How about adding trying out new things in the kitchen, too? Something you always wanted to try but never made the time for it or were just a little too intimidated?
That could be for another month or something. Maybe?
I don't have any make-up on yet but I need to shower and go get supplies so I WON'T walk out of here with a bare face!
I need a new suit, but I will try to make it a very pretty suit, but I'm sorry, it can't be sexy.
On the new doo....oh boy, that will be hard for me. I can do a cut/color...but new, oh boy.
I love cooking, so the kitchen will be fun, too!
When I get some time I am going to tell you all about the house we are trying to buy down south. You are just not going to believe our good luck in finding it...nothing fancy, but character up the ying yang.
Good idea Charlotte - March could be Cuisine Month where we try a new recipe every week. I like it. I know that the crock pot isn't exactly gourmet cuisine, but there are a couple of new recipes that I would like to try.
Now Josie, why can't you be sexy or get a new haircut? Step outside the box girl. Of course you can get a new cut. If you don't like it, give it a month or two to grow back.
Now Josie, why can't you be sexy or get a new haircut?
Because my husband likes long hair. I have been wanting to maybe try shoulder length, though. I think shoulder length can be very refined, as well as sexy.
On the suit, it's funny, because I once told Mimi we are opposite sides of the same coin. She was becomming sexier and wilder, and I was trying to become more refined and polished. LOL
I need a new suit for job purposes and can not spend any money for fun clothes right now anyway.
But it's all about changing it up, you are right, no matter which direction that takes you.
How about MY STYLE is REFINED AND POLISHED with a bit of WILDNESS..suit with a fancy camisole underneath..NAVY PANT SUIT..PINK camisole... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
We are going to an event in a couple of weeks and my H told me to wear pant suits... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />...he's got this thing against skirt suits now... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />.
Well, I got outta bed today and did a little walk up the driveway this afternoon. That's major progress for moi!
Hmmm, I made an effort to do up the new do this morning, too, just because. Put on a little rouge and some lipgloss, and cleaned up my brows. Now, I look real pretty sitting up in bed.
I also ordered an egyptian cotton 1000 thread count duvet for my bed. It's light blue, with subtle stripes, to compliment all the brown in my room.
ohhhh....I am so glad you are not limiting to Plan B Goddesses.....I want and have been striving for a month to be a Plan A GODDESSES....so count me in.....lol....
So lets see....
Mascara and lipstick on....check New outfit.....well not the top, but new jeans on...check (had to buy new clothes this weekend since I've lost 20 lbs since DDay...1 sexy outfit, 1 nice outfit, 1 casual outfit, new socks, new undies and bra set....LOOKOUT WS NOW....) New Do....hmmmm....make appointment today.... Pedicure....new 2 wait another week or 2 (old one isn;t old enough yet) New Makeup....does it count if you are putting it on everyday for the first time in years???
New experience I want to try??? Bikini wax.....
There you go sister Goddesses....you should think of something for YOURSELF that you have always wanted to try (bikini wax, facial, a massage...call your local tech. school that teaches massage therapy...they offer massages at a much lower rate...my mom teaches at one and you can get an hour masssage for $25....).... and then we can all hold each other accountable to make sure that we try our "experience".....
Well, hubby's been couching it on and off, to give me plenty of room to maneuver in the bed at night, which is a blessing right now, but we're together right up until I slumber so I'm rubbing and touching and laughing and listening.
OOO, I've lost a couple more pounds, too. So I tried on some of my clothes that haven't fit me in two years, and they fit. MAHVELOUS. It was like my own little dressing room in there this morning. SPIRIT BOOST.
Good thing I shaved, too, cause if I rubbed up against hubbies legs with what I had, we would sound like crickets!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />
MIMI, can you post a link to your story? I'm a BS dealing with unrepentant NC attempting WW and could use an encouraging story. Your Goddess thing sounds like a great idea. I'm wondering how I might start something similar for the BH's out there... Maybe beer and football every week? lol
Make a SHOUT OUT for WARRIORS...maybe Jamesus and TooMuchTooSoon will join you...Beat your chest..stay up on your horse! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Here's MY PLAN B THREAD..I don't know how helpful it is regarding a WW...
Today I got out of bed. Showered AND washed my hair. Put on makeup & styled hair. Left the apt & went grocery shopping.
Had 3 guys flirt with me at grocery store. They wouldn't have 50lbs ago. It made me feel good. Today I feel like a Goddess. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I want to join! Still in Plan A though... Glad you're allowing us to join. I need to do something uplifting!
I've always had long hair... so I'm tempted... we'll see, I'm a bit of a chicken sh**
ugh, I'm on the other side of some... I need to put on a few pounds. WH is always saying eat something, what'd you eat today? Coffee doesn't count for breakfast etc... I don't usually have an appetite and if I try to force myself to eat it feels like I'll gag.
I became ANOREXIC after D-Day. I now have to admit that, looking back at those photos. Size 4 was beginning to be too big. You might wanna talk to your doctor about antidepressants. You want to be there for your children and not get ill.
Taking care of your PHYSICAL HEALTH is one of the MAJOR GODDESS requirements.
Ladies to do this right you have to start the day of right taking the best possible care of your skin. Make up looks good, but healthy looking soft skin is the best. So pamper your skin to it's glowing G-d given glory. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
Mascara and lipstick - oh yes <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
Looking good with my TAN - thank you WH for the gift to the fake and bake place <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Hair done - got it <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
New outfit - oh yes...I also got on the scale and have hit 79 lbs as of today. New outfit - people are amazed at the difference, I feel like Jenny Craig commercial showing off my new figure. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Will call friend for new do. But mine is short don't know what I can do. Now coloring - I am so there GODDESSES.
New Makeup - I sell make up, not a problem there and we have lots of new colors.
Off to go show off my new look at a PTA Grad Nite meeting.
THREE CHEERS FOR MIMI'S GODDESSES. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
HEAD UP, CHEST OUT, SHOULDERS BACK - LOOK OUT WORLD HERE WE COME....
Well, I am here. Your first shout out was for Plan B'ers I think. I'm plan Aing and when it comes to B, it'll have to be modified (I think).
As for the weight. I've been a bit under weight since after the birth of my kids. I did mention it to doc because DH was pressing the issue, doc sent me to a dietician... she thought I should see a counselor (was already there). They're all nuts! And don't understand, I can't force myself to eat if I'm not hungry. I don't like the sunkin' cheek look though, so I'm trying really hard to put on some weight.
This Goddess stuff will be good for my self esteem!!
Weeellll...don't feel much like a Goddess these days, ladies! No make-up, barely done hair and I've gained most of my weight back that I lost back when I was acting too cool for my M... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
Little bit depressed...waiting for H's insurance to kick in for the AD's...but I'll watch ya'll and maybe one of these days I'll hop on board. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Oh my, of course everyone is welcome to join. Remember, February is the month, so start saving your money. Something special every week!!! We will all feel great by the 29th (yes, I believe it is a leap year ladies).
So go out and start scouting for that new outfit for Week One. And Josie, it's perfectly OK to buy a new suit for work. Could use one of those myself. Just be sure that you look dyn-o-mite in it!
Thanks mimi! Not having a J-O-B, it's hard to bring myself to get all "dolled up!" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Monday the hard work starts, and I know I'll pull myself outa this FUNK! Been wallowing a bit these days...YUCK! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />
Count me in, but I don't wear makeup. I will do the exercise, get a pedicure, cook, and dress nicely though.
And I DID fix up my home fit for a Goddess, and go to great lengths to prepare nice food, and serve it to myself on my best china. I enjoy a glass of wine in my good crystal occasionally, with candlelight.
I did my bedroom in eggplant, with tassles on the lamps, mirrors, and a mosquito net. Tossed my all cotton jammies for some Victoria's Secret nighties.
Have fresh flowers around the house, even in the bathroom where I soak in my bubblebath, accompanied by my favorite music and candles.
C'mon, Resonance, I'll jump on in if you will. We can't be as effective as MB cheerleaders if we're not Goddesses....we'll learn and take the adventurous risks together, OK?
Take the leap........HEEEERRRREEE WEEEEE GOOOOOO! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
Okey dokey all!! How bout this...I'm going to start RIGHT NOW and do these NAILS all purdy in pink...
Tomorrow I may bathe...BAHAHAHAHAHA <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />(kidding, of course..I LOVE my daily bubble baths)
IMO, I look AWFUL without my makeup. Maybe not AWFUL..but that MAC certainly makes me FEEL "pretty"...
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And I DID fix up my home fit for a Goddess, and go to great lengths to prepare nice food, and serve it to myself on my best china. I enjoy a glass of wine in my good crystal occasionally, with candlelight.
I did my bedroom in eggplant, with tassles on the lamps, mirrors, and a mosquito net. Tossed my all cotton jammies for some Victoria's Secret nighties.
Have fresh flowers around the house, even in the bathroom where I soak in my bubblebath, accompanied by my favorite music and candles.
You are the EPITOME of GODDESS. You will need to give us LESSONS..
I have just started going for a manicure every week with my daughter. I love having my nails painted!! Since it is winter I will get a pedicure once a month. I love my toes painted too!!
Having a hard time getting to sleep this evening, so I thought I'd drop on in.
I like Zorro's idea; I think I'll give my feet some lovin tomorrow, as best I can. I love the color pink, so the toes will have to be pink.
and Resonance, take care of yourself, lady. Look for yourself in that mirror, not your reflection from someone else's eyes or perspective. Nurture yourself, love yourself. Why not look at new hair cuts and color and take that plunge? It really does feel good to let go and CHANGE...
Thanks SL...the color sure does need done! I'm at the "you have such lovely blond hair- why do you dye your roots black?" look!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Not that bad, but couldn't resist-my mom always used to say that...
What's a MAC counter? I've never been one to wear makeup, but I did start putting a bit of eye make up on about a year ago. My girls do so much better than me.
God made me. I am His beautiful daughter - made in His image. I am beautiful to Him.
So, Madison Avenue tries to tell me that my eyelashes need to be longer.....my nails pinker...my lips shinier....my cheeks rosier....my nose less shiny.
Why?
So they can make a buck - or ten - by selling me things that serve no useful purpose and then selling me more things to remove the first things? Things I can not see. Things I don't benefit from. To turn me into the socially accepted 'norm'?
I think that if YOU feel that YOU don't need it, Cindy, it's GREAT!!
My makeup makes ME feel GREAT!!
I don't think there's any WRONG with ENHANCING BEAUTY.
It's a matter of PERSONAL CHOICE.
I don't look all phony or anything. My makeup looks natural BUT covers up my YUCKY darkness around my eyes..and WAKES up my face...when I don't wear lipstick or blush, I don't look as FRESH..everybody thinks I'm TIRED...
All that stuff makes me feel good about BEING a WOMAN and I feel SEXY...
GODDESS IS CHERISHING WOMANHOOD...in any way that YOU wanna do that FOR YOURSELF..
Yeah, that's what I think of the campaign to get us to put on false faces. And that's what I think they are.
Sort of like the 'War Paint' that warriors put on.
However, when I put my makeup on, everyone tells me how good I look. I don't look that good. My makeup does. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
Sometimes I wear it....most of the time I don't. I do look more like Madison Avenue's norm when I put it on.
I can't believe I didn't make it in on this thread for 4 whole pages! Darn!
It must have been the call of this thread that would not let me sleep until I've posted!!
Cinderella,,,Amen to this - -
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God made me. I am His beautiful daughter - made in His image. I am beautiful to Him.
But know that it's not that we "need" makeup - It's about doing what makes us feel good,,,,what makes us feel the power we own as beautiful women.
What makes YOU feel good? Feel like a beautiful, powerful woman? How do you get in touch with your feminine side?
I'm a girly girl like Mimi.
I threw out every granny panty and replaced with pretty, MATCHING undergarments and wear only feel good, pretty, lacey, silky jammies! No sweats, no baggy t-shirts.
I went to the gym tonight while DD was in dance class.
Hair appt next week - am recovering still from my last attempt at a new do, so that is going to have to wait for a bit.
This weekend, perhaps a professional manicure, and am definately buying a new outfit for my birthday night out next weekend.
Also, there is a real difference between WANT and NEED.
You need food. You need shelter. You need those things which are necessary. Not those things which are enjoyed or desired or preferred.
There've been times when I wondered how I was going to pay the house note or buy milk. Those things were needs. The latest shade by L'oreal or Lancome are not NEEDS.
Mimi - I have never fit the cookie cutter. Goes back to childhood.
What makes me feel feminine......? A good pedicure and great toenails. Forget fingernails....I can't grow them and have never had great luck w/ the acrylic overlays from the nail salons - I guess I just live 'too hard' for them. Get in the way of doing things like, oh, opening doors.
When I got my hair cut last winter, I was talking to the stylist and I showed him how I wear my hair half the time....up in something like a twisted halo around my head....sort of like a French braid only less complicated. He looked at me as if I was unusual. Said that few people put their hair up any more - everyone has become too sloppy. Yikes! I could mousse and blowdry all day long and, two hours later, my hair would be limp again. But, when people see it up, they love it.
Cinderella - - I've been there, too with having to make a choice between Needs and Wants. No one here is talking about those kinds of things.
For me, it's about doing something Positive for Me. Heck, there are times when I like nothing better than putting on ratty old clothes and digging around in the dirt. THAT too can make me feel like a GODDESS!!
It's not about $$, it's not about "worldy views" of what is feminine - - - - the point is that it should be about YOU and what makes YOU feel and enjoy your life as a woman!
So how about it? What gives YOU that Goddess feeling??
You need food. You need shelter. You need those things which are necessary. Not those things which are enjoyed or desired or preferred.
Seriously, the underlying point of this thread is to help those battling DEPRESSION. I'm not battling DEPRESSION related to infidelity anymore but I do suffer from it..biochemically.
So I NEED..more than the BASICS in my life...check out my SIGNATURE LINE...I NEED to consciously DO things that bring ME JOY and HAPPINESS..I have to do this DAILY to fight DEPRESSION. The more PLEASURABLE ACTIVITIES that I do..the better my mood..the happier I am..I LEARNED this in PSYCHOTHERAPY...
One of the things that I personally ENJOY doing each morning is putting on my makeup. I actually start smiling at myself in the mirror! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
There's a cross on the side of the road Where a mother lost a son How could she know that the morning he left Would be their last time she'd trade with him for a little more time So she could say she loved him one more time And hold him tight But with life we never know
When we're coming up to the end of the road So what do we do then With tragedy around the bend?
Chorus: We live we love We forgive and never give up Cuz the days we are given are gifts from above Today we remember to live and to love We live we love We forgive and never give up Cuz the days we are given are gifts from above Today we remember to live and to love
There is a man who waits for the tests To see if the cancer has spread yet And now he asks, "So why did I wait to live till it was time to die?" If I could have the time back how I'd live Life is such a gift So how does the story end? Well this is your story and it all depends So don't let it become true Get out and do what we are meant to do
Chorus
Waking up to another dark morning People are mourning The weather in life outside is storming But what would it take for the clouds to break For us to realize each day is a gift somehow, someway So get our heads up out of the darkness And spark this new mindset and start to live life cuz it ain't gone yet And tragedy is a reminder to take off the blinders And wake up and live the life we're supposed to take up Moving forward with all our heads up cuz life is worth living
The day is brighter here with You The night is lighter than its hue Would lead me to believe Which leads me to believe
(chorus) You make everything glorious You make everything glorious You make everything glorious And I am Yours What does that make me?
My eyes are small but they have seen the beauty of enormous things Which leads me to believe there's light enough to see that
(chorus) You make everything glorious You make everything glorious You make everything glorious And I am Yours
From glory to glory You are glorious You are glorious From glory to glory You are glorious. You are glorious Which leads me to believe why I can believe that
You make everything glorious You make everything glorious You make everything glorious And I am Yours You make everything glorious You make everything glorious You make everything glorious And I am Yours
From glory to glory From glory to glory You are glorious. You are glorious. You are glorious. You are glorious.
Well, Mimi,,,,, you beat me to the CHOCOLATE needed daily post!! he he!
Seriously, though, we are very much alike in terms of how we view the ways of a GODDESS - and for pretty much the same reason. I realized this week that I've been teetering on the edge of depression myself and a lot of it was due to not doing the things I NEED to do for myself.
Like,,,,
Using my 'good' makeup Giving myself time for the self-pedicure every week Cooking what I enjoy cooking Going to church Daily quiet time with God Going to the gym Using my BEST bath products Reading for pleasure Excelling at work
All of these things give me a boost.
Cinderlla - thanks for the reminder about the sheets! I had been looking at some a while back and haven't bought any yet. Definately putting those on my shopping list!!
...realize each day is a gift somehow, someway So get our heads up out of the darkness And spark this new mindset and start to live life cuz it ain't gone yet And tragedy is a reminder to take off the blinders And wake up and live the life we're supposed to take up Moving forward with all our heads up cuz life is worth living
Mimi - I've been so depressed it wasn't funny. I know what it's like. But, I found something to hold onto....something that made me want to go on. That held me together. Even though my world was torn apart.
You want to feel goddessy......try the mindset that this life isn't over and all you can do is your best for that day - when you've done that (even if it means getting out of bed, brushing your teeth, climbing into sweats, and putting on your mascara and lip gloss <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />) you can move forward with your head up.
What I'm hearing you say is that you are at a different level of the Goddess ladder. You have graduated from the era of depression! You have won the battle with the daily Goddess activity of moving forward with your head held high!
Excellent!
You HAVE survived this horrible time of your life.
My goal at first was like yours,,,just to survive. When I realized that I'd done that I celebrated and started to feel like a Goddess. I, too, fought my way through the depression and struggled many days just to get out of bed.
Now,,,in true Goddess Like Love I have to ask - What can help take you to the next Goddess Level?
I knew that just surviving wasn't and isn't enough. It's about building my own wonderful life. The focus turning towards ME for the start of that new life. So, I needed to find myself and build my power & strength.
So, celebrate your Goddess Power in managing that survivial. Then, tell us what will help you feel like life is more than just survivial??
Lots of us are mothers. So, I will tell you a miracle moment related to that.
One morning, I was struggling to get everyone out of the house so we could get where we needed to go. It was winter and the bushes by the driveway were coated w/ ice. My daughter brought me a twig that had a couple of leaves attached and the entire thing was coated with ice. She was in awe.
I tried to hurry her into the car and then, miraculously, I stopped and looked at it.
It was beautiful. It was a miracle. And, if I had not stopped to give that child a minute of attention, I would have tarnished her day, missed a magnificent sight, and missed the lesson that I needed - to really look for beauty.
When I was so depressed I couldn't see straight, a friend told me to listen for God.
He would speak but I needed to listen.
His words might come to me from any source - sometimes they would be the words of a friend. Sometimes they would be the words of a stranger. Sometimes they might be on a sign beside the road. Listen! Watch!
I will save a life - or 4 - because I am O+; Kell neg, Duffy A neg, Kidd B neg, and CMV neg. That means they will quad-pack my blood. I'm at something like 107 units.
Seriously, the underlying point of this thread is to help those battling DEPRESSION. I'm not battling DEPRESSION related to infidelity anymore but I do suffer from it..biochemically.
So I NEED..more than the BASICS in my life...check out my SIGNATURE LINE...I NEED to consciously DO things that bring ME JOY and HAPPINESS..I have to do this DAILY to fight DEPRESSION. The more PLEASURABLE ACTIVITIES that I do..the better my mood..the happier I am..I LEARNED this in PSYCHOTHERAPY...
One of the things that I personally ENJOY doing each morning is putting on my makeup. I actually start smiling at myself in the mirror! *************************************************
I mimi, I am enjoying your thread.....I like what you learned in psychotherapy. i am going to remember that.
What makes me feel like a goddess?....new lingerie. nothing over the top, just a pretty bra and panties...for some reason, when they match i feel very feminine.
Like nia, I appreciate this thread, too, Mimi. I was in panic mode last winter when I saw another thread with this title, but thought it was exclusive. Glad to see its purpose now so thanks for starting it.
[color:"blue"] What makes me feel like a Goddess?
Boots! [/color]
I'm barely 5 feet tall (and my DH is 6'4"). Nevermind I can barely walk when I wear the 5 inchers*, and they are not a healthy habit to endure on a regular basis, but feeling taller on the outside is one of the things that gives me that Goddess feeling on the inside. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />
Ace
[color:"green"]*Edited to add: Just measured them and they're actually only 4, but they seem like 5. [/color]
For me, in the most basic terms, being a Goddess is about respecting myself and my needs; paying attention to me, remembering how important I am, how special I am.
If that means makeup, then that's what I do. This month it was hair, part necessity, but jazzed it up for lotsa fun! Yesterday, it was trying on some of my old clothes, which was fun. Sometimes, it's hearing the call of my son, and caring for him in the ways only *I* know. It's a bunch of little things that make me feel alive and well, not just surviving.
Coming here and posting, and feeling the power in that, the aide that someone else may be receiving by reading my posts. Someone who is in the throes of surviving can read this and know that I, too, was there, and have walked thru the fire and am LAUGHING today, while I ice my tootsies. Helping others in my own way, is how I feel like a Goddess, too.
It's not all about trinkets and hairdo's, but that's a part of MY repetoire.
Hope we decided to start with exercising. I already walked 2 miles at 5:00AM IN THE DARK. Exercise always makes me feel better - I sit too much all day.
Cinders is right about waiting and listening. When we feed our spiritual side, it gets stronger. Hope all the goddesses will watch and listen today, and see what happens.
I have come here to MB countless times and had a sister (or brother) speak directly to my heart.
Mimi, great thread once I ACTUALLY read it! I didn't think I qualified...no plan B yet BUT definately in the depressed/low self esteem arena.
I'm not girly girly, wish I were,...wear makeup only on special feel like you have to occassions, and even then have to wonder if I put it on right! Normal attire casual jeans/pants. HOWEVER I have found that I feel just super after having a pedicure done. WHAT A MARVELOUS feeling. I have also found that I do like wearing heels...not the towering spikey kind but 2"ish I can walk in and not fall to often (not graceful either)! And just since this past weekend I've started wearing just a puff of perfume. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
So I'm in IF <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> y'all will help/direct this not so girly girl who needs to loose the hips,saddlebags and pouchy tummy, has no REAL clue on makeup find her way to Goddess territory.
I am bordeline Plan B. Ark and others are helping me finalize my draft. It is so hard to do, b/c at least in Plan A I get to see my WH. Crumbs, I know. It is sad.
I was just prescribed Lexapro, but haven't started it yet. I hope it works. It is hour by hour some days.
My GODDESS is revealed with sexy lingerie, or on a peaceful night with a good book, fresh out of a bath and candles lit. Just "me" time. A good hair day never hurts either!
Well, mvg, it already sounds like you know what you wanna focus on, but haven't found the way.
Before going hog wild and jumping into an exercise program, read up on them first. One thing we all can do is WALK, even if it's at a slower pace, just walk. If you live in a woodsy area, you can convene with nature, listen to the birds, or how the rain sounds when it hits the leaves of the trees.
As for makeup, if there is a makeup counter at your local mall, go there and have them talk about makeup with you. Look it up on the web.
This is a great thread, because I tell ladies to care for themselves around here regularly. This thread describes what I mean.
WE are WOMEN, first and foremost. What makes you feel like a woman? Think outside the box. Yes, some of us like makeup, some of us like to garden, get dirty, play sports, needlepoint, sew, decorate, bake, cook, whatever it is you like.
When I have time, I love to cook, I love to bake, but I'm not great at making up recipes. I'm great at tweaking them, though, so that's what I do.
I am finding that I like to decorate and work on my house, right down to drywalling and floor laying. I feel a great sense of accomplishment, satisfaction, and I enjoy my work thereafter, knowing I used my own ideas to make it beautiful. I walk into my bathroom and bedroom every day, and see the beauty i helped to create with my minds eye. Probably the same reason I like gardening, to create a beautiful palate that begins to come alive in the springtime, is just awesome.
I took Lexapro for about a year. I had to actually half the dose after a while (10mg down to 5mg) but it worked well for me. I had high anxiety, and it curbed that nicely. The depression still came and went, but the highs and lows were shorter and manageable with self care.
MVG and SilentL, I love home improvements - from hanging a new fan to painting to re-tiling the floor. Home Improvement stores are one of my favorite places. I would qualify for both girly-girl and HGTV do-it-yourselfer.
It is so satisfying to work with your hands and change and create and express your style.
Getting ready to knock a hole in the wall to make a new doorway. Gotta research on that one, but partial therapuetic with the hammer!! LOL!
Oh my gosh!! I love doing home improvements. That's one of the things I learned from WH. We did a lot of remodeling together. Now in my condo, I'm doing minor things myself. I love transforming rooms.
Although I love makeup, great clothes, etc., the thing I love most is coming in to a beautiful house at the end of the day and being able to do what I want - cook dinner, read, etc. THAT makes me feel like a Goddess. And like Believer, I love to do the candles, bubblebath, a little vino with dinner, my beloved chai after dinner. I'm a clean freak though. My house always must be clean! Not always easy when you are doing home improvements.
Harley says that there is an emotional need for an attractive spouse. It sounds like Cinderella was a former hippie type...and quite possibly her husband preferred her to be natural...without makeup.
When I was young I went for a time trying to be as natural as possible which included not shaving under my arms, my legs, and letting my unibrow grow in. I was mistaken for a guy on more than one occasion. Well it was all in the principle back then...<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
Like Mimi, I think that makeup enhances my appearance and makes me feel more feminine and presentable - less tired looking. Mimi and I are of similar ages. I also wish to conceal some of the appearances of age, like dark circles or bags that I have a tendency to be getting more of. I feel more feminine with makeup. I also feel more feminine when I wear heels and dress up...but I don't always do that. I want nothing to do with frumpy. I also don't over apply makeup preferring a more natural look. Maybe some people don't need makeup. Even my 25 yr old daughter prefers to not wear makeup every day...she can get away with it to a point...but wow...when she does put makeup on she really does look pretty..and I am sure she feels more feminine too.
My husband does appreciate my efforts to be more attractive. I am helping to fulfill another EN.
Trix, thanks for incorporating how these Goddess like activities help to fill our FWH's EN's.
Up until about, hmmm, the age of 30, I didn't wear makeup. My skin was in better shape. Sun damage hasn't helped, not to mention the stress over the last five years, so my skin has taken a hit. I like evening out my skin tone and then applying that natural glow look.
My sister uses mineral based makeup/powder to even her skin tone, and I've heard good things about it. I may invest there.
think that makeup enhances my appearance and makes me feel more feminine and presentable - less tired looking. Mimi and I are of similar ages. I also wish to conceal some of the appearances of age, like dark circles or bags that I have a tendency to be getting more of. I feel more feminine with makeup. I also feel more feminine when I wear heels and dress up...but I don't always do that. I want nothing to do with frumpy. I also don't over apply makeup preferring a more natural look. Maybe some people don't need makeup. Even my 25 yr old daughter prefers to not wear makeup every day...she can get away with it to a point...but wow...when she does put makeup on she really does look pretty..and I am sure she feels more feminine too.
THERE YOU GO!! EXACTLY..as Trix states!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
I actually didn't start wearing makeup until age 35!!
I was into the "NATURAL LOOK"!
Actually now, you couldn't tell that I have much on...just ALWAYS the BLUSH, MASCARA and GLOSS..if not LIPSTICK!!
I knew SL and I had alot in common...didn't realize JUST how much! LOL Now you to Free?! This is GREAT! I should've been a carpenter,home repairer I love the whole working with my hands, rebuilding, home projects gardening, etc, but I would like to be more girly.
Had to chuckle at you SL...I live in the STICKS! Malls...you're too funny! But maybe a weekend to the city would do a girl wonders!
Free I also take Lexapro, before dday I was down to 5mgs and was coming off them....not so much now! Back to the 10 mgs. It has helped tremendously. I will have the lows but I supplement with anxiety meds during those times right now. I would be in jail or rubber room without them.
Well, mvg, get thee to the city and have some fun, girl. Maybe watch some "Sex and the City" for inspiration. Also, just looking at web sites that talk about application of makeup and then experimenting with a look can be oodles of fun.
Sex and the city was one of my faves! There is a little bit of those girls in all of us.
My WH is coming over tonight to pick up our son. I plan on looking HOT when he comes to the door and baking cookies for a yummy smell, and putting on perfume and lighting candles. I love creating a home-y atmosphere and I did that a lot. This will just make him wonder...who is coming over? why aren't I a part of this anymore?
If he didn't have his other son with him, I might have put on that lingerie I love so much and the heels that have helped Ms 5' make her feel special and answered the door. Knock his socks off!!
Muuuuaaaaaaaa!!
Anything with alpha-hydroxy is suppose to help the skin stay moist, supple and slough off dead cells. I just use a moisturizer and light makeup but luckily I look younger than my 37 years.
BTW..I also went to PREP SCHOOL..we have lots of other stuff in common..although we differ in our appreciation of makeup... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
Hey Gals...not to get off the subject, sorry, but could y'all look at my post below and give me your opinion on my Plan B letter. I want to have it in case my head and heart align so I can JUST DO IT.
It is "Renamed - Seeing the Light...? New Plan B letter did I do better this time? "
ok, back to being a GODDESS!!!
My favorite fabric - cotton
My second favorite fabric - silk
My favorite music - Classic Rock, Christian, Alternative
My favorite cologne - Vera Wang
My high school - private Catholic
My college - U of Phoenix - Bachelors
My favorite male vocalist - Jimmy Buffett - I'm a parrothead!
My favorite female vocalist - Diana Krall, she does rock
My favorite composer - n/a
My favorite earrings - diamond studs or sterling hoops from my WH <sigh>
I'm in!!! Sounds like fun. I'm always up for new outfits, hair and pampering myself. Think I might even get a nice bottle Pinot Grigio and indulge a little. I think I'm going to start right now!!!!!!!!!!
I made an appt. to get my hair cut next week. When it began shedding (dr. said due to hormones), DD and I began talking about going to a wig shop to 'try on' new styles. It's NOW time to act. (Thanks Mimi!) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
Anyone know the name of the computer program where you can experiment with hair styles on your face photo?
OOoooo...I also love to do my house. Friends tell me it could be in a mag...and all with my own 2 hands!! When we moved in, there was 1970's sea foam green and peach flowered wallpaper floor to ceiling/wall to wall. YIKES!! Took DH, my parents, and me a full two weeks to get it all down-it was 20 years old and stuck straight to the drywall for goodness sakes. Now, it is gorgeous, and didn't even cost a lot b/c I did everything myself, down to my own wall treatments, decorations and flower arrangements. I am also a clean freak, so having my house spotless also makes me feel like a Goddess!!
Which reminds me...I need a new project!! (I can hear my hubby groaning all the way downstairs)
BTW-I did paint the nails last night and when DH got home, he said he had read this at work and it was a GOOD THING I was painting them. He was gonna RAT ME OUT if I wasn't...can you b'lieve dat!
I've learned that it's LOVING for my husband to care about my appearance. It's not just about meeting HIS EN of PHYSICAL ATTRACTION.
He knows that I FEEL happier and better when I get up and DRESS UP for the day. He is ATTRACTED to my GOOD MOOD as much or more as the PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS.
So when I see MARRIED women or men who look UNKEMPT, I WONDER about THE LOVE in their relationship.
So RESONANCE, your H is EVIDENCING his LOVE for you..
I wanted to address some of what Cinders said, and the Male EN and what else can go on.
And ALL I have is what I learned at MB and personal experience.
Was having an attractive spouse important to me?
YES.
Did I realize it many years ago? NO.
But believe me, Flamingo had let her self go.....
Overweight NO Makeup. Frump city clothing line. An 'easy care' do, that was a fright wig. (to me!)
Of course, my response was lousy to this, but what I am going to describe is what happened next?
Flamingo found out about the Attractiveness EN in HNHN.
She asked what I thought, and we talked about it. She wasn't one for ALL THAT.
She wasn't girly-girl.
Then she went to Nordstoms and spent an hour and $500 bucks at one of the counters. (On me, of course)
And came back with some terrific quality make-up, and TRAINING on HOW to use it.
And she started to do as Mimi described... covering the ravages of age, stress and sleeplessness (much caused by me!) around the eyes, and brightening up the cheeks. She in no way went all out. But she LIKED how she looked.
And she works with the public every day, and people started to compliment her....
And she started really liking that...
And she changed her hair. And she was getting compliments.
But I STILL didn't like it. It looked like Meg Ryan on a bad hair day. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
So, in a matter of RH, I told her so.....
UGLY, UGLY Scene then.....
But we WORKED together, and she and I came up with some hairstyles that worked for her and me. And then she went to the salon, and got the whole nine yards, Style, Cut, Coloring and tint. That was stiff.
BUT SHE LOOKED AWESOME!!!!!
And then she had to learn to recreate it....
I helped. She slow simmered though this early period.
And then the compliments REALLY started.....
And she STILL looks awesome.
The makeup? Not much. Around the eyes. But the blow-dry that she needs.... She has it down to about 5 minutes in the morning.
She has added about 7 minutes to the morning routine.
She looks fabulous, go to the MB picture site and see.
I use that same picture on my cell phone.
She's NOT a slave to madison ave.
And I can't wait to see her walk in the door....
AND she loves the positive feedback from others. SHE NEVER had that before.
Is she a goddess? OH YES!
I will request an honorary membership for her.
I WILL bow out.
I enjoy reading about how the GODDESSES around here celebrate thier womanhood.
As is typical, you speak with the voice of my FORMER WAYWARD HUSBAND..and I was a GIRLY-GIRL..who he was attracted to and I, sadly ...as you say..had "LET MYSELF GO" ..what was I thinking..and my H wanted me back...
My hair is really long. It was down past my calves until I decided to do a little self-trimming for the split ends instead of letting a hairdresser take off a foot of it all at once! A little bit each day and I didn't fret so much! LOL!
So it's about to my knees now, or nearly but I usually wear it up. So if I want the Goddess to REALLY make an appearance I'll wear it down and free.
My sister gave me a Jade ring for Christmas and I've been wearing it on my thumb. I don't know why but it just feels sexy.
I'd REALLY love to have one of those upper-arm...the name escapes me....like a bracelet but there's another name for it...
One of those in light gold....yeah!!! Even worn under clothing, I think you would still have that feeling of power!
Try thehairstyler.com--it looks like they have some neat ideas! Let us know how the appointment goes, and if you turn out to be a new woman!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Well, ok cinderella...I was wrong...must have been the Birkenstock's...You must look lots better without makeup than I do. When I was in my 30's I usually only wore a little eye makeup, lipstick, and a bit of blush. Now I use 3 different shades of concealer and a foundation.
Thanks for that feedback. On Dday when WH told me he met OP in a bar, I knew she was NOTHING like me. I'm a silk suit, designer fashion, BMW kind of gal, who doesn't do bars so I thought "well, maybe that's the problem here" until WH said that OP was just a bar%$#$ and that he knew that he could take me out in public and not worry?? Huh. I've almost always had a corporate job so never have gone without makeup or not dressed up in some way or another. OK, so it sounds like I met that EN.
Didn't help in the end though, because I'm now in Plan B.
Anyhow, I couldn't wait until February for Goddess month, so I ended up at the salon today. I had her wack off the hair to a short, sassy little messy number with really blonde highlights. Now I'll have to endure blonde jokes at work, but I can live with that.
So here are a few of my favs:
Fabric: Silk Cologne: Dolce & Gabbana One Car: BMW Makeup: Bobbi Brown Flower: Calla Lily Female Vocalist: Toss up between Gloria Estefan and Tina Turner Male Vocalist: Love Josh Grobin's voice but don't have any of his CD's Composer: That's a hard one. I play mostly classical on the piano, but can't say that I have a favorite. My favorite song to play is Moonlight Sonata by Beethovan. Drink: Chai of course Wine: White Zin (ok, no comments please - I just like it) Cuisine: Indian Pastimes: Decorating/Home Imp, Reading, Knitting, Piano, sewing, and let's not forget shopping.
Shoot Ace I've got one here...ya want me to send it to you? BUT there is one online too. Just upload your photo and try on as many as you want.....I'll try and locate the url.
I forgot...maybe I am a little girly...I've just started within the last year to get my eyebrows done! WOW! I LOVE IT.
Hi ALL! It's the Rinster! SYBX wanted me to dress nicer but I fought him on it...
I didn't want the attention...I would walk out of the hosue with NO make-up on in whatever I wanted...figured if people didn't like it oh well!
NOW, I DRESS nice and wear MAKEUP almost every day...heck I'm getting to the point that I wear it even if I'm hanging around the house...
After I left, I wanted to cut my hair but waited three weeks to make sure that I wasn't going to do it inspite of STBX...he perferred it long...so I cut it and now I'm more interested in keeping it up...it's easy to take care of, dries fast, I can wear it curly or straight...I'm very happy with it...
Well, that led me to wanting to wear nicer clothes...so a few months later...I went shopping and a friend works there and informed me that they were having a HUGE sale...I spend $300 for almost $900 worth of clothes, got me three beautiful business suits, cheap!!!!a ton of other clothes and i haven't had any trouble keeping up my appearance since I then...
Things is I couldn't do it for him, I have to want to do it for myself!
The few times that I have seen STBX, he has complimented me and said that it thrills him to see me dressing better! My co-workers STILL ask when I come in really decked out where I'm going...but that's starting to fade too!
Thanks mvg, I'll try fogfree's idea and yours, too.
My hair used to be soooooooo thick. But now it's very thin....nearly bald in front, too. I refuse to do the comb-over, tho. There is a limit.
I actually thought of using wigs, but my stylist said that it would ruin what little fragile hair I have left. I'm taking Nioxin and it's helping, I think.
You are so funny - comb over, cute. You just made me laugh.
Reminds me of a guy I work with. Has an awkward bald spot right where the bangs are, and it has a little hair right in the middle, so he combs half to one side and half to the other. Not sure why they think that looks better than just the bald spot, but oh well....
I know I'm not supposed to be here, but I couldn't help myself. Not that my DW LaLa isn't always a GODDESS in my eyes, but she sure does look especially PURDEE today! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
Thanks to all! Power to the GODDESSES!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
Want2Stay
p.s. Not that any of you need any male validation.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
I Love, Love, Love this thread! I'm smiling so much right now after reading all of the great posts!
Talk about a celebration - - - of so much!
Just checking in really quick while waiting for my fellow Goddesses to arrive for a Goddess Night Out tonight. I just finished applying the lipstick,the last touch to the makeup, hair DONE,,,wearing my sweater and jeans that F-I-T very well, and getting ready to put on those high heels and leather jacket!! I won't detail the matching undergarments, only to say that it's a totally Lace kind of night! WHOO HOO!
You said this in reference to that morning with your DD...
This very PRACTICE helped me through my DARKEST DAYS during my H's affair..
I really got into FLOWERS and HOUSEPLANTS...even started a beautiful FLOWER GARDEN in the front of my house..shocked the you know what out of my then WH during his drivebys..cause he used to be the FLOWER PERSON in the family...
I'm still into my flowers to this day..LUV, LUV, LUV my African Violets..cause every time there's NEW GROWTH or a NEW BUD on my plants, I SEE and FEEL GOD's PRESENCE, knowing HE LIVES and is with ME...so you and I share this focus on the BEAUTY of LIFE..
It's so interesting how the HORROR of the AFFAIR has resulted in such POSITIVE CHANGES in my life...and I would think YOUR LIVES...
I now can pass on one of the sayings of MY GRANDMOTHERS (I ADORED my GRANDMOTHERS'..MY GODDESS INSTRUCTORS <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />).."THE DARKEST HOUR IS JUST BEFORE DAWN"..
Hey Rin, I'm having pizza too. Got the $5.00 ready to go special at Little Caesars. But I DID make a green salad, and put used 2 clear glass plates for a slice of pizza and the salad. Also a nice crystal glass of Merlot to go with it.
