Jedi_Knight Re: I am divorced - 03/24/14 03:22 AM
Originally Posted by reading
Yes, Jedi.

That is true!

The club is not so bad.........:)

Its the best club in the forum!
Posted By: Jedi_Knight Re: I am divorced - 03/24/14 03:24 AM
2 years of Pln B must have been trying.
I filed for divorce literally within one week of evidence of a Physical affair and was divorced 6 months later.

You must feel like a weight has lifted from your shoulders.
Did you celebrate?
Posted By: reading Re: I am divorced - 03/24/14 03:35 AM
I do feel like I am released from purgatory in a way.

I didn't know for three weeks that I was divorced.

To 'celebrate', I told the children and we (the kids and I) hugged each other.
Posted By: Jedi_Knight Re: I am divorced - 03/24/14 03:48 AM
I celebrated by having a bonfire and burning everything my ex ww gave me, allowing it to turn to smoke and rise into the heavens.

Is all of his stuff out of the home?
Posted By: reading Re: I am divorced - 03/24/14 03:57 AM
My brothers had him come fetch his stuff a couple weeks ago.

What is left that I don't want is being garage sale(d) in a month.
Posted By: BrainHurts Re: I am divorced - 03/24/14 03:57 AM
You are a MB success story, my friend. hug
Posted By: SusieQ Re: I am divorced - 03/24/14 10:31 AM
Originally Posted by BrainHurts
You are a MB success story, my friend. hug

x2!
Posted By: MelodyLane Re: I am divorced - 03/24/14 12:53 PM
Congratulations, reading!!
Posted By: tccoastguard Re: I am divorced - 03/24/14 05:25 PM
Congrats and I agree, a success story for sure! Not all happy endings involve recovering the marriage. You did great.
Posted By: indiegirl Re: I am divorced - 03/24/14 09:29 PM
Originally Posted by Jedi_Knight
Originally Posted by reading
Yes, Jedi.

That is true!

The club is not so bad.........:)

Its the best club in the forum!


x2. I went out dancing with all my friends when the divorce came through. Divorce party! I always thought they were macabre but now I get it.

One thing I did was instruct my IM that I now no longer wanted to hear any news of reconcilliation should he 'come to'. I just told her to block him and say I didn't want to know and she should never tell me if he tried.

I was long healed but the idea of a single childless woman considering a marriage to a cheating XH struck me as ludicrous. I realise your situation is different due to the children.

I found it helped because that tiny part of me that was waiting stopped waiting when I told my IM to do this.

Originally Posted by reading
My brothers had him come fetch his stuff a couple weeks ago.

What is left that I don't want is being garage sale(d) in a month.


Redecorate if you haven't already smile A whole new world!
Posted By: maritalbliss Re: I am divorced - 03/25/14 12:34 AM
Originally Posted by reading
D Day was in 2009.

I Plan A-d for five months and went to Plan B.

I was in Plan B for two years and filed, as Dr. H suggested.

It took two and a half years for the divorce to complete.

2-27-2014, it was final.

I am a MB Survivor of an Affair.

I am still in Plan B and always will be, as long as the affair continues.

I am reasonably healthy and still have a wee bit of love for WH. I am parenting my three children virtually solo. They once in a blue moon speak or see their father. I have to say that, due to Plan B, I am doing okay. Otherwise, I would have been more of a mess.

My marriage did not survive but I did and I am incredibly proud of myself.
Reading, I've not posted lately, but I saw your thread's subject line and I was concerned about you. I was glad to see that your post was positive and you are upbeat about the future that is ahead for you.

I just wanted to tell you that I have always been impressed by your posts. You've done well, friend. Your children are lucky to have you as a mother.

Well done, Reading, well done. hurray
Posted By: Sunnytimes Re: I am divorced - 03/25/14 12:51 AM
I am looking forward to joining this club soon.

Redecorating already in progress!
Posted By: Logans_Run Re: I am divorced - 03/25/14 03:20 AM
Originally Posted by reading
D Day was in 2009.

I Plan A-d for five months and went to Plan B.

I was in Plan B for two years and filed, as Dr. H suggested.

It took two and a half years for the divorce to complete.

2-27-2014, it was final.

I am a MB Survivor of an Affair.

I am still in Plan B and always will be, as long as the affair continues.

I am reasonably healthy and still have a wee bit of love for WH. I am parenting my three children virtually solo. They once in a blue moon speak or see their father. I have to say that, due to Plan B, I am doing okay. Otherwise, I would have been more of a mess.

My marriage did not survive but I did and I am incredibly proud of myself.

Congrats. You should be proud of yourself. hurray
Posted By: black_raven Re: I am divorced - 03/26/14 09:57 PM
Congrats reading.
Posted By: reading Re: I am divorced - 03/28/14 01:53 PM
Thank you everybody for your replies.

I appreciate it!
Posted By: Justthe3ofus Re: I am divorced - 03/29/14 10:16 PM
Reading,

I always appreciate the insight you bring to the forum, and I remember your thoughtful wisdom when you posted on my thread.

I am sorry your road has been so hard, and I'm sorry that your family has been broken up. I don't believe that a divorce is something to celebrate, but I do believe that you now have an opportunity to move forward with your life and you have showed remarkable dignity and wisdom dealing with the worst kind of adversity. You have come out of this a better person and are prepared to make your life fantastic.

As you stand at the crossroads, I wish you all the best.
Posted By: Nerlycrzy Re: I am divorced - 03/30/14 12:13 AM
You are a Marriage Builders Success Story, reading.

Look back at your past 5 yrs.
You did everything possible to save & recover your marriage.
You held your head high and kept your dignity.
It doesn't always work to save the marriage but it does give you the pride in knowing you did all you could.

Here's to a wonderful future for you and your kids!
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