Some may remember me. I was a wreck on here last fall when my wife filed. Well after almost a year....I finally signed the papers. As of August 18th we are divorced. I tried to save it and did my best, but she wanted another direction. I feel good and have a positive outlook. Thanks to all who helped (or tried to get through my thick head). Redhat has stayed in contact with me and helped me so much. This is a great site and I still read the books and try to practice what I learned, so all is not a complete loss. The next woman will be very lucky! Again my prayers are with all who are going through what I did or will be going through it...YOU WILL come out stronger and with God's grace--- be a much better person. Remember--IT IS THEIR LOSS!

Good to hear from you....

Sorry to hear about the divorce...but am glad to hear that you seem to be doing pretty well. It definitely is their loss....Pat

AlanArthur
I'm new to this site but what happened? I'm getting the impression that your giving up? Was there someone else or did she find someone else? I read your post in another spot and you gave some good advice and I come to this thread and you sound as if you have no hope to reconcile your marriage.
I hope it's not over. If it is tell me why please.
I'm going through the same thing and I want to stay positive but your post scares me.
Thanks

Well, everyone is different. I gave it everything, but I realize in her hardened heart that she would have to do some things first before she could ever begin to want to come back to our marriage. I am usually a positive person, but I know it is not what she wants. We really don't speak and don't see each other. From what I learned she does have a boyfriend now (at least 3 months or longer). I think some divorces do have a chance of reconciling. I don't think mine is one of them. I was on the emotional rollercoaster a year. I don't think I could continue it. Knowing that she has been with other men.....does not make me feel any better either. She made her choice...wrong or right and now she must deal with it. She doesn't know how much I changed and may never know. Her loss!

Alan Arthur - I'm just wondering, was/is your wife involved with anyone else? I agree with your thoughts however I'm not sure that your suggestion will work when they are involved with someone else.
NW

AA - I posted on the wrong thread, read the other threat you posted on about reconcilation. NW