Hey B! LOL...I didn't want to do the dishes either tonight, we ate off of FINE CHINA!!! That might be a thought for later, I have a great bottle of Pinot in the frig!
<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> There's to you kiddo!
And I DO have a comment on makeup (though I never have used it), so take it with a grain of salt.
My son's model girlfriend uses some kind of foundation that is mineral based - like you see on TV. When she first started using it, even I noticed something was different. She looked more STUNNINGLY beautiful than usual. I can always tell when she has it on. So THAT is my recommendation.
never been girly girl type. LOVE to do home improvements and build things for my craft room ;-) WH would always say why didn't you ask me, I would have made it for you. DUH cause I love to do it myself!! At one point I did ask him to build a fire pit... all of us pitched in and did it as a family project. That was during his being home "trying" period.
How/where do you see pictures that members have posted??
I keep seeing that commercial and have thought about trying it, but never knew anyone that used it. Maybe that will be my GODDESS purchase for the weekend.....
WS came and took kiddies out to dinner.....No cooking or dishes for me.....
The make-up is called Bare Essentials. My OD is a skin care professional/make-up artist and has brought it home for me. I never have been one for make-up etc (I blame my twin for my tomboy ways) but the mineral powder was so light, it was hardly noticeable and yet, it made my skin look great, without looking made up. It also has SPF in it.
My OD worked at a store called Sephora. If there's one near you, that's a great place to go to find the right color. I'm light #2.
I do the Mary Kay thing and I'm a dark #4! But I notice that after I get off of work, I want to put it on again...you know if I'm going out that night...
It's been working well for me, I haven't had a problem with breaking out, but then again I've never been one to really have breakouts...
I'm also a warm colors gal...very seldom do I use blue or green eyeshadow...I like the browns, reds, greys, and purples...I'm really in love with the natural look, I guess!
Rise and shine, ok some of you one the east coast have already risen and shined.
It's another RAINY day in the PNW, but the sky is clear and shiny in my heart. Off to take a nice hot shower, then enhance my ALREADY BEAUTIFUL FEATURES.
I have a GODDESS day planned. I am going to go be a lacrosse mom for a little while, and do some stuff at work instead of freeze outside, then be driven up to where I get to MEET and TALK with a bunch of JEWISH WOMEN.
I am DRESSING UP and going to SHOCK them for all the weight I have LOST. That will be fun. I wasn't planning on going out to dinner with them, but I JUST MIGHT see if I CAN and go have some FUN and LAUGH.
They know my heart, they want to SUPPORT ME and I should LET THEM TAKE CARE OF ME. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Slept in....check (needed some xtra BEAUTY rest this morning after a long week)
Mascara and lipgloss on.....check
Dress welll.....ummmm ..no, I have sweats on, BUT they are new ones and it is because kiddies and I are doing some cleaning this morning so I can meet EN Domestic Support...will take shower and dress up later on....
Hair done....check...I do have a ponytail going on, but I tried to make it more "stylish" than normal,
Now if WS drops in on me, I may not be "stunningly beautiful", but this is the most dressed up dressed down version he has seen in years ...
I'm an East-coaster and have been up since 7am, but it's 12:15 now. I still have my pj's on and I love it!
Read my book and finished it, had some coffee....languished in the sheets for a good while, contemplating life.
This is the first Saturday my 1 yr old son went with his Dad so I have ME time.
Think I'll get my eyebrows waxed then go to some garage sales. I love other peoples junk!!
Then I may tackle hammering the wall. I want that doorway put in so there will be a direct cut-through from my family room to the kitchen instead of having to go around.
If I mess up, well then I can always pay a handy man to finish the job. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
This comes from a blog that I read. I don't think it's legit to post the entire entry here..it's ON SWEAT PANTS..
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I really mean to be talking about something far more important than my annoying personality. I want to talk about the sweat pants. Or what my favorite TV personality, the lovely Stacy London, calls "The Pajamafication of America". These women? These highly educated, formerly high-powered career women? They wear sweat pants IN PUBLIC. All the time.
Remember that episode of Seinfeld?
JERRY: (to George) Again with the sweat pants?
GEORGE: What? I'm comfortable.
JERRY: You know the message you're sending out to the world with these sweat pants? You're telling the world: "I give up. I can't compete in normal society. I'm miserable, so I might as well be comfortable." (George is baffled)
One of these women on Friday quizzed me about the skirt I was wearing, quite appropriately I think, to the playgroup party.
HER: "Why are you all dressed up, Amanda?" ME: "Why not?" HER: "You mean you normally wear skirts?" ME: "I prefer skirts to shorts. They're more flattering." HER: Baffled look.
And forgive me my bluntness here, personality and all, but if you feel like you've lost your identity? Perhaps, just maybe, just a teeny weeny suggestion, IT COULD BE BECAUSE YOU'VE GIVEN UP ON IT. At least that's the message you're sending out to the world with the sweat pants and the hair scrunchies and the velcro shoes and the no-makeup and the baggy t-shirts. You're saying "I'm not important anymore. I'm just some body's mother."
Don't get me wrong. I luuurve me some sweat pants. In fact, I'm sitting here in front of the computer wearing sweat pants myself right this minute. And a hoodie. And a hideous PLAID hair scrunchy. I'm a fashion NIGHTMARE. But here's the catch: I'd SHOOT MYSELF before I'd leave the house looking like this. Even if I'm just going to hang out at my mom's house or make a trip to Target, I make an effort to look nice. I pick out an actual outfit. I try. And it does WONDERS for my self image. Don't they always say you should dress for the job you want? Well the job I want is hot mama. And I plan to keep dressing the part, thankyouverymuch.
[Edited to add: Not ALL my mom peers wear sweat pants. Plenty of them dress just fine. In this particular case it was the SAME moms who were bitching about their lost identities who were sporting
It's kinda what LG was talking about yesterday.."letting yourself go"(not saying that about you not2...thinking about myself)...a pet peeve of mind about myself...recalling my H's disgusted look when I used to wear sweatpants..and I didn't get it..I didn't get it...YUCK...
I've been letting myself go, since husband decided he wanted a divorce - who wouldn't?
He has since been coming to his senses, and today, I put on Eyeliner. Something I have not done since the day he told me he wanted a D.
So I am proud of myself for that. I haven't got as far as the mascara yet, and I know that my hair will be needing a dye job very shortly, but hey. Baby steps.
And (gasp), I DID wear sweatpants to Walmart two weeks ago, with no make up, looked like ******, and won't do it again. LOL. But I needed cat food and was desperate <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Yea.....GG is a Goddess Goddess! Start with what you can handle. I can't do mascara at all.....even allergic to the non-allergenic type, but I make up for it.
Glad you're here, GG. Did you see my post? Sorry I' haven't checked yet, I got so excited to see you've ventured over here that I forgot.
Again, thanks Mimi for this haven in the midst of all the drama. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
Good point mimi....of course, WS "stopped" in the use computer (which he could have done from work....I think he was spying on me...of course he was in sweats, but then again he was coming from the gym...and I could care less if he wears them) and of course "caught" me in my sweatpants....lesson learned.
I'm with Mimi, get rid of those sweats, even if they are nice. Personally, in my organizing and clearing mode, I gave away ALL of my clothes that didn't look stunning on me. Over the years, I'd accumulated different items that just looked so-so. So I spend about a half hour a day for a week trying things on, and eliminating many. Got rid of EVERYTHING in size 12 which was my bigger size. That gave me incentive to stick to my exercising and better eating program.
And you especially, Not2fun, need to look great ALL of the time since you never know when hubby will show up.
Good job on starting to get the house together. When it is done, you can just do the basic straightening up every day. I set a timer, and spend just 5 minutes in each room. Amazing what you can do in 5 minutes, and it only takes me a half hour to do the whole place.
I slept (albeit broken) until 9AM, then got up and started some light cleaning. PWC took DS to get a haircut and some gaming stuff for his PS2, as well as some steak, for din din. I'm going to see if I can swallow nice little bites (still tough to swallow).
I have now showered and the hair is KICKIN'! Put on some bronzer, to brighten up my face, and this great VS lipgloss, sort of peachy. I have been wearing these cute little PJ bottoms from VS, with this really nice (comfortable for us semi-bed bound) scoop neck tee that shows the beginnings of a shoulder. The neck scar isn't so pretty, but it hightlights my collar bones, with sleeves that cascade over the tops of my hands.
Since the surgery, I can't wear dangly jewelry or anything around my neck, so I put on some earrings of my mothers, that I inherited, little diamond earrings that look like daisies, white gold. With the short hair, they are very visible.
Feeling a bit run down after some of my morning cleaning (even light cleaning poops me out). I'm going to lay around for a bit before supper.
I ordered new side tables and a sofa table (to hold my TV and DVD, cable stuff), for the bedroom; it will help to comlete the look. They are a sleek, deep mohogany, nearly black, with modern lines. The room is small, so they will help to make it look less cluttery.
I can't wait until they arrive.
I'm going to do my toes now, because I was a bit too stiff to do them the other night.
I slept in, too. I was at my g'ma's for so long that I went to WN around 2am. I had to get supplies! I was still in "uniform" though. Ran into a truck driver all excited because he was restocking his supply in his truck!! Talked with him for a few. Man, it sure is great in there with no crowds and no line!
Nice to see so many "Handy Ma'ams" here! I'm one myself. Momma always said you can do anything you put your mind to (that's my mom, not Forrest Gump's, LOL!) so I've always practiced that. My mom used to be a carpenter, too, so I have a good teacher.
I don't know if it bothered Mr. Gray or not. I left "guy" things for him to do but how long can one stand a broken toilet, for instance? So I'd just jump in and do it. I left the kitchen sink for him to do for the longest time but he never did it. I still have to replace that faucet. And one handle is a "C" clamp! LOL! NOT a "Goddess Faucet" for sure!
But anyway, everything sounds great here! I'm so inspired!
WORLD, hear the ROAR of the WARRIOR GODDESSES!!!!!!
Hey, I am very happy today. I took care of myself last night. I was in bed by 9 p.m. Got up before 6 and took d to work. Came home and went back to bed. Slept till almost 9. Considering I did not go to bed - or to sleep- at all on Thursday night, I deserved it. I even was nice to my x when he got here and asked him to help me w/ something.
I think I need to find my new sheets - 400 thread count Pima or Egyptian cotton, sateen finish.
Probably too early for everyone else in the country, but I planted spring flowers today. Went to Walmart and bought 20 sic packs of pansies. They were only $1.30 each so I ended up with 120 plants for $26.00. FINALLY got them all planted and they are lovely.
threw away 3 pairs of sweats that I came acrosss.... I will throw them ALL away..... I will buy a couple more pairs of the nice lounge pants for the evening...
NO MORE SWEATS FOR ME....
throwing away sweat pants.......check
yes, believer, it is way to cold for flowers here, but I did take down all xmas lights and decorations....
house is coming...living area are in ok condition (I need to declutter and organize, but I can only do 1 thing at a time, DD10 room painted today, and I am working on the basement. Couldn't get down there to put xmas decorations away...so that is where I am beginning major decluttering)...
So Supreme GODDESS mimi and believer....when you clean you house and do yard work, what do you wear...since I threw my sweats away but yet I don't want to wear my new clothes and get them ruined????
I think I should be named GODDESS IN TRAINING.... you see I need to learn about the PA stuff. I am a pretty woman, but I HATE HATE HATE to shop, especially for clothes for myself. It was actually something my WS and I discussed last weekend (he said that was easy to fix, go buy clothes, but I hate to do that and I am not really a spender....)
hair...I am getting better at makeup....I can do it good, I just need to get it on everyday....
How about JEANS for doing your cleaning? Sometimes I wear my NIKE workout clothes...matching, of course...but my H even wrinkles his face about me even wearing those to the grocery store.. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />..shows you how CLUELESS I used to be...
Why do you HATE to SHOP for clothes for yourself, not2? ------------------------------------------------------------ TODAY was DOMESTIC GODDESS shopping day for me...replenished the CANDLES..and bought a NEW QUILT SET for the BED..time for a CHANGE... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
I wear levis and a cute top, and always have on earrings. I pull my hair into a knot at the back, but put a pretty ribbon or hair tie around it.
Sounds like you are making great strides on the house. Decluttering is very important, or you will just keep moving things from place to place. I like the minimalist look - and it is easy to keep.
Even when I put it on clean lashes and it says it stays put, I end up w/ raccoon eyes half way through the day.
The other day, I was putting on mascara w/ a small brush - it looked safe enough. And, unfortunately, I blinked - - - scratching my eye. It still hurts.
I like the ribbon idea...of course, at 34 am I too old for that???
I think I hate shopping, because budget was always so tight for so long that I couldn;t buy anything anyways. I also do not have the best fashion sense....whenever I bought something in the past that I thought was cute, WS didn't think so. He on the other hand has better fashion sense than I do. He goes shopping with me, but sometimes he'll pick out things that he likes but doesn't look good on me (or so I think). I am a FIRM believer that if you don't feel like you look good, you don't look good (a confidence issue).
So there it is in a nut shell.....I know a GODDESS who hates to shop....teach me your wise ways fellow GODDESSES....
Well, if you have no fashion sense, watch "What Not to Wear". After a couple of episodes, you'll have it figured out. I HATE shopping to, and do my buying on ebay. But you have to know what looks good on you since you can't try it on. But it comes quickly with no muss or fuss.
Goddesses should also take naps if they can. I intend to today. And my sister said she was sending me chocolate chip cookies because I still don't eat enough. LOL...
LOL Mimi. I LOVE that show. And it helps me in my personal life. I already went through all my clothing and donated the stuff that I knew they wouldn't approve of.
They had a great episode on mixing and matching, and using accessories to look smashing. It is surprising how few clothes you need to look well put together.
I still wear Hello Kitty barrettes and headbands. And I'm 38. I have a Hello Kitty ring & toe ring too. I have butterfly and dragonfly hair ornaments too.
I guess Goddesses tell you what they want to be called?
I am partial to either Rella or Cinders....don't ask me why those are the names other folks at MB have given me.
IRL, I am always telling people that I prefer to use my full hyphenated first name. I suppose, should I ever marry again, I couldn't hyphenate the last names. That would make my name First-First Last-Last......too many hyphens! Have you any idea how many companies computers can't deal with a hyphenated first name?
How about JEANS for doing your cleaning? Sometimes I wear my NIKE workout clothes...matching, of course...but my H even wrinkles his face about me even wearing those to the grocery store.. ..shows you how CLUELESS I used to be...
HMMM...maybe it is a southern thing? My H is tuned on by my work out clothes and athletic apparel.
My H is tuned on by my work out clothes and athletic apparel.
LOL..I think that's why he doesn't want me to go shopping in them..he doesn't mind if I clean house in them..
What I was CLUELESS about is that it does MATTER to him..what I wear and when I wear it...believe it or not, that is NEW for me, to be able to LISTEN to what he has to say...
H/O is a wonderful thing...... when I look back and realize how many things we were NOT open and honest about....I try to be grateful for the progress we have managed.
Last weekend I knocked my WS socks off with how I looked. Really threw him for a loop. He told me the next day "you were stunningly beautiful". Anyway, we were talking on sunday, and he said it had been SO LONG since I looked that good and had that kind of effect on him, that it made him realize how important Personal Apperance was to him. That woke me up....which is why I need to learn as much as I can about PA and being a GODDESS.....
OH MY GOD, my H and I have come such a long, long, long way...
IT'S A DIFFERENT WORLD!!!
I can hardly believe those posts of mine on those threads...
A GODDESS RISES FROM THE ASHES!!
Mimi-- since ya bumped your threads I finally got to read some of them. Holy crap, woman, the things you put up with!!! I actually SNARLED at one point!
I purchased shoes this week that I don't even have an outfit for yet, but I LOVE them: My Goddess Shoes
For the first time in my life, I own more than two pairs of shoes and I love each and every one of them. Losing eighty pounds has a lot to do with that, though! I now understand I deserve it. Hubby thinks its hilarious that I'm becoming 'high maintanance.' 'Course I am... I have 17 years of treating myself badly to make up for!
GODDESS in training reporting for duty this morning....
hair done....check, cute ponytail this morning, no ribbon though, need to go buy some makeup on...check, went with some light cover-up, mascara blush, little lipgloss JEANS....check, NO SWEATS FOR ME,,,,
cute top....check,
earrings on...check
all prepared for today, gotta get back on the housework and prepare for DD14 party tonight, but at least I will look cute while doing it.....
What's my grade for 2day, oh mighty wise GODDESSES??
O.K. I'm in!! I've been reading and admiring..now I'm joining in! I don't do makeup much but I do skin care. I have make-up but...well I have all the excuses! So, yesterday I put some on <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
My boys noticed (18 and 20 yr olds) and said it looked good. Oh and I waxed my eyebrows for the first time since, well, I ain't tellin how long! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
So, my H has been working out of town since Christmas day and he is due home tonight. I will look good! Cuz I feel good! (Except I am sad because in our very small valley we had 3 avalanche deaths yesterday afternoon...and being a small town I know one quite well, one is a doctor I met once and another I know but not well-I know his wife and worked with her though (theirs is an A marriage-yuk)) But, I will still be a GODDESS today.
Rin, I do the Mary Kay thing too and had been getting an order ready for months and just recently started updating it to include the mineral powder...now I can't wait to get it!!
Gotta go clean the house before H gets here!! (I have been de-cluttering and cleaning since he's been gone). I think he'll be surprised.
Hello Goddesses, This is a great thread for all of us trying to be the best we can be.
For about two years before my H got involved in his little EA, I had been on my own improvement plan that included exercise, re-learning about make-up, improving my wardrobe, and a couple other things.
After D day, I increased my efforts: I got a nice hair style and have kept up regular hair cut appointments. I added high lights. I style my hair daily right after my shower--blow dry and a little hair paste styled with my finger tips does the trick. I have maintained this routine ever since.
I also went on a bit of a shopping frenzy and now have a lot of sexy clothes. Since my oldest son just got accepted to a very high priced exclusive college (yes, bragging a bit), I am curtailing my shopping and just using what I have creatively!!
I like the discussion re make-up. I have always struggled with using it. I find a light mineral based powder is ok and a little concealer helps a lot. I wish I was better at applying eye make-up. I do agree that mascara is a pain and it never fully cleans up. So I don't use it.
Exercise is a big part of my Goddess experience. I run, cross country ski, bicycle, kayak, hike, and go to a pilates class.
I also cook and enjoy doing that. Baths and candles are fun. My perfum of choice is a set of scents that I got at the airport in Paris in 1988. I wear Anais Anais, Magie Noire, Coriandre, and Paloma Picasso. These scents remind me of that fantastic trip to Europe that H and I took before we had kids.
I hope everyone is well and is taking care of themselves. I think it is important to just set up little changes and keep up implementing the changes. Do the little things that you would like to do but have never taken the time to do.
I have to pipe in about the mineral makeup. I love my mineral powder. It's helped my skin so much. I don't break out like I used to. I can't recommend it enough.
Well, I don't do all those activities all the time. I have had a couple of injuries that stopped my running for a few months at a time. So I have fall back activities like biking and kayaking. I cross country ski whenever I have the time and there is snow on the ground. Walking is a great activity and it is great that you do it regularly believer.
Kayaking is really a lot of fun and does not require skill or much stamina. I love looking down into the water and watching rock formations and fish.
Wow, I'm jealous!! I'm your age and wish I had the will to exercise more. I'm not overweight, but I hate exercise just for the sake of exercise, if you know what I mean. I guess it has to be disguised as fun for me to like it. Say, walking to Starbucks, or riding the bike trail with a friend. I hate just lifting weights or doing aerobics.
My new do is OK. I love getting my hair cut and getting a new style, but it always takes me so long to learn how to do it myself. I'm good with make-up but don't do so well with hair.
I need to go get some of the mineral makeup you all are talking about. We have a Sephora here, so I'll check it out.
Gave my dog a bath today, and now she is a Goddess too!
H just called..he is on his way! About 3 hours from now... Pork Roast in the oven, rolls raising, and it smells so good! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> And the house is pretty clean too!
Okay, time for the checklist. Make up? Hair perfect? House smealing good and sparkling clean (check), dinner in the oven (check), stunning clothes (no sweats)?, perfume? candles?
Thanks B, Changing clothes. I'm not wearing sweats but they are my workin clothes. PERFUME! OMG. Haven't worn that in ages, but been thinking about it. I have some...i'll do that too! I don't think I need a candle yet, the roast smells divine. And he's been gone, living out of a motel for 20 days. I think he will like it! Check the make-up, hair, yep. Ready!
Heh, my hubby is coming for a 9 day visit. I pick him up at 10:30pm in Nashville. He's stationed at Guantanamo Bay right now. His last visit was for two weeks back in September. Just 4 more months and we are back together again and moving to Japan.
I can't wait to shop in Japan!
Going to find that mineral powder... sounds divine!
You all will be proud...went to Kohl's and bought me 2 new sweaters and a NEW pair of Vera Wang jeans...I love them, they make me look quite lean...even if nobody else said anything (had Bday party for DD14)....oh well...
hair....check
makeup...check
nice outfit...double check
house clean...check
goal for tonite...get cleaning chart for kiddies made...
I love all things goddess. I've got to jump in here and post a picture of my new Italian leather pumps with the chinchilla pom-poms. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> I especially love wearing them with my pj's. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> Look here!
hair....awesome. Talked to my friend about NEW COLOR and cut.
makeup...all weekend long was always in check
nice outfit...bought, purple and ready to wear tomorrow. Chest will BE OUT and UP.... And so is my HEAD. My friend who shopped with me DIDN'T think it would fit. IT DID.
house clean...children were home alone.... will do tomorrow
goal for tonite...check in here, eat some dinner, relax, talk on the phone and be with G-d.
Attitude.... I CAN, BECAUSE G-D BELIEVES IN ME AND I HAVE FAITH IN HIM.
I missed you all very much this weekend. It was good to sleep in a hotel with so many pillows, soft bed, food served me to ALL THE TIME. The SHOWER was the best I EVER had in a HOTEL.
I had to post this here, even though I posted it on my thread, too. DH and I went to his parents' house for dinner, and instead of wearing the usual "comfy clothes for stuffing yourself," I got all dolled up. Full make-up and hair...the whole bit. Would you believe that when I walked downstairs, my 3-yr-old immediately stopped what he was doing and said "mommy-you look bootiful!" I was absolutlely floored! Of course, DH noticed and commented all night-he is always a sweetheart-but the 3-yr-old almost made me cry!
Thank you, Goddesses, for helping me see the light, here! I feel better about myself already!
My 5yo son has taken to saying this to me, and he is sincere, because he's also opened to telling me when I look a FRIGHT (usually in the morning). He also holds my cheek in his hand and says, "You are such a good mom". Buttering me up for something, I'm sure <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />, but it's ooooh, so cute
My son read for the FIRST time to me this Saturday evening--"The Cat in The Hat". <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />My son is READING, just sort of all of a sudden. It's with such wonderment that I watch him grow and learn. It's so bittersweet to get to see what *I* might have been like as a child, and makes parenthood so much more bearable, and drives home how important mine and my husbands roles are in our DS life.
I'm cooking for the first time since I've been home, tonight. Chilaquiles with a tomato/cilantro/avacado salad. My mouth is watering already.
Chilaquiles with a tomato/cilantro/avacado salad. My mouth is watering already.
Can I get the recipe, that sounds awesome.
Morning check in.
Oh gosh, I forgot to take off my make up completely this morning. Need to be more careful about that in the future. Dark ugly eyes....YUCKY.... NOT GODDESS looking....
So, here I go....
Makeup....I think I will go full out with color today
Hair... done
Breakfast for my child.....done
BRAND NEW SIZE OUTFIT.....GORGEOUS DAAALINGSSSS
Perfume....The best...Opium
Clean Home..... Very weak..... Will work on that tomorrow. No time today as I am taking a half day off from work to go play....
Attitude.... EXCELLENT
GRATEFUL FOR THIS THREAD AND WISHING YOU ALL A SPECTACULAR DAY.....
-Boil the chicken until tender, drain. -Shred chicken with two forks until it is in small strips -Prepare the corn tortillas (I warm them in a microwave after spraying with water--keeps fat content low) -Preheat oven to 350degreesF -spray a nonstick 9x9 pan with cooking spray, coating all side and bottom -layer tortillas, then chicken to cover, then salsa verde liberally, then mozzarella cheese to cover. You can experiment with the amount of Salsa verde that you prefer, but I like lots. -Bake, uncovered, for 30 minutes.
Serve with Sour cream.
The tomato/avacado salad is just that; I add some fresh lime juice and sea salt and cilantro. You can use whatever veggies you like. Sometimes I like it with some corn and black beans, red onion. Whatever floats your boat.
This recipe was given to me by a friend who's mother made this for her "back home", and she loves it. If you fry the tortillas, it IS delicious, but adds a lot of fat.
As I've written it, substituting 2% cheese or fat free, this recipe is considered CORE with Weight Watchers.
NEW OUTFIT.... everyone notices and says it looks great. One teacher just said.... HOT MAMA today. I definetly get a A for the day on the outfit.
ACCESSORIES... New bracelet and earrings (why matching to the outfit of course), CHECK
I sent in my weigh in at 80 3/4 lbs, I weighed in on Saturday and got my P today, so of course the weight went up. I gave them Saturday - but DON'T tell them. LOL
Attitude - very STRONG, BRIGHT CHEERFUL, HEAD'S UP, CHEST IS OUT AND EVERYONE IS NOTICING.
Mojodiva - That's good news! Do we need to go through the checklist with you?
Went through the list last night and I'm all set... except for the matching red & black bra and panties I'm purchasing tomorrow. I'm going to ask him if he wants to see my new shoes , then step out in the shoes wearing just the underwear. Think it will make an impact?
I DO need y'all to tell me where to find the mineral powder? My mother wants to buy it for me tomorrow.
Just did my toenails... I forgot how happy that makes me.
I love all things goddess. I've got to jump in here and post a picture of my new Italian leather pumps with the chinchilla pom-poms. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> I especially love wearing them with my pj's. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> Look here!
Mojodiva, My daughter works at a day spa and they sell Bare Minerals so that may be a place to look. Also it sounds like the department stores (with make-up counters) sell it also. (I don't live in a place big enough to have a department store so I am clueless there) Also, Mary Kay has just added the mineral powder so that is where I will get mine to try because I am a personal use consultant (I just order for my own use). So if you know of someone who sells any of those products you may be able to get it that way. And I don't just mean Mary Kay, but maybe Avon or something similar? Not sure.
Update: I did good today and wore mascara and blush again! And my eyebrows look good still.
I even told my H that I am a GODDESS now. He liked it! After a little while he was telling a story from work and used some bad language. I waited a bit and then I told him that this GODDESS did not like to hear that kind of language. So, if he wants to play with this GODDESS, he has to not say those words! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> He wants to play with me so he will be more careful <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> (He is working in the oilfield which is generally a pretty rough bunch and he's been gone a while and not around GODDESSES so he'll have to brush up his manners)
Anyway, keep up the good work everyone. I am so inspired just reading what everyone is doing!
I agree MAC make up is very nice. It tends to be available at Macy's. But also, I like Physician's Formula and it is available at many drug stores like Rite Aid. It is sometimes available on sale, or buy 1 get 1 free. The loose powder is nice, but you can get the powder in a regular compact also. You can also buy artists brushes at arts and crafts stores cheap that work very nicely for applying loose powder.
A useful trick with powder is to tap the brush gently on the side of the compact before you apply it to your face. That way, you do not get too much powder on your face and can avoid a cakey look and avoid getting powder all over your clothes.
Lots of brands advertise "mineral" make up and there is really no quality control. Just find a make up that works for you. It is nice that make up is available in products that don't have a heavy feel on the face--I do not like that heavy, greasy feeling. When I am really taking care of myself, I use a little concealer on my blotchy spots and then use a little powder. Since I have oily skin, I like the powder, but be careful about getting it on your eye lids or around the sensitive eye area as it can be drying.
I don't wear make up every day and I don't think that it is a requirement for a Goddess. But if it makes you feel good and helps you have a more successful day, I think it's a nice idea.
I have no vested interest in any brand and I am sure there are other brands that are good. Target also sells a lot of nice make up.
Sorry you are crying, Sunshine. Very bad for goddesses - makes for puffy eyes.
Ladies, I need some help remembering that goddesses FORGET the past and let it go. Got another letter from ex today where he said that his prayer for Christmas was for us to reconcile, that he is so sorry, I was a wonderful wife, blah, blah, blah. It made me feel HURT and then ANGRY.
I know that I need to move past this and go on with my wonderful new life. I keep looking for some kind of "closure", and it isn't happening.
We have been divorced a year, and I have remained in Plan B. But he is constantly sending these letters and leaving messages on my phone, and at WORK.
I've told him to just get OUT of my life, but he continues to hammer away. And I know that I'm to blame too, because I read the letters instead of just throwing them in the trash.
Hubby left me and rode off into the sunset on our brand new Harley, with one of our neighbors. I flipped out and followed him and acted real crazy for months. He continued denying that they were living together and it drove me crazy. The affair lasted 4 years and ended a week after our divorce was final. That is the short version.
Now I'm happily with a new man, and ex is determined to get back together. This has been going on since August.
But that is off-topic for this thread. Suffice to say that affairs almost always end and they want to come back.
Well, you can WASH them. I have tons of cute tops, and I got many at Goodwill. Also I shop on ebay, which is much cheapter than the mall.
White is good because you just bleach it. And get lots of cute accessories.
I have to dress up for work, so I don't use those clothes. And I have good things for going out, and then my around the house clothes that are still fashionable and cute.
I wear SWEATSHIRTS when I go out on the boar fishing with my sons.
well... I'm wearing a sweatshirt! ;-p Because it's too cold not too! Plus no chance of seeing WH right now anyway, I'm in it for the comfort and warmth. Now tomorrow, that's a different story. Wearing a very nice sweater and doing the make up, gonna touch up after work because when I get home WH will be here cookin' or startin' to cook!
Slightly t/j...I was trying to make myself feel better when Mr. Gray was still here and doing Goddess stuff then. So I was then labeled a "Stepford wife" and I'm sure they were talking trash in IM about it. I didn't look though.
They were just trying to tear me down so I would not do the things I was doing and go back to the way I was so their behavior could be justified by them.
I get it now! Duh! Took me long enough! LOL!
Sorry about that! Took the Goddess thread to get me to snap to, I guess!
Guess I shouldn't be so hard on Not2. I live in Southern California and it was 78 today. Maybe if it was COLD I would be wearing a sweatshirt too. But I only own one - my deepsea fishing one.
Just checkin -- I LUVV this thread. Actually starting channeling my inner goddess about a week after WH moved in with OW. Like Chai, I tore into the house first and now it looks great. Then I moved on to me (facials, manicures, colring the hair, new clothes, new makeup). Haven't given up the sweats though, I wear them when I walk the doggies now that its cold. I guess that's next on the list!
It's funny when I was younger, I hated anything girlie. I think it was rebellion against my mother--who is the ULTIMATE GODDESS. LOL. Since WH left though, I am getting back into the girlie/ladylike side of me. And it's fun!! So in the end like mother, like daughter...
My latest thing is yoga. I was going to take my first calss last Sat but school got in the way (is doing homework a goddess activity?). So I'm going to plan on it again in two weeks. Chai has already warned me of the potential side-effects, so I'm prepped!
Believer--
Your XH is unreal. Have you told him to go away? Why is he so desparate now?
I'm travelling this week for work so I'll pop in less often than usual, but keep it coming ladies!!
BTW, looking ahead to Feb and Valentine's day I decided to take some lady friends from work (some signle, some married) to a girls' only Valentine's day lunch at a very nice restaurant. I figured since I knew I wasn't going to be with WH I wanted to make that day still a special one and share love by celebrating with good friends. Maybe a new goddess tradition????
78 degrees b....well it is 26 degrees here right now....(midwest girl...I mean midwest GODDESS...) so sweatshirts are part of wardrobe....of course, I am thinking that will be changing...
If it makes you all feel better, I'd PREFER a sweater over a sweatshirt any day, but mine are all so pretty and new right now, I just don't want to mess them up.
Like I said, I end up wearing most of the dirt when I clean or get cleaning supply stains on things, and I really don;t want to ruin my "pretty" new stuff...so I am trying to find a happy middle ground for when I clean....
"BTW, looking ahead to Feb and Valentine's day I decided to take some lady friends from work (some signle, some married) to a girls' only Valentine's day lunch at a very nice restaurant. I figured since I knew I wasn't going to be with WH I wanted to make that day still a special one and share love by celebrating with good friends. Maybe a new goddess tradition????"
What an awesome idea!!!!!!! Valentines day is so YUCKY when you don't have your lover.
Skinsgal - Check out the babydoll tunics. They look GREAT on full-figured women. They cover the tummy and thighs.
Since you feel like you are too fat, I hope you will watch a show I saw last night. Forget what it is called, but it is starring the Queer Eye guy, and he takes heavier women and fixes them up and has them model nude. GREAT SHOW!!!!!!!
I'm feeling way better about myself. Can't lost 80+ lbs and not feel good, I just don't think high heels are for me yet. I still have about 75 - 100 lbs to go. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> And it has slowed up so much.
Wow, Believer, I cannot believe after all this time, he is hounding you like that!! You must be a TRUE Goddess!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
I am sorry that you are upset, though. How is your new mate taking all of the XH attention? Why do you think it upsets you? Are you wavering now after the D or is it just annoying? It seems like in one way it would be a little gratifying or validating (not nice, but we ARE human!), but in another way it would just bring up so many bad memories and sadness. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />
I'll admit, I wasn't a very good Goddess today. Went on my antibiotics and just feel like warmed-up poopy. Maybe tomorrow will be a better day! At least I SMELL good!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
SkinsGal - They have them in the mall here, and they are on ebay too. Check them out. And the show is Carson Kressley's "How to Look Good Naked" - WONDERFUL program for women that aren't emaciatingly thin.
Lala - I used to think it would be gratifying, but instead it is just depressing. Everything thrown away for NOTHING.
My new man is NOT HAPPY. He has been gone for a month and a half on a temporary assignment in Washington, DC. But he is getting annoyed.
I need to snap out of the regrets, jettison my ex, and MOVE ON.
Oh, skinsgal, just talking to you and all of the other goddesses here helps.
My ex left and didn't look back. I was heartbroken for several years. Now that I'm enjoying life again, he's back. I just need to get over it. And I will. Too bad for him.
Just curious. Has your WH even mentioned about trying to do some of the things you wanted in the PBL to reconcile? Or is he just wanting to waltz back into your life free and clear---wah, wah, blah, blah, blah.
Not saying you want him back mind you, it just interesting to me that he has come to this place after all this time and that it still gets to you. I'm not criticizing you at all--you are one of my MB heros. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
It just makes me wonder if one can ever move on...if there is ever such a state as indifference (the opposite of love).
Maybe we could roast HIM instead of the GOAT! (har har) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
When does your new guy get back? I thought he was supposed to be back by now. Sheeesh, XH, new great man, and that friend that was after you.. you should be feelin GOOD Miss THANG! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> I'm just teasin' ya-I know you are totally diggin' your new guy and all this other stuff is just irritating.
My ex left and didn't look back. I was heartbroken for several years. Now that I'm enjoying life again, he's back. I just need to get over it. And I will. Too bad for him.
Did you think you would get to this point?
B - how did you take care of yourself for all those years? You are absolutely amazing to me.
My ex left and didn't look back. I was heartbroken for several years. Now that I'm enjoying life again, he's back. I just need to get over it. And I will. Too bad for him.
Right on. Forget the other stuff I just wrote--who cares why XH is where he is? YOU are in a better place.
"Or is he just wanting to waltz back into your life free and clear---wah, wah, blah, blah, blah."
Ding, ding, ding!!!!!!!!!
Quick TJ - his letter from today -
Dear Believer - I hope the start of this year finds you in good health and spirits. My prayers are with you for strength and endurance. I wish I could be there to comfort you, but I see my Christmas miracle didn't happen. I had asked God for reconciliation with you. So much time has passed, too much water over the dam, too many bad feelings.
I know you told me to "just go away". I have accepted that rejection and will respect your wishes.
I am very sorry for the hurt I have caused. I am reminded over and over of my sinful nature. You were a wonderful wife and I deserve whatever you decide. Please forgive me.
Casual Fridays - well fitted jeans, heels or boots, cute top - have you checked out the babydoll tunics? Very flattering to most figures.
I've looked pregnant in those things since forever - that's what happens when you are well endowed upstairs. ****** will freeze over before I go out in a baby doll anything....don't they intend for the size 2s to wear them? EEEEGADS!!!!!
That letter. Please -- sounds just like the garbage my WH would write--nearly word for word. Where is that little violin and the puking icon when I need it? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
If he doesn't lay off, I say get your new BF to set him "straight"--hee hee!
Well, it had to happen, some goddess coming along and complaining that she is too well endowed up top. Poor thing.
Not me, I wore my special bra to push them up and out today. I loved it.
Those and my eyes are by far my finest assets.... My eyes, now they are dark, bright and full of love and life. I am so blessed I can wear any eye color make up and it looks awesome.
You don't get me complimenting myself hardly at all, but those two things.... I will. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
My gals shrunk from a DD to a C. I have to go bra shopping again. At least alot of my back pain has lessened.
Tomorrow I'm going to have a great day. I've already decided. Not going to worry about when or if the mailman delivers those D papers. Tomorrow is write cover letters for CD's, agents and managers. Call photolab & give them picture numbers. Go to acting book store and get CD's directory. Going to spend 1 hr with therapy lady. Tomorrow is going to be good. Because I said so.
Ok Goddesses...thank you! All of the good feelings from this thread got me to get moving, ALL oversized tshirts, GONE, all grandma gowns, GONE, all underwear saved for the bad days, GONE. I still have to Goddessize my closet, but lots of progress here.
Moistureized and wore makeup yesterday. Purfumed, hair looked ok, need a trim. Did at home pedicure will paint toes hopefully today-bright RED a nice color for dull winter. No luck in purchasing new slacks yesterday, but will just head to 'the city' for an all day shopping spree! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
We'll just 'see' how long my DH (and thats dumb! HA) can hold out on complimenting my new me!
"All of the good feelings from this thread got me to get moving, ALL oversized tshirts, GONE, all grandma gowns, GONE, all underwear saved for the bad days, GONE"
First to Believer - All I can say is Wow again about your XH. You've always said that they all come back. You know, I have to feel sorry for him. He now has to live with this for the rest of his life. It has to be a huge burden to know that you gave up your wife and family for something that wasn't even real. I think about my WH and how he will feel in 5 years. They have to come to terms with this and on their death beds. Have to look back at their lives and the decisions that they made. Whew. glad I'm the BS instead of the WS.
Now, I told you all that I had a new do. Well...I can't believe it, but I've been in the office for only two hours this morning and so far have had 6 people (including 1 guy my daughter's age) tell me how good my hair looks. Woo-hoo...I sure do feel like a Goddess today! (Makes me think that maybe it must have look like $hit before?).
Oh well, basking in the compliments. I'm going to the mall at lunch to find that new mineral make-up. The compliments I can get used to. Goin' fishin' for more!
Keep on doing this Goddess thing girls. Wish we could all get together for a Goddess Group Picture.
It's good to see so many ladies pop up here for inspiration and comraderie! Oh, whoever posted about doing homework, and asked if it was goddesslike, HECK YEAH! Educating yourself is SEXY BABY! A keen mind is a beautiful thing. Bettering yourself is very goddeslike.
I, personally, can't see returning to school. I achieved so much coming from so little. I'm still very proud of myself for what I accomplished. Also, I've learned so much on the job, that I have the equivalent of a MS, so I would probably want to go the whole nine yards and begin a course toward PhD. That's a lot to ask of me right now. Who know's what tomorrow brings. I'm learning never to say never.
