UPDATE.. exW married 7 months filed for annulment, want US AGAIN! - 02/18/01 05:11 AM
TOO ALL,<BR> Sorry I've taken so long to update. Things have been moving soooo fast!! (I know Lori & Cindy... WAY TOO FAST!!) Well, my prayers appear to have been answered.<BR> MY EX W IS ANNULLING HER (way too quick) Marriage to her OM!! She has told me (and the whole family) that she made a BIG mistake and wants US to try again!! She told me she loves me, always has and can't believe she DID THIS!! PRAISE GOD!! NOTHING is impossible with him!!<BR> It started a week after the wedding. She kept calling and making excuses to call or see me. This has gone on really since she left. I did a near perfect plan "A" and just tryed to be her friend. I kept a record on the calender of when she called so I could see a pattern. Well, she called first once a week, then twice, then three... etc... <BR> Then she didn't call at ALL for a month straight. This must have been the time she did the most thinking about what her life was without me and our family together. I this time her family had a get together. I was of course hurt because I wasn't invited for the first time in 15 YEARS!!! <BR> Well, I guess our nephews let her have it about how much they missed me. All the time I was feeling sorry for myself God was working REALLY hard for us!! <P> Papers have been filed, she has told him (although nothing about her and I so he just won't "get it") <BR> Unfortunately, she had a small breakdown when the fog finally lifted and ended up threatening to kill herself. She admitted after that she did it to "take the heat off herself". <P> She is still living with OM and he's trying EVERYTHING to keep it together from threatening to jump off and bridge, to trying to remind her of how much she hated me last summer...<BR> At first I thought it may work BUT, I really think the fog is pretty much gone right now. <BR> He's moving out the first of the week and my ex will stay there until they sell the house. (He's also trying to scare her about where she will live then) <BR> She wants to see me all the time BUT, I keep telling her we can't sneak around behind his back.<BR> This is VERY hard for me because, well, we were Married for 15 years and I still consider her MY WIFE not his. She feels the same now and cries all the time. <P> But, considering the circumstances we have been good. She kissed me once when she was in the hospital during her breakdown (on my Birthday sorry, I couldn't stop myself that time) but other than that, NO physical CONTACT! She calls everyday and we have been watching our grandson together a couple of times a week.<BR> This IS SOOOO HARD!!!! We have decided that she will live alone for a while. She said that this will be hard and that she needs to work on herself for a while but we will date and take it as slow as we can after the annulment is final. She said she NEVER EVER wants to hurt me again.<P> The poor thing is really being hard on herself. She's embarrased, afraid and hates herself for doing this. I keep telling her WE DID THIS TO OUR MARRIAGE not just her. She called the OM's ex fiancé to apologize and has talked to her a couple of times since. She cries and tells me that she doesn't understand how I can take her back and is afraid that I'll change my mind!! <BR> Imagine, after 16 months ME changing MY mind??? NEVER.<P> A weird thing happened too. She sold our wedding bands to a pawn shop (I was mad and hurt and had told her to in the beginning) Well, last month she was crying and told me she had to tell me something. She told me she hocked our rings and asked if I could ever forgive her. I asked where they were hung up he phone and immediately went there. THEY WERE STILL THERE!!! AFTER A YEAR THEY WERE STILL THERE!! PRAISE GOD!!<BR> Now consider that they were the ONLY SET of rings there (most people only have one to hock I imagine) WHY? Fate? I'm praying so. I of course bought them back. We're going to need them. Input PLEASE. GOOD LUCK AND PRAYERS FRANK<P>------------------<BR>desperate<BR>"If yesterday didn't stop today, Why should TODAY stop tomorrow??" <BR>"WISDOM AND PRAYER is why!!"<P>[This message has been edited by PLEASE HELP (edited February 18, 2001).]<p>[This message has been edited by PLEASE HELP (edited February 18, 2001).]