Child custody considerations during divorce - 05/19/15 07:22 PM
Sole custody, joint custody, sole physical custody with joint legal custody...if you have minor children, you will need to consider the type of custody that will work best for your situation. You do not have to go along with your state's default but it is a good idea to look at the default order and go from there. Even with joint custody, some rights and duties are basic to both parents but others do not have to be. Make sure you do your homework and think about the LONG term consequences of assigned rights. What may not be a problem today may be a problem later.
My ex and I share joint custody of our two children. This is how my divorce decree reads and is the standard language in my county/state:
Conservatorship-
The Court, having considered the circumstances of the parents and of the children, finds that the following orders are in the best interest of the children. IT IS ORDERED that WIFE and HUSBAND are appointed Joint Managing Conservators of the following children: CHILD ONE and CHILD TWO. IT IS ORDERED that, at all times, WIFE, as a parent joint managing conservator, shall have the following rights:
1. the right to receive information from any other conservator of the children concerning the health, education, and welfare of the children;
2. the right to confer with the other parent to the extent possible before making a decision concerning the health, education, and welfare of the children;
3. the right of access to medical, dental, psychological, and educational records of the children;
4. the right to consult with a physician, dentist, or psychologist of the children; 5. the right to consult with school officials concerning the children's welfare and educational status, including school activities;
6. the right to attend school activities;
7. the right to be designated on the children's records as a person to be notified in case of an emergency;
8. the right to consent to medical, dental, and surgical treatment during an emergency involving an immediate danger to the health and safety of the children; and
9. the right to manage the estates of the children to the extent the estates have been created by the parent or the parent's family.
IT IS ORDERED that, during her periods of possession, WIFE, as parent joint managing conservator, shall have the following rights and duties:
1. the duty of care, control, protection, and reasonable discipline of the children;
2. the duty to support the children, including providing the children with clothing, food, shelter, and medical and dental care not involving an invasive procedure;
3. the right to consent for the children to medical and dental care not involving an invasive procedure.
**The same rights and duties that are ordered for WIFE are then again repeated for HUSBAND in the order.
My ex and I share joint custody of our two children. This is how my divorce decree reads and is the standard language in my county/state:
Conservatorship-
The Court, having considered the circumstances of the parents and of the children, finds that the following orders are in the best interest of the children. IT IS ORDERED that WIFE and HUSBAND are appointed Joint Managing Conservators of the following children: CHILD ONE and CHILD TWO. IT IS ORDERED that, at all times, WIFE, as a parent joint managing conservator, shall have the following rights:
1. the right to receive information from any other conservator of the children concerning the health, education, and welfare of the children;
2. the right to confer with the other parent to the extent possible before making a decision concerning the health, education, and welfare of the children;
3. the right of access to medical, dental, psychological, and educational records of the children;
4. the right to consult with a physician, dentist, or psychologist of the children; 5. the right to consult with school officials concerning the children's welfare and educational status, including school activities;
6. the right to attend school activities;
7. the right to be designated on the children's records as a person to be notified in case of an emergency;
8. the right to consent to medical, dental, and surgical treatment during an emergency involving an immediate danger to the health and safety of the children; and
9. the right to manage the estates of the children to the extent the estates have been created by the parent or the parent's family.
IT IS ORDERED that, during her periods of possession, WIFE, as parent joint managing conservator, shall have the following rights and duties:
1. the duty of care, control, protection, and reasonable discipline of the children;
2. the duty to support the children, including providing the children with clothing, food, shelter, and medical and dental care not involving an invasive procedure;
3. the right to consent for the children to medical and dental care not involving an invasive procedure.
**The same rights and duties that are ordered for WIFE are then again repeated for HUSBAND in the order.