Hi All,<P>I would like your opinions on the joint policy agreement.<P>Do you agree it needs two willing people to make the joint policy agreement work?<P>Do you agree if there are not two willing<BR>people because of control issues then it <BR>will never work?<P>Thanks for your time in advance.<P>Thanks<BR>Theressa

Hi Theressa,<BR> I would agree. If I'm reading you right, it sounds similiar to my situation, and if so, then definitely. In fact, I'm still dealing with control issues with the x regarding the house, except now, he has his girfriend AND his mother "helping" him decide things. I just press in to the Lord even more, and He gives me the peace I need regarding all these "outside" issues, so that I can focus on my girls. Right now, my youngest is in counseling, due to some situations regarding the next door 8y/o, and my x is trying to stay involved with the ongoing counseling by phoning the therapist, which is great, except that the anger my youngest is dealing with has more to do with him, and not the neighbor! The therapist is getting frustrated with the x because she can even tell how he is. Very subtle but deep controlling personality. I don't fault him, it's just the way he is, and yes, I thought we could "work" out stuff, but now know that I have to greatly limit my contact with him. Both girls see how he is..I don't have to say a word. They're figuring it out for themselves. My 11y/o has more insight than her own father, but HE'LL NEVER GET IT!!!!<BR> So, what we have to do is make the best decisions under the worst conditions. Good luck!<BR>JDQ<P>------------------<BR>It's the mended oyster that turns the pain into a pearl.