Would you like to remarry??? - Marriage Builders® Forums

An offshoot from the marriage thread by Chris123........ I myself am remarried, but even though I told myself I would never remarry.....I did. Im just not wired to be alone or to date a bunch of different people. It seems my work and everyday life rolls along much smoother without all of the dating drama.......and I have never liked being alone. I need and needed companionship.....from a female of course. Just curious about others and what they plan to do???

I would like to remarry, one day, when I feel healthy enough to and smart enough to make good decisions and not run from what needs fixed with me. And I would also like to follow God's will, so while I would like to remarry I just pray that I will marry the right man and do His will.

I, too, would like to re-marry SOME DAY. But I plan on doing it on God's time, this time. If that means I stay a celibate bachelor for the rest of my days here, then so be it. Though I'm not looking, if He places someone in my life then I will respond.

Those are great thoughts.......It seems when you arent looking, things happen.

I just started Plan A, but I figure I should start preparing myself in case WS does not end A.

I can't imagine remarrying, but I think I will force myself to date in about a year. I have a close family (part of M problems) and I was single for 37 years. I do pretty well single. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

NOPE~NOT ME, I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO DESIRE TO TRY A THIRD TIME, NO WAY!!

I am getting remarried. After my divorce I never thought I would remarry. I did spend a year after the divorce without dating or even thinking about dating. Sometimes out of the blue when you are not looking a special person comes into your life.

I just found out my EX has married again for the 4th time. I was wife number #2 and we have been divorced for three years. I really wish him luck as she is a very sweet person.

Jill

I do not like living alone and did all I knew how to stay M.....I even think I kept working at my M even though it was over.

I love having someone to talk to about your day, to go places with, to help and care for, to make decisions with and I value another viewpoint on things. I do not know if I will ever remarry cause I still feel married to my H even though we are separated going on 2 yrs. I do not feel like there are any trustworthy men so I do have a great fear of betrayal happening again. Our society has a disposable mentality. Everybody seems to tire of cars, houses, clothes and spouses. I guess I have no experience with open and honest men......and do not see any chance of meeting anyone at my age.

This is a depressing subject for me....UGH

TW

[ September 12, 2003, 03:39 AM: Message edited by: LoveMyEx ]

I would like to say "YES, I would love to remarry", but I know since being an MB member my expectations and the marriage BAR has been raised to where I don't believe anyone would ever meet it. I don't expect perfection, simply someone that doesn't cheat would be nice for starters.

I also fear with every bone in my body that I will end up with someone as bad as my ex-husband. I've come to the conclusion I'm not very good at judging a partner's character. My ex-H was so far from who he professed to be, it has left me doubting my instincts.

Lv,
Jo

I don't have a desire to get remarried. I just can't see myself saying those vows (or hearing them) again! They don't mean anything! Apparently, "marriage" can screw up a great relationship...so when that special someone does come along in my life, I have no problem spending a great deal of my life with her, if not all of it, but why get "married"? It's the relationship and companionship that matters...not the title you put on it (or each other - e.g. "husband" & "wife").

[ September 13, 2003, 07:11 PM: Message edited by: LoveMyEx ]

I would love to fall in love again but I don't think I'll be able to let down my defences enough to trust someone again.

I have no desire to marry again. I would like to find someone to share my life-- but no way do I think I'd marry again.

Married again?

hmmmmm, i don't need anyone to live with to make me feel happy or complete. I am fully comfortable being alone. . .

however, that being said, i have a nice, occassional relationship, where we spent time together every once in a while, like every 2-6 months or so. . . She has her family to raise, and i have mine. . . i don't need anymore complications while i try to keep straight my kids from being dis-parented by my X. ugh.

X is such a loser, she fears being alone, and so will take any loser to live with her, and she has found one. no, sorry, i don't need anyone else to complicated my life on a daily basis. . .

wiftty

[ September 15, 2003, 11:16 AM: Message edited by: WhenIfindthetime ]

Been there done that & don't want to do it again.

Lucklily for me being alone is no big deal....

of course as long as the boys are here, what is alone......

<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by WhenIfindthetime:


she is such a loser, she fears being alone, and so will take any loser to live with her, and she has found one. no, sorry, i don't need anyone else to complicated my life on a daily basis. . .

wiftty<hr /></blockquote>Wiftty,
Are you talking about x-W here? Or present GF?

At this point, I don't want to remarry. I was doing just fine being single and I'm okay with it. But I think I would try to date after we've been apart for a year or so. I just think it would be good for me.

I want to remarry, but to my husband! I honestly right now can't imagine being with another man. I know that because of what I believe Biblically, I won't consider remarriage unless my husband remarries. As long as he is single and there is hope for reconiliation, I will wait until I'm a shriveled up old lady for it! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> But, he is engaged... so.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

So, if he remarries, then I believe I will be free to remarry also, BUT do I want it? Not really. It's been 10 mos. since my divorce and the thought of being with another man almost repulses me because I am still faithful to my husband. Some people think I'm nuts, but I don't care. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I don't believe that another marriage is what will bring me "happiness." I also though don't believe I have the gift of singleness and the thought of going through life single and no children (I am in my young 30's) is sad for me... the loss of many dreams.

But, yet, I still cannot imagine life with any other man... so... IF I remarry, well, I do not forsee it any time in near future. I am sure I have AT LEAST another year to go as far as my healing over my husband. I just want to focus on God and busy myself with ministering to others and working on things I need to work on.

WOW! LoveMyEx............ <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />