Coworker possibly has a crush on me - 09/04/19 07:48 PM
New to this forum and have been married for almost 15 years. I have never cheated on my wife, nor do I want to cheat on her, so I need help in regards to a female coworker and discerning whether or not she has feelings for me and if I need to set up stronger boundaries between us. Not sure if it's important but she's also about 12 years younger than me.
I got a new job back in November and was hired with a cohort of about 10 other nurses. One of the nurses I got hired with seems to have taken an instant liking to me. I'm a keen observer of how people behave and their body language and almost immediately I noticed her looking at me and smiling whenever we'd make eye contact. She still does this almost a year later. When we are assigned to different areas or if either one of us if floating she'll actively come to find me and chat and remembers tiny (and what I consider insignificant) details of what I've mentioned to her. We'll joke around a lot and banter back and forth and I've noticed she doesn't behave this with any of the other guys on our unit. She'll talk to them, but none of the joking or banter. I don't actually seek her out while we're at work. I'll always say "hi" but I don't go out of the way to find her and chat, if that makes sense. When I mentioned to her that I'm married, she immediately began to text someone and looked visibly upset. Even before I was married, I never got too much female attention so I'm not sure if I'm just reading too much into this. For full disclosure, if I was single she's definitely someone I'd be interested in dating, but again, I'm not interested in cheating on my wife either physically, emotionally, or both.
So, am I reading too much into this situation or do I need to set some firm boundaries?
I got a new job back in November and was hired with a cohort of about 10 other nurses. One of the nurses I got hired with seems to have taken an instant liking to me. I'm a keen observer of how people behave and their body language and almost immediately I noticed her looking at me and smiling whenever we'd make eye contact. She still does this almost a year later. When we are assigned to different areas or if either one of us if floating she'll actively come to find me and chat and remembers tiny (and what I consider insignificant) details of what I've mentioned to her. We'll joke around a lot and banter back and forth and I've noticed she doesn't behave this with any of the other guys on our unit. She'll talk to them, but none of the joking or banter. I don't actually seek her out while we're at work. I'll always say "hi" but I don't go out of the way to find her and chat, if that makes sense. When I mentioned to her that I'm married, she immediately began to text someone and looked visibly upset. Even before I was married, I never got too much female attention so I'm not sure if I'm just reading too much into this. For full disclosure, if I was single she's definitely someone I'd be interested in dating, but again, I'm not interested in cheating on my wife either physically, emotionally, or both.
So, am I reading too much into this situation or do I need to set some firm boundaries?