Going to do a bit of light cleaing today, and get in touch with one of my girlfriends to get together this week. She has a nine month old baby boy, who I haven't seen since July, so that will be great!
I'm going to get some of that mineral powder, too!
oh, and MVG--I'm proud of you, lady! Good job purging from that wardrobe.
Oh Believer, I am still way too fat for that stuff.
Caught you in some STINKIN THINKIN, Queenie!!
They make CUTE CLOTHES in ALL SIZES!!
You have to find the RIGHT STORES!!
ETA: I might get edited but I'm gonna say it..Go the LANE BRYANT website and look for the BABYDOLL TOP... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I have a friend who is Plus sized, but refuses to shop at Plus stores, like it's admitting defeat. She really only has trouble fitting her top half, as she is very broad shouldered and well endowed to boot. INstead, she chooses to wear only stretchy material, which doesn't help her midsection. She has been dieting, and fits much better into her clothing, but could stand to wear more structured tops.
I remember a "What Not to Wear" episode with a lady sort of her size. When she did shop in the plus sized store, most tops that fit her off the rack were like TENTS below her breasts, but Stacey and Clinton made a valid point. You can have things TAILORED, and it's not that expensive. Same for shorter ladies, having pants and skirts hemmed to fit properly.
I have hemmed my own pants for years, because I'm 5'5", and most pants in my size have a 32-33" inseam, which is about 1-2 inches too long for me, even in heals. They drag on the ground, and I'm not into the grunge look anymore. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />
First off I would like to thank Dear GODDESS Mimi as well... this thread has taught me so much and 2x4ed me when needed...this is an AMAZING thread...
Second, I wore that styled ponytail to work today (I am a cook in a HS...polyester uniform, hairnet and all...ughhghghh..but I do love my schedule), and I had 6 teenage girls comment on it...there ya go sisters....lol
ok run down for the day...
makeup on....check
Hair done....check and its down, not in a pony ladies
jeans...nope
cute stylish cordaroys on....check
sweatshirt on....nope
cute sweater on....check
heeled boots...check
jewerly on...check
even my MC said I look great today....
So there you are ladies...I think I'm finally "getting" it, but I couldn;t have done it without all the GODDESSES help...
You've got the hang of this thing. I got compliments on my hair all day long. Unbelievable. I must have really looked bad before!
Believer, hope you are out there tonight. I looked at the MB Photo thread. Was that the Harley that WH rode off into the sunset on??? Is that your dog or his dog??
"Was that the Harley that WH rode off into the sunset on??? Is that your dog or his dog??"
Yep, it was brand new. I only rode it once, before the OW took over.
The dog is my beautiful Leo, the most wonderful pitbull in the world. Another sad story - we got him because his owner cheated on his wife and they were divorcing. They couldn't keep him because were selling their house. Had Leo for TWO YEARS (yes, I'm shouting). Well, they got back together and asked for him back. I couldn't believe it. But I gave him back, mainly because they were good owners - they trained him so well, she was a SAHM, and they had 2 little daughters who were heartbroken when they gave him up.
The dog was such a joy - a real dog for a goddess - he loved people, kids and even cats.
And not to TJ (but I will anyway), the Harley now belongs to OW and her hubby. I got it in the property settlement and gave it to OM, because in all of the big mess he behaved so nicely. He was fighting in Iraq when the affair started, and came home to no job and no wife, and a 12 year old daughter to care for.
When the affair ended, OW moved back in with her hubby. She is enjoying the bike.
I've kinda been following along and cheering all you Goddesses on, but I MUST comment on the baby doll tops.
Are y'all talking about the little empire waist tops that are gathered under the boobs? The kind of tops that look like the tops to my shorty pjs when I was a kid/teen?
If you are...I gotta tell ya', my husband's niece is a queen-sized lady, and she had one on last summer. She looked like she was PREGNANT!
I'm thinking more along the lines of something like a nice longish tunic style, with some pretty detailing and shaping in the waist would look much better on us queen-sized goddesses!
"Are y'all talking about the little empire waist tops that are gathered under the boobs? The kind of tops that look like the tops to my shorty pjs when I was a kid/teen?"
Yes. It must be a California thing, but they are very popular here. But the material is different than shorty pj's.
They cover up the tummy and are long enough to cover hips and love handles.
I guess they DO look like your PG, but when everyone is wearing them, it doesn't make a difference.
House is looking GOOD...and WS did a "suprise" visit....lol
and I was looking GOOD, house was looking GOOD, and kiddies were all fed, so hopefully SOMEBODY'S love bank got a deposit today...of course, he looked more peeved at it all than happy...not wanting to believe the changes I gues...oh well, not my problem because GODDESS NOT2FUN IS HERE TO STAY......YEAHHHHHHHHH
not2fun sounds like you are REALLY getting the hang of this! I am a goddess in training too, I like this. I haven't been focused on MY looks, attire, much since having kids. Always looked presentable but probably not the best I CAN be. So I'm LOVING this thread, it helps me with ideas, checklist and I'm starting to feel a bit better about myself. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Got my haircut yesterday, it was really getting out of hand. DH (dumb husband) didn't notice at first, when I mentioned something we were talking about in hair salon he said "I can't see where your hair looks cut"...to which I responded "well that's cause you don't really pay attention nor look at me." I didn't say it mean so I don't think it was a DJ BUT I did say it, didn't feel bad about saying, just stating my truth. Well lo and behold before he went to bed he says, ya know your hair does look cute from this angle!
OHHHHHHHHHHH and I bought jeans that were 2 sizes smaller than normal! YEHAW!!!!! My sorta kinda eating better is starting to pay off!
As usual, I'm not outta the nightie yet, but I'm enjoying my coffee and french toast, yyyyyuuuum! There are days when I feel DECADENT staying home. I get the WHOLE day to myself, to do whatever. I've never had this before, so it's very nice.
My girlfriend is coming over with her baby today, which will be fun. I'm off of the pain meds completely now; have some just in case I strain myself, but don't feel the need to be ON them all day long. I can't believe how much better I feel than last week. WHEW!
I need to eat more healthily; since the holidays, I've slipped. I just need to bring the fruits back in, and I'll be A OKAY--I'll start that today, for snacks.
Keep it up ladies. Being a goddess doesn't mean HARD work, it means focusing on you, feeling good, looking good. We all seem to forget ourselves along the way, don't we. It's just a matter of putting yourself first, top priority.
I have court today to go over child support and I'm going to ask the judge to do an income deduction order b/c my WH does NOT pay into the depository like he is supposed to.
PLEASE say a prayer and cross your fingers. I know this is going to send my WH into ORBIT, he is going to be so mad.
But what he doesn't know, is that I'm wearing my matching black lace bra and panties. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Today I am going to get ready & go buy the casting directors book. It lists who casts what tv show etc... And I'm going to get all my CD's and VHS tapes of things I've done together so I can have a reel made. Lots of agents & managers want to see your reel. Right now I don't have one. But I'm going to get mine made up.
Now it's off to the shower to make myself look pretty for the day.
Free, fingers crossed, prayers said--Go get em, tigress!
Hair done up nice and sharp--the blond is really striking against my face with the dark brown underneath--HOT!
Wearing a lovely embroidered, crisp, 3/4 length, white boat neck blouse, trouser jeans (around the house wear). Makeup is VERY fresh today, light foundation, bronzer and mascara. I feel very bohemian. Where is that incense?--hmmmmmm...
House is as clean and baby proofed as I can get it for my visit with GF and baby in tow.
Believer, YUP 2 sizes!!!!! I was doing the happy dance. Eating breakfast is making a difference, along with more veggies and very portion controlled protein..mostly poultry but some red meat.
Everyone sounds like they are IN the Goddess groove!
"GODDESS IN TRAINING" Not2fun is having a most UN-GODDESS like day...my mood has been soured since @ 3pm, and the funk it has created is stinkin....
It probably all can be traced to having got up late and not getting hair and makeup done pretty for work. So maybe lessoned learned is to make sure YOU make the time in the morning to put your best GODDESS foot forward. So since today has been a scratch, I will go to bed early so I can get plenty of GODDESS beauty sleep and try again tomorrow.
not2fun
ps..sorry this is kind of a downer post on such an uplifting thread, but my mind has been flaky lately...probably doesn;t help that I am congested and have had sinus headaches for a few days now....
Tomorrow is going to be a hard day to be a Goddess. But I am going to get up, get ready and drive to the Post Office and pick up my certified/restricted delivery package of D papers from WS. I am going to attempt this without having a panic/anxiety attack or crying in public. I will try to see if I can make it home from the PO before I meltdown. I figure I'm still a Goddess is nobody see's me meltdown. That is my goal for tomorrow.
EVERYDAY IS A GODDESS DAY in one way or another..even without the extra beautifying...
A GODDESS stops to recognize the BEAUTY in LIFE..
A GODDESS counts her BLESSINGS...be thankful and grateful..for the DAY that GOD has made...
Appreciate just being YOU...there will never be another YOU...
I really am so CLOSE to being a TRUE GODDESS. G-d continues to work his miracles in me and I can so recognize all that is good in my life.
I just have to learn to be ok with saying I am ok. I would imagine that a TRUE GODDESS accepts these truths of beauty about her and is gracious and graceful evermore.
Hair.... Needs color, but doing that this weekend. Look sharp though.
Makeup... chic and very appropriate for my outfit.
Outfit.... beautiful green and black skirt outfit, with matching earring and necklace..... Very nice and very flowing..
Attitude... Not bad. I saw a picture of me about 6 years ago and OMG, I can even see how much weight I have lost. I am applauding myself for that.
Mommy work... breakfast made and good time with boys this morning. Am doing my DD a favor today so they are covered.
Domestic... we really need to work on this one. Definetly my weak point. Remember, I am the JAQ.
Need to work for hard focus at work today. Keep me in your thoughts. My boss is frustrated with me, she wants the OLD dedicated, stay later no matter how long gal.
Yes, I wore my sunglasses today. I didn't bother putting on any makeup because I knew I'd cry it all off. I did. I'm just trying to stay strong and keep from going crazy. I took a couple of my anti-anxiety pills and I'm hoping they work soon.
Hello Sisterhood!!!! This is my absolute favorite thread!
A great big thanks to each and every one of you for your good vibes and prayers thrown my way.
Was a great day before the judge. He ordered child support be taken directly out of WH's paycheck so I don't have to worry with his sorry-a$$ excuses anymore. He was going to do "chores" around my house to compensate for not giving me the full amount,too. Won't work in Plan B now will it?! Wooohooo!!
LASGirl, oh my heart breaks for your day. Remember with God all things are possible. If that fails, drink wine. Are you feeling any better? Praying for you.
Believer, or anyone else - I have been looking for a yummy trifle recipe. I've never made one, but my mouth has been watering for some yummy, gooey sweets.
Skinsgal, so nice to hear about your GODDESS in motion activities. You go girl!
Anyone heard from Fireblossom or her thread? She has me so concerned.
Taking the night off from cooking and stuck a frozen pizza in the oven...because I am a GODDESS.
this morning was good...only 5 hours of sleep, but that was fine, woke up in a better mode than I have been in lately... got the makeup on for work, but not the hair. I have a uniform, so there is no way to have a cute outfit.
got home took a shower....
makeup on ....check
hair done....check
cute sweater...check
awesome form fitting jeans in my new size...check, check and check em out....
stares from the men working on my house....check...
all was good till hubby came over and we had a big fight....oh well..."GODDESS IN TRAINING" not2fun will get a restful night sleep, and do it all again in the morning.....
oh, by the way, I LOVE the awesome tips from all the beautiful GODDESSES on here. You guys have given my food for thought and more ideas than any magizine I have ever read.....
I haven't been on the boards too much lately, but I happen to be working a night shift tonight and there is only one little lovemuffin in the nursery, so I have been trying to catch up in between feedings and just found this thread. It is exactly what I needed.
I have always done the girly stuff - pedicures, facials, spend BIG bucks on my hair, and get the occasional massage. When my H had an affair and left home, I lost about 50 pounds on the infidelity diet and looked great. Since he has been back, I have put about 20 of it back on.
While he was gone, I seemed to have much more time for myself. I walked every day, did my exercise tapes, and swam at the school pool a couple of nights a week. For me, that exercise is key in keeping my weight down. My diet has always been healthy although I battle a sweet tooth constantly. But now that H is back home, I find that I don't have that time for me. First, I work two 12 hour day shifts and one 12 hour night shift. On the days I am home during the week, H comes home for lunch. On weekends, we spend all of our time together. Two nights a week, we play on a pool league. So we definitely get our recreational time together and it seems that I always choose that over time for me alone. Add to that cooking, cleaning, and our remodeling projects, and my classes, and it seems like the days are too short.
So anyway, this thread has given me some motivation again to make exercise a priority....and the sweatshirt and sweat pants talk...well, point well taken is all I have to say. I seem to live in either scrubs or sweats unless we are going out. So, I'll work on that.
Sorry to come to this party so late...but better late than never I guess <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />!!
Hey FREE I understand snickerdoodles are nutrious in addition to yummy because they ahve cinammon! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
We lost power for several hours, tree went down probably due to some ice. Winter weather mix wasn't quite the bang they expected but I did stay home!
Since I was home had time to paint my toenails...I hope no one looks close, it's hard to do, they look pretty snazzy, RED.
"BTW, Believer, what about my dessert recipe?" Mimi - I've been busy and out with my mom. She is visiting for a week from Seattle.
Lucky I started the goddess program before she got here. I always have the house sparkling clean, but did an extra good job. But OOOPS, missed the handles on the kitchen cabinets. She noticed and commented last night. YIKES mom, give it a break.
Anyway, we are having a good time, and I'm getting lots of exercies. Yesterday we went walking on several different beaches for miles, walking on the pier, in the mall, etc. Think we walked for about 5 hours all together.
[color:"black"]This is goddess exercise month, right? [/color]
It's so funny, when I CAN exercise (the last time I COULD was in September, before the degenerative disc disease debacle), now that I can't (for a while--only very light stuff and walking) I long to. So, I clean instead, work up a tiny sweat and work on the house in small doses, sewing curtains and fairly effortless painting.
I look forward to the warm months when I'm back in my pool. It's good strength training, working with the water, and my doc recommends it.
Today, my son is home from school, so I'll spend some time out attemtping a snow man, with mostly HIS leg work (we got about 4 inches yesterday in MD), and then make some cookies (oatmeal raisin) and work on the curtains, if I have it in me.
Today I'm going out. I'm all dressed up. Meeting my dear friend who's saved my life twice for lunch. I don't know how much lunch I'll be able to eat, but I get to see her & her adorable little son.
Today was not too bad considering eyes were puffy from all the crying I did lat night. But it did give me some good uninterrupted GODDESS sleep. Wore the makeup to school....
evening checkin...
makeup on...yes
sophisicated sweater....check
nice jeans...check
healed boots...check
matching earrings and necklace...check
hair done....check
also got eyebrows taken care of this afternoon...and all this "me" time has me feeling better and ready to take on the world.....
I had the make-up goin' on, nice top with my jeans & funky Goddess shoes, Goddess adornments...then I left. Wow! Lots of attention and I had been so busy out and about that I forgot about the Goddess stuff. But plenty of others noticed!
LOL!!
I have some mineral make-up coming in soon from my DIL.
Skinsgirl- My mom is HERE in San Diego county. When she left Seattle, it was snowing. Now we've been walking on the beach - 68 degrees today. Went walking on the beach, to a garden park, and a meditation garden on the ocean, and out to lunch. It was a nice day.
SS some potato soup. It's definately comfort food and easy on the tummy. I read your current thread, I'm sorry, sometimes NOT knowing details is easier.(((SS)))
Now the best thing is to get back up, dust yourself off, and get BACK into the Goddess mode of thinking. Have you done anything GODDESS like today? Let's get you in "the attitude" and you'll be able to handle the 'crapola".
Everytime I read this thread I hear the song "let's give them something to talk about" in my head. I think it's a good song for this thread! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Charlotte..let me know how the makeup goes...still considering it, haven't "bought" into it though....Glad to hear you were having a great GODDESS day.
Skinsgal, you are worrying my here and you know what they say about worrying?? It will cause wrinkles, and honey THIS GODDESS does not need any more wrinkles :-)...Get yourself some protein shakes. They maybe easier to go down than real food. Have one every couple of hours, that way you won't lose too much weight....
mvg- I LOVE THAT SONG....I alway here the song "I will survive" when I am on this thread, maybe I should download that one and put it on repeat all day...lol
OK, GODDESS check in for this morning....
breakfast....check, still have 15 lbs to lose, but don't want to end up sick...
jeans on....check, not one of my new pair, but not sweats either....
sweatshirt....yes...I know, I know but you'll all see why next
house clean...nope...WS had the new floor put in the last couple of days. His useless, idiot uncle did it. They look awesome though. BUT they moves all the furniture out to do them and didn't put ANYTHING back...so today I will be putting everything back in its place AND decluttering at the same time (that's another good thing about all of this, my main floor in now getting the deep scrubbing/decluttering that it needs). That is why sweatshirt in on, and I promise to throw this one away when I am done today, since my house will be shiny new I won't need it....lol
makeup on...check, even did a deep scrub and moisurized...
Everyone have a WONDERFUL GODDESS DAY...today will be the day my mood improves....
My dad is here to help me with the house, sister is behind him...so gotta run...oh yeah, I will post a recipe I want to share with you all, Holiday Morning French Toast...a most scrumptious GODDESS recipe that I don't share with just anyone, but you all have been so good to me that I must pass it on to you....
I'm missing the excuse for the SWEATSHIRT. Have any of HIS old buttondown shirts? They love to see you in those. You've got to get a handle on this SWEATS ADDICTION of yours...
Oh, can't wait for the French Toast recipe. I'm going to now designate February as "cook & try new recipe" month. Looks like I did all of my Goddess stuff this month, so I need a new theme.
Still getting compliments on the new do. Can't believe it. Going to the mall later for some new threads.
I just wanted to pop in to tell you about my Goddess afternoon...
I had forgotten that my son had baseball practice. Now anyone with kids knows that usually the moms show up in jeans and sweatshirts, casual clothes. Oh sure, you have the occassional princess thrown in there, but usually it is casual attire. That's how I was all last season, both during summer and fall ball. Heck, most of the time I didn;t even bother with makeup and hair was in pony.
Well, once I remembered the practice, I hurried up and changed, touched up the makeup, and fixed the hair (remember I am decluttering/painting/trying to get house in order today). I remembered the jewerly, heeled boots, and scrumptious new coat I bought yesterday (for $40 no less). Well, we were a little late, but everyone commented on how GREAT I looked. Coach said I was becoming quite the skinny-minnie and other mothers wanted to know what I did to lose the weight (yeah right,they don't want this diet....). I even had the yucky Divorced dad flirting with me (love his ex., he's a complete a** and a WS....we DO NOT LIKE THIS MAN) telling me to come out to this bar/club his friend owns (not in this lifetime....lol).
Anyways, it was quite fun to get the comments and compliments, especially when the new GODDESS me was in good form.....
and I have to say I owe it all to my GODDESS teachers....
ok WH called to take son to movie, said I could come along if I wanted to, because he knew it was something I wanted to watch.
jumped in the shower- painted my toes (first time in probably 6yrs). Left my hair down, got it cut... always wear it up off my face. I get compliments when it's down. Wore my new tight long sleeved T (and earned a compliment from him ;-) Oh and a bit of make-up, which I skip more often than not.
He's coming over for football tomorrow... I guess I'll GODDESS up again tomorrow.
Hope everyone had a fine Saturday. I sure did, house is not totally back in order, but some MAJOR progress was accomplished. This morning I promised you all a delictable recipe, and so here it is....hope you all enjoy this as much as we do....
Holiday Morning French Toast
This needs to be made the night before as it needs to set before baking...
Ingredients
1 C. brown sugar 1/2 C. butter, melted 3 tsp. cinnamon 4 tart apples, granny smiths prefered, cored,peeled and sliced 1 loaf french bread, cut into 1 in. slices 6 lg. eggs 1 1/2 C. milk 1 Tbs. vanilla 1/2 C. raisins or dried cranberries (crasins..) optional
Directions
1. Combine brown sugar, butter and 1 tsp. cinnamon in a 9x13 baking pan. Add apples and cranberries; toss to coat well. Spread apple mixture evenly over bottom of baking dish. Arrange slices of bread on top.
2. Mix eggs,vanilla,milk, and 2 tsp. of cinnamon until well blended. Pour mixture over bread soaking bread completely. Cover and refrigerate 4 to 24 hrs.
3. Bake, covered with aluminum foil in a preheated 375 degree oven for 40 min. Remove from oven; let stand for 5 min. Serve warm.
This french toast is so sweet you don't even need to bother with the syrup....
Now I know what I'm having for breakfast in the morning! Yum-my! Thanks N2F
DS1 has a 103' so I'm not in GODDESS mode. My little WARRIOR looks so sad. Gave lukewarm bath, and motrin, Grandma is heading to get tylenol. These are the times I wish WH were here. But only for a minute.
My poor little peanut.
It's rainy and cloudy here so I've been in my velour pants all day long. Ahhh, please don't kill me. Aren't they better than sweats? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Skins, thx for chkng in on me the other night. Kinda not been posting too much lately. Sounds like you had an awesome day, I'm so glad.
I godess-ed up for my H last night for our "date night"... and he didn't say a word about it <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> Humph. Stupid plan A... I know, no expections... but come on, I know I looked DANG good, and you can't say a WORD about it?!?
I wore a new black shirt I got on sale that is tighter in the chest and then has a line of sequins right under the chest... and then sort of is "flowy" under that. And some nice, tight dark jeans... and heels (I almost had to practice walking around the house in them, because I'm so used to wearing flats). I painted my nails (I never paint my nails, but since all this crap, I've been trying to keep them nicer), put on make up (usually not a big make up person either), and had even got a haircut with a little more style in it earlier in the day (it is usually just cut straight across). AND NOT A WORD!! What the heck?? Oh-- and I even started going to the gym recently again (I broke both bones in my right forearm in August and spent over 2 months in a cast... and then a lot of PT... so I pretty much just sat on my butt from August until now, and admittedly gained about 10 lbs in doing that, so I've lost 5 of that and toned up since the new year...).
SS- just reading about your problems getting enough calories/food in...
A suggestion for you... my mom has MS and has trouble eating somedays also because she's just too sick and doesn't feel like it.
So, the doctor suggested that she buys ensure shakes (or soemthing along the lines of that) to drink as a high calorie meal replacement that has a lot of your nutrients too. They are good if you pop one in the blender with some ice and make a smoothie out of it, or even take a chocolate one, add some ice and fruit and blend that up. My mom drinks those a lot. And they go down pretty easy, pretty easy to just sip on one.
Yesterday was a good day! H wanted to go to Wally World and pick up some stuff for work. Normally that would be a throw on jeans and shirt and off we go. Told him I've got to shower first. Showered, lotioned, moisturized, hair looked good, make up on, a couple puffs of perfume, heals, nice jeans, pretty sweater...he's running back and forth into the bathroom several times wanting to know what's taking so long! LOL Final mirror check goddess like look accomplished. The last few times he has smile on his face, never complimented me but hey a smile is step forward.
Got to WWorld ran into a lady I know and hadn't seen in awhile. First thing out of her mouth is dam$ you look younger! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Now this isn't a 'friend' just someone we know very casually. WOW! That made my day!!!!
I'm trying the olay line of moisturizers and eye lift serum which H helped me locate! Another good sign.
Crossing fingers H will get to the verbalization of at least you look nice. But even if HE doesn't I do! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
MVG, just popped on your thread and that is awesome that your H read 5 love languages. I have that book, too and it seems like such a logical concept. Do you know what his main ones are? If you ask then you can do them and he won't even know what hit him. <sneaky, sneaky>
Sounds like things are headed upward for you. YAY! Wally World always reminds me of Chevy Chase....man, that was a good movie.
Now RIM, girl don't you even worry...your H noticed, trust me, even if he didn't say anything. Men are very visual you know that, so keep up with the effort and it will pay off...if not with him right away, then with you! You are a hottie! Repeat after me: I AM A HOTTIE. Just strut your stuff and the new attitude will come forward from the inside, too. That is where all lasting transformations begin.
If you LOVE our thread, let's campaign to UP our STAR RATING. I'm not liking those 2 STARS..associated with all this GREATNESS and WONDERFULNESS... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
Not doing much today, having a lot of painful headaches, probably associated with the surgery. It's okay, just a new thing to learn to cope with, and I have hope that it's muscle fatigue related. Taking more breaks helps a great deal. PWC has DS with him most of the day now, so I'm free from many child rearing duties, and he's been so helpful to me, and I tell him, regularly.
I have to say that I have never felt so good about myself, inside and out, in my life. I have learned a lot about me during this whole process, and how little concern I had for my own happiness. That's all but gone now, and a new day has dawned with me. I am a top priority these days.
I had a most restful sleep last night, heck didn't even have any nightmares or dreams about WS. I went to church and now I am going to work on the house some more before football begins...yeah, yeah...football may not be a very GODDESS activity but I love it. Besides, I have followed much of it since DDay..so I am going to take the me time today and enjoy it...lol...but I will promise to look smashing and beautiful while I watch it, no sweats or sweatshirts...lol
And yes Mimi...this thread should get the TOP stars, because when BS women come here, it is the MOST helpful thread to get them to feel good about themselves and point them in the right direction for PA. I should know, look what it has done for me....
Hair done...check
makeup on....check
Nice pants...check
lovely sweater....check
heeled boots....check
Jewerly...check
I was told at church today that I was looking good, in fact, MODEL good...gotta love that one....
I am having a GODDESS DAY. Good rest, did some exercise today (something I haven't done in ages) and all the glitz and nice clothes! Yesterday was not so GODDESS. My attitude was good and I got the house cleaned (H left to go back to work) but I didn't look so good <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />. But hey, todays a new day and I get to try again!
I want to re-do some stuff in my house so bad!! I want a new bedspread and headboard and paint! Ugh. And I want new valances in the kitchen and in the laundry room so I can paint them too! But I haven't found the stuff to get started. I live in a small town and have to wait to go the the big city to look for the stuff! Oh, and I want new curtains in the living room. I may go again this week to the city and I'll have time to look around and not be in such a hurry. I am trying to hurry and get my tax stuff ready so as not to wait till the last minute. Squeezing in all my projects at the same time. So much to do!!
Ummm, I could have sworn we had 4 stars.... Am I going crazy? Maybe I really should be wearing them glasses I paid good money for. Dang. I'm embarrased.
Where is that extra star...must be too much computer time today...eyes a little blurry...
Just call me the crazy GODDESS. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
We are FOOTBALL SISTERS..... I have the GAMES on too....
I can't get to the tivo, because son is playing xbox. AH technology.
I have been a little more busy as the domestic GODDESS this afternoon. And I cleaned in nice clothes. I look good. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Does your name mean you are a Redskins fan???? and did your clothes stay clean after you were done cleaning??? That is my biggest problem, mine don;t and I don't want to ruin my new clothes...lol
Ahhhh...that may be a GODDESS talent that I will never possess, but then again stranger things have happened. HMMMM, shopping for cleaning clothes...what kind of clothes would that be?? I am not "ALLOWED" to wear sweats, Mimi says so...lol.
I am a Rams fan BTW and the Bronco's are what I grew up watching, so I root for both...lol
Good morning Goddesses. I hope everyone had a great weekend. For the first time in a long time I had a VERY nice weekend. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
SL I have to agree with you. I haven't made myself a priority for so long..if ever this is new and exciting.
Cleaning clothes...interesting topic Question for Mimi...are fleece lined (nice looking) still considered sweats? Look like thick yoga style pants. Those are really comfy to clean in on these cold days. I will admit I kept 2 of my nicer sweat shirts henley style so not the just crew neck for those deep cleaning days. And then I make sure I shower after the cleaning is complete,and change back into Goddess attire. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Nice surprise yesterday, I mentioned that I needed to vacuum and H grabbed the vaccuum and jumped right in! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I'm not sure who recommended the mineral make-up, but a big thanks! I went to Sephora and asked for it, and they gave me the info and tried it on me. Wow!! Makes your skin look flawless. It's not liquid, but all powder based. They have a starter kit that you can get and it has everything in there (even the brushes) for only $60.00. I'm getting some with my mad money after I get paid.
I've been AWOL from 'goddess days' for a bit, but had some Chai tea yesterday and thought of you! I am back on track now and will check out that mineral make-up since you say it's powder-based...liquid makes me sweat like a big dog.
Yea Serenity....glad to see you on here hon. I am so glad to see you on this thread and improving yourself for YOU, even if you are a Patriots fan....LMAO...now, do what I do and go through a check list everyday, that way you are being accountable...
((((GOOD MORNING ALL GODDESSES))))
I had a most restful sleep. I am so glad my sleeping patterns are starting to fix themselves even if it is for short term. I had to take Aggie to the vet this morning, so that was quite an adventure (Aggie is an English Mastiff...she weights 140 lbs...the stare we get are so funny, but that is a WHOLE NOTHER story...lol). I am off work today, so I have the whole day to work some more on the house and do my important GODDESS homework...
Here goes my morning checklist....
shower...check, shaved the legs today...
breakfast...check, got to keep the GODDESS energy going
jeans...check, nice form fitting ones, not too tight though
nice sweater...check
comfortable, but stylish shoes...check
earrings....check
makeup on...check
I am all ready in case WS does one of his "dropping" by deals.
By the way, I looked up Sephora and there is one at a mall nearby, so guess what I will be doing this weekend??? Checking out that mineral makeup you all rave so much about...
Kinda funny... I just bought some mineral makeup, without even reading this thread a week ago. It IS great!
I've kinda liked being all godessed up recently, even if H doesn't even take notice at all. Makes ME feel good! Plus, I will admit I sort of "let myself go" recently, before this. I was more apt to be found in a T-shirt and sneakers... without make up and my hair tossed in a ponytail than how I am today...
A nice new sweater I bought this weekend that sort of has a "plunging" neckline... nice tight jeans, nice (flat) brown shoes (I can't wear heels to work... I am on my feet all day, and I won't have feet left if I wear heels), make up, got a new haircut this weekend (VERY STYLISH!), and even have nice manicured nails (well, home manicure, but I think I did a good job!). Oh, and my legs are shaved!
Kinda slow on the goddess board today... are we all too busy godess-ing up?
Well, I guess it is sort of slow in general here today....
Anyone have any other good goddess tips?? I was really late joining this thread and am catching up now!
I was quite the DOMESTIC goddess yesterday... scrubbed the whole house (I didn't look like a goddess doing it though... I was definitely in sweat pants!) and cooked a big meal!
So all I need to do is say I want to be a Goddess and poof! I'm a goddess...wow, that's great. Looks like I'm coming in at the tailend of things but I just wanted to join something fun!! Looking forward to chatting about 'fun' stuff with some of you.
Not just SAY it storm... you gotta BELIEVE IT... and yep, that's all you have to do... BELIEVE you are a goddess... and do whatever makes you FEEL like a goddess!!
So what makes you feel like a goddess, storm??
Much like a lot of the other women here... mine is prettying all up and walking with that extra strut in my stuff.... yanno?
PS-- I'm gonna bake some cookies later tonight for H with my surrogate kiddo (see my thread)... I'm gonna see if we can decorate some heartshaped ones and leave them around for H to find. Domestic goddess here I come!
no storm... you can't just come in and say you want to be a Goddess... there are a few requirements! 1 is you have to get rid of all the sweatshirts and sweatpants, 2 ah heck, just joking. welcome.
Well, storm, it's good that you've arrived. Aside from primping, I like to talk about what I've done for myself that day; sometimes painting my toenails counts as personal care and harnessing my Goddess.
I like to watch What Not To Wear for personal care; it gives me ideas on makeup and clothing. I like movies that make me LAUGH or are full of non-stop, heart pumping ACTION. Get's the heart racing.
I can't wait until this neck heals and I can get back to exercising (beyond just walking). I look forward to the warm summer months, playing in the pool and hanging out on the deck, planting springtime flowers, beautifying my home, among many other things. Right now, it's so dang cold, I don't wanna go outside at all. I like to look at the sky, from indoors...
POOF! I like that! Yep, you are now a GODDESS! Now you have to do stuff that makes YOU feel good about you. I cleaned my house a bit yesterday. My H had just gone back to work out of town so it was messy. Now it looks better (although I haven't cleaned it up today-but I will before I go to bed) I didn't look like a GODDESS yesterday but I was cleaning and H was gone. The kids didn't seem to mind.
I have been trying real hard to do my hair everyday and put on makeup. I am not comfortable in a lot of glamour makeup but am using basic eye shadow, blush, mascara and even lip gloss <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
I think the best part is my attitude. I am a GODDESS! I told my H that. He liked it. He wants me to feel good about myself. Oh, today I even started to exercise again! My big fat belly is really starting to pizz me off! So off with it! And firm legs and buns. Oh yeah, thats what I want.
So, Stormy33, what are you doing to GODDESS up today?
Oh, and R-I-M, you are not DQ'd for wearing sweats! I wore mine too! (Don't tell Believer!) It's gonna take a little work for me to get rid of all of them! I did throw a pair away on Saturday. I had patched a big hole in the rear end and then they re-ripped all the way out again! Can you imagine that even then I didn't really want to throw them out? Maybe I can re-repair them was my stinking thinkin.
But MIIIIII MIIIIII (***insert best whiny voice I have here*** <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />)!! Sundays are my lounge and housework days. I DID go to the gym and sweated on that treadmill for 40 minutes... that counts as goddess-ifying, doesn't it?? And the I did housework and cooked for hubby and lounged. Yes, I wore them alllll day.... but, I didn't go anywhere all day either!
*Sigh*. So does this mean I also can't put on sweat pants when I get home from work (another one I'm guilty of...). I mean, I goddess up when I'm going out of the house... but when I'm in for the night-- or just doing housework all day-- aren't sweatpants OK then!? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />
RIM <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
Hmm... I need to invest in some GODDESS like pajamas then. I have more, um, skimpy ones, but I'd freeze wearing those around the house right now!! (I keep the thermostat a little low in the winter to save some $$ on gas bills)...
And all the rest of my pajamas are really not unlike my sweats... I actually own a pair of oversized Gumby pajama pants..... HAHA... I'm guessing those are NOT on the top 10 goddess wear list!
BUSTED!!!I'm with Mimi. I have oodles of pajamas, some matching, some just coordinating.
I think I have one pair of sweats, that are actually cute crop sweats, more like yoga pants. If it's RE-he-he-healy cold outside, I wear them to bed. otherwise, it's Pajamas, or a top and undies--cute ones.
Seriously, if I hear of you PATCHING UP a pair of Sweats again, I may have to reach thru the monitor and strangle you. Chuch em and get thee some PJ's, cute ones, even nice camasoles and undies.
What are you talking about? I don't know what pajamas would be better than sweats? I am thinking of the kind that button up the front (like a smock) with matching pants. Is that what you are talking about? I couldn't run around the house in my PJ's, cuz it is a silky nightgown thingie. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
Oh, and I promise not to patch sweatpants....that is really bad! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
Camis and undies are what I actually wear once I climb into bed (and around the house during the summer).... but its toooooo coooollldddd in my house to wear those around in the winter!! (come on, I live in the northeast!!-- its about 20 degrees here today! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />).
Plus, I am one of those people that is perpetually cold anyways. I keep my thermostat on 68, but I still end up wearing fuzzy socks, slippers, and sweats, AND laying under a blanket and sipping hot tea at night <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />! I think I am cold blooded.
I am all about the cute "underthings". I guess I just don't have cute "lounge wear". Some of my sweats actually still have paint stains on them from when I painted our downstairs wearing them...
I need cute winter-y lounge wear...
We need a goddess catalog! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
I'm not talking about "Little House on the Prairie" PJ's people. Think Victoria's Secret kinda PJ's, sorta clingy and very cute cotton jersey stuff. This is perfectly good for daytime lounging. When you wanna spice things up in the boudoire, just be sure to have the matching apparel BENEATH the PJ's...
Oh my gosh, I need GODDESS POWER right now. I am shaking.
I had to call a lady about a coat. Her husband died in an avalance (with 2 others) a week ago saturday. Well, he was our cabinet guy (and a friend)and he was here installing a countertop right before Christmas. He left his coat here and didn't come back. I saw him 2 weeks ago and told him it was here and he was glad because he couldn't remember where he left it. He said he would pick it up when he was out this way. 5 days later he died. Now, I just called and left a message at his house for his wife telling her I have the coat and would like to get it to her. I am shaking. I was so scared I would have one of those "I wish I could erase this message and start over" moments that I wrote down what to say before I called.
Ugh. I knew I would have to do this. I waited until after all the funerals (3 in a very small town) and don't want to wait very long and forget about it or avoid it. Oh this feels so awful. (I don't know her..only met her once maybe)
I need the power! I still need to talk to her when she calls back.
hmmmm....putting Victoria's Secret on my shopping list for the weekend...I don't wear jammies to bed, I wear WS tshirts...but that isn;t so pretty either....
See how much I learn here, you guys are covering my ENTIRE wardrobe...lol
Today for some reason, I am soooo tired. I have not slept well these past 2 nights. I keep having dreams about WS & OW. Today I am treating myself to a nap for as long as I want. And for some strange reason, my feet are always cold. I have to turn on the heat blanket.
Just in case you hadn't thought of this, don't wash the coat. I had a similar situation occur. Keep the coat as-is with her husband's smell still on it. She will appreciate that very much.
I think you handled it well by writing down what to say.
That is so tragic. Makes me want to hug my WS. Free
Thanks Free2, I'm glad you mentioned that. I had thought about washing it a few days ago but didn't for the exact reason you stated.
I remember when H and I separated, I remember smelling his clothes when I put them in the washer. It was wierd because I had never noticed his "smell" before and probably don't now, but then in my loneliness, I could get a whiff of his scent. It was a comforting smell. And mine was just a separation, not a death. Ugh. He was only 51. (The other 2 that died were 55 and 42).
Maybe that is what has me so nervous about meeting her and giving her the coat. I don't want to cause painful stuff for her and I don't want to "intrude" if it causes her a hard moment.
You are going to be great, no worries. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Maybe she will open up to you...who knows why the coat was left there. God's handiwork! I suppose HE thought you were up to the task, as I know you will be, too. Sometimes talking to strangers is so much easier...as I have found in these threads.
I know what you mean, there were still some of my WH's clothes here and at first it was hard to smell his scent, it made me YEARN for him and wish he was holding me tight. But now all his $hit that remains is in the garage. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> Did I say that?!
Gosh, don't you lose weight walking? Seems like mom and I have walked a couple hundred miles in the last 5 days, and I got on the scale today and am the same weight. On top of that, I've been eating salads, no junk food, no sugar, no wine.
Hi goddesses! You all inspire me even though I just lurk here!
I found some pretty & warm goddess loungewear at softsurroundings dot com-- the outlet. Washable velvet cami & pants. Don't know if they still have them, but that is one of my favorite sources. I only allow myself the outlet/sale stuff, however.
Ladies the velour pants are awesome! Kind of like the yoga pants mentioned earlier, which I love too. Velour "hugs" you in all the right places <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> are so soft on the outside (also bonus points in case you rub against your WH) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> and they are comfy and moveable (is that a word?) like sweats.
I don't get that the PJ's are better than the sweats??
I couldn't run around in any of the previously discussed PJ's around here! I have boys at home and people coming to the door. What do you do then?
Am I missing something here? I'm not trying to keep the sweats so much as I don't understand the PJ"s. What time of day are you running around in these PJ's? Afternoon, late evening? Help me out here.
I don't want to OFFEND any of you lovely ladies...
How this all got started with me..was my recognition that I had lost MYSELF..I had become a MOMMY..and had stopped working on MYSELF..my SENSE of STYLE..my FEMININITY...
