Friday I went and signed papers, and it was done in the afternoon. I thought I was ready and wanting it to be over, but it still hurt like my heart was broken and I cried all day.

My cat is also sick with kidney problems and I am looking at having to make a hard decision with her. I need her so much right now as she is my only support at times.

I only hope it gets better one day, glad to see some old timers come back...Maybe one day I can be happier it behind me.

Hi Lora,

Was it final on Friday then? I'm very sorry. You know I know how you feel.

I didn't call this week-end because I thought "M A" was staying with you this week-end. And I thought the divorce was going thru on Monday. DANG!

I'll call you when I get home from work. It'll be a bit late, I have an errand to run.

Please be okay.

Love,
Jo

Dear Lora,

It is a very difficult time...I still struggle with some of the after affects and it has been a little over a year.

It is very difficult to let go and start over...but it will get easier. You need to find yourself again...I know that has been hard for me--I was so immeshed with my exH. Life does keep moving on tho--

We now have 2 cats, a dog and a brand new parakeet...all new additions since the divorce. Amazing...it is getting to be like a zoo around here.

Take care of yourself...find friends that you can laugh and cry with, Get spiritual encouragement, go SHOPPING (even if window shopping)----try to get back to living life. We only have a few short years on this Earth, and I think we have spent way too much of it crying over someone who didn't treat us right.

I have starting working out again---oooh the pain! But it does make me feel better (I think <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> --Today I can hardly walk because my buns hurt).

Anyway, take care of yourself...I know how you are feeling and you will be in my prayers. Pat

Lora, I'm sorry. I'm right behind you. I think he's actually filing the first papers today.

We've already filled out all of the paperwork, in draft, so that there should be no surprises. Once he files, I have to have the case number on my forms-- but I think I can turn in everything else all at once. Supposedly, the judge will review and approve as long as we are in agreement, but I am scared that there may be a hitch. It seems too easy.

I would prefer we can just do this amicably, without lawyers, etc.

This is just so hard. I figure I have several very tough milestones yet ahead of me in the next month.
1. when he actually moves out in a week. I have never lived alone, and am scared.
2. the waiting to hear if the judge approves-- and the fear that he may not approve something in the settlement.
3. getting the divorce decree back in the mail and knowing it's all over

I wish I knew something magical to say, that would help you. But all I'm doing is trying to get by one day at a time.

Dear Lora, I'm sorry for the pain. It's too bad he couldn't keep his commitments. (((((Lora)))))
He lost someone wonderful.

Hi Jo <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Pat, I'm glad to hear you are doing OK too. Its been a long painful road hasnt it?

Squeak,
Yes, all of those steps were painful. Take good care of yourself through all of them.

Thanks Bellevue,
Good to hear from you. I hope you are doing OK these days.

{{{{Lora}}}}

I know you are hurting now but will be able to move forward with dignity and grace.

You've got a great supporter nearby. Jo will give you an extra hug from me, ok? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

take care,
L.

Sorry but we're also following one another with the progression of the legalities as it would seem.

You're in my prayers. Orchid said my words. We will endure. We will go on. God will stand by us and it is definitely his loss.

Hugs.