euneka
Junior Member
Member # 20556
posted June 20, 2002 10:57 PM
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Well I'm new! But I'm in the same suituation! My BF of 11 yrs. has had an affair and it has to ended in the OW being pregnant, and he's stepping up to the plate and being there and I just don't know how to feel. I feel that I can't trust him and I don't believe anything he has to say. I'm really frustrated about the whole situation and I don't know what the hell to do. I talked to him and he said that he dosen't want the OW or the baby, but she said that regardless if he dosen't want the baby or not she's having it. Please help me to anybody!!!!! <p>
thought we would make you your own thread. <p>
Lots will come with info and advice or just an ear to listen. venting here keeps us from venting too much to our spouses or significant other. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Hello,
I am just bumping this up for response.<p>how are you doing? Have you looked at the priciples on this site?<p>
Dawn

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Hi

I wanted to check on you, seems every one is busy,
I cant tell you what to do, but I am a good listener as are many here, just step in and tell us whats going on, with more info, more people will be able to respond, dont be discouraged, by lack of response.

First you dont know for sure if the baby is his, so take a deep breath and relax a little, have you been reading the site, I assume since BF says he wants no contact, that the A is over.. So that is good for you..
If no one wants contact, chances are Your boyfriend will give up his rights, but may have to pay child support. While difficult, it is not immpossible and gives you and he time to reconnect.
But feelings change, and there is a chance he may want to father this child, so you need to decided what you want to do about that.

While you may not like the OW's decision, it is hers to make, so the thing for you to do is, take care of you and allow the rest to follow.