I HAD LET MYSELF GO....
And I PERSONALLY HATE MEMORIES OF THAT HAPPENING TO ME....
So I wore my share of SWEAT SUITS and UNATTRACTIVE, UNFEMININE, NONSEXUAL ATTIRE...
What was I thinking?
It's lots more FUN and EGO-BOOSTING..FOR ME.. to wear OUTFITS and to dress up..even around the house...
Sometimes I wear sweats to clean in but rarely. I really don't like the sweats much except when I am done for the day and want to get into something comfortable. This would probably be when I am getting ready to fix dinner, when I am just wanting to slow down and relax. However, it has to be presentable to others as we have a business that revolves around our house and office which is next door so it needs to be look decent. And I thought decent (new-ish) sweats were presentable <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> until I became a GODDESS. Now, I don't know what to do instead!
When I am cleaning I have regular clothes that I wear, just not the newer ones. And sometimes I wear (Mimi plug your ears) a SWEATSHIRT <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
But ya know what. I am even getting to not like them either. And that was before I became a GODDESS! I am tending to wear the 3/4 sleeve during the winter. Just the right weight to work in or sit around in. And no pesty long sleeves to push up when I do the dishes.
I have a ways to go. My problem is my gut. I want to wear baggy stuff to hide it.
I'll throw in my two cents on comfy clothes here.. lately I have been really loving SKIRTS!!
Especially in the summer, but even in the winter with leggings underneath. I always feel comfortable in them, and have a better time finding ones that fit well (I'm tall so pants always seem too short, or awkward at my post-baby pudge/waist). They're easy to find, and sometimes I sew really simple ones for just a few dollars apiece out of a yard or yard and a half of fabric. I don't even put a zipper in them, I can ?luckily? slip them over my head! (perhaps the only advantage of post-nursing shrinking breast syndrome!)
Sweats are bulky and usually come in the color gray. yuk!
Velour is soft and sexy and hugs you tight! What is not to love about that?! Especially black...I feel like a sex kitten when I wear them. LOL!
This thread is so fun.
The PJ's thing - VS has some cute ones with diff prints - hearts, stripes, animal prints. Also the GAP online. You can shop in your pj's! I have even worn them sometimes to the grocery store...multifunctional.
Believer, I'm making my healthy snack of choice tonight with the *cinnamon*. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
I like the skirt idea, which reminds me. This summer I bought 3 sun dresses that are long and form fitting. They look so nice and are comfy and I thought I could wear them after a long day...but then I don't like the way my big fat belly looks so I don't wear them.
I STARTED EXERCISING THE BIG FAT BELLY TODAY! I want it gone. More incentive (the sun dresses) to try to tone down this mid-section!
Ahhh, I always know where to come when I need some cheering up...lol..
Mimi is quite right....I would say that I am/was where she was...let myself go...
and I hated it as well, but in my stupidity I thought there was nothing I could do to change it.....WRONG WRONG WRONG..
For me, out of all the things my WS complained about and this being one of his top 3 EN's, this has been the easiest to change. And do you know what I learned??? I am a beautiful, vibrant, worthy woman....heck, I think I am getting more out of this than HE is...lol. My self-esteem has boosted tremendously because of this, and I don't have to tell any BS that that is much needed during this time.
So all in all, the sweats are gone...no more nada....If anything for me, when I see them they represent what I used to be, and I don't want to go there again.
Now, GODDESS Mimi what do YOU where for PJ's if hubby doesn't like the VS stuff????
I LOOOOOVVVVEEEE this thread!! Thank you so much for starting this....it's been a hoot! Room for one more?
Before DDay for me, I stopped taking the time to take care of myself. No makeup for years, wore whatever I can put on...dressing up was a pair of black slipon shoes...with everything!
Since then I got a new hair cut, started wearing makeup again (ever tried the brand RED DOOR?--amazing foundation!!), lost 40lbs--got into a size 16 (I know still large but I was at a 24), shaving all the time (my WH asked why, I said cuz I LIKE how I FEEL), also for the softest skin ever...try Oil of Olay in shower lotion.
Not fully GODDESS mode but I getting there one lipstick at a time!!
Here's toast to all the amazing, beautiful, and strong goddess! Bottoms up! Tami
I'm good today. I surrendered me, my H and my need to control to G-d this afternoon, about 7 hours ago, but whose counting. And not only am I doing ok, but I was laughing earlier tonight and ready for bed.
I think the SWEATS must go, but the rest is really up to your own taste, as well as your H's (if he's come to his senses and returned home).
I like camisole type nighties for bedtime. YOu can purchase a robe, something nice, to go over top while the kiddies are awake. For cleaning, hmmmm, I usually wear jeans, I suppose, and clean myself not long after finishing. If I'm LOUNGING, I will wear the VS matching PJ's or something similar, during the day, when DS is up and active, but once I shower, it's regular clothing. I'm looking into more skirts for the warm months.
I was lucky, up until my now mid thirties, in that my skin was really lovely, so I didn't HAVE to wear makeup, but I usually wore bronzer for my cheeks and forehead, to give me that kiss of sunshine look.
I still have nice skin, but I have some uneveness, no dark circles. I wear foundation to smooth that out, and my makeup routine is only 5 minutes.
Ditched the sweats and went to Eddie Bauer for something to wear around the house. Got some great pima cotton turtlenecks and a cool down vest to wear with jeans. I keep my place cool to save on the heating bills. This weekend was single digits, so the down vest came in handy.
Now I'm on the next step of being a Goddess in the kitchen. I bought an AeroGrow on Saturday evening. What a clever little invention it is. I hooked it up and presto! I have little sprouts this morning. My first kit is gourmet herbs, and I have little sprouts of purple basil and thyme peeking through. I'm currently in the market for some new and wonderful gourmet recipes, so if anyone out there has a good Goddess recipe or two where I can use my new gourmet herbs, I would appreciate it. I have basil, thyme, chives, dill, mint, and parsley.
Have a great day Goddesses, and do get some of the mineral makeup. Your skin will look airbrushed - just like the models on the cover of Vogue.
So Goddesses....Look your best, dress to kill, eat a healthy diet, and (oh, I even hate the word)...Exercise! (my next big step).
Way 2 go Chai....I'll pull out my "secret" cookbook and see what other recipes I have so you can use your new herbs..
I am not having a very GODDESS morning. I called into work. I only got about 2 1/2 hours of beauty sleep last night. WS ticked me off bad and of course I had a hard time letting it go. So, now I will use the day to get myself into my "GODDESS" mode and get some things done. I'll will enjoy the peace and quiet since the kiddies are off to school. I would do my morning check list, but considering I just got out of bed and haven't even changed, it would be pointless (Hey at least I am not in sweatpants...I am in lounge pants and t-shirt I slept in...).
Just wanted to pop in and wish everyone a great "GODDESS" day.
Like my V-ball coach used to say, "Shake it OFF!!!" not2fun. Or you could go the old Rodgers and Hammerstein route and just "Wash that man right outta your hair". Either way, sounds like you are still on track for the day, just slow outta the gate.
For the first time in two weeks, I got up and showered IMMEDIATELY. I did my hair up nice and dabbed on my makeup.
Ok, I will add another *favorite* here to the list, since so many are mentioning exercise.. I am NO exercise guru, and was really needing to add in some kind of routine and was not having any luck or results with the home videos I tried. I joined a gym, and yet still wasn't exactly sure what I was doing. We finally shelled out the money for 3 sessions with a trainer - which was around $100 I think. For me, it was one of the best $100 I've EVER spent. This was around five years ago, and I still use the rotating routine (3 different sets, each 1x a week). I still use the different tips she gave me, that I think really made a difference. It was well worth the money (for me, but like I said - I was starting from ground zero).
I also read a book that helped me (I can't remember the name now), but it was really just basics about tracking calories and such, which also really helped me. (I found out I was *drinking* about half my calorie alottment each day! I had a soda addiction, I think!) Those things combined, and being regular to do about 1 hour 3x/week at the gym, helped me lose about 2lb a week until I had lost about 50lbs! It has also helped me to get back to about my weight goal after having two more babies. This was huge for me, because being overweight really runs in my family, and I had just kind of felt destined for the same thing.
Lastly, I still have problems with my post-baby stomach, but a trainer-friend told me that if you are working on your abs that is really something you have to do almost every day (not just once a week like the other muscle groups I do). Doing my ab-exercises more often has definitely made more of a difference for me, though have a ways to go.
Just hoping some of this might be helpful to others!! :-)
Bicycle maneuver. To do this exercise, you lie flat on the floor with your lower back pressed to the ground. Put your hands beside your head. Bring your knees up to about a 45-degree angle and slowly go through a bicycle pedal motion. Touch your left elbow to your right knee, then your right elbow to your left knee. Breathe evenly throughout the exercise.
You need to do this for 5 minutes every day, not skipping any days.
Today I am not so GODDESS looking...but I still feel like one!
It is 25 degrees BELOW ZERO and I'm wearing my sweat shirt! My hair looks good and so does my skin. I didn't put on the mascara and lip gloss...I'm gonna be drinking hot cider over at my office here in a few short minutes so the lip gloss will just disappear anyway. And, no one is home except my 20 year old son so it's o.k. (and he's going to the shop).
I did my exercises today. Phoenix, I have been doing stretches and abs/bun/legs every morning cuz it will take more than a few times a week to tone this mess up!
This info you posted helped me! I would like to learn more about calorie counting/fat counting. I have always been thin and the last few years I am getting that middle aged spread. I have never had to watch what I eat so now I don't know how to watch it! I just thought I would always be skinny! Ha. Now I look just like my mom!
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Nylons... I HATE them. Mine are ripping as we speak and as we move. BUT being the learning and changing GODDESS that I am, I have a second pair on hand for when they run past my dress. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Attitude.... I'm grateful for you all and I surrendered to G-d my will and my life. I truly am coming to walk in complete FAITH that G-d is preparing me for something wonderful. Why as smart as I am, would I FIGHT that.
Took a shower, got dressed, doing my hair & makeup. Going out today and getting some fresh air. Telling myself to have a good day because I need to. Hoping somebody calls me for a job interview. Trying so hard to be positive. Going to see therapy lady tonight.
So, I was this morning.... I put on a nice new sweater I just got this weekend, tight jeans and some nice (but functional, for the snow) boots. Put on my jewelry, did my make up and hair (I just got my hair cut this weekend so I'm getting used to styling it).
But, I woke up with a scratchy throat which has quickly turned into a full blown illness of some sort throughout the course of the day... now my head hurts, I'm achy all over, my face is all flushed (although it does make me look like I have a healthy glow about my skin, a nice blush... but it is just because I'm sure I have a fever...).
Not feeling so goddess-y. I may go home and throw on some.... *gasp, horror* SWEATPANTS and get to bed early.
There's nothing goddess-y about being sick...
H actually said that he'd stop and get me some soup on the way home and some cough medicine for tonight. He's being sweet <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Skins I truly am coming to walk in complete FAITH that G-d is preparing me for something wonderful. Why as smart as I am, would I FIGHT that. I LIKE THAT ATTITUDE!
SL sounds like recovery is getting better for you each day! Way to go gal!
RIM I hope you aren't coming down with anything bad. Glad your H is being sweet. Mine has been so sweet since Friday it's surprising to me. Hope they both keep it up! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Goddess routine is getting to be regular habit now! Thanks Mimi for this thread. It definately has helped re-focus my attention, and made me realize why should my H really give a hoot to take care of me if I'm not! Definately a duh moment turned bright! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Now question on the mineral makeup (I hope to make it to the city to try it out soon)...how does it do on a starting to wrinkle face? Most of the foundations I've tried make them more noticable a definate YUCK.
Now question on the mineral makeup (I hope to make it to the city to try it out soon)...how does it do on a starting to wrinkle face? Most of the foundations I've tried make them more noticable a definate YUCK.
Do you take care of your skin with skin care products? In my HUMBLE experience, I do make up for brides. How is the moisture in your skin and if it's dry, use something and that will help.
Skins I truly am coming to walk in complete FAITH that G-d is preparing me for something wonderful. Why as smart as I am, would I FIGHT that. I LIKE THAT ATTITUDE!
Hi all, MVG, I have heard the mineral makeup works wonders for the wrinkles! It doesn't accentuate them..I haven't tried it yet.. tap, tap, tap, waiting for my order!!
And what a dork-me-I ordered the wrong color mineral powder!! Oh well, we'll see if it works and if not I'll re-order the right one <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
I am still in a sweat shirt..a little while ago at probably the high of the day, our temperature was still below zero!! I hate it when it gets this cold! And it is clear as a bell outside so it will get really cold tonight too! I'm turning up the electric mattress pad!!
Oh, I got some bookwork done at my office so I feel pretty good and goddess-y about that!
Hope al is well in GODDESS LAND... .. Now here is a new question....How does a GODDESS take care of herself when she is sick? I threw away my favorite "sick" clothes (sweats...lol...we just can;t get away from those darn things) and honestly, I feel like PooP right now....
and what about the house and kiddies???
Are there any "magical" GODDESS steps to get a down GODDESS back up again??
Come on girls I know you'l have some GREAT advice for me to read tomorrow....cuz this GODDESS is going to bed....
Skins until this thread I was VERy bad about taking care of my skin on a daily basis. I only moisturized on occassion. As of now, I do a nightly cleaning and moisturizing routine and moisturize in morning also before makeup.
Thanks everyone I am going to give the mineral makeup a try.
N2F shhhhhhhhhhh don't tell Mimi but I have a secret pair of sweat pants just for that reason. Any PJ's?
Kids and house have to take care of each other while mommy Goddess is sick. Your oldest should be able to pitch in, if there is any fussing, can you lay on sofa overseeing major stuff but still resting? I hope you get over this soon.
I am up and planning a wonderful day. The temp is a balmyminus 23 degrees outside so I guess I'll stay inside today! I will do my dishes and vacuum and then go work on tax stuff.
Not2fun, I'm sorry you are sick! I hope you got a good nights sleep and feel better this morning! You better just stay in your PJ's today since you don't have sweats. Take good care of yourself-drink lots of fluids and make yourself some soup when you feel like eating again. And have the kids help with the house. You can just sit/lay on the couch and direct them. It may make them fell quite useful/helpful to help their sick momma!
I'm currently swinging to the Beatles "Birthday" song in my jammies, sipping my tea and thinking happy thoughts about my mom, whom I miss tremendously on my day.
Yes, I'd like to know what a goddess does to take care of herself when she's sick too!!
I woke up this morning feeling like MAJOR poop. Hubby brought me home some chicken noodle soup last night, so that was nice. I slept in a little this morning, got to work about an hour and a half later than normal. I would have not come in at all, but I have a lot of stuff that I HAD to get done today (plus I teach classes at a University, and they don't take kindly to you taking "class days" off unless you are dead....).
So, yeah, I took care of my skin this morning (moisterize and then a little bit of the mineral make up... no eye make up or lipstick... just didn't have the energy...).... threw on a older pair of jeans a sweater (about the "least dressed up" I can get away with being on a teaching day). No jewelry. And I also pulled my hair up in a clip wet. SOOOOO not a goddess today...
What sucks the most... I have a night class that I take for my degree that I'm working on.... that is Wednesday nights. Oi. I don't know if I'm going to make it through this one.... I feel like such crap....
Oh--- in terms of the mineral make up... I bought two different kinds. I bought the kind that "matches' my skin tone... then I bought this kind that is supposed to "brighten" your face too. It is like a mixed powder... it has pinks and browns and flesh tones, and even a little white sparkly powder in it. It really brightens up my skin... since I tend to look washed out during the winter.
I'm kinda upset that I am going to miss going to the gym tonight because I'm sick. I have been consistently going 4 days a week since January 1st-- and I've already lost 5 lbs! I only have about 10 more to go to my goal weight. Usually I go on Wednesdays after class, but there's no way I'm going to be able to go today.
Have a great goddess day!!! And Not2fun... we can be sick and miserable together! (although I still had to drag my butt to work... ugh...)
Goddesses take time off to recover from illness, ladies. Caring for yourself is one of the best things you can do. If that means that things get put on hold, or things fall behind a bit, then so be it. NOTHING is more important than your health and wellbeing.
I hope this year is the year of YOU..and as I heard on "Housewives of Orange County" last night...I don't worry about being 1 year older, because if I'm not 1 year older than I'm dead....bahhhwwahahah that line just cracked me up...
Have a great day and make sure it is all about YOU..because you my friend deserve it...
Regret and Not2 - Take good care of yourselves. I don't know if you have a cold or what, but there are over the counter things you can take to prevent a cold. Have to take it on the first day you feel sick though. One is Cold-Eze and the other is ColdMD. They REALLY WORK.
Best thing for being sick is rest, sleep and lots of fluids.
Happy Birthday, SL! Hope it is a good one.
My mom is going back to Seattle today. Sure going to miss her. Still can't believe I haven't lost even a pound after all of that exercise. Some days we walked almost 6 hours a day. And I ate healthy food too.
Well, thank you very much, not2fun...now get some relaxation in when you can, lady.
I am always grateful for my birthday. I don't think of it as a day when others are SUPPOSED to lavish me with attention and gifts (that's a PERK), but I see it as a day to celebrate my life so far, and to come. Counting my blessings, and I do have many.
It's easy to focus on the negative, and takes away from the good that exists in daily life, so I strive to maintain some semblance of positivity, to combat the tough times, including illness.
I have one for the illen ladies; watching something that makes you laugh or smile. Romantic comedy, slapstick, anything that gets you to smile. Helps to boost that immunity.
Have I ever mentioned how much I love this thread and how much it means to me???? Really I do. It is probably the most important thread to me on here, even more than my own. Probably because this thread isn't so focused on all of our M and WS problems. Or it could be that I have had so much trouble in the past with PA and taking care of myself that this thread gives me great tips, ideas and general self-esteem booster. You all are the best....
I think my illness has gone to my brain...getting a little sentimental this morning...oh well, at least the tears are helping to unclogg my nose for a little while.
MVG---throw away that pair of sweats....if I can do it, you can do it....or at least hide them well from sweat-policeman mimi....lol
thanks everyone for the well wishes on my recovery. I am going to the DR. later today. I figure that I have a sinus infection bad and need some antibiotics.
Today I am going to take it easy. I only drink water anyways (hate soda...always have) but I did go and buy some 7up to help clear the sinuses. I have some shows recorded that I am going to catch up on and I did scrub my bathroom this morning so it will be nice and clean if it needs to be used. So today for me is "GODDESS RECOPERATION DAY"...LOL
Wish I could SL!!! I can't cancel classes (that I teach) because I have a cold though.... My department would kill me. And you really can't get a "substitute" teacher at the college level... I could see if I could get out of my night class tonight... but truthfully I'd rather just "tough it out" rather than have to make up a week's worth of work. They don't send home those neat little "what you missed" packets in grad school like they did in elementary school! (I'd love that!). Plus, I don't really know anyone in my class that well, so I'm not sure who I'd ask for notes, etc-- or if I trust someone else's notes...
Anyways, so I'm kinda stuck "sucking it up". About the only days I could take off if I got sick are Mondays and Fridays. The rest of the days I have to be about dead before I could take them off.
Oh well, I'm sort of vegetating at my desk anyways, in a cloud of cold medicine. I haven't done an ounce of work YET. Haha. That's what they get if they expect me to come in sick!
Well, regret, do whatever you can to care for yourself.
I read an article lately that bolsters my theory on going to work sick. It is counterproductive, and could cause more problems, for example, spreading illness to other employees, reducing productivity further, and making the BOSS look bad to the other employees, because they feel like he is a slave driver for not being more lenient in the illness department. Resentment can build under these circumstances, reducing productivity.
My boss USED to get angry when people were out sick (we are a small business), until I started taking time off, and then having LOOOONG conversations (more like debates/arguments) about coming in sick. I had sick leave, and intended to use it for that purpose. HE felt that one should nearly be on their death bed before taking time off. It really wasn't until HE got pneumonia that he began to understand how difficult it could be to WORK under those conditions. It took PNEUMONIA. Crazy!
Also, I was the first person in the company to take maternity leave, and expose the company to what it takes for a mommy to work full time while still giving quality care to their children. I refused to work when DS was ill, no way, no how, even if I had alternative care, I stayed home with him. HE was more important. The company is now much more supportive of family, even being a small company. I have now been there for 8.5 years, and am very happy with the job.
This turned into a long diatribe, but I wanted to point out that YOU MATTER, regret, regardless of what others think.
I understand about school. If I was sick in college, I just missed the class, and had to struggle to regain ground. I'm sure graduate school is even harder.
Make Up... I forgot it. Went to work too early - but planning to put some on. With my tan, I don't look as pale.
Hair... not a great day, need to still color hair and get cut now. Not sure what I can do with my hair.
Outfit.... Gorgeous and getting so many compliments. In fact a mom just said the transformation is amazing. I had a teacher write me a note that said - You are looking great.
We all are in this together, so my success is your success. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Not2fun shhhhhhhhh the sweat pants police will hear! H said I could keep them if I only wore them on really really bad days. They are hidden deep away not to see the light of day unless I'm really sick.
I hope you and Regret get over the nasties quick. Regret try some zicam that's suppose to help tremendously IF it's a cold. Can you get some nice warm tea to sip on that always makes me feel better and loosen any congestion. ((((sending healing thoughts to you 2)))
I hope everyone else is having a great Goddess day.
I'm cold. Freezing. I'm wearing sweatshirt. Old Navy pj pants & stripped chenille socks. But my hair & makeup are done. I still don't have a job & I'm watching movies. And I'm drinking water only. And I had a granola bar for breakfast. It's raining. I refuse to go outside. I could melt. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Well, here's a question for everyone. How do you get "the girls" to separate? I got a cute low cut top, and a lacy thing to layer under. But my girls look like they are smashed together, kind of like a butt crack. I want them to look voluptuous and APART. How is that done?
Go to Victoria's Secret and get one of those 100 ways bras. It heads them up and moves them out (remember Rawhide?), and the straps go any which way you can think of - around your back, your neck, your stomach, arms, head whatever. That's why they call it the 100 ways Bra. Wear it with low cut, not cut, backless, halter..you get my drift. It should make you look like a million bucks!
I just got back from taking her to the airport. It has been sunny and warm all week here, so Seattle will be a shock for her. We spent hours walking on the beach in shorts and shirtsleeves. Now it's back to reality.
I am wearing a sweat shirt today because it is still soooo cold! The sun is just going down and it is already 5 below zero! This morning was about 25 below. I think tommorow we should get some clouds in which will warm it up.
Believer, imagine my shock when you suggested planting spring flowers recently!! I don't think so. Not till May. (P.S. I was born and partly raised in San Diego).
I do live in the mountains and it is beautiful! This is the roughest part of the year. I will be very happy if it only get this cold. 40 below used to be the norm but now it doesn't get that cold all the time. I have seen it in the -50's too. YUK. If we get through the next month we are usually out of the real cold stuff. We are getting more snow this year and it is so beautiful (except the avalanches).
Awwww.....come on B...I am too sick for laughing....and mental visions....LMAO
Actually, I think the laughter helped...I can't help I don't have that problem....mine sag to my knees, are uneven, they look like the tribal women's in National Geographic and I'm only 34....Maybe I should get my some new ones...
I don't like to go outside when it is this cold. It makes your nose kinda freeze up!
I feel sorry for the critters.
My boys and I went for a snowmobile ride a couple weeks ago and it was about 20 above. It was so much fun! But criminy, the work involved getting enough clothes to keep warm! But is was worth it-we laughed and the snow was just beautiful. No tracks in it at all till we got there. Then it snowed again and the wind blew so it's all brand new again! (This is part of my new goddess attitude, which has been developing over the past couple years-I used to just whine and complain about it!)
So yes, some sweats are in order cuz they double as long johns to go under snow pants too! Oh, and fleece! So warm!
For all the goddesses working on getting their palaces in tip top shape -
One minute or less projects to help keep your cleaning and clutter under control:
Pets Feed the dog or cat Wash the animal dishes Clean the litter box Brush the dog or cat Pick up dog or cat hair
Kitchen Wipe off the cupboards Wash the kitchen table Wipe the refrigerator, stove or microwave Clean the sink and the faucet Clean the coffee pot Wipe the shelves on the inside of the refrigerator Sweep the floor Wipe the cupboard handles and knobs Clean the cobwebs in the corners
Living Room Dust the tables Clean the clutter Throw out the newspaper and old magazines Dust or clean the remote control for the tv Wipe and sanitize the telephone Wipe the dust off of picture frames Clean cobwebs in the corners Sweep the floor Water the plants Sprinkle baking soda on the carpet to absorb odors
Bedroom Throw the dirty clothes in the laundry Make the bed Wash the window Dust a dresser or nightstand Empty the trash can
Bathroom Wash the mirror Wipe the outside of the toilet and tank Wipe off the counter Dust the wall hangings Change the toilet paper roll or Kleenex box Rearrange a cabinet Put out fresh towels Sweep the floor Spray air freshener
Laundry Throw a load of clothes in the washer or dryer Wipe the laundry soap container Spray a stain or soak an article of clothing Clean the lint out of the dryer Wipe the outside of the washer and dryer Wipe the inside of the washer and dryer Clean the lint screen Wipe the laundry baskets
Miscellaneous Items Clean a light bulb of smoke and dirt Charge a cell phone-put in charger Organize your magazines Clean the TV screen Wipe the switch plates in the house Clean the doorknobs in the house Wash the mirrors Wipe dirt off of a lamp shade Polish the kitchen table Throw away the junk mail Sharpen pencils Straighten a coat closet Spray deodorizer in a room
Sweats are perfect for sleeping when it's cold and you feel lousy. Tonight it is supposed to get down around 20 degrees here. I didn't sleep at all last night. If I'm warm and comfy in my sweats, that beats being cold and grouchy. I would rather be warm, thank you.
BTW, it will be about 12 degrees here tomorrow night. (Let me add that the only male around my house is my 14yo son.) However, any man who doesn't want you to be comfortable is not seeing things clearly, imho.)
When I was little, I remember watching my Grandma roll hers up.
ROTFLMAO!
Ok after posting I realized that wasn't very Goddess like...I was only imagining ROTFLMAO, but I was glad I wasn't sipping a drink when I read that! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Much like a lot of the other women here... mine is prettying all up and walking with that extra strut in my stuff.... yanno?
Well not much makes me feel like a goddess anymore...it feels a little surreal to me now. I used to feel pretty darn hot when we went out on the town, now I feel like it doesn't really matter anymore...no matter how hot I am, or was he still stepped out on 'all that'. I guess I feel good about myself at the gym, when I'm working out. It feels good to be getting stronger.
Glad I could give you a chuckle. I was being very serious about that though. Hers were the worst I've ever seen - down almost to her belly button. Unfortunately, whenever I look in the mirror, I think of her because mine are on the way down! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Has anybody done a breast-lift? Does it work? Certain parts are aging faster than others if you know what I mean.
My GYN remarked how lovely my breasts were last year, even brought her nurse in to take a gander. It was hilarious. She asked me if I breast fed, and I told her I could only do it for about a month, but yes. Since then, they have migrated a bit south and lost some of their UMPH, but they're still nice ( I went from a B to a C cup post pregnancy and breat feeding).
At a certain point, though, it is inevitable, even if you work the pectoralis muscles, the tissues lose elasticity over time. I suppose I would consider a lift, but I don't know about enlarging them. If I were very small, I would probably consider an enlargment.
If anything, I may want the tummy tuck as I age. My mom always wanted one.
I agree wtih Chai-- those bras can be a little pricey, but worth it if they do their job. Oh--and get a "laundry bag" while you're at it... they are little zip mesh bags that you put your bras in before you wash them, so the washer doesn't eat them and they stay relatively "in form" and don't get stretched and bent and tangled wtih other clothes. Oh-- and hang it on a drying rack to dry... no dryer! This will increase the life of your bra!
I am still feeling like poop today. Not much better than yesterday. I actually came into work to teach this morning... and I'm not sure I taught any of my students ANYTHING other than to stay away from me right now because they don't want this disease. I coughed and hacked and sneezed my way through the lecture... and now I'm going home. I look so awful my boss TOLD me to go home. Ha!
So, I'm going home to make myself some tea (I love tea!), curl up on the couch with my dog (she's my furry baby... 80 lbs of furry love!), and watch some bad soap operas (or whatever happens to be stored in my TiVo).
And... mimi... I think I'm gonna put on some sweatpants. I haven't had time to get the sexy wear yet... and this disease is really kicking my butt right now!
OK-- gonna head home. I'll sign back on when I get there!
Well not much makes me feel like a goddess anymore...it feels a little surreal to me now. I used to feel pretty darn hot when we went out on the town, now I feel like it doesn't really matter anymore...no matter how hot I am, or was he still stepped out on 'all that'.
Being a true GODDESS doesn't depend on anyone but OURSELVES. Storm, I so understand your sadness and the Why Bother attitude - but you MATTER.. You matter to G-d, to your family and to US.
What is happening to us for whatever reason is a personal journey that if you seek G-d and allow the good of you inside to rise to the top, you will start to feel like a GODDESS in spite of yourself. It happened to me, and I am NOT LYING when I say I thought I was lower than low.
I could go into the gory details, but they don't matter. What matters, is what I THINK.
YOU ARE THE GREATEST MIRACLE IN THE WORLD. And SO AM I, and everyone ELSE ON HERE. We are G-ds blessings and he LOVES you for who you are.
What is ONE thing that puts just a sliver of a smile on your face and makes you feel good inside?
Ahhh!! Had to bump us up... we were almost falling off the first page, girls!
Well, I have been home since about noon. This virus is really a doozy! I haven't been this sick in about 2 years. I am hoping I feel better tomorrow. Tomorrow I am supposed to go to a happy hour for H's work with him after work... and of course I have to be all GODDESSED up! I bought a new sweater, I was going to wear for this, and do my hair and make up real nice... but I can't even think about that right now when I feel like my sinus are about the size of kansas...
H is being a little jerk-y today (see my thread...). Grrr... I am sick, and he has to try to bring me down MORE?? I don't have the energy to deal with this today...
How's it going out there in the rest of Goddess-land?? I have been lounging in sweatpants and not feeling SEXY for the past 2 days.... I need to beat this and get back to Goddessness!
RIM I hope you start feeling better. You sure it's just a bad cold and nothing worse? Do you have a steam vaporizer? I use that when very congested with a bit of vicks in it, sure helps to sleep.
Bad hair day here yesterday but the rest of me was Goddess like. I'm going shopping this weekend if all goes well to get some Goddessy apparel and some heals to wear with slacks. It's a much better look than the ugly slip ons or tennis shoes don't you think? I still trying to locate a BE place in town. I want to try it before I buy.
Hi Storm! Don't let what your H did or didn't do or notice effect YOUR GODDESSNESS! Being a Goddess is what SL said, it's what you think and feel! So go forth and look great for YOU.
I hope everyone has a great Friday and to those under the weather I hope you feel better soon.
I'm back on the Goddess train today!! I slept in a bit this morning and just emailed the boss to tell her I'll be a little late coming in today... I need to goddess up, because I haven't done it for the past 2 days! (well, I left that second part out... I didn't think she'd be so receptive to that...).
Anyways, I am feeling much better. Still congested, but I don't "feel" sick anymore... the freezing coldness and the aches are gone. As is my headache. Yay!
mvg-- I don't have steam vaporizer, but I should go get one of those. My mom used to put one in my room when I was little and sick to help me sleep. I hadn't thought of that... thanks! Oh... and what is BE?
My H was being a jerk yesterday, but I am still going to goddess up tonight. Yay! Being a goddess is FUN.
OK-- going to get in the shower and start the goddess process now. Just wanted to check in and tell everyone to have a GREAT GODDESS WEEKEND and that I'm alive and well (well-er, than I was before, I suppose...;)).
Okay, this is my first post to this thread, but I just HAD to post and tell you guys how many laughs I got over what I am referring to as "The Boobie Monologues"! hahahahahaa!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Those were hysterical, and I, like believer, also HATE what I call "butt cleavage"! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> Thanks ladies! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
My opinion on SWEATS...See now I don't think sweats are bad IF you feel "Goddessy" in them, and if your husband digs the athletic look...There are some GREAT ones at Victoria's Secret that ARE sexy, imo...The ones from the "Pink" line...The "hoodies" are form fitting-look great with a tank under them and the pants ride low so if your body type allows for that, then I say go for it!
Oh and here is a link to the store Kitson...It's in Los Angeles and has lots of fun, frivolous "Goddessy" type stuff-Candles, Room Sprays, Bubble Bath, Sunglasses and other unique, whimsical items...Enjoy! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I guess I'll chime in with a Goddess check in. I am dressed to go to my naughty dance class, in cute leggings, a velvet cami, and have a cute velvet top over the cami until I get to class (everyboddy "dresses" for this class and it is fun!) I have my makeup on and my hair is blown dry.
Anybody know if the mineral stuff is hypo-allergenic?
Bow-Chicka-Bow-Wow.....(the music plays as Chrysalis--or Misty, as we call her in 'class', wraps her leg around the poll, inverts herself and slides to the floor, landing in an arched position... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />)
I am a horrible dancer with no rhythm. My friends used to make fun of me in college when we went out dancing. Dancing makes me feel like a spaz, not like a goddess! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
Yes, pole dancing. In the dark. Today we were an odd assortment of 4 beautiful dancers, 3 middle aged ladies, and 2 really pregnant women. And we had a fabulous time! I have for the first time in my life learned it is OK to feel beautiful . <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
OK-- I'm checking out for the evening ladies. Going home to fancy up the makeup, put on a sexy outfit, and go out on the town with the H. We are going to dinner and a comedy club.
Today I got all dressed up & went to Hollywood & ordered new headshots. And I got checked out by 2 guys at the photo place. I got the "up & down" look and it made me feel good.
I have to get off my sick bed and take a shower so I can go get more drugs.....Maybe I won't die after all. Last night/this morning, that sounded like a good option.
Just checkin' in. I've been a busy killer B, but sure has kept my mind off WH. I am really starting to have FUN again and this thread is one of the fun things I look forward to each day. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Now in terms of a goddess update--as I was telling Queenie last night, tomorrow is a FULL ON GODDESS DAY. Have yoga in the morning, then I'm getting my hair cut, then I'm getting manicure. And to cap off the night, I'm renting a French movie (La Vie en Rose--anyone seen it?). I think it's clean but you never know about those frenchies!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />
I think I'm supposed to squeeze some homework in there too, but to quote my one of my favorite Goddesses -- Scarlett O'Hara -- I won't think about that now, I'll think about that tomorrow. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
And no sweats either--or at least not after I've taken my doggies out for their morning walk. It'll be in the 20s tomorrow morning. Sorry Mimi...
Ok, I've always wanted to pole dance... even bought a dvd this summer and was looking at getting a removable pool for home. Not to be trashy, just to... oh I don't know, I just think it would be cool. WH at one point said something about what if your kids knew?
I went to work today and attended the production meeting with my reading glasses, and my hair in a knot, and a black top buttoned all the way up.
Then after work, we had a going away party at the O club, where I put on my F-me pumps, unbuttoned the blouse all the way down, and let my hair down. I was quite demure as the guys were asking me to play pool. What they didn't know is that I grew up with a pool table. So I broke and ran 5 balls in a row. It was quite satisfying. Their eyes were popping out.
I left early because I don't drink and drive. But it was a very goddess-like hour and a half.
You guys are great. A true inspiration. I needed an attitude fix. I am somewhere between Plan A and Plam B. I think it's called plan 'I don't know anymore'.
I think I need a makeover?!? From head to toe.
I am going to start with my weight. My metabolism needs a boost I think. I started putting on weight because of those pesky AD's. I got a meal plan from a nutritionist and have come off the AD's since my IC doesn't think I need them anymore. I start turning on the meal plan over the weekend. I am not used to eating 6 meals a day!
I've been thinking of a new hair color. I have been waiting to get my hair done because I've been gorwing out layers from a hair cut that wasn't so good for me. Remember Rease Witherspoon in Just Like Heaven, yeah that's the haircut I had. It didn't quite work, and they actually have to shred your hair out to get that effect.... Never again. Ouch.
I'm thinking of going long layers and going from a chestnut brown to red! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
My Goddess report: Hubby loved the shoes. LOVED them. Helped me find two great sweaters to match them.
Had so much SF at first I got sore and begged a day off LOL. Our last night together, I introduced a new position and ****** YEAH, it was FUN. Think I gave him a shock. Also introduced...ummm....toys, which was extremely fun. He got a real kick out of that.
He liked the blonde color he had requested I try, but agreed that if I was happier with my smoking hot red hair, that I should go back to it. So I will, after the 1st. I'll make sure to keep it up when I see him again in Nebraska for our adult vacation/reunion.
Up til the last half hour, the visit was divine. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Sounds like you took full advantage of your GODDESS-ness and left hubby with some pretty good memories! I guess that explains why you haven't been posting here! Just a little busy!
I got all dolled up yesterday in a new sweater, thin with a v-neck, makeup, hair and all. Son (18 yo) said I looked good, then when I bought new lip gloss, super shiny, he said I looked sexy! I told him about the mineral foundation and that it should be coming and it would make my face look flawless. He said, "I will have to fight of all the men because they will want to marry you".
Then we went to a presentation of the new elementary school, which my son, as a high school student, was invited to help design. It was awesome! The superintendent introduced everyone but when he got to my son, he asked him to stand, and said, "this guy's a genius"! Then the principal hollered, "and he was educated at (our town name) elementary!." I don't think I could have smiled any bigger or been any prouder! We mingled with the architects who were so impressed with him and further burst my buttons. Ahhhhh. The kid has an awesome future.
And now I have all my new skin care products to play with today and my new lip gloss, and another new low cut long sleeve t-shirt to wear.
Hmmmm, where is H when ya need him?.....Oh, working through his days off again, out of town no less, so we can pay off some debt! Oh well, I'll just practice up for when he comes home!
I haven't posted here in a couple of days because I wasn't feeling too GODDESSY with being sick. I now know that was a mistake and will NEVER happen again. This is my favorite thread and it always "picks" me up. I was doing way TOO much stinkin thinkin while I was sick. I should have come here.
Today I will be working on the basement some more and cleaning off my desk and doing some filing. Then I will head off to the mall for a pedi. I got my hair cut and highlighted yesterday, so I am keeping myself in tip-top GODDESS shape (seriously, b4 all of this I would go 6-9 months between hair cut and coloring...this time it was about 2 months..).
Check list for the day....
breakfast...check
jeans....check
cute t-shirt..check
hair...check, it is in a pony, but it is so full of bounce today it's really cute
make-up.....no, am going to do that when I get off here...
and unfortunately I do have a sweatshirt on, but it is cold here. I promise not to leave the house in it though....
When ordering the BE mineral make-up online how do you make sure you get a color that either doesn't make you look like you put on the fake tan stuff, or make you look like a sick pale ghost?
I don't know SS. I ordered mine online (Mary Kay) and got the wrong color (somehow I had changed my mind about the color but forgot to change it in the computer before I pushed send). Now I have the too-dark color but I don't know which one to order since the color on the computer doesn't look like the one i have. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
Can you order the BE sample set? My daughter works at a spa that sells BE and she said there is a sample/starter set with a few different colors and brushes for about $60 I think.
If you can get to a Sephora, they will test you. I'm glad that I did because the starter kits come with two colors and one has a yellow undertone which made me look pukey (sorry but it is the word that came to mind when I looked in the mirror - yuk). I had to use the other one with more of a pink undertone.
Well, unfortunately the closest Sephora is....I'm looking, I know it isn't in our state... Salem, NH Total Est. Time: 2 hours, 25 minutes
or Burlington, MA Total Est. Time: 2 hours, 43 minutes
and I have no reason to go that far, specially for make-up that I might not like wearing. I'd love to have them put it on me and I'd see if it looked ok and how it felt, but I'm not up to driving that far away ;-) darn it!!
