Wife in affair and wants divorce - 11/20/20 08:43 PM
Hello! My wife and I are 30 years old and have been together 11 years, married for 5 1/2. We’ve known each other our entire lives but we’ve dated other ppl through school and so on. So she’s having an affair with someone she met at the gym/physical therapy center (where I used to go for PT). She met him about 4 months ago (3 months when she moved out). We haven’t had any real problems leading up to this and nothing was out of the ordinary. We were going to go on a trip to Vegas for our 5 year earlier this year and she even wanted to renew our wedding vows. She was telling her friends we were going to start trying to have a kid back in July and then a month later you decided you were “done”. Of course I got the “I love you but not in love with you” “I’ve been unhappy” “you can’t communicate””you don’t show enough emotion”. Then she would say about her new boyfriend “he understands me” “he communicates with me” “we get each other” “he’s not like that” “he would never do that to me” “you don’t know what he’s been through) How do you know that only knowing him 3 months???? She’s also interested in things she’s NEVER liked before at all (stuff he’s interested in). As far as I can tell he still lives at home (he’s 32).
I wasn’t a perfect person but I never cheated on her, yelled at her or hit her. Even her own family isn’t speaking to her unless they have to. I just don’t understand how you can want to end things so quickly for someone you know nothing about and especially think it’s going to work out.
When she moved out she took her wedding dress, our wedding album & the wedding photos we had in the house. She said she “cherished” those moments. She still says the reason she’s leaving is because of all the issues she said about me and her new man has nothing to do with it. She said “it would have happened wether or not he was involved”.
I wasn’t a perfect person but I never cheated on her, yelled at her or hit her. Even her own family isn’t speaking to her unless they have to. I just don’t understand how you can want to end things so quickly for someone you know nothing about and especially think it’s going to work out.
When she moved out she took her wedding dress, our wedding album & the wedding photos we had in the house. She said she “cherished” those moments. She still says the reason she’s leaving is because of all the issues she said about me and her new man has nothing to do with it. She said “it would have happened wether or not he was involved”.