Update for me, Texasgirl - 07/27/05 03:37 PM
My H had an A 13 years ago. We recovered from it and things are good. We have NC with OW and OC per my H decision, he chose not to have contact. We have come along way in our recovery. Last night we had our first conversation about the OW & OC without either one getting tense about it. He has always felt ashamed of his actions with OW once he came out of the fog. So much so that, he wouldn't talk about the A or OC.
He has allways paid child support, put her on insurance, and helped pay for medical bills during pregnancy. We received a bill for the dentist and were surprised to learn they had moved across the country. He called up CPS in the state she originally lived in. He said there is one lady there he has built a contact with over the years. She doesn't treat him rudely, like he is a horrible person. This lady tracked down the OW and OC and passed on the new information, including the fact that OW may have gotten married.
This was a pleasant surprise. He received a letter from her 5 years ago full of "I miss your so, You will be the love of my life forever, etc."
We have come a long way. As he told me, we are going to grow old together and I am the love of his life.
Just an update.
Take care,
Texasgirl
He has allways paid child support, put her on insurance, and helped pay for medical bills during pregnancy. We received a bill for the dentist and were surprised to learn they had moved across the country. He called up CPS in the state she originally lived in. He said there is one lady there he has built a contact with over the years. She doesn't treat him rudely, like he is a horrible person. This lady tracked down the OW and OC and passed on the new information, including the fact that OW may have gotten married.
This was a pleasant surprise. He received a letter from her 5 years ago full of "I miss your so, You will be the love of my life forever, etc."
We have come a long way. As he told me, we are going to grow old together and I am the love of his life.
Just an update.
Take care,
Texasgirl