I did the domestic goddess thing today. My sons and friends are going to the desert 4 wheeling, and I made all their food. Made potato salad, burritos, carne asada, salsa, barbecued chicken, and sent fruit and chips and home made cookies.
Whew! Also started cleaning out my kitchen cupboards and drawers. So far I have about 200 Tupperware lids, and no containers. What a disaster area!
Are we all Sexied up for the evening???? I am not looking sexy, but I look nice for my "hot" date with my dad watching movies....lol. Anyway, worked on the basement some, did laundry, and then treated myself to a pedi....ya for me...
Anyway, have a great evening in full GODDESS mode. And for those that will be spending their evening on the boards....uhhh lets try to keep the messages not so x-rated.....LMAO....(pole dancing, F-me shoes, and talk of our tata's...ladies really....I'm SHOCKED)....J/K of course, just try not to talk like that until after 11pm........hahahahhaaaa or at least until I get back...
LOl on the Tupperware. One of WH's friends who helped us move into the house that we just sold, told me that I had one of the finest collection of Tupperware lids that he'd ever seen.
See, you are a great mom too! How sweet of you to make all of that food for them.
N2F - I'll be around all evening and I'll keep an eye on these Goddesses to keep things from getting too raunchy.
Oh, yeah, ChaiLover, my sons are my life. And my guy is STILL gone in Washington DC on a temporary job. He was supposed to be back 2 weeks ago, but it was extended.
So I'm doing the whole domestic thing. I am tossing all the lids, and kitchen junk into trash bags and sorting through. Then I'm donating duplicates, and trying to find things that go together. But it is getting obvious that most of the the containers disappeared. And the couple that I found don't have lids that fit.
I bought those containers and lids that are on a carousel type holder, and use those now. It only cost $7.99, and everything is always together. What a find!
B, Where did you find the carousel and lid holder? That sounds like something that I need. When I moved into the condo, I pitched most of my Tupperware for the same reason - if there was a lid, there was no bowl, and if there was a bowl, there was no lid. Yikes! Drove me crazy, so it all went into the trash. Most of it was my Mom's that was collected over 50 years anyway. Most were stained and had permanent marks from the microwave, dishwasher, dogs, whatever.
Bummer on the trip to DC. Why don't you join him? Do not let him travel alone. Look what happened to me. I ended up a BS that way.....
Good morning Goddesses! I hope all will have a great day!
SS I've been wondering the same thing. A bit afraid to order without knowing what the heck I'm doing. However QVC does care the BE line and you should be able to do returns to them.
Someone asked about hypo-allergenic...the BE line is suppose to be less allergenic as they don't add the fillers and stuff that regular makeup has.
For what it's worth, I got some Oil of Olay night cream, that stuff feels soooooooooo nice on your skin. It's a purpleish color and very creamy. Also am trying their bath lotion, ribbons of something, purple container. If you like body butter, this stuff is fabulous! You get out of the shower so soft and smooth.
P.S. Checkout clinique online, they are offering free trial sizes of Clinique Happy fragrance.
Wish me luck, goddesses. I have to go to Tijuana today. My ladies church group has a program to get young girls off the street and away from prostitution. We go twice a month to work at an activity center there and on the streets.
It's pouring down rain, and we are expecting a bigger storm this afternoon. I DON'T want to go.
But I will be a good goddess and meet this obligation.
I think it is wonderful what you are doing. And I've always been a believer (ha get it....) that even if your heart is not in it, God will honor good actions. Be careful and have fun...
"GODDESS IN TRAINING" not2fun
Ps.....yeah you should leave your "shoes" at home......still LMAO at that one...
Hey Goddess!! Just wanted to check in and let you know I got some of the "real deal" mineral make up yesterday!! (the BE stuff). They carry it at Ulta-- and the lady there helped me figure otu what kit I needed and tested my skin tone (so if you have Ulta near you, you can try there!). I got the "starter kit". It was $60, which is sorta expensive, but it comes with 2 powders, the tanning stuff, the finishing powder, and some pink stuff?? Oh, and 3 brushes. I haven't watched the "training" DVD it comes with yet, so I'm not sure what to do with all this stuff!!
I got some new colors of nail polish yesterday too, to go with my new finger nails. I've let them grow recently, and they look very nice!
That's what I'm getting this payday - the starter kit. I'm light to fairly light. The lady at Sephora tried it on me and gave me the lesson, but I've already forgotten how to do it. Guess I'll have to get a refresher when I go in to buy it.
Went to the mall today for a little shopping, but really didn't buy anything. 4 days before payday, and I've cut it close this month due to all of the new stuff I was buying for the condo. Had to slow it down a bit.
Anyway, had all of my Goddess gear on today so count me in.
Believer, hope your trip to TJ went well. It's a little depressing down there. I hate it when all of the little kids are begging on the street. Parts of it are so dirty too. I hope that you were able to do some good things there.
I just got back and got soaked. Strangely it was sunny and warm until we got in line to get back across the border. Then it absolutely poured - the kind of rain that even with an umbrella, you are drenched in 10 seconds.
One of today's activities was letting the girls shower and doing their hair. We had a bunch of hair ties, barrettes and ribbons, and they just loved it.
We also had lunch, played games and had Bible study. It was really nice.
Tijuana is very sad. The average daily pay there for men is about $8.00 a day. The nightclub dancing girls can earn up to $1,000. a day, so it is very tempting for them.
The place is an outreach center for those girls working against their wills, and to give the younger ones hope for a better life.
I got home not looking very goddess-like - soaked to the bone, straggly hair, like a drowned rat.
Well, GODDESSES, we almost fell off the first page!
So, I will give my not-so-GODDESS update.
I was all dolled up to go to town this morning and then just let my son drive to school instead. I changed into my not so goddess clothes (but not sweats!) and headed to my office to work on anything tax related.
My eyes are so tired cuz I had the worse night sleep in years last night. I guess it was from drinking a Rockstar Juiced at 4 p.m. I just couldn't get to sleep!! I saw 3 am on the clock and almost 4, then got up at 6. I'm a little blurry eyed.
And it is snowing and blowing so hard!! For awhile it was blowing so hard I couldn't see my house which is about 50 feet away. And my path is blown shut so I will have to trudge through butt-deep snow to get home for lunch, and then I won't want to come back!
How's that for a whiney update? The snow is actually quite beautiful, but I know I won't want to come back if I have to bust through a wind-drifted path all over again.
Maybe now is the time to drink the other Rockstar!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> That would surely screw up my nap!
Hey Chai-- the starter kit (I got the light/fairly light one too) comes with a training DVD. The training DVD is actually very helpful. It shows you exactly what to do! Make sure you watch before you try it. You actually need a surprisingly little amount of product to get a good, flawless coverage. They show you how much, and how to get it on the brushes correctly so that you don't apply it all clumpy. Its pretty idiot proof (because I'm a pretty big idiot when it comes to things like that, and I could handle it!).
Eh, believer, you may not LOOK like a goddess, but what you just did in Tijuana is a very godessy thing to do. Helping others always gives you that certain glow about you that is irresistible... whether you "look" it or not at the time. You are just goddessing up your spirit!! Hey, we gotta be goddesses on the INSIDE and OUT! Kudos to you <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Trudging through the butt deep snow is not very goddess-like.
I suggest you come visit me IMMEDIATELY in Southern California. It's been raining, but usually only lasts a day or two. Mostly it is sunny and warm, even in January.
oooooh! I'm on the SoCal trip!! Where I'm at it is "warm" today... and by "warm"... I mean it is about 35 degrees outside with about an inch of snow on the ground. By the end of the week it is supposed to be in the 20's again.
So, warm and sunny sounds good! I'll be knocking on your door!!
Well I was right. The snow was clear up to my butt. And now the path is covered up again. My boot came off when I was trying to get home so it was filled with snow...I don't want to go back out there. At least it's not 25 below anymore!! I'd rather have the snow than the frigid cold.
B, I think we shall get a group together to come see you. Can we stay till it warms up at home? For me, the snow starts to go away sometime in April.
Oh, and I didn't feel or look like a goddess trying to get through all that snow! My hair was flying around and my boot got stuck without me...dreadful.
Sing with me... California here I come, right back where I started from.....(can't remember the rest) I grew up in La Mesa...been awhile.
I went to work today and attended the production meeting with my reading glasses, and my hair in a knot, and a black top buttoned all the way up.
Then after work, we had a going away party at the O club, where I put on my F-me pumps, unbuttoned the blouse all the way down, and let my hair down. I was quite demure as the guys were asking me to play pool. What they didn't know is that I grew up with a pool table. So I broke and ran 5 balls in a row. It was quite satisfying. Their eyes were popping out.
Hey RIM, question for you on the BE starter kit...does it REALLY hide flaws?-if you have any to hide that is. I found an Ulta store in city and hoping to make the trip this weekend.
Goddess routine is gettting easier each day but I have to allow more time! LOL I've been late to work EVERY day. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I have a very uneven skin tone, which is primarily what I was looking to cover. Its just very blotchy. I was happy with the way that it created a very even looking skin tone. Another thing that it did really well for my skin is sort of creating that "healthy" looking "glow". I also tend to have a very washed-out appearance during the winter (I'm italian, so I sort of get this ugly, sallow washed out color during the winter, in addition to the fact that my skin isn't very uniformly colored...).
I have a few lines in my forehead too, and while it didn't "cover" these, it did smooth out the appearance of my forehead (the coloring), so they sort of blend in better than they did before.
Other than that, I don't have too many problems with my skin. My skin also tends to be oily (that Italian thing again...)-- and this still works well with me... the "finishing powder" (I think that is what it is called?) works nicely to reduce the appearance of my pores around my nose, which are the size of the grand canyon.
I do like how you can't tell at all that I'm "wearing foundation", even if you DO look closely. Sometimes it is really obvious people are wearing foundation (which I hate, I hate the really "makeup-y" look)-- which I think looks bad and is one of the main reasons I never wore foundation despite having blotchy, washed out skin. I figured blotchy and washed out was better than a "mask" appearance.
But generally speaking I don't have a whole lot of blemishes to hide, so I can't speak to that. But I do know it is excellent at evening out skin tone, and giving you a sort of healthy "glow" (there's a tanning compound in the starter, as well as stuff called "glee" that gives you that healthy pink-y color).
And I highly recommend you watch the "training DVD" before you start playing with it. It is sort of an "unconventional" method of applying it... and I know if I wouldn't have watched the training DVD, I would have screwed it up. Seems silly to watch a DVD to tell you how to apply your makeup, but it really helps. And the "foundation" part is probably only like 10 minutes long or so.
So, that's my opinion of it. I think it was worth it. And truthfully, if you follow the DVD, the amount of product you actually use is so small, that really it should last you for a long time (I would estimate probably at least 3 months of daily usage, if not even longer-- and even then you'd probably only have to replace the actual "foundation" part and not the finishing stuff or the coloring stuff... not a whole new kit.
Oh-- and clean and clear makes WONDERFUL little strips that are oil absorbing that I use daily too, around lunch time-ish when I tend to get a little "shiny". I love them. I carry them in my purse at all times. You can get them for like $4 at target, etc (that is if you are Italian and an oil factory, like me...).
Unfortunately, WH got the DVD player when we split things for the move. I just haven't been able to get another one, but I think my work laptop will do DVD's. Two more days to payday, then I can get my kit. I'm just too excited.
OK, I'm all over a trip to So. Cal. Love it there. I'll go anytime.
Believer, what is the "O" Club? When my WH was in the Air Force, it was Officer's Club, but I'm wondering if you meant something different? After all, blouse unbuttoned down to there, F-me shoes, shooting pool???? Enlighten me please....
In honor of the GODDESS..WITHIN US..promoted by many of you HERE, I broke down yesterday and dared to go to the GROCERY STORE...near my house..mind you... WITH NO MAKEUP!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
I'm not too sure that I will be able to do that again. Thankfully no one saw me. If they did, they wouldn't be able to recognize me. The cashiers treated me the same although I felt NAKED!!
It was a VERRRY anxiety-provoking experience which I will leave to you YOUNGSTERS!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
I mean I'm gonna have to at least do BLUSH, MASCARA and LIP GLOSS! OK?
If you were in your twenties, I might argue with you, but I don't leave the house without my bronzer on. If I don't feel like doing my eyes, I brush a tiny bit of blush on my lids and use lip gloss to make my lips FEEL good, much less look smooth and yummy.
No need to ADD anguish to your existence.
As an aside, my surgeon has cleared me for work starting next week. I'm excited to get back, but I will miss being home. The time home has given me a lot of time to work on bringing my spirits up and taking care of myself.
Since my surgeon's office is across campus, at Hopkins, from my office, I decided to stop by work. It was nice to see my old pals again, and they were all surprised when I told them I would be returning. I really do work in a great place, with some really fine folks. Lucky me...
I mean like I've been telling you guys..my 90 something year old grandmother insisted on wearing an OUTFIT and ORANGE lipstick to go to her doctor's appts..and of course, we couldn't forget her POCKETBOOK... I mean, what did she have to carry in that thing..her lipstick and tissues, of course..and over and over again, she would ask me; "Where is my POCKETBOOK?"...she was the ULTIMATE GODDESS. This may sound morbid to some.. but I put lace gloves on her hands for her viewing...cause I couldn't get her nails all PRETTY...
God bless you, ladies....hope I'm allowed in <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
JJ, you mentioned your H likes long hair. It got me to thinking....my WW cut her long hair off about 2 months ago. Is that something a lady might do just to 1) impress OM or 2) try to change her own outlook on life (goddess up prior to an A) ???
Stupid question, just got me to thinking....I wonder if that should have been a sign to me before the A came out? Women's input??
Last week I was really sick with respiratory issues. So, I've been sleeping through the use of that magic elixer - guafinesin and codeine.
Tonight, I need to try to sleep without it. Why? Because I had such a goddessy dream!!!
I dreamed that I discovered that my legs always have a scrape or scratch or bruise from just doing what I do....bumping into things. And, I discovered that keeping them tanned meant the injuries healed more quickly.....it was a dream, remember. It doesn't have to make sense.
So, I talked to my tax attorney <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> (I have never had one of those), and asked him if I could claim a medical deduction for the cost of tanning my legs when I submitted my income tax return. He researched it and got back to and said I could if I got documentation from my dr.
(((Mimi))) some experimenting with Goddessy things is ok, but for heaven sakes don't do it if you are going to have a meltdown, definately not Goddess like. Go with your bare necessities at least. And I think putting lace gloves on your grandmother was a wonderful thing to do. Such a "LADY" definately wouldn't want to have unkept hands.
RIM thanks for the info,helps alot. My skin isn't to bad but I have one red spot with broken vessels that I'd really like to cover and tired eye look-under eye circles.
Cinders sounds like you might be on the mend, thankfully! I wonder what type of reason you can get from doc to have tanning deduction?! You'll have to let us know on that.
P. S. ladies if anyone is thinking about getting the BE makeup or ordering more- check out the ULTA site there is a 20% printable coupon. Actually they carry different types of makeup and most everything is included in their sale.
Hmm... wish I would have known about that 20% coupon last week, mvg! I went on quite a little shopping spree at Ulta...
Mimi-- I will admit I was one of those people that used to frequently leave the house with little to no make up on. And (gasp, shock, horror...) sweatpants!
But no longer. Now the "least dressed" I get to leave the house is a pair of jeans and a nice sweater. (Except for when I'm going to the gym, which also warrants sweatpants for walking from the car to the gym, over my super cute gym outfit...).
Now, I have a "minimal make up level" to leave the house and go to work that is the BE make up, with a little bit of a neutral, shimmery eye shadow, mascara, and some colored gloss. It is a natural look, doesn't look all made up. I like it. And then for the "evenings", I usually toss some eye liner and some deeper colored lipstick into the mix. I am fortunate that with my skin tone and hair, I can carry off a red lipstick pretty well. (Its too much to wear to work, but I can wear it out on a Friday night!). What is everyone else's "minimal make up"?
I must admit that taking a little more "care" with my appearance recently really makes me feel better <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I walk with a little more "strut" in my stuff... because I know I look good! And that confidence carries over to the rest of my life too!
I was talking to my old college roommate last night on the phone (she lives across the country from me... I'm on the east coast, she's on the west coast)... and she's moving to Boston to take a pharmacy position there this summer. (She's a pharmacist now). So-- I got to SERIOUSLY thinking that if this doesn't work out with H and all-- I may move to Boston and move back in with her. We make GREAT roommates... I love her to death... and it would be fun to "revert" back to that lifestyle for a bit. She's single and just went through a pretty bad breakup with someone she thought she was going to marry... so this could be a great thing for both of us. We'll see. Just got me thinking...
When a man starts to exercise and change his appearance, it may be because he is thinking about an affair. MAY be. For a woman it may or may not be. Most women are vain by nature and always want to look good and try new hair do's.
I have changed my appearance and cut my hair for different reasons other than a man. Once when I was pregnant, because hair made me sick. I mean my hair is long and curly and for some reason any hair on the floor, sink or tub nauseated me, so Off it went.
The other time was when I switched careers from bartending to the corporate world. I wanted to look professional.
Now, I am a newleywed and because I have MB coming out the ying yang, I value my H's opinion, but before MB I would have suited myself, and myself only.
OKAY, girls!!! I just came by to tell you to pick up the book "French Women Don't Get FAT"...it's awesome! I picked it up while out of town last weekend, read the whole thing, AND started some of the tips. I even convinced my H that we could have a glass of wine (two tops) at dinner, and it would be okay and very healthy...BUT no hard liquor and never wine without food.
It has awesome recipes in it, too!
PS, I have used mineral makeup for almost ten years.
If you have wrinkles or bad skin, check out MAMA Cream, or Green Cream!
PSS, I love reading this thread! Can't read hardly anything else on this board anymore, but this thread is really a lot of fun.
I gotta tell ya, I tend to change my hair at least once a year, and most times, drastically, and it has NEVER had anything to do with any other man. Usually, it's my way of rearranging the furniture, only I'm rearranging my hair. It can be refreshing to change. My sister is a colorist, so I've been coloring my hair since my twenties, initially, so she could get practice. Now, I have lotsa greys and do enjoy coloring it.
I've asked my H what type of hair he prefers, but he's not solid on the answer. We'll see. He SEEMS to prefer it shoulder length. I like it that length too, but cut it recently for the surgery.
JJ, thanks for the book recommendation, sounds like a winner to me.
I agree LC. I'm thinking about going shoulder length and blond. Now that will be drastic!
mvg, you asked about the brand of mineral makeup everyone uses, and I use BE, just because that is what I started on. I haved use Philosophy AirBrushed and it is a lot thicker coverage, so I didn't really like it that much. I might try to use it again, though, but it has added sunscreen and I don't like to use suncreen. (toxic chemicals)
Also did you know that broccoli is the best sunscreen there is, because it lets the good rays in that we really need, and stops the burning rays. A lotion made from broccoli should be coming out soon. Seems kind of funny, hey? Broccoli lotion. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Ulta is a site and they have stores and salons that happens to carry the BE makeup along with other brands. I thought Sephora was the only one but lo and behold Ulta carries it too. For me NOT being a makeup person hardly at all shelling out $60 for something that might not work is hard to swallow BUT give me a 20% discount and hey it works! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Coupon expires Saturday, can be used online or in store.
I have colored my hair for years. I was an early grayer (20's), and getting grayer every day. I did the blonde for a while but didn't have any fun so went back to a brown (natural color) now I'm at a light golden brown which I really like. I've also found for the really stubborn gray if you are a do it yourselfer the Clarol gray solutions is wonderful! Covers better than L'oreal.
I hope everyone is having a great goddess day. Blue skies here absolutely beautiful, but very windy.
Oh my goodness, I change my hair almost everytime I get it cut. It has never been for any reason other than I like change. I'm always rearranging furniture, buying something new, painting a different color, trying a new recipe etc. I just like change.....except in spouses. M almost 35 years. Mine got bored with me first.
I know this is late in coming, I apologize but here is the Chicken Roll Up recipe I have.
Chicken Roll Up Recipe
Ingrediants
4 chicken breast (cooked and cut up into small pieces) 2 8oz. pk. cream cheese, softened 4 green onions (I do 8, but then we like onions) salt, pepper, garlic powder, all to taste
Preheat oven according to cresent roll package. Combine the chicken, cream cheese, onions, and seasonings.
Put a spoonful of the cream cheese mixture onto a creasant roll. Wrap the roll around the filling (these will be a filled crecsant roll when done). Dip the roll in the melted butter, the dip into the stuffing mix until well coated. Cook in the oven for as long as the crescent package says.
If you have any questions or are confused just let me know...This is a REALLY GOOD recipe...
When a man starts to exercise and change his appearance, it may be because he is thinking about an affair. MAY be. For a woman it may or may not be. Most women are vain by nature and always want to look good and try new hair do's.
..... but before MB I would have suited myself, and myself only.
Thanks for the insight, JJ.
It's amazing how clear everything in the past becomes after you've lost something important to you. How many W's have heard their H's say that!
About 2 weeks before dropping the bomb on me, my WW pulled out all her teenie little, sexy work out clothes she used to wear before we met and said "can you believe I used to wear these". This was also shortly after the hair cut. Of course my stupid response was something like "it's ok honey, we just aren't the same people we were then...I think you look fine".
At the time I thought I was being nice and supportive with that comment (male brain!).......but now I know it was a cry for help with WW's self esteem and all I did was reinforce her feelings of self-doubt. Ohhhh, to go back in time! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Always love a Woman's point of view.......thanks. - ILA
What was funny about the tanning dream was - I don't tan....not tanning beds and not outside. I do get banged and bruised up, though. I don't know a tax attorney. Why, oh why, was I dreaming about tanning. Years ago, I had some African American friends who were amazed by how fair my legs are.
Hmmm... I just had to chime in... OMG, when I was pregnant with my youngest DD, I had gone to my Grandfathers to help out, and I had done some work outside... I was a SWEATY, DISHEVELED mess (NO MAKE-UP, BRIGHT RED because I was pregnant, fair skinned, and HOT)... But did it stop me from going to the local Wal-Mart with my kids? NO!
And I ran into, not ONE, not TWO, but THREE people I knew. One was someone I currently worked with, one was someone I used to work with, and one was someone I used to go to school with. I thought that all was well, UNTIL.... I heard a day later that the girl that I USED to work with told a bunch of people that she suspected I was HIGH, because WHO would go out in public like that!!!!
Since then, I have always made sure I looked at least OK when I go out.... I don't want people thinking anything... LOL!
N2F, I'm printing that recipe, sounds yummy. I've been pushing the chicken on H and he NEEDS something different if he has to eat 'yard bird'! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Sadmo murphy's law isn't it?! Even if you just run up to the local store just for a sec and you look like...well not Goddess like, sure enough you'll run into EVERYONE who notices your appearance!
I heard a day later that the girl that I USED to work with told a bunch of people that she suspected I was HIGH, because WHO would go out in public like that!!!!
Peel a banana from the bottom and you won't have to pick the little "stringy things" off of it. That's how the primates do it.
Take your bananas apart when you get home from the store. If you leave them connected at the stem, they ripen faster.
Store your opened chunks of cheese in aluminum foil. It will stay fresh much longer and not mold!
Peppers with 3 bumps on the bottom are sweeter and better for eating. Peppers with 4 bumps on the bottom are firmer and better for cooking.
Add a teaspoon of water when frying ground beef. It will help pull the grease away from the meat while cooking.
To really make scrambled eggs or omelets rich, add a couple of spoonfuls of sour cream, cream cheese, or heavy cream in and then beat them up.
For a cool brownie treat, make brownies as directed. Melt Andes mints in double broiler and pour over warm brownies. Let set for a wonderful minty frosting.
Add garlic immediately to a recipe if you want a light taste of garlic and at the end of the recipe if your want a stronger taste of garlic.
Leftover snickers bars from Halloween make a delicious dessert. Simply chop them up with the food chopper. Peel, core and slice a few apples. Place them in a baking dish and sprinkle the chopped candy bars over the apples. Bake at 350 for 15 minutes!!! Serve alone or with vanilla ice cream.
1. Reheat Pizza Heat up leftover pizza in a nonstick skillet on top of the stove, set heat to med-low and heat till warm. This keeps the crust crispy. No soggy micro pizza. I saw this on the cooking channel and it really works.
2. Easy Deviled Eggs Put cooked egg yolks in a zip lock bag. Seal, mash till they are all broken up. Add remainder of ingredients, reseal, keep mashing it up, mixing thoroughly, cut the tip of the baggy, squeeze mixture into egg. Just throw bag away when done. Easy clean up!
3. Expanding Frosting When you buy a container of cake frosting from the store, whip it with your mixer for a few minutes. You can double it in size. You get to frost more cake or cupcakes with the same amount. You also eat less sugar and calories per serving.
4. Reheating Refrigerated Bread To warm biscuits, pancakes, or muffins that were refrigerated, place them in a microwave with a cup of water. The increased moisture will keep the food moist and help it reheat faster.
5. Newspaper Weeds Away Start putting in your plants, work the nutrients in your soil. Wet newspapers put layers around the plants overlapping as you go cover with mulch and forget about weeds. Weeds will get through some gardening plastic they will not get through wet newspapers.
6. Broken Glass Use a wet cotton ball or Q-tip to pick up the small shards of glass you can't see easily.
7. No More Mosquitoes Place a dryer sheet in your pocket. It will keep the mosquitoes away.
8. Squirrel Away To keep squirrels from eating your plants, sprinkle your plants with cayenne pepper. The cayenne pepper doesn't hurt the plant and the squirrels won't come near it.
9. Flexible Vacuum To get something out of a heat register or under the fridge, add an empty paper towel roll or empty gift wrap roll to your vacuum. It can be bent or flattened to get in narrow openings.
10. Reducing Static Cling Pin a small safety pin to the seam of your slip and you will not have a clingy skirt or dress. Same thing works with slacks that cling when wearing panty hose. Place pin in seam of slacks and -- ta da! -- static is gone!
11. Measuring Cups Before you pour sticky substances into a measuring cup, fill with hot water. Dump out the hot water, but don't dry cup. Next, add your ingredient, such as peanut butter, and watch how easily it comes right out.
12. Foggy Windshield? Hate foggy windshields? Buy a chalkboard eraser and keep it in the glove box of your car. When the windows fog, rub with the eraser! Works better than a cloth!
13. Reopening Envelope If you seal an envelope and then realize you forgot to include something inside , just place your sealed envelope in the freezer for an hour or two. Viola! It unseals easily.
14. Conditioner Use your hair conditioner to shave your legs. It's a lot cheaper than shaving cream and leaves your legs really smooth. It's also a great way to use up the conditioner you bought but didn't like when you tried it in your hair...
15. Goodbye Fruit Flies To get rid of pesky fruit flies, take a small glass fill it 1/2" with Apple Cider Vinegar and 2 drops of dish washing liquid, mix well. You will find those flies drawn to the cup and gone forever!
16. Get Rid of Ants Put small piles of cornmeal where you see ants. They eat it, take it "home," can't digest it so it kills them. It may take a week or so, especially if it rains, but it works & you don't have the worry about pets or small children being harmed!
17. INFO ABOUT CLOTHES DRYERS The heating unit went out on my dryer! The gentleman that fixes things around the house for us told us that he wanted to show us something and he went over to the dryer and pulled out the lint filter. It was clean. (I always clean the lint from the filter after every load clothes.) He told us that he wanted to show us something; he took the filter over to the sink, ran hot water over it. The lint filter is made of a mesh material -I'm sure you know what your dryer's lint filter looks like. well,...the hot water just sat on top of the mesh! It didn't go through it at all! He told us that dryer sheets cause a film over that mesh, and that's what burns out the heating unit. You can't SEE the film, but it's there. It's what is in the dryer sheets to make your clothes soft and static free -- that nice fragrance too, you know how they can feel waxy when you take them out of the box, well this stuff builds up on your clothes and on your lint screen. This is also what causes dryer units to catch fire & potentially burn your house down with it! He said the best way to keep your dryer working for a very long time (& to keep your electric bill lower) is to take that filter out & wash it with hot soapy water & an old hairbrush (or other brush) at least every six months. He said that makes the life of the dryer at least twice as long! How about that!?! Learn something new every day! I certainly didn't know dryer sheets would do that. So, I thought I'd share!
Note: I went to my dryer & tested my screen by running water on it. The water ran through a little bit but mostly collected all the water in the mesh screen. I washed it with warm soapy water & a nylon brush & I had it done in 30 seconds. Then when I rinsed it the water ran right thru the screen! There wasn't any puddling at all! That repairman knew what he was talking about!
I know I am late in joining.... but I do believe I have 'paid my dues'...not only have I read through the WHOLE thread <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />... but I do think I have done my best at being an 'exemplary' PLAN B QUEEN <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />.... and even though I have not recovered my marriage <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />... I AM in the process of recovering....ME! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
- I have warded off all of WS's attempts to break PLAN B.... by consistently informing him that should he want me in his life, it required his commitment to doing whatever it took to recover our marriage and family...the first item on the list being....N\C with OW! .....however, WS is still hoping that TIME will do the trick.... and that magically I will want to do the 'friendly' coparenting that he has been trying to get me to do using various means... without have to give up OW!
Once WS moved out over two years ago, 'opportunity' came knocking....at work that would allow me to travel MORE.... and since NO relationship was holding me back....in the last few years I have... travelled!... and have thoroughly enjoyed myself! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
- three trips to CA (two in the Monterey peninsula, and one to LaJolla, where, believe it or not, I almost hooked up with Believer!) which were greatly appreciated since where I live...winter is the longest season!
...visited Chicago, St. Louis, San Francisco, London (England), Antwerp (Belgium)
...add to that a couple of trips to NYC with ma boys!
...a few 'local' trips...and...VOILA!
...life has been good in PLAN B!
I seem to have totally regained my sense of....adventure that I had back in my....20s! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />...and I feel...FEARLESS... at least today I do.... (since I choose to take life one day at a time!)...
I am now facing the D route.... and am actually getting to a place where I am looking forward to it.... as it will give me permission to look for that 'someone' who WILL appreciate ME in his life... since WS doesn't seem to!
The biggest lesson learned?
...appreciating, EVERY DAY, what I DO HAVE (now, in the present).... as opposed to thinking about what I HAD (in the past) and WISHING FOR (in the future!)..what I HAD in the past....as you can see, this would be a total waste of....time.... when one realizes how precious it is!
...AND being....flexible enough to go with the....FLOW.... of LIFE!
...and what I know for sure today is....that I have two beautiful boys that I adore!... family and friends that care about me.... my health... a chance to earn a living.... a house to live in.... and most importantly....my zest for living (which was iffy right after D-day!)
Sorry for this long initial post.... but as you can see... I am very proud of myself on how I am dealing with a rollercoaster ride I did not ask to be on!
...and that is....LIFE!
Take care.
....and thanks MIMI for starting this thread, which I think helps immensely in regaining a sense of <balance> in a very <unbalanced> time of our lives!
Welcome!! Yes, you are a Goddess and inspiration to us all. I'm starting to feel like you do - a little liberated. Starting to look at the world differently these days. Heck, as I lay in bed last night in the quiet I was thinking "poor OW, she's the one that won't be able to sleep tonight because of WH's gosh-awful snoring. Poor OW." I then fell fast asleep and slept all night. Woke up refreshed and ready to be a Goddess today.
Believer - thanks for the tips. Those were a huge help.
Since I've decided that February is my "gourmet month" I'm looking for great slow cooker recipes. I'm buying a new slow cooker today (mine is one of the original Crock Pots). I hear the new ones are way better, so thought I would get on the bandwagon and get a new one. If anyone has an awsome recipe, I would love to have it.
Our mall has a House of Brows now, so I may do a permanent brow tint tonight. Gotta get that last Goddess beauty treatment in before the month ends.....
It is such a blessing to read how happy you ladies are, I can't even tell you.
Lunamare, you about brought tears to my eyes. What an inspiration to many, you are. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Chai, I never heard of getting your eye brows dyed. Wow. Well, we don't even HAVE a mall where I live. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> But that will change when I move. YAY!
Believer, If the mosquito trick and the wet newspaper trick works, I am going to give you a big, fat, wet one right on the cheeks!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
Hey Chai! What's the difference between the old school slow cooker and the new ones?? I still have and old one, I think. I LOVE my slow cooker. It is GREAT to be able to dump some stuff in there, and then come home to dinner after work!! I have lots of recipes for my slow cooker. I have a good recipe for a slow cooker "pot pie" that I love. I don't have it on me right now, I'd have to look it up at home, but it is pretty much a giant chicken pot pie when you are done (you cook the "innards" all day long, and the layer over bisquick mix at the very end, cook for another hour to make the "crust", and viola! Slow cooker chicken pot pie!)
Believer-- that was an awesome list! I love the deviled eggs idea. H loves deviled eggs... so since I'm still in plan A (although little does he know I'm planning my plan B currently...) maybe if he's a good boy I'll make him some deviled eggs that way <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Lunamare!!! You are SUCH a goddess, we should be taking LESSONS from you! I am so proud of you, and I really really hope that if my M doesn't work out that I can take a page from your life and follow in your footsteps! You really seem to have it all together, and you DESERVE the best, and someone that APPRECIATES what a goddess you are!!
OK-- so my goddess check in of the day (I know, kinda late, but I was really busy at work all day!).
- cute f-me high heeled boots (I forget who coined that term on here, but I love it...)-- and I even had the confidence to laugh at myself when I stepped up on the sidewalk on my way to work this morning (from my car) and totally stumbled in front of about 3 people (strangers, thankfully...). I'm not used to wearing high heeled boots to work!! But I laughed at myself, and kept going...
- Grey slacks that hug my butt nicely then are looser in the leg.
- Black sweater that has a scoop neck and little "holes" in the arms so you can see a peak of skin (hard to describe, but its cute!)
- I even went as far as to put on eyeliner to go to work today (I never wear eyeliner to work...). I didn't do the red lipstick because I figured that was just too much for work...
- Nicely styled hair...
Well, I've gotten lots of compliments on my look today. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> We'll see if H even bothers to notice. Probably not. Oh well. I know I look good!
Oh-- and I weighed myself at the gym last night... I've lost 5 lbs since the beginning of the month!! I have about 10 more to go until I reach the weight I want to be at...
Well, ladies, I'm not much in the Goddess mindset right now; the hormones are ridin high, and I become heavily triggered at this time, but I LOOK fantastic.
I finished sewing my last panel of curtains for my boudoire makeover, and assembled a piece of furniture that is part of my new bedroom suite. I may not feel great, but I'm doing all I can counteract the sadness. Keeping busy is a good one. I also self soothe, and allow myself to grieve a bit, cry some, but I limit it, to avoid going deeper into the FUNK.
Hopefully, tomorrow will be a better day. I'll do my darndest to make it so.
The newer ones have removable containers that you can do everything in - brown the meat on the stove, slow cook, store in fridge, and put in dishwasher. They also have programmable thermostats that let you start at a stated time, automatically switch from hi to low while you're gone, and then keep warm until you get home. Pretty cool, huh?
The All-Clad is about $150, but I hope to get one a little more reasonably priced.
EZ, quick crockpot recipe - It takes me less than 3 minutes to throw together.
4-5 boneless chicken breasts 1 (15 1/2 ounce) can black beans 1 (15 ounce) can corn 1 (15 ounce) jar salsa, any kind 1 (8 ounce) package cream cheese
Take 4-5 frozen, yes, frozen, boneless chicken breasts put into crock pot. add 1 can of black beans, drained, 1 jar of salsa, 1 can of corn drained. Keep in crock pot on high for about 4-5 hours or until chicken is cooked. Add 1 package of cream cheese (just throw it on top!) and let sit for about 1/2 hour. All done and enjoy!
Serve with tortilla's, rice, or even over noodles.
Since I have been 'replaced' in WS's family gatherings by OW, even for 'deaths in the family'.... and since WS picked up the boys after school to take them to his hometown about an hour and half away (with or without OW?...don't know because I don't ask!)....for a 'final' visit of a favourite uncle at the funeral home.....
...rather than go straight home after work....I took a detour... and went to see a movie first...
I just love going to the movies! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
...and if mentally and emotionally I am working at 'clearing' my heart to make room for someone else, if need be, with PLAN B....I am similarly 'chipping away' at decluttering our basement of all the 'stuff' WS collected over the years, and that also is coming along quite nicely!
...I am holding back somewhat at looking 'hot' until after the D! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />...but that day will also come.... and for now, I aim for the 'classy casual' look even at home <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />... and definitely...no sweat pants..MIMI!
I also work hard at practicing Ark's BE STILL..... and can't even believe it myself that I have been in PLAN B for over two years! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />.... away from the drama... NO RUSHING.... taking my sweet time....and smelling the roses along the way!
Some of you ladies may have already come across this book, apparently it's a best seller, but just in case anyone is looking for something to read.....I really enjoyed Elizabeth Gilbert's 'journey': EAT, PRAY, LOVE....
Now I will go get some much needed beauty sleep as it is late at night in my part of the world...
I really enjoyed Elizabeth Gilbert's 'journey': EAT, PRAY, LOVE....
SO DID I! I listened to it on CDs and loved, loved, loved it! What about when she was crying her heart out on her bathroom floor..BEEN THERE DONE THAT...
I think I'll LISTEN again..thanks, Lunamare!!
It's her quest towards PERSONAL RECOVERY..just like US...
Okay, I don't usually talk much about what I'm wearing and stuff like that but I have been shopping a couple of times and my wardrobe feels SO much better!
I was Goddess today, Baby!!!
My new curve hugging Lee's, black with pinstripes; white shirt with a very light, thin black cardigan with 3/4 sleeves and a neat design on the cuffs...it ties at the waist so it's snazzy; black platform shoes to show off painted toenails, sexy thumb ring on the left hand, two other rings on the right, and wedding ring of course; Indian and buffalo cuff bracelet, and even earrings! Clip-ons, I've never had pierced ears. Oh yeah, and sexy black "Wonder Bra" type bra.
Make-up...check!
Hair jewelry....check!
So I "Goddessed" my way to the tax office and then to my Doberman's.
DIL and I decided that Goddess Day would be Sunday. Everyone is SO excited!!! It will be a lot of fun. Grandma's gonna be there, too!
It's her quest towards PERSONAL RECOVERY..just like US...
It's exactly what I thought, too...a real inspiration....
So....I know Rome and Italian pretty well (as I am Italian), so I can relate to that.... I have not been to India (nor do I intend to go there), but I have done yoga and so intend to....re-start doing it again...you know, for the breathing part, the BE STILL part, the meditation.... got my 'corner' set up....got my tape....got the mat...the candles....NOW....I just have to 'get going' doing it...LOL!
....and the Bali part, among other things.... finding a lover, I will have to leave it for 'after' I have travelled and am finished with the D route!
....but there are so so many moments in the book with which I can relate....and I thought she was so honest with her struggles....I just loved it!
Now...back to today....I so love Fridays and the weekend.... and they come around....every week...LOL!
Found this article on MSN for BUSY MOMS. There are some good tips there.
Oh, Believer, I cleaned my lint trap yesterday. Now I just need to set up a reminder on my phone to clean it again in 6 months <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />.
Ok, ladies, Valentine's Day is just around the corner, so throw out your nifty ideas to spice things up or have a great time with your mate, kids or friends.
For me, we haven't been playing pool much lately (we have our own table), so I plan on ordering some tasty dry ribs from a local BBQ joint (that we both love) and setting up the gameroom for a night of family fun (our DS will be with us), and after DS goes to bed, continue the fun with Champagne and strawberries dipped in DARK Chocolate. Letting the bubbles loosen our lips for some conversation and laughter.
Any babysitting for that evening is out, since most people are celebrating themselves, and aren't up for taking care of my kid. Plus, I want to show some love to my kid, too. He's one of my Valentine's!
