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Posted By: floored Remember Me? Update! - 07/10/02 07:47 AM
I can't believe it's almost been a year since I have posted here. I rarely get on here to check in due to my hectic schedule. Let me refresh my situation for you oldies and newbies...DDay was 8/2000, OC was born 1/2001, my daughter and son and I moved in 8/2001 to be closer to family, and just last month...W had another OC by OM!! I tried Plan B all the way until I found out that W was pregnant with 2nd OC, but now I am done. I am just trying to get the money together now to file for divorce. I have had the kids since DDay and we are getting through this just fine. For those of you who think this is the end of the world...DON'T..because it's not.
I see alot of the old crowd..catnip, cdcollins,flowerseed, tigger, ...and I hope things are going well for all of you. I haven't kept up with all your situations, but I will try and catch up a little bit. I will check in again soon!! I promise.
Floored
Posted By: catnip Re: Remember Me? Update! - 07/10/02 01:30 PM
So, do we call you Double Floored now? Sheesh. Two OC's seem to be the flavor or the month these days. I remember the first time someone here announced the impending birth of yet another OC...I think it was Jo (Resilient) and I almost fell off my scratching post. It's like these Waywards are producing litters. Don't they learn anything??? For God's sake, why don't they put a sock on it?

I am so glad you came back here to update us and so very, very sorry plan B did not work for you...or did it? Is it easier to let go of her with this shocking and disgusting turn of events?

You were certainly put through your paces, Floored, and fought the good fight so now you can close the book on this chapter knowing you did everything you could. I hope you and the kids are alright and healing and having your own successful recovery. You might need some time to nurture yourself and be around family and friends that love all of you to get back to your "fighting weight".

I got my 'faux' divorce through a paralegal for $500, but it was an extremely easy divorce since Bipolar and I worked on the particulars together with no contest.

I will keep you and your kids in my thoughts and prayers...and it sure is good to hear from you in spite of this shocking and devastating news....

You know, your W's "relationship" is doomed for failure, don't you? The stats are agaisnt her and her OM big time...

Be good to yourself and don't be a stranger.

Love

Catnip =^^=

<small>[ July 10, 2002, 08:32 AM: Message edited by: catnip ]</small>
Posted By: K Re: Remember Me? Update! - 07/10/02 01:53 PM
Hi Floored,

Sorry to hear about your wife's mental condition. But I'm extremely glad to hear that the kids are with you, and that you all are doing fine. And it sounds like an excellent time to transition from Plan B to divorce...

It's time like these where you really ought to have a 'spay/neuter' law around... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
Posted By: Tina71 Re: Remember Me? Update! - 07/10/02 04:15 PM
"It's time like these where you really ought to have a 'spay/neuter' law around... "

From one of the recipients of the double whammy, I couldn't agree more.

"For God's sake, why don't they put a sock on it?"
Or at least a thermal insulated pure wool itchy waterproof one.

Tina
Posted By: gemini1 Re: Remember Me? Update! - 07/10/02 04:49 PM
Floored I am so sorry for you. I am happy your children have such a wonderful Dad. I hope they're doing ok and are not feeling lost over losing their Mom to two other c's!

Thanks for the update and be well.
Prayers to you.
love
Debi
Posted By: tigger4jdt Re: Remember Me? Update! - 07/10/02 04:54 PM
Floored!

I was excited to see your name as a topic started, and was hoping for a better update, but you do sound as if you are taking it as well as you can. I am so sorry that your W fell off her fence in the direction that she did! I agree with K, that it's a perfect time to transition from Plan B to D. How are the kids doing with all this?

I have often wondered how you and Lynton have been doing. I can't figure out why they would look at their family, after they see the pain they've caused you and the kids, and still not know what they want! I know that I sure learned my lesson, and would never do that again!

Well, I hope that you are able to post more, and keep us up to date with how you and the kids are doing! It's still good to see you back, even with this type of news.

Love,

Tigger
Posted By: floored Re: Remember Me? Update! - 07/10/02 07:45 PM
I am doing fine now. It was almost like a switch turning off as soon as W told me she was pregnant again. As far as spaying/neutering..I can't remember which one is for the female!!..W did get fixed, so she and OM can plug away without worry! I tried going out with a woman, but my heart still has a lot of healing to do. I enjoy looking, but have no desire to go past that!! Plus, my conscience was bothering me because I'm not even divorced. I figured that if I will take care of myself and my kids, get out of debt, and get my business on track, then and only then should I invest in a relationship. Who knows..maybe I'll just stay single..it sure seems easy to do right now!!
Floored
Posted By: floored Re: Remember Me? Update! - 07/10/02 07:48 PM
I am doing fine now. It was almost like a switch turning off as soon as W told me she was pregnant again. As far as spaying/neutering..I can't remember which one is for the female!!..W did get fixed, so she and OM can plug away without worry! I tried going out with a woman, but my heart still has a lot of healing to do. I enjoy looking, but have no desire to go past that!! Plus, my conscience was bothering me because I'm not even divorced. I figured that if I will take care of myself and my kids, get out of debt, and get my business on track, then and only then should I invest in a relationship. Who knows..maybe I'll just stay single..it sure seems easy to do right now!!
Floored
Posted By: Jenny Re: Remember Me? Update! - 07/11/02 01:15 AM
Floored, I'm floored on your behalf! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> I guess the good thing is you are able to definately move on in good conscience, and it DOES sound like you're on the right track all the way 'round: good for you!!!!!!!!!!

All best wishes on your recovery/D, kids, etc!
J
in recovery 4 years and happy:)
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