Baby complicates matters - 02/12/05 04:37 AM
One of my best friends called me yesterday to tell me she discovered her husband had had an affair by a letter she received in the mail. It was a court document regarding a paternity suit. She had no clue about the affair because her husband is so devoted to her and the kids, she never suspected a thing or did anyone else. He wants nothing to do with the OW or the OC and seems extremely remorseful about the whole thing.
She is angry and I know she is torn between staying or going and she's a Christian and doesn't believe in divorce, I don't either but have no clue how to help her. I'm so mad at him for hurting her and for ruining their lives. They will never have the normal life she thought they lived. I feel so sick even thinking about it! They have two young children of their own who would never be able to understand the situation or why they have a half-sibling, and would suffer terribly from a divorce. They love their dad so much and my friend loves her husband. I told her they need to seek out some heavy Christian counseling.
I'm sure other people have been in a similar situation, is there anyone who can offer advice or a book she should read. I've read "His needs her needs" about affair-proofing your marriage, I would feel funny lending her this resource post-affair. I don't know how someone can even get over a complicated situation like this one or what the best solution is. No matter what her life will be so hard.
My husband and I almost got a divorce and it was the worst experience of my life. I'm so glad we were reconcilled and worked things out--I can't imagine hard this will be however for my friend. I am so depressed and it didn't even happen to me. I don't know how to help her!
She is angry and I know she is torn between staying or going and she's a Christian and doesn't believe in divorce, I don't either but have no clue how to help her. I'm so mad at him for hurting her and for ruining their lives. They will never have the normal life she thought they lived. I feel so sick even thinking about it! They have two young children of their own who would never be able to understand the situation or why they have a half-sibling, and would suffer terribly from a divorce. They love their dad so much and my friend loves her husband. I told her they need to seek out some heavy Christian counseling.
I'm sure other people have been in a similar situation, is there anyone who can offer advice or a book she should read. I've read "His needs her needs" about affair-proofing your marriage, I would feel funny lending her this resource post-affair. I don't know how someone can even get over a complicated situation like this one or what the best solution is. No matter what her life will be so hard.
My husband and I almost got a divorce and it was the worst experience of my life. I'm so glad we were reconcilled and worked things out--I can't imagine hard this will be however for my friend. I am so depressed and it didn't even happen to me. I don't know how to help her!