For valentines day, I am buying some construction paper, cutting out paper hearts, and writing a reason that I love my H on each one of the hearts, stringing them all together wtih some fishing wire, and hanging it up downstairs in the morning so that when he comes downstairs he finds it.
I admit, I am hijacking that idea from someone else on the "romantic ideas" thread. But, I thought it was a very good one!
We are going on a snowboarding trip with some friends that weekend, so we will probably just go out to dinner Thursday evening and then we fly out on Friday morning for the weekend. I would have rather had a romantic weekend for the two of us, but I take what I can get anymore...
My plan B is approaching... (I am currently planning on going plan B March 1st...) So this is my plan A home stretch...
Hi ladies (and gents)! The funniest thing happened with my weight. Mom was here 10 days ago and we walked all over California. I'm not kidding - 6 hours a day for a week. Anyway, I was disappointed because I didn't lose any weight.
Yesterday I got on the scales and had lost 5 pounds! Wow, how did that happen? Where were those 5 pounds for 10 days?Anyway, I met my goal for January. Now I just need to KEEP it off.
Believer, That is great!! Too bad it took so long, but so long as it went away, it's all good!
I have been exercising and most days I think I see a difference. It's only been a few weeks and I don't have a scale so I just go by how I look/feel. I'm gonna get skinnier!
I did my WHOLE makeup routine today..as outlined by my MAC STYLIST...
Gonna go to the grocery store IN STYLE today...
I have to say that I look 20 times PRETTIER this way..getting rid of the "RAVAGES of AGE" (thanks LG- <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />)..I HATE the BLACK CIRCLES under my eyes..love, love, love MY CONCEALER...
My TIP FOR TODAY is this...TRY EYELINER on the LOWER LID..I tend to skip this step..each time I do it, I can't believe the results..IT'S MAGICAL..MY EYES ACTUALLY SEEM TO POP OUT..I look GLAMOUROUS..
I haven't posted in awhile, but I have been keeping up with keeping myself "GODDESSLY" BEAUTIFUL.....looking good does WONDERS for the self-esteem.. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Yesterday, took DS8 to baseball practice, of course all GODDESSED up. One of the mom's who I hadn't seen yet this season was going on about how good I looked. She said very loudly "Well, I guess we know who's going to be the 'HOT MAMA' on the team this season"....WOW that felt so good. Not to mention all the looks I was getting from the men that were in batting practice... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
Speaking of BB, the team is taking Hoodie orders for the Season, am I allowed to order one for myself???? hmmmm....what do you say Mimi??? I am actually thinking of just ording myself a t-shirt that I can tuck into my hot jeans to show off my ever-diminishing waist.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I have dropped 30lbs. since DDay (Nov. 25), so I am quite happy with that. Only 12 more to go, before I hit MY target weight.
Anyway, I will look smashing for the SB party I am going to. Good jeans with my Jersey,,,sorry Mimi...it may not be Girlie, but maybe I can pull off the "Hot Jock" girl look.....lol
My H bought me an exercise bike (my request) for my birthday. I am excited to get on an exercise program. Hoping for leaner, stronger thighs & shapely legs. Be Gone dang sandlebags! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I think that will definately an improvement and I can wear those cute little skirts and shorts without the bulges.
I survived my first day back at work, 7 hours. I'm pretty tired now, but I did accomplish starting a new project and getting reacquainted with things. A month changes a lot. I also had to clean my lab bench, as many had begun using it as a STORAGE space. One of my coworkers apologized for not cleaning it up, which surprised me.
Yum, men at batting practice, but I digress............
mvg - Exercise bike for your birthday? YIKES! But if that is what you wanted, I guess it is okay. I used one while visiting my mom in Seattle (rainy a lot), and liked it.
(you can reply, "Good Morning Charlie", if the mood strikes you--Charlies Angels were some strong ladies, doncha think?)
I'm pretty sure they would let me nap, if I really had to. As it is, I will be sitting more often these days. My dang back went out Sunday night, so I'm dealing with a lot of pain there, but it's managable, so off to work I go. It's good to be back.
I have already talked to my boss about the fact that I will still be able to get a lot of bench work done, but my hours will probably be all over the map for a while. They have been informed, and know that I'm not fully recovered yet. When I am, though, I'll be back to packing 10-12 hours into 8hours, but that's a few months down the line.
I realized this morning that I need to organize my makeup and get some new eyeshadows, so that will be my next mission in personal beautyfying. Right now, everything is in my makeup bag, so I have to rummage around to find what I want.
YAWN ,feeling sleepy, maybe I'll take that nap. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
My February is going to be about getting back on track. The holidays were less than healthy for me, in terms of food. I have maintained or continued to lose weight, but I find myself munching on baked chips instead of fruit when I get home from work. That's not what I want, so I'm going to work on incorporating those good foods again. It's more work to prep foods, but my body thanks me.
Also, I need to focus on structure at home. Since before the surgery, I've been lax in making structure. Need to get back to reading with my son every night, making sure dinner is all three of us sitting down together, even enforcing rules better.
I worked 8 hours yesterday and CRASHED when I got home. I fed my DS when he got off of the school bus, did some computer stuff, and then took a 1 hour nap. I guess I'm going to fall back in the energy department this next month of work, since I am still healing. The doc told me to be prepared for some exhaustion.
Have my son's parent/teacher conference today at 3:15PM. His report card has shown that he has improved in many areas, so it will be interesting to hear where we need to help DS improve. I praise DS for his good work, but I am always interested in what he can improve upon.
When/if I have extra money, I plan on buying something good for my wardrobe; like nice dark wash jeans, or a pair of pinstripe slacks, as well as nice blouses and shirts. I can't dress up every day for work, because it can be kind of messy, but the days that I know it won't be, I would like to step it up a bit.
To those of you who are SPIRITUAL, I want to share that a MIRACLE happened for me yesterday.
I had a MAJOR PROBLEM for which I needed resolution. It was not related to anything MARITAL, more personal. Over the past few days, I was struggling, trying to come up with a solution. So, I decided to turn it over to HIM. I almost DOUBTED that the ANSWER would be provided by doing so, thinking maybe I have too much FAITH, questioning my BELIEFS. The EVIL ONE was BUSY.
So all day yesterday, I prayed. I said: "LORD, I'm going to put this in YOUR HANDS. I have FAITH that you will provide me with the SOLUTION if it is YOUR WILL". I surrendered.
THE ANSWER was PROVIDED last night in CONCRETE FORM. The LORD said "HERE IT IS"! It was nothing that I actually had to do. IT was PROVIDED.
We do, and sometimes we need to ask to be open. Sometimes we don't KNOW we aren't open to receiving. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
So, there's a common theme on here of people trying to lose weight...
I am trying to lose about 10 more lbs...
Yesterday, I was browsing the internet and found this awesome FREE!!! online diet diary.
It is REALLY cool. It has over 70,000 foods already logged in, you just search for your food (it even has restaurant meals!) and add it to your "daily foods" and it tells you how many calories you've consumed. You can also do the same with activities.
It asks you questions in the begining when you sign up to try to get at your "basal" metabolism, and what your current and desired weight is.... and sets out a plan for you in terms of exercise and diet (how many calories a day to eat!)
One of the coolest things about it is that you can enter RECIPES in the one section, and it will estimate how many calories are in your RECIPE! So, for example, last night for dinner I made Swedish meatballs. Well, instead of adding the calories for each and every ingredient I put in there, I just put my recipe in the recipe column, told it how many "servings" there were in my recipe, and it CALCULATES THE CALORIES PER SERVING! Then you can "save" that food for later use.
It has a ton of recipes online too. Also analyzes the nutrients in your different foods.
Truthfully, I can't believe it is totally free. It tracks your weight, predicts when you will reach your goal weight....
Its really, really cool! It seems like something you would have to PAY for, but you DON'T!
Oh, and at the end of every day, it gives you a "grade" on your nutrition for the day (it breaks down into percentages how much carbs, fat, and protein you ate for the day too). Yesterday I got an A-.
Check it out if you are trying to diet, goddesses!
Sometimes we don't KNOW we aren't open to receiving.
...I am testing it out, but my theory about how to stay 'open to receiving' is to focus on TODAY...and only on... TODAY
....clear our minds of the clutter of.....thoughts about the past (which we can't change, and at best can only learn from)....and assumptions about the future (which I think only LIMIT US to the potential of the possibilities out there for us, and as at best, we can only plan for...but then...who knows?)....
...and in so doing.... leave 'space' and give the 'opportunity' for such things as inspiration, passion, love.....and all that is good in life......TO ENTER OUR LIVES!
....by focusing on being and doing the BEST...TODAY.... which TOMORROW will be a YESTERDAY.....I think it is building a life on a SOLID foundation.. one BRICK/DAY at a time! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
Mimi isn't it always AMAZING when we actually do turn over to Him what we can't/shouldn't accomplish?! He ALWAYS comes through!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
SL I'm sure you will be exhausted for several (many) weeks to come. Try and take it easy and as you push forward, only add one thing at a time, work your way back to full out run! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
RIM thanks for the link. I've tried many different 'diets' but that link looks very helpful in maintaining reality! Cause I don't think chocolate chip cookies are healthy EVEN if I do put cinaminon (sp) on them! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
Have a Goddess day everyone! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I'M NOT A KNOW-IT-ALL..that can FIX everything and everyone..and CONTROL everything and everyone..although my FOO gave me the FALSE ILLUSION that I could...YUCK..that ACOA JUNK...
I CAN ONLY CONTROL MY GODDESS SELF....I LOVE HER!!
I'm going to the 'city' today with NO MAKEUP ON. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Going to get a makeup makeover! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I hope they can come up with something to coverup my tired eyes.
I have decided that TODAY there will be...totally nothing.... on my TO DO list... and just wait around for...sweet inspiration! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
..and so, whatever I will do, is above and beyond my expectations! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
It's my....sure-bet pat-on-the-back scheme of the day!
Btw, I am dieting too. Now that somebody ELSE for a change is watching my figure.
I had a weight watchers meal for lunch. Now going to sleep for a while (long night at work) and then for a run before our activities tonight.
It's so hard sometimes to fit exercise in especially if you're dragging or tired or overworked. My situation Mimi, is that I am an overworked single mom. still in decent shape, but want to be the hottie again. Although bf says I am the hottie. I just know I can do that awesomely with about 15 less pounds on me.
How can I balance this crazy busy life? Help and suggestions? Plus, I gotta get in top shape b/c I am going somewhere warm with bf very soon. He mentioned St. Lucia.
Mimi, Sure, you can do it at that age. Hottiehood can be achieved at any age - it just looks different at 53 than at 38 or 23,
My children are at their dad's tonight. Good cotton sheets w/ no jammies sounds like the ticket. Is 7 p.m. too early for a sleep deprived, still recovering woman to go to bed?
Maybe not a Goddess thing to do but I was ROTFLMAO @ SS! I FEEL like I must have a 3rd eye sometimes cause why else would a H ignore a GODDESS?????? Geessshhhh
Ok ladies, went to the 'city'. Went to the ULTA store. I was excited, finally going to get some helpful info from folks that deal in facial problems....especially that 3rd eye problem <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. Well not so much! UGH
The lady was nice enough she did experiment with the Bare Escentuals and the PurMineral foundations...I didn't see ANY difference in those and my old cheapo Physcians Formula. Only suggestion she had for my TIRED puffy eyes was concealer...ok fine. I asked for some suggestions as to something that would help smooth my face so that when I use the foundation the wrinkles are not quite so noticable...no real suggestions. Asked ok is cream better than powder...no real answer! UGH UGH UGH Very disappointing visit there. I guess the next time I'm in the city I'll try for a real makeover with real cosmetic folks. Until then I'll have to make due.
I LOVE the hottie thought! So what's age appropriate 'hottie' attire/look for getting closer to 50?
Act like a lady. This is super important. Review how a true lady behaves. Begin to think about how you walk, talk and sit. If it is not ladylike then change your actions to match those of a lady. The way you move your body can attract or repel a man. Men love a sexy confident ladylike appearance. Be refined. Be dainty. Yet be strongly confident and men will think you extremely hot.
Posture is one of my biggest things to work on. I need to lift it all up a little more. Actually, everything could use a lift at my age. I still weigh the same as I did in my 20's, but everything is in a different place now.
I'm wearing by bras lower, my panties higher, my shoes shorter and wider, my hair flatter, my....well you get the idea <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
I woke up this morning with renewed PEP and VIGOR!
Thanks for all your LOVE AND SUPPORT!! I've been FEELING your SPIRITS!!
Ahh..Believer provides US with our MISSION STATEMENT...
I was HEARING PHILIPPIANS..I love, love, love the ENTIRE LETTER...
But from Chapter 4:
Quote
Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all....whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such things..And the God of peace will be with you. (NIV Version)
I'm off to the Health Center. This week I'm getting back into my WEIGHT TRAINING. I look MOST like a HOTTIE when my muscles are toned. I've been JUST doing my cardio/aerobic exercise over the past few weeks.
"And of course, the real thing isn't bubble-gum pink!"
It's not!%@#$! There goes another 'illusion' down the drain! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
I have been a bad GODDESS lately and not checking in. It was bad of me...probably helped in losing perspective of what a GODDESS is. Ok, so now I will get back on track.
B is the ULTIMATE GODDESS. Only she can tell us to behave like a lady, sit like a lady, be dainty, then tell us how she owns a pair of F-Me heels....LMAO.
To me, being a GODDESS is all about confidence and self-esteem. Something that all BS have to deal with. And the best way to do it is to look good.
So, now I have a snow day, so I am going to go work on that dreaded basement some more. Ughhhh...except today, the kiddies will get to help...hahahah...what an evil mom I am. Just kidding....
Oh yeah, before I forget....Mimi and B..I did NOT order a hoodie from my DS baseball team. Instead, I order a jersey which will look real hot with a pair of jeans or some shorts this summer....
oh, and I started back at the gym this weekend....gotta get toned for the summer..... a GODDESS always plans ahead, right???
ok..my check list for the day....
Jeans.....check..though they are my big ones (2 sizes too big...) since I am going down into the basement to clean.
Sweater.....check....
makeup.....check
hair....cute pony
all in all, I look ok...I will be woking in the basement...which is bad....hopefully we can get it all done today....
B is the ULTIMATE GODDESS. Only she can tell us to behave like a lady, sit like a lady, be dainty, then tell us how she owns a pair of F-Me heels....LMAO.
I need a pair of F-Me heels! Do they look nice with slacks? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Goddess training is working for me...I really LIKE the way I look with makeup.
"And of course, the real thing isn't bubble-gum pink!"
It's not!%@#$! There goes another 'illusion' down the drain! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
That's GREAT, MVG!! I know how you feel..gotta have my CONCEALER..and MASCARA...and BLUSH..and OH WELL...on and on... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
had my mustache WAXED today along with my brows..it's not really THAT bad..but I HATE those hairs around my mouth..you young ladies, just wait for what you have in store...don't you just HATE to see women with HAIR on their face..I always want to tell them..."Did you know that you have hair growing out of your chin?"..I'm PRAYING for PATIENCE and TOLERANCE these days..anyone know a good book on that subject?
Good morning Goddesses! Happy Valentines day to all!
Ok need Goddess advice for overnight hospital stay. They told me NO makeup, no jewlery, no nail polish> I said WHAT?! That's not allowed by my fellow Goddesses! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
And Mimi, I'm sorry to admit, sweat pants are going to be necessary with (hopefully) only slight tummy swelling. BUT they are not the typical sweat pants, actually they are very becoming. Nice drawstring closure, flared leg...I'm thinking I can dress it up to "our" standards with nice shirt and accessories.
I'll be thinking of you Monday! In terms of surgical recovery, I think you can take a pass on the sweat pants, at least until you can maneuver a bit better, THEN you can switch to better loungewear. How long are you going to be home?
Nothing much new to report. Last night, after work, my neck was really stiff, muscles achy, so I decided to hop in the hot tub. My DS came with and played while I soaked. He loves the water. I look forward to summer when he'll be in the pool every day. HEck, I just look forward to warmer weather!
I hear ya on the warm weather SL. Even tho it's been a relatively calm winter I'm definately ready for WARM!
Right now I'm planning on being out of work for 2 weeks, maybe 3, just depends on how things go.
Hey SL, little guys can give GREAT neck/shoulder massages with those tiny fingers. Not to hard and those little fingers get right into those muscles. Can you have a neck massage? Are you healed up enough for that?
Morning all. You all have been laughing about the pumps (trying to put this politely). Anyway, on V-Day, at work, one of our contractors secretaries wore bright red, sparkly, open toed 6 inch heels.
You should have seen the men falling all over her. She'd made cupcakes and had her office all decorated out. She had the men lined up - from engineers to plumbers. One guy bought her 4 Valentine's Day gifts. It was amazing.
The following day, they were still coming to her office to chat! Me and my secretary were beating them back all day. And the weird thing is she is nice looking, but usually rather plain.
After being the 'Goddess of motherhood' Thursday, for taking my teenagers to see 'Spamalot', I came home and promptly developed an earache.
By 3 a.m., I had driven myself to the emergency room. During the drive, I was the 'Goddess of prayer' for continually talking out loud to God and telling him that I had to get to the hospital. I then demanded, that's the only word, that he get me to the drug store and safely back home. After that, I was the 'Goddess of gratefulness'.
My supervisor had declined to let me take some sick leave on Friday so that I could go for my physical. So I sent him an email that I would not be in because I had a horrible ear infection and I would be at home on pain pills. I, later, followed that up w/ an email telling him the eardrum had ruptured. I think that made me the 'Goddess of guilt inducement'.
Yesterday, I was the 'Goddess of medication'.
Today, I think I shall be the 'Goddess of survival' as I am going to survive but I don't feel like doing anything. Still feel too weak and wobbly. I have on my very happy pink, green, and white striped flannel pants and a t-shirt that doesn't match. My hair is a mess, my face looks a bit pasty. But, I am so happy to feel better.
This GODDESS is reporting in at finally HITTING 83 3/4 lbs since D-Day..... All in all I have probably lost over a 100lbs, but this is officially where I am at. And it feels good.....VERY GOOD...
You mean the comment that WH said about my car? Yes, it was me. I cleaned the car up I might add. No make up on yet, but I will have it on by the time I hit the movies.
OK Goddesses of all ages out there!!! Help me out here... pros and cons of tanning at a place, you know other than in the real sun. A co-worker showed me around the "salon" she goes to, it's right next door to our office, I'm tempted to use a little pamper me-self money on it... what do you think?
I like tanning. I know it isn't good for your skin. But I live in sunny California. For me, it is time consuming to get a natural tan. So I usually start in March in a tanning salon, just to get started with no burning.
It really only takes less than 10 sessions for me to tan, and then I stay that way all summer naturally.
I'm glad I got the car up to GODDESS SPECS. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I love tanning. I live in a state where it's grey almost 10 months a year. I don't drink, smoke, eat sugar for the most part, spend money like an addiction, have sex, or anything else that could be considered a vice. I keep the tanning and wear it proudly.
I also sell the best skin care products on the market and take care of my skin. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Tanning...hmm, I've done it before summer vacations. But, I don't think it's good for my skin. I wonder what it might do internally. I don't know that it is as bad for you as smoking.
B, ....uhmmm....fantasies, in general, about what, exactly?
...or, does this mean I have been too long in PLAN B? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
And I'm not good at fantasies. Or at least not saying them out loud.
Just asking for FEMALE input (I'm sure the guys could come up with lots) for a married woman whose hubby was requesting some fantasy talk not too long ago.
For me, I might talk about having a picnic on the beach, holding hands in the surf, and then getting carried away by his manliness and doing it right there in the waves - with my special shoes still on.
But that won't work because where she is, its snowing!
I can really picture her texting stuff to hubby and just stealing the show from OW. I mean, he is saying all this it's over stuff, but still texting her and wanting to be friends with benefits. He is like a sitting duck!
In other words, hubby LIKES the way he looks through the OW's eyes. Now we just need to have him look at himself the same way through his wife's eyes. And meanwhile OW can be LB'ing away.
Hmmm, I see.... Right now, mine would be a recreation of an experience. A 300 year old house full of antiques and we had a canopy bed in a room with a fireplace. May or June and it was chilly outside so they built us a fire in the fireplace and we spent the whole afternoon enjoying....the room <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
ok.....I had an experience once when DH and I went out of town for the weekend. We had a condo with a hot tub right outside the room on the balcony. We went in Feb, and that means cold around here, but when we were outside it was anything but "cold"........
Did anyone watch Oprah yesterday? The schlumpadinka episode?
Some nice outfits for busy moms on the show.
I wish I could buy a whole new wardrobe right now, but it will have to wait. I of course am trying to straigten out my finances and am in the middle of weight watchers anyway. No need to waste money right now.
For now, I am trying to dress better with what I have. For example, typically I work from my home office on tuesday and thursday. Today, instead of putting on sweats, I actually put on khaki's and a sweater. That's huge for me <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. I'm glad these pants fit again too :P. Yay weight watchers.
I want to change my wardrobe EVERY WEEK after watching "What Not to Wear". I do the best with what I have now, and add to my wardrobe a bit here and there. I try to add STAPLES now, instead of fads, like pants that fit well with a clean line, and shirts that don't come and go.
I did weight watchers from last September until January, and lost about 20 lbs. I did the CORE plan, which worked really well for me, because I didn't have to look at points, and it taught me to incorporate good foods so that I could enjoy them. I still cook according to the core plan, using lean meats and olive oil, and no cream sauces. Also, portion control was great to get under wraps. Now, I can splurge, and still maintain my weight.
I would wait out the weight loss, and then start finding flattering clothes.
oh my goodness, thank you B and others, I had no idea you were over here trying to help me out with ideas ;-) I really, think my "dream" that I told him the other night hit a good spot. Now if I could come up with one-liners that I could text to him, that would be great!
Yesterday I went to see Fool's Gold. There was a scene where Kate Hudson's character Tess was looking in the mirror and crying. Then she stopped and started commenting on how perfect her hair was, how perfect her nails were and how beautiful and smart of a woman she was.
So all you goddesses, when you start to get down on yourselves, I want you to do just that. Just think about how wonderful YOU are. And how LUCKY someone would be to have YOU.
I've been dying to get these boots, but would not pay $397, which was the original full price. But now they are on sale, and I have a 20% coupon. Woohooo, I'm excited.
Shoes are at least the one thing that I always fit into with out all the ups and downs of weight gain and loss.
This is me treating myself even then I have no money. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
I watch Mimi's favorite "What Not to Wear" alot. And every once in awhile, I try on everything in my closet and put it to the mirror test. If it doesn't look GOOD on me, I give it away. It is lots of fun.
Hi there goddesses! I think that you are all awesome.
I have not posted here before and I don't know if I could live up to the goddess standard. But I can tell you what makes me feel beautiful and attractive: lingerie. It doesen't have to be "sexy" and I don't have to show it to anyone, it is enough for me to know that I am well dressed from the inside and out. Laces, bows, twin strap bras, some unusual colors... It boosts my confidence and makes me smile all day.
Welcom why. I love lingerie too, but why I'm still wearing some of my old worn out stuff, I don't know. I'll have to work on that. Good lingerie is soooo expensive.
Not having a good Goddess day today. My face is going through a little break out session, and hair color is fading which allows a little of the gray to show through. I did the root touch up on the part, but it isn't the same as going to the salon. I need to do that soon.
So the pimply faced, faded haired Chaister is not worthy of the Goddess thread today. I'm not worthy, I'm not worthy.....
Chai - Get rid of that worn out faded stuff! You can get perfectly nice things at Walmart. I worked in the ER during college and learned firsthand why you should always be well dressed underneath it all! Holy moly, the nasty, dirty, smelly things that used to come through the ER door.......YIKES! Changed me for life.
Believer LOL....Now I know why my mom always said that we should never go out without clean underwear on. I bet that you did see some nasty stuff in the ER. Yuk. But I would sure hate to go to the ER with my VS undies on because they might cut them off! What a tragedy... I've seen those big scissors that they have clipped to their belts.
I'll just save a nice clean set from Walmart to wear to the ER <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
If they ever have to cut mine off, they are going to be fresh, clean and perky. And I will have showered in the last 8 hours, no matter what time of day or night it is. That place left lasting impressions with me.
Yuck! for the ER experience. My MIL has told me something along the same line. She used to work in a clothes shop in a small town in the 60s. The fashionable ladies would come there to buy clothes and have them tailored and MIL was helping them in the fitting room. She says that many of the ladies that dressed really fancy and were supposed to be upper class had terrible underwear, dirty and worn out and held together with safety pins, and that they smelled of sweat.
I have always had fresh and clean underwear but I used to prefer simple cotton because it is comfortable. But since I started caring more about my looks I have begun to appreciate pretty underwear. Not for anyone else to look at, just for my own self confidence.
But since I started caring more about my looks I have begun to appreciate pretty underwear. Not for anyone else to look at, just for my own self confidence.
That's the Goddess way Why! ^5!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Thanks Cinderella. I was having a non-worthy day. Kind of like a bad hair day (which it was that too) only worse.
lol I guess it's all part of the BS script huh?
Sooo, I have an appt on Friday at the salon for a cut, color retouch, brow wax, and brow tint. That should fix me up for the weekend.
And, you all convinced me to pitch all undergarments and go buy new. Now, I do have to stress that my "old" stuff is not really that old. And, it IS clean. So let's not get the idea that I would be one of those ER people that Believer talked about. Nothing is in shreds (yet).
Since I also get paid this Friday (once per month - hate that) I am going to the "upscale" grocery to treat myself to some designer food. I'm thinking some sea bass, beef filets, fresh fruit etc.
I'm headed for a Goddess weekend. Of course, a "solo" Goddess weekend, but hey, that's what we BS's in Plan B do right? I hate that....
....if anyone else in Plan B would like to get together for a not-so-solo Goddess weekend let me know. I need a break.
I think I need a new haircut myself! I've been trying to grow it out before I go get a new shape. Hopefully my friend can fit me in on friday for a cut too!
I have been doing weight watchers and lost 5 lbs in the first week. I have 21 to go, bleh. I am mostly losing weight for training reasons now. I am a rower and I want to be lighter so that I can make the boat I want in the spring. I'm a little too heavy for my power. I just hope I don't lose power as I lose weight. We'll see how week 2 goes. I get weighed in on Saturday.
I was on the famous infidelity diet! I lost about 15 lbs I think.
But then I started rowing and building muscle and I needed to eat to keep up with training. So I gained some back. All of my cloths still fits the same, except in the shoulders, grrrrr, so I think I put on alot of muscle weight from training over the last couple of months.
I am probably going to go through some muscle loss I'm sure, but I need to be lighter to stay competitive. A lot of the physics of rowing is how effective you are for your weight. Though I have highly competitive scores on my team, I get knocked off the top when they factor in weight.
I'm not overweight at all, I just need to get to the lower end of my weight range.
How long does the infidelity diet count? Meaning, if I am still losing weight from D-day does it all count to that, or I stop getting mileage out of it.
I think you're still getting milage out of it if you're still losing! Anger and depression are very powerful weight loss tools. I should have stayed depressed a while longer I think. Oh well.
Hope all is well with you. I'm still trying to get down to DC. Seems like everytime I try, something comes up. I will be getting there soon though, and we will get together.
This GODDESS last night left a plateful of pasta for each of her two beautiful boys to microwave for supper... (who actually couldn't wait for MOM to get out of the door to have the house all to themselves!)
...to get together with a couple of friends for our monthly supper/home-colouring 'hair' sessions....and had a BLAST! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
....and now I do not look a day older than....uhmmm....35! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
....just bumping this up so that my fellow GODDESSES will not have to 'search' for it! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
...while yours truly is off to meet a friend (female!) for lunch! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
Feeling good - Hair color, cut, brow wax and tint today. The guys said I look much younger. They said I would probably get carded now when buying wine LOL.... I tried to explain that I don't look like this when I get up in the morning and that it took $200 worth of services to make this happen. Sorry, but they can't see the new undies...
May buy some new clothes this weekend too. I'm on a roll.
I bet this would really make some of the goddesses feel extra special. Can you imagine what it would mean to a cancer patient if she could have a new head of hair?
I spent 2 days in Tijuana, working with some future goddesses. We meet at a church and let them bathe, fix there hair (with lots of ribbons, bows, and girlie stuff), then have food and lots of fellowship.
We do computer classes, typing, English, home ec and health stuff. Me teaching English is real funny, because my spanish is not real great, but it is lots of fun.
Tijuana is much different because of the problems with the drug wars. There are hardly any Americans there, and lots of police and soldiers. They drive around in pickups with machine guns, picking up people off the streets for I couldn't figure out what. It was kind of intimidating.
I was REALLY glad to get back across the border.
Now today, its grocery shopping, laundry, and cleaning for me.
I have had the best weekend so far in a LONG time.
Yesterday I went and dinner the mommy goddess time with my boys and a potluck that I helped arranged. It's fun having the season starting soon. This will help me to keep busy in the early days of Plan B.
Then I went to a very close friends' house and she restyled my hair which looked very soft and nice.
Then I went to a business meeting where I felt like I could have a life and a dream separate from you know who and that possible I could do it myself.
I was a student goddess as I really looked into some internal behaviors of me and my part in the marriage and that helped alot. I felt less crazy over things.
This morning, I am heading out to a 41.00 brunch with a group of people have been participating in a weight loss program since November. The deal was we needed to have lost 15% of our body weight. It will cost 100.00 to participate, I lose so I don't get any money back, but I do get a brunch out of the deal. I probably lost about 10 more lbs, which isn't really great, but I prefer to look at my total of 85 3/4 and that is great.
Afterwards, I am coming home to be the mommy and domestic goddess.
I will take care of myself by maybe getting in exercise, going to the tanning place and going to an AA meeting.
My outfit, makeup, hair - old style, but I am treating myself to a blow dryer), all are check.
Believer what a nice thing to do. I know how that will make a difference in people's lives.
Cinder, if I had hair to give away I would in a heartbeat. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> There is no more finer giving of a gift that to give something of yourself to help a cancer patient.
Well, I didn't have a very goddessy day, but got a lot of cleaning done. I didn't realize a clean house could be so dirty. I really got into it and did all the windows, cleaned all of the curtains, carpets, the walls, the floors, and even the oven.
Believer.. yep, You got "CAUGHT UP INTO" cleaning.. is my slang expression for your day today..LOVE IT..lots of DAYS, I get "CAUGHT UP", too... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
For me, it's learning about balance and providing all of that as G-ds wants me to. Like getting into a routine and managing time to get everything in as you pace yourself.
Like I don't need to dust every week, I can do that every other week, and the other week and I can do something out.
Mimi if I dusted once every 6 months before I was doing good. Every other week is amazing. I'll work towards every week, but what I have learned to do is good for me today.
I feel like a Goddess today! A movie director just called and wants to cast me in his film as a singer in a band. I'll get to sing and act! He said he loved my headshot and that I looked "Luscious" and "Mysterious". It just made my whole week. I have an audition with his film company later this week.
Congratulations on your deal. We can say that we "knew you when" after you become a household name. Maybe you are already and we just don't know it. You aren't Jennifer Aniston are you?
Don't forget about your MB friends who would make good extras!!!
COOOOOL deal LA! Can I have your autograph now! I can be cool, and say I knew you before all the hub bub, like you would some indy rock band gone mainstream! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
UGH... so I tried wearing B.E. today... after about three hours my face started really feeling irratated, had to wash it all off. Still feels a bit tingly, guess I'll be saving some money.
Is there something out there like a liquid moisurizer that has a bit of color?
I know, I know... I think I saw that they have that at Macy's, but we only had an hour to do what we needed to... of course no time for mom to get a make over, maybe this weekend ;-)
UGH... so I tried wearing B.E. today... after about three hours my face started really feeling irratated, had to wash it all off. Still feels a bit tingly, guess I'll be saving some money.
Is there something out there like a liquid moisurizer that has a bit of color?
If you liked the Bare Minerals, I suggest you try Glo Minerals. I like it much better. It doesn't have the ingredient that causes the itching.
You can order samples on ebay for really cheap and find your color. I got the pressed minerals and like it better than the loose. Not as messy but works just the same. I love glo minerals.
I started using it about three weeks ago to tone up the area right under my jaw. And I am starting to see a difference. I just noticed about a month ago that my age was starting to show in my jaw line. GROSS!
But this seems to really be starting to firm it up. You just do the exercises twice a day. Takes just a few minutes.
I'll let you know in about three months if it works as good as plastic surgery. That's what Lisa Robertson claims on QVC is. She says she uses it faithfully and has a beautiful jawline.
I had this CONCEPT that jumped into my mind of it helping you open your mouth WIDER..I have NO IDEA how come a woman would want to have THAT capacity..no, not me, I have NO IDEA..LOL.. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />
Smiling does cause less wrinkles than frowning. Happy lines are not wrinkles.
I think you are a little young to remember Cab Calloway (heidi heidi heidi ho)... He must have been one of the original scat performers...but the dances he used to do.
I saw a video of him performing on a train with his jazz band doing those happy moves with his feet.
Sometimes I feel like getting up out of this desk and trying some of those moves out myself.
Wouldn't that just knock everyone in the office right out of their chairs! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Now this is an excellent video showing all of Calloways moves...watch it all the way through to the end because it's cool when he is performing at the Cotton Club.
I don't really like that kind of music very much, but I think scat and his dance moves are freaking awesome!
Okay, the ladies with the fans at the end was definitely lame.
An innocent version of the strip tease, or what? I don't know, but people seemed SO innocent back then. If Peita is reading on this thread, she'd probably agree.
I have a question for all you ladies. I've never been much of a girly girl. I'm really a tom boy. So I never really learned how to put on make up. I never really needed it before really except for maybe evening events.
What do you typically put on in a day? There are soooooo many products I have no clue. Like you know, when to use foundation, concealer, face powder.
Should I use eyeliner or just go with mascara. What abou eyeshadow, how do some people get their eyes looking so cool.
Is there any place someone can point me to for this stuff, because I seriously need help?
I have always been pretty good with skin care, but makeup... forgetaboutit.
Mimi recommends going to a make up counter at a department store...I think she likes the MAC counter.
I don't wear much makeup as a rule... just powder foundation (I use BE, but I am going to try Glo Minerals now), mascara, eye shadow, lip liner and gloss dipped in my bare minerals.
I have trouble with eye liner and brown liner, but when I do take the time to use them, I guess I look more polished.
It's so surprising all you girls that don't wear make up. Heck I started wearing make up at about 13 yo, and never have stopped. It's fun.
I'm more one who wears make up but wants to have a natural look, more so than made up.
I have been a tom boy most of my life; didn't wear makeup until recently, unless a special occassion arose.
I wear liquid foundation, but it's very light, some blush (or bronzer, depending on my mood), eyeliner sometimes, eyeshadow that compliments my blue-green eyes (many of the browns, pinks, golden colors), mascara, and tinted lip gloss. I watch shows like "What Not To Wear" for makeup and clothing tips.
Went shopping this weekend, and bought a cute grey sweater, of the SWING variety, and a geometric purple, grey and white shirt to go with. I bought two pairs of black shoes (girly wingtips and plain leather semi-pointed toe shoes); bought two pairs of SLACKS (camel colored, and dark blue) and some shirts and stuff. I forgot to buy a couple of new bras. That will be on my next trip that finances will allow.
BTW, Josie, I have watched many an OLD MOVIE with Cab Calloway scattin it up. If I tried those moves, I might hurt somebody. I also adore watching Gene Kelley dance--he's IS poetry in motion.
Go to a makeup counter in a MAJOR DEPARTMENT STORE in your area and they will do a makeover. Tell them that you are just starting and they will accomodate. I happen to like MAC but anyone of them will do.
JOSIE:
It's easy to apply eyeliner if you use BLACK EYE SHADOW and A BRUSH. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE what it does to my eyes. I've been cracking up all day at the vision of you getting out of your chair and dancing. That would be soooo NEAT!!
I'm a Goddess today. I went to the aesthetician and got a chemical peel. My skin is going to be soft as a baby's bottom in 5 days! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
This EXERCISE GODDESS walked around the track for almost 3 miles last night and after her AA meeting walked to the tanning place and then home, which was at 10pm. All by myself and not scared one bit.
I actually think I walked for at least 4 miles yesterday.
Zora....I wear light foundation (after moisturizer of course), blush, eyeshadow, gloss, and I cannot live without mascara.....I am fair skinned and blonde,,,, my lashes don't stand a chance.....oh...and I'm like Mimi...I use dark brown eyeshadow as eyeliner...a Q-tip does the job quite nicely.....
I am doing good today....I lost 2 more pounds...for a total of 37 lbs.....I am fitting into my size 6 pants....WHOO HOOO.... the only bad thing is that all the clothes I just bought as starting to become too big....
dang....I guess I'll have to go shopping again....
Today is the start of goddess weekend for me. This afternoon I got my hair colored and cut; then I bought myself a nice bottle of wine to have a glass with dinner. (I was planning to rent a pay-per-view movie but my cable is out right now <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />)
Tomorrow I am getting a manicure and a new perfume for spring!
Then Sunday I am going to Washington DC for a conference. Goddesses, I LOVE DC so I am excited to go on this trip! Will have a chance to meet up with some friends and go out for nice dinners.
so I decided against the tanning salon. I picked up some jergens moisurizer that adds a little bit of color slowly to your face/skin. I'm sure it has improved since I was a kid, that stuff stunck and made me orange. ick!
doesn't look like I'll make it to the mall for my make-up this weekend, winter storm warning in effect until sunday ;-( YUCK!!!
In this situation, I surrender all divinity to God! He let me walk away from that wreck. Under the care of the chiropractors and massage therapists at the office, I will be ok. The only bruise I have found is where my knee hit something and the bruise is smaller than a dime. I'm stiff and sore and my range of motion is reduced. My beautiful children were not with me. They are well and safe. My car, however, is toast! Burned, stale, moldy toast! I have gotta get another one.
Folks, pay attention when you drive! And, if you are new in town, be doubly careful. Poor fellow, he didn't know that the lane he was in always backs up at rush hour.
Well, today I went to the mall, got my pedicure and eyebrows done. Boy did I need that....and I bought a new belt, since none of my old one fit.
Tonight I am going to a Bday party for my cousins wife. Nobody in the family outside of my immediate family has seen me since dday. So, they will all be in for a shock when the see the new and improved, here-to-stay GODDESS Not....with my 37 lb. weight loss and some new clothes, not to mention I've kept up with my hair cuts/coloring, they will be quite wowwed tonight....it should be a big ego-boosting night for me....yeah.....
...from one GODDESS to another...you go GIRL! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
...in my part of the world...we are being hit by a snowstorm....wind....snow....and everything in between!
....I have lived here almost twenty years and I have never seen my yard this much full of....SNOW! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
....and here I am...posting to some 'friends'.... from my warm comfy quiet homey house....which I inhabit with two beautiful boys... also...BUSY....with their own...INTERESTS!
....all I can say.... heaven can't feel that much better than this! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
Goddess NOT, knock off their chairs tonight. Celebrate!!!
As for my wreck. I wanted to pay off some debts, go on a vacation, and do some home improvements. Should have an income tax refund that would have made most of that doable. Now, that refund is going to buy a car - along w/ the pittance I will get for my car.
Trading it in, I would expect about $875; private party sale, about $1650; dealer purchase, about $2500.
Consider, I am out the use of my car, the headache of dealing w/ the insurance, the medical expenses (princess of the chiropractor's office - that's me!), the time off from work for dr, the ordeal of determining what kind of car I want, the worry of what will I do if my new driver daughter wrecks the next one. Where will another car come from? I am not a happy woman.
But, the young man who hit me wasn't being careless or crazy. He just wasn't paying ENOUGH attention to the here-and-now only worrying about getting home 5 minutes sooner.
