Well my lawyer's office just called me & told me I can come pick up the final D papers. I am now single again. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

I don't know what to feel. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> H called me last nite, left me a voice mail message, just saying that he hadn't talked to me since Sunday & wanted to know how I was doing. I was glad that my phone was off since I had decided that I didn't want to talk to him anymore it is too painful & did me no good to see him or talk to him - I thought I could handle it but I couldn't it is too soon too fresh.

20 years ago I went thru this but I was happy so happy there was no question in my mind that I needed to end that M, but this one I truly thought God put us together, so it is so different.

What do I do now?????

B, personally, I think you are making the right choice. This is a man who says he wants to talk to you every day, but that he may not live with you as man and wife for another year or more.

Now, does that really sound like someone who wants the kind of marriage you want?

Next, let me tell you a story. My friend Jen divorced her husband. It was ugly. They fought over everything, and she's tough! They got divorced and started seeing other people. Then, they started talking. Then, they started dating. Now, they're living together!

I can't quite decide if this is living in sin or not. LOL.

Jen is the type that doesn't take any kind of misbehavior, and there was never any infidelity which makes her story different from yours. But...

This just might, with divine intervention, happen to you.

GB,

I know in my heart of hearts I made the only decision I could.

H thinks we will re-marry again one day too, I don't see it but I know it does happen - only God knows I guess.

I can't continue talking to him though, it is only gonna hurt me as this point. I have to start living for ME & not have my life centered around him & his drama.

I just didn't think I would feel like this.

Thanks for your reply.

I'm sorry to hear your story. I can understand your anger and not being able to talk to him. My W left me saturday. I see her everyday because of our 2yr son, it's very hard. Everytime she leaves it's like it's happening all over again.

Sorry to hear your story as well, it makes it harder when children are involved, during my first D my son was only 2 so I had to see his dad & it was hard, not cuz I still loved him though, there was much anger there. I was angry that I had to see him at all.

This time I don't have to see or talk to XH ever again but that feeling doesn't make me happy cuz I can't seem to turn off loving this man for almost 12 years.

All in God's time I know....

I talked to H yesterday he called me back about 6:00 p.m. mind u I called him at 9:30 a.m.!!!!!!

So I told him "I just wanted to let u know that u r a free man - so u outta go out & have a drink, thats what I am about to do"
He got upset very upset & asked why I would come at him like that with that kind of information especially after we talked on Sunday about us getting back together - sometime - maybe in 2006????? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> The man is certifiable! I told him I wasn't angry at him or about anything, he told me he would talk to me later & hung up.

Ah..... I don't think so!

After that I went out & celebrated with my closest girlfriends & my dad, had a great time!

I feel great today & everyday will only get better! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Thanks, that was a wonderful analogy -

I am doing ok, talked to H yesterday he called me back about 6:00 p.m. mind u I called him at 9:30 a.m.!!!!!! So I told him "I just wanted to let u know that u r a free man - so u outta go out & have a drink, thats what I am about to do"
He got upset very upset & asked why I would come at him like that with that kind of information especially after we talked on Sunday about us getting back together - sometime - maybe in 2006????? The man is certifiable! I told him I wasn't angry at him or about anything, he told me he would talk to me later & hung up.

So today he just called me asking if I got drunk yesteday & was still fuming about the phone call I made. Yeah it was sarcastic but he acted like I slapped him or something! Had the nerve to say my words & actions on Sunday when I saw him didn't match & it upset him. Why did I even answer the phone??? Oh well he asked for this for years now that its here, he can't deal with it.

I have to stop talking to him. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />