There seems to be a lot of talk regarding the father of the illegitimate child, and how he should just cast him/her out like a used tissue. Has any one actually walked this journey? Has any one addressed how the father is supposed to stomach abandoning his own flesh? How the father should handle each day, knowing what he has done...?
How does an OM have sex with a woman knowing that the chances are he may get the WW pregnant and may not have legal recourse to having access to his biological child?
It seems the OM knew the odds and took the gamble any way.
So how can the OM complain that he is being denied access to his bio child?
As if the OM went to the casino. Bet his money. Lost it. Then expect the casino to make him whole again when he was not forced to gamble. The OM had free will and chose to gamble.
Now even if the OM got access to his bio child so you OP are now happy.
How do you if you were the OM make amends to the BH, their marriage, their kids, repair, undo all the damage that you did with your affair?
How would you make it up to the OC that now it has to be raised and shuttled between two broken homes?
Or make it up for not being raised by both of it's bio parents in one home?