The insurance company may try to give you very little. That is where homework will pay off. I looked on traderonline and found cars similar to my son's, and copied the higher priced ones. The insurance offered him $1750. After a couple of weeks of negotiating, he settled for $10,000 - the price of a similar car and 5 times his medical expenses.
I second that I am glad you are ok Cinders. Be careful and take extra care of yourself.
This GODDESS, spent the day as DOMESTIC GODDESS, cleaning a emergency shelter apt so I can continue to make living amends for the damage I caused in my drug days.
And then I went home and cleaned almost the entire apt from top to bottom. I EVEN cleaned the two bathroom floors on my knees.
Then the HEALTHY GODDESS, went tanning and off to an AA meeting.
My clothes were ok, but the CAR GODDESS needs to get her act together. I putting it out for fear of embarrasment and then I will take care of it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
My partner is crime raved about this recipe when she made it for her last Bunco game. I thought I would share it. I am planning to make it tonight or this week.
Chicken from the old ladies of the park
Spray Pam or use olive oil on the pan
Lay 6 chicken breasts in the pan Put 1 slice of swiss cheese on top of each chicken breast Spread 2 cans of cream of chicken soup over top (undiluted-no milk) Sprinkle 1 box of Stove Top Stuffing mix over (dry) Melt 1 cube of butter and drizzle over top
I'm getting dressed, give me about15 minutes for GODDESS look, and then out the door ma'm. I'll check back in. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I take mine to ones where you just show up and the people working there drive it onto a carwashing machine..best way that I can explain it.. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />..doesn't cost that much...
I bought Goddess food today. Two Godiva Chocolate covered strawberries. Stupidly $$$, but so good. I treated myself. I ate them carefully and didn't waste any.
Outfit.... ok, a little "full" feeling because of you know what. For almost 4 years I didn't have one period, since I have lost my weight, I am totally consistent. Very weird. My friend says it is my body healing itself.
Apt.... kitchen [censored] and span, bathrooms, spotless. Bedroom, well I ran out of time.
This is a bummed goddess! Went to the chiropractor tonight. I know I am less than a week out from the wreck but I told him I was willing to work hard to get my range of motion back - that I wanted the body I had before the wreck. Now, I did have neck and spine issues before but I don't want them to be worse because some idiot messed up. He told me that might be doubtful and asked if I had an attorney. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> What do I not know?
I will swim, walk, physical therapy, and massage my way back if need be. I just don't want to lose ground.
What you don't know is that he probably has an atty or more that he works with closely. I would get a second opinion. See your internist and get a referral to PT. Or get an attorney.
OK, Queenie, I can figure out what a naturopathic sounds like it might be. What is it really? What is their training?
I have a massage therapist who works for my chiro and who knows the issues I have going on. Maybe I need to talk w/ her and talk about some energy work. That sounds so wierd to say but I had an energy experience one time that intrigues me to this day.
I do have an internist and I have an orthopaedist.
Well, my business associate who I have known for over 13 years is a naturopathic who deals with MANY woowoo remedies. She believes in both western and eastern ways and combining them for maximum benefit. She works with this biofeedback machine that works amazing wonders. When I used it I would put my kids and husband on and see a lot of results.
Allow the GODDESS YUCK to be honored for just a little while, then start praying on where G-d leads you. I don't want you to feel like I am pushing her on you, but if you ever want to investigate I would love for you to call her just for info.
My H many years ago tore a ligament in his knee. It wasn't the most severe one, but it was very severe. It took a couple of years, but eventually he went back to playing soccer and lacrosse and he didn't have surgery on it and it's as good as new or better. Come to think of it, that's when he started really twisting in his mind. Oh well. Not my deal...
6 skinless chicken thighs ¾ cup salsa, your choie of mild, medium or hot ¼ cup chunky peanut butter or almond butter 1 Tbsp low-sodium soy sauce 2 Tbsp. lime juice
1. Put chicken in slow cooker 2. In a bowl, mix remaining ingredients together, except cilantro and chopped peanuts 3. Cover and cook on low 8 – 9 hours, or until chicken is cooked through but not dry. 4. Skim off any fat. Remove chicken to a platter and serve topped with sauce. Sprinkle with peanuts and cilantro if you wish. 5. Serve over cooked rice.
4 skinless, boneless chicken breast halves, cubed 2 Tbsp. butter, melted 1 or 2 envelope(s) dry Italian dressing mix 8 oz. pkg. light cream cheese softened 10 ¾ oz can cream of chicken soup
1. Put chicken, melted butter and dressing mix in slow cooker. Stir together gently. 2. Cover and cook on Low 5 – 6 hours. 3. Stir in cream cheese and soup. Cover and cook on High 30 minutes or until heated through. 4. Serve over cooked rice or noodles
This is ABSOLUTELY ONE OF MY FAVORITE dessert recipes from the Food Network. It's unbelievable.
It's Not Your Mamma's Banana Pudding Recipe courtesy Paula Deen
2 bags cookies (recommended: Pepperidge Farm Chessmen cookies) 6 to 8 bananas, sliced 2 cups milk 1 (5-ounce) box instant French vanilla pudding 1 (8-ounce) package cream cheese, softened 1 (14-ounce) can sweetened condensed milk 1 (12-ounce) container frozen whipped topping thawed, or equal amount sweetened whipped cream
Line the bottom of a 13 by 9 by 2-inch dish with 1 bag of cookies and layer bananas on top.
In a bowl, combine the milk and pudding mix and blend well using a handheld electric mixer. Using another bowl, combine the cream cheese and condensed milk together and mix until smooth. Fold the whipped topping into the cream cheese mixture. Add the cream cheese mixture to the pudding mixture and stir until well blended. Pour the mixture over the cookies and bananas and cover with the remaining cookies.
Mimi, this one is for you. I remember around Thanksgiving time when I was first getting to know you, you were making potato salad I think and it sounded awesome. Here is a recipe for you that you might like. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Picnic Chicken
2 lbs or 4 large chicken thighs ¼ cup dill pickle relish ¼ cup Dijon mustard ¼ cup mayonnaise ½ cup chicken broth
1. Rinse chicken well. Pat dry. Place in slow cooker with the skin side up. 2. In a mixing bowl, stir together the relish, mustard, and mayonnaise. When well blended, stir in chicken broth. Mix well. 3. Pour sauce over chicken 4. Cover cooker and cook on Low 6 – 7 hours, or until chicken is tender but not dry or mushy.
YOU NEED TO SEE A PHYSICIAN ASAP!! AND an attorney but for your own PHYSICAL HEALTH moreso than anything else it is ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY for you to see your DOC..you will need to do so anyways in order to be referred to a PHYSICAL THERAPIST.
Queenie!!! Love the recipes. Keep 'em comin' girlfriend.
Of course I'll join you in the morning mirror ritual. We ARE worthy. We ARE Goddesses.....
Cinders, I'm also a knitter, and I've seen those knitted body parts. Someone doesn't have enough to do <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
I am considering it for a change. I have always done highlights in the past, but I really want a change. I'm not sure I'm sold on the fact that You can't deye your hair for a year after you try it.....
Are there any bad sad effects on your hair? What about the smell?
I used Henna on my hair many years ago and had wonderful results. I don't remember is I waited or not. It was a very long time ago. But I did like the color and it lasted for awhile.
I have since gone to the stronger version of coloring and am happy with those results.
I didn't notice the smell, but remember I have two teenage boys who play lacrosse. Talk about smells.
Back in January I think ChaiLover and I were talking about different themes as a way to bring some fun into our lives and begin to take care of ourselves in positive ways.
Mimi liked the idea so much she created this thread as a way of us becoming GODDESSES or those of us who are GODDESSES teaching others what we do in our lives that help us rise to the level or stay at the level.
For me it's a mindset of being someone who takes care of herself both physically, mentally, spiritually, and in recovery.
It's a thread where we share ideas of makeup, etc., hold ourselves accountable to living a certain way by no more sweats, not leaving the house without makeup or at the very least lipstick, etc.
Beauty tips, taking care of yourself tips, any positive tip about how you live your life, are improving your life and want to change things in life are welcome here.
Please join us.
What do you do for yourself in the morning when you wake up? How's your domestic skills? Is your car clean? Do you like pink? Do you wear fashion clothes.
Tell us about yourself.....
I would love and I am sure others would love to hear about you.
I am 36 and a mother of three small boys ages 4, 5, and 7. I have taught elementary school for ten years, but this year I am a stay at home mom. Sometimes (lots of the time) I think teaching is easier.
DH moved to SoCal from Oregon about two and a half years ago while I stayed there and worked/parented alone for 18 months. He was building a business here and I didn't want to move the family for a possibility...we joined him last May.
I keep a clean house. It is my DH top EN so I work hard at it. I keep a reasonable car, but I live in it with pick-up/drop-off. I make an effort to do my hair, put on make-up, and wear clean clothes daily. I never used to. I think being in SoCal, it seems like all the moms do it.
I am a tough woman. We lived on a farm in Oregon and I learned to take care of the goats and chickens, fell a tree with a chainsaw, shoot a 22, and start the generator when the power failed (we lived in the middle of nowhere). But I also love to be pampered. I love to have my nails done and when I'm feeling good about my body, I love to dress up. I have worked very hard to lose 30 pounds and have about 20 more to go.
I pride myself on being super-mom...always there, baking cookies, cleaning, laundry, dinner on the table, crafts for afterschool...but it's exhausting.
As it is...my four year old wants scissors, is hungry, and we are already five minutes late to pick up my seven year old from school. Argh...calgon, take me away!
For me, this thread is about loving myself, so that I can better love others; pretty simple, right? The next step is DOING it, and how you do it.
I have grown to like to shop, and am beginning to build a more feminine wardrobe. I have begun to wear makeup, and did some dieting. After I'm a bit stronger, it's back to the weight lifting for me. AS it gets warmer out, it's back into the pool, too. I can't wait!
Oh, BTW, I love that Paula Dean Nana puddin recipe. I watched that show a while back, and made that puddin' over and over and over again. I love the stuff. It's actually ligher than you would think; well, lighter TASTING than you'd think. It's FLUFFY. yummmmmm...
hicktownmommy, you sound like my kinda gal. I've always been a do it yerselfer, learning how to work on my car, and the mowers, and working on the house, drywalling, molding, painting, and all that jazz. I'm not afraid of hard work, but it's rough on my nails. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Oh, BTW, I love that Paula Dean Nana puddin recipe. I watched that show a while back, and made that puddin' over and over and over again. I love the stuff. It's actually ligher than you would think; well, lighter TASTING than you'd think. It's FLUFFY. yummmmmm...
I am glad you have tried it. I gave up sugar on D-day, I need to figure out how to make the recipe sugar free.
SL you put it into way better words than me. It's how we learn to love ourselves. Perfect!!!!!!
Oh, BTW, I love that Paula Dean Nana puddin recipe. I watched that show a while back, and made that puddin' over and over and over again. I love the stuff. It's actually ligher than you would think; well, lighter TASTING than you'd think. It's FLUFFY. yummmmmm...
I am glad you have tried it. I gave up sugar on D-day, I need to figure out how to make the recipe sugar free.
It was a part of my post infidelity Not-a-diet. First, I did the infidelity diet; then I did the infidelity gorging myself. I gained a good 20 pounds over the course of three years. I've lost that, but can stand to TIGHTEN things up a bit. That's my next task, after I really feel strong enough.
Have you worked with nonfat or neufchatel cheese, as well as using Splenda to sweeten. Also, the nonfat puddin works well enough. It's the COOKIES that will add the sugar for you, I suppose. Why not alter the recipe and use angel food cake instead of cookies. You may be able to get a similar flavor. I think they do make a lower fat version of the cookies too. ooo, ooo, you could also try using graham crackers, or the crumbs mixed with Splenda. YOu'll just have to do it by trial and error, I suppose. It depends on how much of a jonze you have for the pudding.
Actually there are shortbread sugar free cookies I was thinking about.
I just hadn't gotten around to thinking to heavily on it, until I posted the recipe yesterday and I remembered how much I loved it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Good ideas for converting. Thanks. I'll try it at my next function where I have to bring food, and I want to impress people. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
My mom used to make a similar recipe with vanilla wafers. I think it was really just vanilla wafers, bananas, and pudding. Yours sounds so much better. I have to try it.
HickTM, welcome to the Goddess thread. We're glad you are here. You sound like a true Goddess.
I was in Goddess mode today. Actually, I'm like Mimi - always dressed and in full make-up. It may be jeans, but I always get dressed. Back in the day, I used to wear only silk suits to work, but now that things have gone a bit more casual in the workplace, I'm more relaxed. Today had on a Ralph Lauren outfit - long skirt, turtleneck and boots. I never "let myself go" so to speak. In fact, one of WH's comments on dday was that he knew he could take me out and I would always look good. Didn't stop him from leaving for the bar ho though. sigh....
At home, usually jeans because I like to do things around the house - paint, sew, decorate, etc. I like to do remodeling stuff too, but hate to do that kind of stuff alone. More fun when you do it with someone.
No sweats though.
My dog is a Goddess too. She has a beautiful bright pink collar on her little black and white body. Although she is not a Goddess when she has gas from her special food. ARGH! Have to work with her on that.....This week has been pretty bad.
I'm always looking for sweet things that aren't guilt-ridden with calories. My favorite right now is frozen blueberries with fat free cool whip. Yours sounds better.
What do I do to feel like a girly girl? Sounds evil, but I like to get a full body wax and wear sexy underwear! I know nobody but DH will ever know that I do, but that's part of why it's just for me...nobody else needs to know. It just makes me feel attractive.
Also, I always pay the big bucks for a cut and color...I go to a salon where they give you a glass of wine while you wait (or a couple of glasses if you're there for a brazilian ;-)
Problem now is money. DH's company is always really slow December/January and we're just now starting to recover so money's tight.
Well, fellow goddesses, I wore makeup to work today and a new designer jacket with my skinniest pants, pearls and heels.
We had our weekly production meeting first thing, and EVERYONE noticed. YIKES!!!!! And all of the guys asked me if I had a job interview today!!!!!
They all chuckled and laughed and got quite excited by the change. Even my boss made a comment and he never notices anything. So it was a real success!
[color:"green"]THIS IS NOT GOOD!!!!!!!!!!![/color]
[color:"RED"]THE INSURANCE COMPANY FOR THE MAN WHO HIT MY CAR JUST CALLED. THEY CAN'T FIND THE CAR. IT IS NOT AT THE TOW-IN LOT AND THE COMPANY THAT USUALLY PICKS UP VEHICLES FOR THEM DIDN'T PICK IT UP!!!!!!!!
What I do to be a Goddess..... I do wear makeup every day, unless my skin tells me it needs a break. I try to remember a nice scent. I burn candles and incense in the bedroom at the "appropriate" times. I exercise at a Goddess-in-training women's fitness center 4-7 hours a week, where all the goddesses dress up to exercise, we do sexy routines, and the scents and atmosphere are divine! I wear the nice stuff to bed. I try to smile and reach out more than is natural for me. I am eating good food and buying nice clothes.
They found my car - still on the towing company's lot. A silver car of the same make had been moved instead. They sent someone out to walk the lot and there it was. IDGITS! Back and forth between two insurance companies and two salvagers......YUCK!!!!
Talked to telephone company today. They can remove $200 in charges w/in the next week!
Good morning Goddesses! After recovering from surgery and NOT being so diligent in my Goddess at home appearance, Goddess preparation began again this week and going back to work.
Without being able to exercise the last few weeks I was very thankful I can still fit into my skinner pants <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> that IMO look 'hot'!
Prepared for the outside world...hair done, clothes looking good, heels (not f-me heels, but heels none the less), makeup on. Ran into a friend I hadn't seen in awhile who asks, something is different about you...hummmm...what is it?!(Maybe a tad more confidence in looking nice?!) You look GREAT! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Thanks Goddesses for all the support and kick in the butt to get with IT!
Hope the outtage didn't take anymore of your sanity than you'd like to lose!
I dyed my hair AGAIN. I'm now back to brunnette, with auburn undertones. It looks GRRRRRREAT! Once springtime hits, and I can get some sun, it'll look even better against a light bronze palor.
I've been doing lots of cooking. I've instituted Seafood Sunday around this house, so I made Seafood Newburg with Asparagus and Sourdough bread for Easter supper. It was delish!
Next up is starting some gardening and, after getting the okay from my doc tomorrow (hopefully), incorporating some light weights and a new exercise program. I love Spring!
Aren't we all glad to be back??? I have had a very long and rough time of it while the boards were down, but I DID NOT ignore my inner GODDESS self. Here's a list of things that I did...
1. WS took me "guilt" shopping....got a whole mess of new clothes. I found out that I am now in a size 4. woo hoo for me
2. Lost 4 more lbs. I have now lost 41 lbs. since Dday. I am one pound away from my goal weight. I have lost 4 pants sizes. Unfortunately, I also went down from a 38 c cup, to a 34 A/B cup. Oh well, can't win them all....
3. Got my hair done. Cut, colored and a deep-conditioning treatment. I love it.....
4. Got my waxing done...yeah..
5. still working on my GODDESS abode.
So, there you go ladies....considering how crazy everything has been for me, I think I accomplished a lot....
Saw orthopedist at 7:30 Friday. Nothing significantly changed structurally but he does not like my decreased range of motion. See him again in 2 months after continuing w/ PT.
Got a massage about 10:30 Friday.
Looked at cars at 6 places Friday. Only bothered to start one. Do you know how hard it is to find a used midsized or full sized sedan that has not been smoked in and that costs under $6K?
Hennaed my hair Friday night....it actually seems a tad lighter looking and the gray in it is slightly golden - could be the lemon juice and chamomile tea in it or the saffron. Interesting change.
See the PT twice next week.
See the chiropractor once next week.
Went to Atlanta Saturday morning. Did the Aquarium, the High Museum of Art, and the Zoo. It snowed while we were at the elephant exhibit today. Crazy!
I got my hair done. Trimmed & colored. And now I have an appt with a dermatologist. My skin is really messed up. And I think I've lost more weight. My clothes are looser. Trying to be positive and feel good.
Well ladies, I got a new do today. It kinda hurt getting. My stylist basically gave me a haircut with the long spikey 80s ends on it. Something I always wanted, but my mom wouldn't let me get it cut like that back then?
The way he cuts, it, he kind of shreds the ends of the hair away, so it pulls your scalp. Ouch!
Tomorrow I go to the ENT. Still can't hear much w/ left ear and what I do hear is muffled and tinny. It doesn't feel like right ear. In fact, it still feels like there is fluid in there though it isn't draining. And, if you touch it, it seems numb to the touch.
I don't know if the outer ear's lack of sensation is related to the ear malfunction or to the car wreck.
Well, well, well. I left town 5 weeks ago today, and came home 3 weeks ago tomorrow. The following day I tried to review MB and it was down! Oh well, I thought, I'll get other stuff done and then catch up. That was almost 2 weeks ago!! Now I sure feel lost!
I did not look like a Goddess while I was gone but did I ever feel like one!!
I went to help my MIL who has already been in the hospital 3 times this year. Did anyone see Oprah yesterday? My MIL has that same problem but to a lesser degree (only because she hasn't been driving for awhile now, but plans to start again soon). She hoards stuff, buys because it's a good deal etc. She did so good at getting rid of stuff! So many of the things she said about her habits and mess were just what the lady on Oprah said. I was there for 1 day short of 3 weeks and what a difference we made! So, like I said, I felt like a Goddess, but in my work clothes I didn't look like one! Hearing her words at the end made it all worthwhile! "The house feels lighter" is what she told me!
I am barely getting back to normal around here. I haven't put make-up on since I left and I'm wearing grubby clothes again around the house. Need to adjust my attitude again. Somehow I feel like it is ok to wear this stuff when it's "just us" around the house. Only wore sweats once though!
Good to be back. I haven't read the whole thread to get caught up but I sure hope all is well! Believer, good job on the dress up for work! Wow.
Winter is fading and spring is incoming....can't wait! I may try to dig my way to the greenhouse today. We still have a foot or more of snow on the flat and much more in the drifts and piles. It will be awhile but hey, it will be worth it! The temps are coming up (40+ in the day and anywhere from 0 to 30 at night.) Imagine the shock coming home from Arizona! It can be bad to leave town in the winter and come back to this. The rest of the world is warmer than us. But with my new Goddess attitude it wasn't near as bad as it has been in years past!
I am sorry to rain on this parade but why is it that we have to "doll" ourselves up. Why can't we just look good without being all "dolled" up.
I tell my hubby that he looks good even if he is in the ugliest clothes i have ever seen.
I just have never liked the fact that we women are supposed to go to such lengths to "look good".
I am not a good house keeper nor do i keep my car clean. I am not good at decorating or doing my hair (I have had the same hair style my whole life). I do not cook gourmet meals i cook what my family likes (even though it is the pretty much the same menu every week) and they all seem very happy with it. I bite my nails so i do not polish them. I do at least paint my toenails in the summer time.
But i am a GREAT mother and i NEVER miss an opportunity to spend time with my kids no matter how i look or what my house looks like. I figure once my kids are gone then it is my time.
Again sorry to be so negative i just don't like being a 'girlie girl" at all.
Well i think we could always use a confidence boost. I know i certainly could, seeing as i do not have much self confidence.
I guess in my mind "dolling" myself up does not raise my self confidence because i do not feel like myself. I feel fake when i am all dolled up. Now don't get me wrong, when i go out with my hubby i like to look nice of course. And i have to dress up for work and i wear my makeup (under eye concealer, blush, and mascara) pretty much everyday. I am just totally not a "girlie girl" in any way.
Like i said i do not decorate, i have ABSOLUTELY nothing on any of the walls in my house. I do not have knick knacks, none of my things match, i do not have matching bed clothes even. I sometimes think i should have been a man LOL because i for the most part can not stand "girlie" things. I HATE to talk on the phone, i really just am not "girlie" at all and i am just fine with that.
Well i think we could always use a confidence boost. I know i certainly could, seeing as i do not have much self confidence.
So WHY are you ACCEPTING of this?
WHY don't you want to WORK on this?
Why are you assuming that ONLY WOMEN love to DECORATE?
I have lots of questions to ask you, Still.
You seem to make lots of judgments and assumptions.
My sons, very masculine, LOVE GQ MAGAZINE. Heard of that? It's the MALE EQUIVALENT OF VOGUE...in high school, they wanted their TIMs (shoes) to "Match" their shirts...ok, they are MY SONS...
How can you be a WOMAN and not be "girlie" at all?
Are you "boyie"????
Your H is attracted to you as A WOMAN..I would HOPE...
I'm not buying this about you...
I'm not ever "DOLLED UP" btw...
What in the HECK is "DOLLED UP", Still?
We are saying to CELEBRATE your WOMANHOOD to the MAX...
I am not sure how to respond to this.
I wear a size 3 and have since i graduated from High school over 25 years ago (except after D-Day i was on the infidelity diet even though i did not need it). I dress in "girlie" clothes even on the weekends (since i have to dress up for work) because i am so thin i feel like i look like a boy if i don't.
I am tall so i have never worn heels because it makes me feel too tall plus i have really big feet.
I do not know for sure if my husband is attracted to me as a WOMAN that is part of my not being able to get over it issues i think. In the begining of our relationship he told me a couple of things that makes me think he does not find me very attractive.
And to me "dolled up" is in really nice clothes and heels and make up and a matching purse etc. Heck i have one purse that i carry until it falls apart and then i buy a new one. I have one pair of tennis shoes and one pair of dress shoes (different colors but only one pair of each color black, brown and navy), i think i only own one dress and the last time it was on my body was my husbands mother funeral.
I am fine with my not being "girlie" i just don't go for all the "girlie" stuff, i don't really like it and find it a waste of MY time. But to each his own.
Well i think we could always use a confidence boost. I know i certainly could, seeing as i do not have much self confidence.
So WHY are you ACCEPTING of this?
WHY don't you want to WORK on this?
Why are you assuming that ONLY WOMEN love to DECORATE?
I have lots of questions to ask you, Still.
You seem to make lots of judgments and assumptions.
My sons, very masculine, LOVE GQ MAGAZINE. Heard of that? It's the MALE EQUIVALENT OF VOGUE...in high school, they wanted their TIMs (shoes) to "Match" their shirts...ok, they are MY SONS...
I am not assuming that only woman like to decorate. I am assuming that MOST women like to decorate and i do not. Heck i really do not like most things that are considered "girlie". I never have even when i was younger.
And i guess i don't want to work on it because i am okay with it. I know who i am and i know that on the inside (not so sure since the affair) i am beautiful so i do not care about the other stuff.
My son is very much into SHOES himself.
Also add to that reading magazines so while i have heard of both GQ and Vogue i have not ever read any of them. I read forensics books and that is pretty much the extent of it.
Maybe I'm totally WRONG, Still, and FORGIVE me if I am...
You say you're OK..but are you, really?
Why settle for MEDIOCRITY in life?
I'M SHOOTING FOR THE STARS!
Because like i said (until the STUPID AFFAIR) i felt beautiful on the inside so i did not care about my outer appearance. And i do not have any outstanding features besides my long legs (and by golly i have gotten plenty of compliments on them).
And i still would rather just be pretty on the inside and not worry about the outside. I need LOTS of work for the inside these day though.
What's WRONG with being PRETTY on the INSIDE and OUT?
That's what I mean about MEDIOCRITY...Just being PRETTY on the INSIDE is just HALF of it....
And PRETTY on the OUTSIDE is NOT equivalent with "DOLLED UP", BTW...
I'm advocating LIVING A BEAUTIFUL LIFE..which would include BEAUTIFUL SCENERY on your WALLS...
Sorry Mimi, i have two sisters (one is 20 years older and the other one is 18 years older) who have been trying my whole life to make me more "girlie" i am just not interested.
I think there is a misconception that we ladies are gettin dolled up solely to entice our men, or for some petty competition.
NOT SO, People, NOT SO!
I do my hair and dress nicely, started doing more makeup, lose weight, exercise, do things aroud the house, garden, hang out with my girls ALL primarily because I feel good when I do. It doesn't matter who else sees me--*I* see me. I matter.
If a natural consequence of my outward appearance being more spiffy is that more attention is drawn toward me, so be it. If not, I'm A OK with that, too. It's like Mary J. Blige sings..
"So I like what I see when I'm looking at me when I'm walkin past the mirror"
Still, nobody can change your inner beauty except YOU. Your worth lies solely with you. Part of the collateral damage from these affairs is that you doubt what you see, what you feel, what you have believed in.
I learned that I need to care more about me; to tend to my needs first.
What makes someone more Goddesslike is taking the time to figure out what it IS that YOU love, that makes you feel strong, confident and feminine. It could be makeup or woodworking, gardening or digging. Whatever. I feel best when I'm cleaning and creating, either in the garden or in my home. I like digging into the soil, getting dirty, meanwhile I'm creating something beautiful that I can enjoy day in and day out.
It's not all makeup and mirrors, but it's not a bad place to start, either. I once stood and looked CLOSELY at my face for a solid five minutes, in the mirror--no makeup, just me and my reflection.
What do you love to do Still? What makes you feel like dancin?
I think there is a misconception that we ladies are gettin dolled up solely to entice our men, or for some petty competition.
NOT SO, People, NOT SO!
I do my hair and dress nicely, started doing more makeup, lose weight, exercise, do things aroud the house, garden, hang out with my girls ALL primarily because I feel good when I do. It doesn't matter who else sees me--*I* see me. I matter.
If a natural consequence of my outward appearance being more spiffy is that more attention is drawn toward me, so be it. If not, I'm A OK with that, too. It's like Mary J. Blige sings..
"So I like what I see when I'm looking at me when I'm walkin past the mirror"
Still, nobody can change your inner beauty except YOU. Your worth lies solely with you. Part of the collateral damage from these affairs is that you doubt what you see, what you feel, what you have believed in.
I learned that I need to care more about me; to tend to my needs first.
What makes someone more Goddesslike is taking the time to figure out what it IS that YOU love, that makes you feel strong, confident and feminine. It could be makeup or woodworking, gardening or digging. Whatever. I feel best when I'm cleaning and creating, either in the garden or in my home. I like digging into the soil, getting dirty, meanwhile I'm creating something beautiful that I can enjoy day in and day out.
It's not all makeup and mirrors, but it's not a bad place to start, either. I once stood and looked CLOSELY at my face for a solid five minutes, in the mirror--no makeup, just me and my reflection.
What do you love to do Still? What makes you feel like dancin?
I am not trying to say that you are dressing up or whatever to impress anyone. I just don't get it is all.
The ONLY thing that i love to do is be with my kids. I do not do anything outside of work except be a mom and that is what brings me joy.
I feel strong and confident at my job and being a mother, other than that i do not feel confident about anything.
I'm encouraging you to LOVE your WHOLE SELF..INSIDE AND OUT...
Does anyone? Don't we all look in the mirror and wish we could change something about ourselves?
I am not saying that i don't love myself inside and out because i do. I am not happy with the some of the things about me but i love myself. And i LOVE my kids. Nothing in life is more important to me than they are and this stupid affair stuff has even had an effect on that.
I guess i just need to but out of all of you GODDESSES godessness because it just is not for me. I like to read all of your stories though they make me laugh.
I think it's important to look for what YOU like, not including the kids in that equation. Something just for you. When we focus solely on the kids, I think we lose parts of ourselves, parts that certainly existed before they ever came along.
You've been in this marriage for a long time, and may have lost yourself to it. Working on the inside could bring you back to the surface.
I just wonder what SC will do when the kids fly the coop. Is there anything you've always wanted to try?
I think it's important to look for what YOU like, not including the kids in that equation. Something just for you. When we focus solely on the kids, I think we lose parts of ourselves, parts that certainly existed before they ever came along.
You've been in this marriage for a long time, and may have lost yourself to it. Working on the inside could bring you back to the surface.
I just wonder what SC will do when the kids fly the coop. Is there anything you've always wanted to try?
Well since the empty nest is just around the corner (my youngest is almost 17) i wonder that myself. I can't really think of anything that i am just dying to do. I don't think i have lost myself because as i said i have been this way for as long as i can remember (maybe i am wrong).
I really do not feel like i have missed out on anything. I love my kids and have had many wonderful memories with them that i would not change for the world.
I really am a pretty boring person. I go to work, go home, take care of my kids, go to bed and start all over the next day. Heck maybe that is why my H had an affair to begin with.
I really am a pretty boring person. I go to work, go home, take care of my kids, go to bed and start all over the next day. Heck maybe that is why my H had an affair to begin with.
GODDESS STILL:
This is NOT an ACCEPTABLE way to describe yourself..
STILL... we are PROCLAIMING THAT YOU ARE A GODDESS WHETHER YOU WANT TO BE OR NOT...
STILL..you can't get out of being a GODDESS...
A GODDESS..
loves being a woman...
loves her children...
loves being herself...
AND MORE...
I'm more concerned about you NOT surrounding yourself with BEAUTY than what you are calling being "DOLLED UP"...
Why not buy you some NATURE SCENES and hang up those pictures in your house?
The MOOD QUOTIENT OF YOU AND YOUR FAMILY WILL INCREASE IMMENSELY...
Why hold yourself back from being the best YOU..that YOU can be...
Why CHOOSE to LIMIT yourself..when life holds so many different OPTIONS for you...
BEING A GODDESS IS LOVING YOURSELF..WHO YOU ARE AND WHO YOU WANT TO BE AS A WOMAN...in ALL ASPECTS of WOMANHOOD...
Well for one thing to me my plain walls are BEAUTIFUL. Less i have to worry about. Also i would not even know what i would want to put on my walls. I like my plainess thank you. I just do not feel it is a necessay thing for ME.
Before my husaband's affair i was EXTREMELY happy, life was GREAT to me.
I just need to get over the stupid thing and maybe i will be happy again.
But to me that is on the inside not the outside. I truly do not care about how i look or how my house looks only that i am a good person. That is all i care about.
I am not sure why i posted here today. I ALWAYS read the goddess posts and they make me laugh at myself because i am so ungoddess like. It has always been something that everyone in my family says stuff about. They can not believe that as "girlie" as ALL the other women in my family are i have no "girlie" tendencies at all.
And i have not ever felt sexy. I wear sexy nighties when the time calls for it but like i said before i have no outstanding features, i have ABSOLUTELY no breasts to speak of and i just do not feel like i am a sexy person.
Mimi, To do quotes, hit the " symbol in the Post window.
SC, I completely get not needing to dress up or do your hair and all that jazz as something that may not float your boat. My concern is that you don't seem to have ANY personal needs. I think being with my son is one of the best things in the world, but I am also a parent, teaching him the skills he will need to survive WITHOUT me someday; to thrive on his own.
I am in no way saying that mothering and being a good wife does not satisfy many women. I was very happy being a wife and mother. I liked to take care of my family. I also enjoyed exercise, and gardening, and music and friends and work, etc. Now, I have added a new found love for clothes, jewelry, and makeup. I've always liked to cook, bake, and entertain. I'm really just curious.
Did you READ about the day that I tried going to the grocery store with NO MAKEUP..I mean NOTHING at all...not even CONCEALER...
OH MY GOD!!
Last night, I ventured to the drugstore like that...wasn't too bad...
I drove past WALMART though..
I'd rather pay a higher price than to go through that TRAUMA..
(MY YIKES ICON IS GONE, TOO...YUCK)
This is way too funny. I have a niece that takes forever to get ready just to go to the store and i get so aggravated at her. I will get out of the bed, put my shoes on and go to the store without even brushing my hair (I do at least brush my teeth) or washing my face.
SC...just to let you know...there are a lot of people out there that find the simple "ungoddess like" women the most attractive. Personally, I am attracted to a woman...not the make up and paint that can transform her into something she doesn't truly resemble.
IMHO, the bottom line is being happy with who you really are.
MEDC (now slinking away from the silliness of it all).
Did you ever think how many potential friends you may have lost by going to the store that way?
When FIRST meeting you, I would only be able to SEE the OUTSIDE!
I RUN from people in stores who do not BRUSH their HAIR.
Sorry, I don't want to OFFEND you, STILL..
But that kinda stuff DISGUSTS ME...
But I guess you might consider me DISGUSTING..but I assure you, I DON'T LOOK DOLLED UP..you just can't see all my DARK CIRCLES around my eyes...YUCK...
Mimi, To do quotes, hit the " symbol in the Post window.
SC, I completely get not needing to dress up or do your hair and all that jazz as something that may not float your boat. My concern is that you don't seem to have ANY personal needs. I think being with my son is one of the best things in the world, but I am also a parent, teaching him the skills he will need to survive WITHOUT me someday; to thrive on his own.
I am in no way saying that mothering and being a good wife does not satisfy many women. I was very happy being a wife and mother. I liked to take care of my family. I also enjoyed exercise, and gardening, and music and friends and work, etc. Now, I have added a new found love for clothes, jewelry, and makeup. I've always liked to cook, bake, and entertain. I'm really just curious.
I truly do not have any outside activities at all. My sons sporting events and my daughters acedemic things at school i attend everyone of them i have never missed anything of my kids. I do not hang out with friends (heck i really do not even have friends, i talk to my smoking buddies here at work but only at work and i talk to my family on occasion which is HUGE there are 68 of us last count with just my immediate family).
Again, we don't do all this FOR MEN. This is about women empowering themselves, in whatever form that takes. Your last comment about this silliness seemed a little unnecessary, and rude.
I'm not in this looking for some man. I'm looking for me. If a man doesn't like a woman with makeup on (and we're talking a natural glow here, not hookerville) then he's not for me, and I'm not for him. That's cool and A OK with me.
Now, as far as asking SC about what floats her boat, sans kids and husband, it's a very valid point. I'm asking about what makes HER happy. It doesn't have to be makeup, and it doesn't have to be geared toward her husband.
It could be volunteering, as Believer does, who BTW, just recently delved into the world of makeup. It could be gardening, woodworking, car restoration, biking, whatever. I'm interested in HER.
AND it could simply be family. I get that too. Mine has dwindled a great deal in the past 9 years, from deaths and addiction, but I still love my family dearly and put them first.
SL, I didn't suggest it was done for men??? Did I? I actually agree with all of your post. The "silliness" comment was not offered to offend...I just happen to be a man that finds some of the girly girl stuff silly. I was trying to identify with SC.
IMHO, the bottom line is being happy with who you really are.
Yes, we are interested in HER..and arguments start by calling this SILLY..and I don't want to have discussions with MEDC at all ever again in my life..PERIOD...
This is the last thing that I plan to ever say to you...
It seems as though i have baffled you all. I really and truly do not do ANYTHING "girlie". I do not sew or bake or decorate or garden (heck i do not have a green thumb at all i kill everything) or do crafts or hair or make-up or going out with the girls or i don't know i could go on forever.
I am not offended by "girlie" things it is just not for me. I am going to be so up [censored] creek when my kids leave home (even though i have told them none of them are allowed to leave LOL)
I just happen to be a man that finds some of the girly girl stuff silly. I was trying to identify with SC.
Well, when you become a girl, we'll discuss it. As it stands, I believe you are a man, and I don't expect you to find it all that interesting, but still think it rude to call what many find important 'silly'. Seems a little judgmental to me. Judge away if you wish though, no skin off my back.
I AM identifying with SC. I cannot say that rolling out of bed, hair akembo, is a great look for anybody. I don't find it wholly necessary, in MY life to put makeup on to run out to the drugstore, but I have great skin, too, and am DARN lucky for it. My sister, however, has the dark eye circles from the fifth circle of h3ll, and would NEVER leave the house without concealer on. I never got it, when I was younger, because I had no experience having dark circles. Now that I'm a bit older, and things aren't as perky and bright as they once were, I CAN identify with my sister.
Outward appearance, IMO, is important. You are telling the world how you feel about yourself. When I was down, I didn't much give a hoot about my appearance. My soul was hurting, so my appearance took a back seat. I still made efforts that satisfied ME, even at my lowest. Now that I'm recovering, I find it important to show how I feel on the inside TO the outside world.
That's just how I roll. It's not for everybody.
As for SC, I can believe that family takes a higher place in her life than anything else, but I think brushing your hair is kinda important, unless the house is on fire, OR your hair looks okey dokey without it, which could be true, in her case.
As for SC, I can believe that family takes a higher place in her life than anything else, but I think brushing your hair is kinda important, unless the house is on fire, OR your hair looks okey dokey without it, which could be true, in her case.
Well actually my hair doesn't look too bad when i roll out of bed. But i do have the dark circles, it is just something i have never cared about and i don't think i am going to start now but who knows ANYTHING is possible.
I wanted you to know a thing or two about this goddess. Not all I do is considered GIRLY.
I work on my car, I fix the mower, mow the lawn, do drywall work, paint, dig up stuff, I enjoy playing with earth worms, pillow fights, swimming, playing tag, listening to music (by male and female artist, no less). I enjoy scientific literature, reading of all kinds, and so on.
I dislike crafting, needlework of all kinds, scrapbooking, etc. Not my thing.
It's not all about primping and preening. It's about feeding your soul. What feeds your soul? Right now, it's your children. You may not be screwed, you may just have to shift geers after they have gone. Life doesn't end when the children leave, so I've heard.
I wanted you to know a thing or two about this goddess. Not all I do is considered GIRLY.
I work on my car, I fix the mower, mow the lawn, do drywall work, paint, dig up stuff, I enjoy playing with earth worms, pillow fights, swimming, playing tag, listening to music (by male and female artist, no less). I enjoy scientific literature, reading of all kinds, and so on.
I dislike crafting, needlework of all kinds, scrapbooking, etc. Not my thing.
It's not all about primping and preening. It's about feeding your soul. What feeds your soul? Right now, it's your children. You may not be screwed, you may just have to shift geers after they have gone. Life doesn't end when the children leave, so I've heard.
What feeds my soul is my kids and nothing more. I do not do ANYTHING else. I am wrapped up in their lives and do NOTHING for myself. Which is not necessarily a bad thing but i do worry about what i am going to do when they leave.
