{{{..Wife30..}}} -- From WD777 - 03/14/05 02:52 AM
I have spent just about the entire day looking through all 82 of your post. In the beg I started off just scrolling through and found the post where you found out that your H's A had been going on before your M and this is what caught my eye, b/c of my situation.
What can I say other than that I share your pain. It feels as if your whole M has been a lie. I am due Aug 29th and I can tell u, if I knew then what I know now about my H; I would have NEVER EVER agreed to have another child. I was deceived and tricked. I got preg the same wk he admitted to the A. My H also packed up his stuff and left said that he wanted a D and I'm preg w/ his child!!!
I learned from your post that it would be useless for either of us to file for D until the baby was born, didn't know that. I'm going to check into this for the state of CA. In my case I'm staying for the children, I can't afford to do this on my own. I uprooted everything to come out to be w/ my H. In the meanwhile I am preparing myself financially and mentally for the end to come. It's not worth the humiliation and pain. It will be a matter of time before there is another A, if there isn't one going on already.
This has been very stressful on me and I'm sure the baby as well.
Love for me is a choice. I choose to love my H, I cook his dinner 4x's a wk, I'm affectionate towards him, speak kind words to him, etc...but I don't have those bubbly feelings for him that I use to have. It's impossible for me to feel great about someone who has hurt me (and continues to hurt me) so deeply. I never got a single rose or diamond ring (he has the money) saying that he was sorry, he just told me to act like the A never happened; and when I can't and I ask questions, wanting to know more about the A then a summary in 3 sentences (seriously) or I cry or I'm depressed then he threatens to D me! What kind of man walks out on his pregnant W when he is the liar and cheat! A man that would do that doesn't DERSEVE my heart!!!
Anyway I just wanted to share my story with you. Most of my post are in Gen Quest II. Ironically my 2yo was conceived out of an A (using the term loosely b/c they weren't and still aren't M). But that's another story for another post, another time soon. Sometimes I think that this is all happening to me b/c of that situation, but I know better.
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<small>[ March 13, 2005, 08:55 PM: Message edited by: white_dove777 ]</small>
What can I say other than that I share your pain. It feels as if your whole M has been a lie. I am due Aug 29th and I can tell u, if I knew then what I know now about my H; I would have NEVER EVER agreed to have another child. I was deceived and tricked. I got preg the same wk he admitted to the A. My H also packed up his stuff and left said that he wanted a D and I'm preg w/ his child!!!
I learned from your post that it would be useless for either of us to file for D until the baby was born, didn't know that. I'm going to check into this for the state of CA. In my case I'm staying for the children, I can't afford to do this on my own. I uprooted everything to come out to be w/ my H. In the meanwhile I am preparing myself financially and mentally for the end to come. It's not worth the humiliation and pain. It will be a matter of time before there is another A, if there isn't one going on already.
This has been very stressful on me and I'm sure the baby as well.
Love for me is a choice. I choose to love my H, I cook his dinner 4x's a wk, I'm affectionate towards him, speak kind words to him, etc...but I don't have those bubbly feelings for him that I use to have. It's impossible for me to feel great about someone who has hurt me (and continues to hurt me) so deeply. I never got a single rose or diamond ring (he has the money) saying that he was sorry, he just told me to act like the A never happened; and when I can't and I ask questions, wanting to know more about the A then a summary in 3 sentences (seriously) or I cry or I'm depressed then he threatens to D me! What kind of man walks out on his pregnant W when he is the liar and cheat! A man that would do that doesn't DERSEVE my heart!!!
Anyway I just wanted to share my story with you. Most of my post are in Gen Quest II. Ironically my 2yo was conceived out of an A (using the term loosely b/c they weren't and still aren't M). But that's another story for another post, another time soon. Sometimes I think that this is all happening to me b/c of that situation, but I know better.
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<small>[ March 13, 2005, 08:55 PM: Message edited by: white_dove777 ]</small>