I really do not enjoy any of the things you mentioned above either. I truly go to work, come home, take care of my family, watch a little TV, go to bed, get up the next morning and do it all over again.
Now doing things with my kids is a different story. We DO things together all the time. I enjoy being outside so we go frisbee golfing and camping alot in the summer (once again though i don't brush my hair or even put on my make-up when we are camping).
SC, I think you are touching on what I'm saying. Right now, you dive into family with reckless abandon. You DO activities. These are things YOU choose to do to feel good about YOU.
Frisbee golf being one of them. Doing things as a family can be very fulfilling and uplifting. I think you'll cross the bridge of what you will do next when you come to it.
SC, I think you are touching on what I'm saying. Right now, you dive into family with reckless abandon. You DO activities. These are things YOU choose to do to feel good about YOU.
Frisbee golf being one of them. Doing things as a family can be very fulfilling and uplifting. I think you'll cross the bridge of what you will do next when you come to it.
SC, I think you are touching on what I'm saying. Right now, you dive into family with reckless abandon. You DO activities. These are things YOU choose to do to feel good about YOU.
Frisbee golf being one of them. Doing things as a family can be very fulfilling and uplifting. I think you'll cross the bridge of what you will do next when you come to it.
Well then by golly i guess i am a goddess too LOL
I've been telling you this ALL MORNING...that YOU ARE A GODDESS!!
Why did I ask if you are IN RECOVERY? It's important to meet your H's need for PHYSICAL ATTRACTION. If HE finds you to be PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE, that's ALL that matters...
SC, I think you are touching on what I'm saying. Right now, you dive into family with reckless abandon. You DO activities. These are things YOU choose to do to feel good about YOU.
Frisbee golf being one of them. Doing things as a family can be very fulfilling and uplifting. I think you'll cross the bridge of what you will do next when you come to it.
Well then by golly i guess i am a goddess too LOL
I've been telling you this ALL MORNING...that YOU ARE A GODDESS!!
Why did I ask if you are IN RECOVERY? It's important to meet your H's need for PHYSICAL ATTRACTION. If HE finds you to be PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE, that's ALL that matters...
I do not by any means think i am ugly, but i am certainly not attractive. And since i don't think my husband EVER found me physically attractive then i don't worry about it.
I was REALLY tired today...but for reasonably good reasons. DH and I talked until late. Then I went to bed and when he joined me a couple hours later, he was in a feisty mood (something we haven't done a lot lately) so we shared a little *ahem*. Then about the time I fell back to sleep, our 4 year old joined us. He kept kicking me but I finally fell asleep. Then the 5 year old woke up (wet his bed) and he wanted me to sleep with him. I did for a little bit and then ended up on the couch until the alarm went off way too early.
I did do my hair and got dressed in reasonably nice clothes (for a SAHM), but no make-up. Just too tired to care. I'd put it on for the evening when DH gets home, but I'm ready to crawl in bed already so it seems a waste.
On a POSITIVE NOTE, it WARMS MY HEART to be a witness to all the TREMENDOUS PERSONAL GROWTH which has occurred among the women on this FORUM.
HOW REFRESHING and AFFIRMING!
The folks I personally know to COMMEND are BUGSY, SILENT LUCIDITY, Lil SIS, QUEENIE, SEXY MAMA BEAR, STRIVIN aka RIN, NOT2 and the up and coming SERENITY SOON...
why thank you very much! I'm working on it! My fingers are on the mend and I'll have nicely painted nails in about a week. I'm trying to get an appointment to have the mop ontop of my shoulders dealt with!-took care of the dark roots this week ;-) Not easy gettin' an appointment around here! And I'm thinking of treating myself to a new outfit when WH takes the kids for the afternoon on Saturday!!
"And since i don't think my husband EVER found me physically attractive then i don't worry about it."
OK. I don't care what you say, Still! I think this is BULLCRAP! Ask him what he finds PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE about you???
Pretty please....
I betcha you will be PLEASANTLY SURPRISED!!
Actually after he said those hurtful things to me in the beginning of our relationship and i told him how hurtful they were to me he then started telling me that i looked GREAT all the time. Who knows what he really thinks.
But my goodness Mimi it's not a big deal to me. I mean he married me and has been married to me for almost 25 years so he obviously loves me for some reason maybe physical attractiveness isn't one of his top ENs.
Just to make you happy though (since you are Queen Goddess) i will ask him and see what he says
There are days when I'm not feelin' it, y'know, but it has nothing to do with whats inside me; it's the storm brewing outside myself; one which I know must be riddin' out. No choice in that matter, and that's okay with me. It can pull my spirits down, for sure, but I know I'll be back on high again, regardless. Once the storm surge quells, I feel stronger for having made it thru, and learned something valuable along the way.
On a POSITIVE NOTE, it WARMS MY HEART to be a witness to all the TREMENDOUS PERSONAL GROWTH which has occurred among the women on this FORUM.
HOW REFRESHING and AFFIRMING!
The folks I personally know to COMMEND are BUGSY, SILENT LUCIDITY, Lil SIS, QUEENIE, SEXY MAMA BEAR, STRIVIN aka RIN, NOT2 and the up and coming SERENITY SOON...
Well my hubby is not working today so he came to take me to lunch and i asked him what he found attractive about me.
He said "everything" and that is what i figured he would say. I know that it is a DJ but i do not believe he really finds me physically attractive but like i said that is okay.
SC, I think your self esteem needs some work. Perhaps he does find you completely attractive. But again, YOU need to find things about you that you really love and others will follow suit.
I really am okay with myself all of you (i really really am).
I have never in my life been one of those girls that guys "take a second look" at but like i said i am a good person and most people who know me would tell you the same thing.
I am more worried about my internal beauty since my husband's affair. I unfortunately have seemed to let it eat at me and have become a different person that i do not like as much as the person i used to be (which is where MY beauty lies). That is what i am struggling with right now.
I wish more people would know that I am a GOOD PERSON and sometimes I HATE it that GUYS look at me..
I feel like they are DISRESPECTING their wives...
I struggle with just the opposite...
I think my H has ALWAYS found me to be PHYSICALLY/SEXUALLY ATTRACTIVE..
I wish he had been more ATTRACTED to my GOODNESS..even now...
The OW is less PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE than I am...
He was ATTRACTED by how she treated him and made him feel about himself...
I have FUN with the FABULOCITY stuff..I ENJOY that kind of thing...just like you ENJOY CAMPING...
Well my FWH told me that the OW is so beautiful that everyone in the office was after her (and this was after we were in recovery). But enough with my negative issues on your goddess thread. Thanks for listening.
Oh, I am getting so bad with you guys turning me into a girly-girl. I guess I was sort of a girly-girl...(or is it girlie-girl? LOL!)...before but I had to be tough, too, because on Mom's side of the family it was always "all about the boys" with the older folks.
Well I say bs to that!! So I had to do everything any male could do and better!
And lucky for me...genes allowed me to get away without wearing make-up.
Now...it's every day, even when I don't leave the house!! Although once in an itty-bitty while I might forego the make-up when I absolutely KNOW I am staying put INSIDE and working! LOL!
Now with the dancing ramping up I'm looking at all the pretty dance clothing and I dress every day in something nice, no warm-ups! I couldn't tell you the last time I set leg in those!! Never the sweatshirts, though, the necks are way too tight. Usually with a t-shirt, sometimes a tank top. But no more!
I've been shopping more than once and my wardrobe looks better and better. Plus my Doberman's paralegal steering towards this fantastically HUGE thrift store and a lot of items in there still have the original tags attached!
I'm currently on the hunt for the PERFECT dress to wear to court when we go back in May. Which will most likely end up being on my birthday or our anniversary...but my Doberman set me straight on that...those are LUCKY days!!! Heck yeah!!!
So I need something to show just enough of dancer's legs but not TOO short. Refined, ladylike, but still sexy!!
I just HAVE to be "to die for" when we go back!!!
Frankly, I DID have that look the first time. I was the butterfly while Slag had some homely looking thing on. And Mr. Gray had a wrinkled shirt and all.
Well, I will look even better this time. He will be catching flies, doggone it!! He'll have to physically reach up to push his jaw back together!!!
I've been using the mineral make-up and I'm sorry I didn't come back sooner because I know some Goddesses were wondering about it.
And I know I'm preaching to the choir with some of you that already use it. MAN!!! I LOVE IT!!!!
I recommend it happily, joyously!!!! Yes, yes, yes!!!!
I've been carded...when was the last time THAT happened? LOL! I don't know!!!
My vet's receptionist thought I was 10 years younger than my age when I told her how old I was.
And I've had tons of other comments about it. Is it only the mineral make-up? No, I think there are other factors as well. But I HAVE been taking better care of my skin than I ever have. Plus, losing the vodka helped too, LOL!! (Though I have heard it's great for tightening pores when applied topically!!)
I have been using a cream from a place that gets their goodies from the Dead Sea. Wow, it really is great, too.
But the mineral make-up? A++++++++++++++++++++, and then some!!!!
I found a new way to wear my hair, too, which is no small feet because it is nearly to my knees again. This is after I started trimming it last year about an inch or so every day after D-Day.
Yeah, Mr. Gray griped about my hair. Too long. Follicle envy? Probably.
It used to be about 3 or 4 inches from my ankles but really it DID need to be trimmed. I just couldn't go to a salon and get a whole foot whacked off at once.
So I did it my way. LOL! I toyed with the idea of cutting it all but I thought that was a bit drastic. And for what? The alien? It wouldn't have made any impression on him. Maybe for 30 seconds.
After all, when I was trying to look good every day for my self esteem I was dubbed the "Stepford" wife by one of them. I don't know who brought it up. Probably him since Slag didn't watch movies before 1980 before the two of them started going at it.
Well, he's going to regret it. Maybe he already does. He will for sure by May. LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL!!!!
So crazy, I'm actually looking FORWARD to this!! Plus, he thinks it will be the end of us. Little does he know that it won't be!!! LMAO!!!
It's SOOO cute. Both my ADULT(?) sons are texting me right now and they don't know that they are BOTH competing for my time. It's like the old days...LOL..I can't keep up with who's who and what they are saying...
I continue to VALUE and ENJOY being a PARENT just like STILL does...and all you other YOUNG ladies...
Have you ever considered having a portion of your hair cut for donation to an organization which makes wigs for women who are ill? Pantene has a program called "Great Lengths" which requires only 8 inches and provides wigs to women with various forms of cancer. Locks Of Love requires 10 or 12 inches and they serve girls who have lost hair for any of a number of reasons.
Yeah. Well, normally I wear it up in a partial twist while the rest swings free. Sometimes I braid it, I can still do a regular braid in it. I can't do a French braid in it anymore, though, my arms get too tired. LOL!
Once in a great while I wear it down but it usually gets slammed in car doors and hung up on doorknobs and chairs that have arms so having it up is the way to go!
Yes, I have. My sister did that very thing just last year. I almost did but it would have been for the wrong reasons. It would have been to get attention from Mr. Gray. Not that it would have made a bit of difference. So I opted to keep my hair. Well, originally my sister was going to shave her head after she donated but she didn't. I did think long and hard about it, though.
But then I thought about the Manson girls shaving their heads and "X-ing" themselves out of this world along with Charlie. I didn't like that comparison so I kept my hair.
I may do that someday but in order to do so you have to get a lot of dead ends trimmed off first. I think my sister kept hers trimmed for a few months before she could actually finally donate.
I don't remember what other rules there are. But anyway, that's the story!
I'm about 3 inches from Pantene's minimum if I wish to keep my hair the length I want it. I'm trying to decide if I can survive that long before I cut it. My hair is sooooooo fine that it doesn't look good at it's current length so this is a hard decision for me.
Hey Queenie, To rate this topic, go to the top of the thread page, and there is a tab called Rate This topic, click on that, click your rating suggestion and click Rate It!
You can 'rate this topic' with different stars at the top of the each page...NOT when you're replying just reading.
I'm wondering if the ratings have to do with how many people post and don't rate???? I've rated it five stars but we're still showing only 2?!
Let's start a rate this thread campaign!!!
I've been keeping up with my Goddess routine of pampering myself AND we bought new furniture! NOW I can feel really Goddessey sitting on the new loveseat!
I was a GODDESS this weekend. I went on a shopping spree for ME on my birthday. I bought some capris, cute frilly shirts, and two pairs of sandals. I didn't shop for ANYONE ELSE...just me! Then I made sure that I was dressed in a really cute outfit when DH picked me up from the airport (I went to visit my parents for the weekend). Dolt didn't pick up on my fabulousness...but that's ok. I FELT FABULOUS!
just my thought here...but I wouldn't think that Goddesses would concern themselves with something so meaningless as the number of stars on their thread.
just my thought here...but I wouldn't think that Goddesses would concern themselves with something so meaningless as the number of stars on their thread.
Goddesses are aware that perceptions can create their own reality.
We strive to be lovely in every way, and then to get credit for that.
mkeverydaycnt it's a matter of the stars representing a GREAT source for BS's (women mostly here) to gain some confidence. As I'm sure you're aware, most BS's have a confidence issue after being betrayed.
This MAY sound petty to you, but for us regaining any control over emotion, how WE feel about ourselves, etc. IS WORTHY FOR OTHERS in the same boat to regain themselves. Ya know the whole refocus on changing 'self'?!
How is rating this thread any different from other beneficial threads that are highly rated?
We are not pompous diva's but GODDESSES wanting to get the word out that ANYONE can be a Goddess.
How is rating this thread any different from other beneficial threads that are highly rated?
exactly my point.
Perhaps I have just missed it, but I don't ever recall anyone else ever making a big deal out of the number of stars that a particular thread was given..or a call out to thread participants to vote in order to bump of the star count as though something so arbitrary speaks to the quality of the people on the thread.
Thanks for trying to explain where you are coming from. I for one would strongly suggest that if even the smallest amount of your self worth is derived from star ratings on an internet forum, that you are selling yourself short.
I forgot to add you to my list of FLOWERING GODDESSES!!
I kept SMILING all weekend, thinking about your DANCE LESSONS!!
WONDERFUL AND AWESOME!!
Thank you, mimi!!
I'm working on keeping the Goddess mindset at all times! If I don't think about keeping the mindset too much I'm usually okay. Then it's just natural. Am I making sense? LOL!!!
I have no idea!!
But tonight is Belly Dancing, Baby!! WOOOO!!
And my dental hygienist wants to join me!! Wheeeee!! She sounds serious because she brought it up again the other day. So here's hoping!
I've asked family members and friends before but had no takers. An interesting answer from a friend was: "Well, you're crazy so you can do it!"
I'm like....Hruh?
LOL!
Oh, I decided to get my teeth bleached. Gotta be Super Goddess for the hearing next month! In all ways!
It was funny because I told my Mom when she was still in CA with my nieces. The next thing I know my youngest niece was on the phone lecturing me about how bad it is to do that.
Confused? Me too!
I asked Mom about it when I picked her up from the airport. She said bro told them that people who have their teeth bleached end up with their teeth turning black in 10 years.
I was like...well, sister's teeth aren't black! And why aren't there a bunch of people running around with black teeth? LOL!
I don't know where bro got this info. I've NEVER heard of that before. Anyone else ever hear of it?
I'm still waiting for one of my heels to heal before Saturday. My Boogie Shoes did quite a number on it the other day. I think I need a skin graft. LOL!
I told my family...well...if I ever disappear and any remains are found....you can find plenty of DNA on my Boogie Shoes!
Not yet. I'll ask my teacher about it, though. So far we have done the Samba, the Cha Cha Cha, the Waltz, the Tango, the Rumba and Swing.
And the belly dancing class was FULL tonight! Women of all shapes and sizes, too. I had asked several ladies to go with me and the usual excuse they gave was, "I'm too fat!" Okay, whatever and no you're NOT!!
It was fun. The first thing to die is your lower back!!
Hey, Goddesses, I once asked Charlotte about hair donation since hers is SO long.
Well, any goddess could donate her hair. OK, so, you do have to have hair that qualifies and that might, for the time being, rule out some people.
HOWEVER, thanks to cruising the internet, I found someone's bloggy thing that had a lot of information about hair donation - requirements for different programs, outreaches of different programs, hair tips/suggestions, stuff like that. Here is the link:
Went to retrieve an RV for a friend out by Palm Springs...DH and I had two hours in the car to just "chat." I made sure to have my super-cute new walking shorts, sexy tank, and strappy sandals on. DH was tired, but he at least noticed the new outfit (a good sign). I wasn't dressed completely appropriate for cleaning out the RV, but d@$m did I look good walking around!
Need to get some new lipstick, though. I left it in my purse, in the car, and it melted. Oh well...I guess I'll just HAVE to go SHOPPING (wink, wink).
;-P
Reading a GREAT book right now too...Marley and Me. About a man and his neurotic dog. I've been laughing out loud at the descriptions of the horrible things this dog gets into.
I've been doing a lot of cooking and tried out two new recipes from here - the chicken rolls, and chicken and stove top stuffing. Both were easy and DELICIOUS!
Wow, I really envy your cooking ambitions. I like good food but I am terrible at following recipes. I tend to try out new stuff by myself and some is good and some is, well, not that good. lol!
But I must say: From today I have a new hair color! I have been hesitating for a while but I decided that I would give it a try. I used to change hair color now and then when I was younger but for a long time I have been happy with my natural color, middle blond with natural highlights. Now my hair is strawberry/golden blond, still with hightlights, and I feel so good about it.
I read some comments here about the effect an affair has on your self confidence and self confidence is an issue for me. I try to improve it and I find that it helps me when I care for someone else. That is good, but on the other hand it is a kind of confirmation from others and I want to be confident in myself.
I read an article about self suggestion which said that you should decide what you want to be or achieve and create a "mantra" and read it to yourself. I decided that my "mantra" is: "I am attractive and beautiful. I am positive and everyone likes me. I am radiant with energy and love myself. I am calm and satisfied with being me." It may sound silly but I actually feel good when I read it to myself and visualize myself like that. Sometimes I find myself thinking negative thoughts and I feel that I am getting depressed but if I read those lines and focus on breathing calmly I become positive and happy again.
As I mentioned earlier, I've learned that I am PROGRAMMED VISUALLY..that's what Tony Robbins calls it, our PROGRAMMING...
Tony Robbins also talked about having MODELS and MENTORS that are SUCCESSFUL and he encourages modeling ourselves off of these persons. He calls it "MIRRORING", modeling their ACTIONS and COMMUNICATION STYLE in order to attain your own SUCCESS...this would include reading AUTOBIOGRAPHIES about successful people...
That being said, I recall during MY PLAN B, how I said to myself, even journalled, how I wanted to PRESENT MYSELF like this other prominent woman in my community whose husband left her...this woman started her own business after being a SAHM, worked out, always looked SELF-CONFIDENT and "COOL" when I would see her in the grocery store...I didn't know her well enough to know how she was feeling INSIDE..but seeing her actually HELPED me...and I said to myself.."I wanna be like "HER"!
That type of thinking of mine has led to this thread. I think our EXTERIOR matters to US and serves as a SYMBOL to ourselves and others that WE ARE "FIERCE" and continuing to MOVE FORWARD despite our BETRAYAL...
"FIERCE" ...an adjective from TYRA BANKS, used on AMERICA'S TOP MODEL"..of course, I betcha you guys aren't surprised I LOVE THAT SHOW, mainly because of TYRA..OMG, WHAT A GODDESS!!
Mimi, I think you are right about exterior being important for how we feel inside. I care more about my looks now than before my WHs affair (I am in plan B by the way). I have always dressed plain and never worn any make-up or jewelry but now I have changed all that: pretty underwear, tight jeans, nice tops - sometimes low-cut - make-up and hair care, a cute necklace... It makes me feel good and confident and I love when people compliment me on it.
It is actually a bigger challenge for me to work on my inside. I have always had quite a temper and I simply can't hide my feelings. The "mantra" I mentioned above helps me with that too, I tell myself that I am calm and imagine myself with dignity and self control. I am completely ok when I am with other people, for example at work or with friends, but when I am on my own I can easily get sad and feel lonely and that is when I use my "mantra" most.
This DOMESTIC GODDESS, has been at work busy moving furniture, redesigning how my apartment looks and I finally got to a place where it's clean and redone. I'm very happy with it. Now I just need a few finishing touches. The walls look bare because I moved the bookcases into my bedroom.
My boys hated the first way I had the room, and so did I, but I kept moving and thinking.
Wanted to plant my flowers, but no luck on the rain holding back. I also bought a BBQ yesterday and boys and I will build it together one day this week.
Not perfect yet, but it's getting cleaner for Passover. I felt like a slave today.
I did the domestic Goddess thing yesterday, too. Vacuuming up a storm, EVERYTHING. Dusting, wiping, spraying, washing. I started in my bedroom and worked my way thru the entire bottom floor. I need to wash the curtains and the sofa, chair cushion covers, still, but it's otherwise lovely.
I really need to get outside and mow, and weed, but the rain is not cooperating.
I'm back to cooking for one, but it's less expensive than ordering in, and less fattening, so I'm going to have to take food to work to feed those hungry masses there, and get them to critique the recipes. My work peops are like wolves waiting for the feast. You could prolly put down chocolate covered poo and they'd at least give it a second glance.
Howdy Mimi, thanks for inviting me to drop in. Greetings from Omaha NE, currently.
I got my license about 10 1/2 years ago, and have driven off and on ever since. Working as hard as I am right now, I have a few handicaps in the polished goddess department, but of course I maintain my appearance to the best of my abilities, even if on some days it's wipeys and pouring water over my toothbrush, instead of glorious hot showers.
Apparently I am meeting some important emotional needs, for all that, since at regular intervals my co-driver begs me to find a suitable off-ramp to park on for a bit.
I did the domestic Goddess thing yesterday, too. Vacuuming up a storm, EVERYTHING. Dusting, wiping, spraying, washing. I started in my bedroom and worked my way thru the entire bottom floor. I need to wash the curtains and the sofa, chair cushion covers, still, but it's otherwise lovely.
I really need to get outside and mow, and weed, but the rain is not cooperating.
I'm back to cooking for one, but it's less expensive than ordering in, and less fattening, so I'm going to have to take food to work to feed those hungry masses there, and get them to critique the recipes. My work peops are like wolves waiting for the feast. You could prolly put down chocolate covered poo and they'd at least give it a second glance.
OMG SL i thought i would spit out my drink on the chocolate covered poo line. The people at my work are EXACTLY the same. Our slogan is if you feed them they will come.
Howdy Mimi, thanks for inviting me to drop in. Greetings from Omaha NE, currently.
I got my license about 10 1/2 years ago, and have driven off and on ever since. Working as hard as I am right now, I have a few handicaps in the polished goddess department, but of course I maintain my appearance to the best of my abilities, even if on some days it's wipeys and pouring water over my toothbrush, instead of glorious hot showers.
Apparently I am meeting some important emotional needs, for all that, since at regular intervals my co-driver begs me to find a suitable off-ramp to park on for a bit.
Neak <---- Road Warrioress *honk honk*
I THINK THIS IS MARVELOUS!! I'M FOR YOU STARTING A TRUCKING WOMAN'S BLOG OR SOMETHING!! KEEP GIVING US UPDATES!!
YOU ARE "FIERCE"!!
BTW:
What's the meaning of the truckers honking at me on the highway? Are they FLIRTING? I never considered that A TRUCKER could be another GODDESS....
Over the years, I have spent several years working with unemployment insurance claims. Before that, I worked with women who were unemployed and receiving AFDC/TANF/public assistance/whatever you wish to call it. I have recruited employees. I have evaluated employment applications. All these different levels of employment.
Sometimes, it gives me chills to think of the stories these other people could tell.
When we are focused on our lives, it is easy to forget that the teller at the bank has a real life. That truck that just cut you off (sorry, Neak - maybe it was a privately-owned pick-up truck) is driven by a person who has her/his own story to tell. Doctor's die of cancer, too.
Sometimes, that realization brings out my best - and sometimes (like Saturday, when I screamed at 12 ATT employees over 3 hours trying to get my account straightened out) I simply can't remember that I am dealing with real people with their own joys and pain.
There is so much.....so much of so many things....all around us - if only we stop and notice.
There is so much.....so much of so many things....all around us - if only we stop and notice.
ITA!!
Today I was scooting along to go get the lawnmower so I could mow and I spotted an albino Indian paintbrush alongside the road. You can bet I went back to investigate! Took pictures, too! I have never seen one in my life...I would have remembered that!!
Once nowXH and I were driving through a national park. I saw a flower as we were passing by. I remembered the area and, on our drive back, asked him to pull over so I could take a picture of it. When I read up on it, later, I read that it was a fairly wild wildflower and I felt so blessed to have seen that Painted Trillium.
I took bellydancing classes for about a year a while back, after I had my son. It was a lot of fun, and I learned a lot about hip movement and expression with the arms, and my legs got much stronger. It's a very sensual dance, too. I'll find myself moving my hips when the right song hits me. I don't even realize I'm doing it until the music begins to sweep me away.
Exposing my belly to the world after I had my son was an experience all it's own. There were many different body shapes and sizes and I soon felt right at home, and did build confidence over time. It was, all around, a great experience.
I took dance when i was in high school; modern, jazz, tap, ballet. It was a lot of fun, and great exercise.
Mimi--Neak said to say she was in the middle of a post when they lost their wireless access, and she hasn't been able to get back online. She threatened, I mean promised, to be back soon.
Since they live with 3 small children and an aging, somewhat confused Grandpa, I think they're grateful for a few minutes! I have NO idea where that girl got her lack of inhibition. Certainly not from me! I've got inhibition to burn!!!!!!!! In my house, sinks are used as plumbing, just like God intended.
SinkS, Mimi, sinkS. My, my, she will be SO glad, when she gets back online, to find out that the stories of unauthorized utilization of plumbing fixtures have surfaced again. As if she didn't already have enough reason to appreciate her very own mother!! On the plus side, she can't really kill her long-term babysitter (just call me GranNanny), though, so I feel reasonably safe...at the moment.
I think it's somewhere in her "Neak's story" link, along with all her other odd adventures. Personally, I think it comes from her father's side of the family.
Where are all you goddesses? Although I have only posted here a few times I read what you are writing and you certainly encourage me to make improvements.
I ordered some new underwear from a web shop and it was delivered yesterday. I can't believe how pretty it is, I have unpacked it and put it in my top drawer and will use it little by little. One of my friends has invited me to her birthday party this weekend which will be a good reason to put on a brand new set and feel wonderful. If someone is interested and if it is ok to mention companies here I can give you the link, they offer a discount for a certain brand until the end of April.
Hi...I am a new GODDESS in need of help....I have recently had a baby and need some great advice to get out of my baby body. If you feel so inclined, you can read my thread on the Pregnancy/child thread. I have to say I am encouraged by everyone on here. I would LOVE some great advice....and learn to become better at improving myself....
This GARDEN GODDESS worked on some of the flowers today and will finish the rest up later. I am heading out the door to go walk a few miles and enjoy the absolute spectacular day G-d has given us in the PNW. And then come home and clean my apt so the DOMESTIC Goddess has a chance to shine.
Hair... not done yet, but will be
MakeUp .... mascara and lipstick.
Clothes... NOT SWEATS, but appropriate for exercise.
Attitude... GODDESS GOOD
HEAD'S UP, CHEST OUT, HEART OPEN AND SMILE STUNNING...
Every time I think the sinks (yes, sinks, but not yours Rella, so don't look at me like that) have been brought back up again. AJ said smugly, and I quote, "They are just jealous because their husbands don't throw THEM up on sinks." ROFL!
Maybe not yet, but I have a feeling that plumbing around the country and maybe around the world, is going to get some unfamiliar exercise.
Writing erotica, lol, maybe a tasteful how-to manual. (Me and my Freudian mistakes - I always make them - I just typed ho-to manual. Good job, fingers.) Neaksis can make the discreet pen and ink drawings to illustrate it. Or perhaps not.
Such adventures I have been having. Since I last wrote, I have driven in plenty more snow; not so bad on the road as the first trip, but coming down almost too hard to see. The second batch, just after sunset in Nevada, was impressive. It was soon enough after the sun went down to still see a hint of blue in the western sky, except for the giant black patch directly ahead of us. When I got to it, there was no warning, no gradual increase in snow. Just boom! Right in the thick of it, from one second to the next.
It was snowing and windy like crazy, and the snow was blowing dizzingly across the road at a diagonal angle. You know those fun-house tunnels, where you try and walk straight across the little bridge, while the giant cylinder circles around you? It felt a lot like that. I had to just focus very hard on the white lines of the road, and try to ignore the white lines of the snow that wanted to lead me off to my right.
White lines and more white lines, the only visible difference being which direction they led. One going straight ahead, and one veering subtly off the path of safety. There is a deep spiritual lesson in that, when you read what Jesus, Paul, and Peter said about the deceptions that would come in the last days.
Anyhoo, we're sitting on the Texas panhandle right now, expecting some rain, but nothing like they're having further east. All day long I've been driving through the desert, admiring everything in bloom.
You should have seen us at suppertime. Parked at IdleAire again, yay!, everything [censored] and span, freshly showered, and sitting down on our lovely bed (lovely because it was made - during the week when we're running hard, one of us is most always in it, and it never has a chance to look tidy) to eat veggie burgers and watch the Weather Channel, finishing up with banana cream pie.
If only it was all like that, Mom's fears that I won't want to come home would be justified. But no, in between oases/oasises (?) ok, more than one oasis of love fests and meeting needs for domestic support but in a very small house, are days where for hours I just sit and drive, listening to sermon tapes and thinking happy thoughts. Pleasant yes, mostly, but not very thrilling. I would be just as happy at home, pitchforking manure for my little baby plants, and even happier if AJ was there, too.
Well ladies, one last stop before I head to bed, over on the FHP aisle. (Mom, before you make too much fun of me, I realize that has a misplaced metaphor, but I'm too tired to fix it without making it worse. And if I don't stay awake long enough, I may very well go to bed on the FHP aisle.)
If I can wrestle the computer away from AJ long enough, tomorrow I'll find where I saved my partial post that included why truckers probably honk at Mimi.
Set achievable, simple short term goals for yourself each day. Achieve at least 1 simple goal every day. By doing this you will train your mind to accept success, and longer term, more difficult goals will become within your reach. Your failures will become more trivial.
Record your achievements...write your goals in a diary and note your successes. You will be amazed at how good at being a winner you really are.
2lives2fly posted this on his thread. Good words to live by. Thought the Goddesses could benefit from this post.
Well, my goal for the day was to fix a bursted copper pipe, and it's done. What a royal pain in the patoot! The pipe is located in a tight crawl space under our deck. Not really good for the ole neck, but I did my best. The repair leaks on one side, drip drip drip. I'm not interested in taking it all apart right now, but I did dang good for my first time ever working with soldering pipe.
NExt up, gotta work on the lawn. It's getting thicker by the minute, but the rain won't seem to let up.
It's not that bad, but I'm trying to learn how to do corporate taxes, and couldn't shut the whole computer down just then to reboot Word. For some reason Word and Excel have been really messing up.
No music right at that moment....we were listening to a sermon.
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Well Meemers, there are two more likely explanations for truckers honking at you. Fellow goddesses recognizing your mutual goddesshood is not one of them, unfortunately. Flirting is the most likely, since I know YOU would never cut off trucks, almost clobber them, or nearly cause accidents.
Just a helpful hint, I was SHOCKED!!!!! by how much truckers can see from way up high. I always drove down the road with my skirt hiked up comfortably, often one leg thrown up on the dash. Well, they can see EVERYTHING! Lap level is where their best view is. :eek: (I say "their" and not "our" because I just don't look. Way too many sickos do nasty stuff on purpose. But once in a while I see a kid and honk for them, lol.)
Oh, a third less-likely possibility just occurred to me, too. If you drive a really nice car, they might honk just to admire your ride. But my money's on flirting.
Rella, I haven't been able to find your poem. There is a reason, a very good one, why I'm Idiotville's head of IT.
Also, I know just what you mean. The same imagination that led me to think of little-known Bible characters does the same sort of thing to me - I'm overwhelmed as I watch all the cars drive by, and drive past towns and cities and malls packed with people. God loves each one, knows every detail of each one, and works every day to draw them to Him.
We truly apologize, undo all the mess we can, ask for forgiveness, and (usually) get it.
The poet, in this case, if given full attribution, might be understanding....especially since it's a poem by a woman, about a woman, and read by women - who are probably more likely to buy a book of poetry than an equal sized group of me.
Afternoon, goddesses. I have been absent, but excused.
I was on an incredible vacation in the jungles of Belize.
And yesterday was my 54th birthday. I never ever ever dreamed, when in my 30s or 40s that at this age I would be asking for exercise equipment for my birthday.
Happy B-day Chrys!!! I'm only a few months behind you on the big 5-4! Unfortunately I don't have anyone to ask for the exercise equipment (boo hoo), so guess I just won't exercise (boo hoo hoo).
I was on an incredible vacation in the jungles of Belize.
And yesterday was my 54th birthday. I never ever ever dreamed, when in my 30s or 40s that at this age I would be asking for exercise equipment for my birthday.
Right now, life is good.
I am right there with you ladies! I'll be turning 54 this year and never thought that this stage in life would be so GREAT!!
It is sooo COOL that you said this! I've been pricing ELLIPTICALS..way too expensive..and have been thinking about a new TREADMILL!!
I just read a post where someone said they thought this thread was a waste of space and it reminded that I wanted to say Thank You Mimi. This thread has been so important to me. It has been a really great reminder of how to fulfill my husband's need for an attractive wife. I'm a stay at home mom and wow I never relized how fast I could let myself go. I now make sure that I look great when he comes home from work. The house is clean. I work out. I wear my expensive perfume everyday. (i have no idea what i was saving it for) This has made me feel so much better about myself and I can see it has made a difference to my WH as well. It has also made me not feel bad for spending money on myself. Before I only bought things for my boys.
So even though I don't post often, I read often and I learn so much.
Alright ladies, it's that time of year once again!!! I think we need to be reminded of a few things. So my sisters, PLEASE, raise your big toes and repeat after me below...
The Open Toed Shoe Pledge As a member of the Cute Girl Sisterhood, I pledge to follow the Rules when wearing sandals and other open-toe shoes:
I promise to always wear sandals that fit. My toes will not hang over and touch the ground, nor will my heels spill over the backs. And the sides and tops of my feet will not pudge out between the straps.
I will go polish-free or vow to keep the polish fresh, intact and chip-free. I will not cheat and just touch up my big toe.
I will sand down any mounds of skin before they turn hard and yellow. I will shave the hairs off my big toe.
I won't wear pantyhose even if my misinformed girlfriend, coworker, mother, sister tells me the toe seam really will stay under my toes if I tuck it there.
If a strap breaks, I won't duct-tape, pin, glue or tuck it back into place hoping it will stay put. I will get my shoe fixed or toss it.
I will not live in corn denial; rather I will lean on my good friend Dr. Scholl's if my feet need him.
I will resist the urge to buy jelly shoes at Payless for the low, low price of $4.99 even if my feet are small enough to fit into the kids' sizes. This is out of concern for my safety, and the safety of others. No one can walk properly when standing in a pool of sweat and I would hate to take someone down with me as I fall and break my ankle.
I will take my toe ring off toward the end of the day if my toes swell and begin to look like Vienna sausages.
I will be brutally honest with my girlfriend/sister/coworker when she asks me if her feet are too ugly to wear sandals. Someone has to tell her that her toes are as long as my fingers and no sandal makes creepy feet look good.
I will promise if I wear flip flops that I will ensure that they actually flip and flop, making the correct noise while walking and I will swear NOT to slide or drag my feet while wearing them.
I will promise to go to my local nail salon at least once per season and have a real pedicure (they are about $15 or 20 and worth EVERY penny).
I will promise to throw away any white/off-white sandals that show signs of wear... nothing is tackier than di rty white sandals.
You are our recent winner for causing SL to jettison her coffee across the office! What do we have for her, Johnnie?! A new car? No, a season's pass to Nails Are Us!!!!!!
You ladies are SO GREAT..you keep me laughing and smiling..
I bet that's true for lots of unknown others...
It's so wonderful to be at THIS PLACE in my life...LAUGHING AND SMILING...
I remember those DARK DAYS when I didn't think I'd ever LAUGH or SMILE again..asking myself, "Lord, how in the world am I gonna make it another MINUTE?"
It's so WONDERFUL that we can be HERE for each other...
I want to offer the HOPE to those of you out there who are still struggling that...
"THE DARKEST HOUR IS JUST BEFORE DAWN"..
Even if you don't RECOVER your MARRIAGE..you certainly can RECOVER and find YOURSELF..whoever you are..
I just read a post where someone said they thought this thread was a waste of space
Doggone! What happened to the rolling eyes emoticon? I need it. Some people need to get a grip and quit "wasting space" with their unsolicited opinions. Who gets to decide what wastes space anyway? Maybe their comment was a waste of space. Who's the judge? I never posted on the Goddess thread until Neak asked me to post for her while she had no internet access. I'm not a Goddess type, unless you're counting one of the avenging kind...sort of a Caucasion Kali. So I wouldn't have all that much to contribute here.
The Feminine Hygeine Aisle could be considered a "waste of space", too, but we've never let that inhibit us!! It serves its purpose for the people who visit there, and very happily, too, I might add. And if it meets our needs, why does anybody else even have to care? I simply cannot understand the compulsion some people have to try and regulate the activities of others they don't even know and who aren't bothering them, unless you call existing in the same cyberspace "bothering." Rolling my eyes again!!
So you go, Goddesses. Ignore the opiners and rule. You have my blessing, and if anybody gives you any trouble I'll shoot 'em up with my vaginal suppository machine gun and flaming tampon arrows.
tl
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I'm finding 60 to be a very weird age. Recently somebody called me "groovy," which I really wasn't even when I was young enough to have tried to be "groovy" without just looking silly. Now a "goddess"? I wear jeans and tee shirts during the week, and a bra if I'm going out in public. (I DID mention that I was 60, didn't I? So are my breasts. ). I pull my hair back in a pony tail except for church, and since my 93-year old dad has been very ill (at the same time I've been living at Neak's house and caring for her 3 children) I haven't gone there for about 3 wks. I guess I could be the Goddess of the Schlumps, if I had to, but that's about it.
Still, thanks for the offer to hang out. Don't blame me if your culture quality declines, though!!
I guess you must be celebrating round, then, if we're including MY form. And grooved, if not exactly groovy (at least that's what that weird old lady in my mirror keeps telling me every morning)! Good for you. Don't let the party flag on account of me, but I'm going to go celebrate with the Sandman right now.
This womanhood is celebrating GOING HOME!!!! I'll be there in a couple hours.
Two weeks down, and about 6 more to go.
Our next trip, starting Monday night, is going to be verra nice - we're going to Wisconsin, and will almostforsure be able to see my cousins. We tried to find some more of those nice PA loads, but there just weren't any right now.
Greetings, fellow goddesses. I think I'll get a pedicure in the morning. I'm aiming for a massage at 4 tomorrow afternoon. I think I will feel better, then. Meanwhile, this goddess is going to bed early tonight.
I am drained. Tired. Weary. Tomorrow, son has to work on his research project or I will, personally, hurt him.
Mimi - with 3 kids, not off work exactly, lol, but back to more standard duties. I am home right now (hooray!) but so twitchy from being back east that I couldn't sleep in by home time. Everyone else is still carving zzzzzzzz's.
Also, Mom is going to try and get Grandpa to church for the first time since right before I left. It will be interesting to see how that goes. He's better than when I left, but clearly has reached a whole new level in needed care.
Rella, I pluck the hair on my big toe. (As well as the single little hair that always grows on each of my middle toes.) I presume that counts.
Well for one thing the goddess thread was too far back and secondly i thought of something that i do that is girlie so i had to share.
My dad got gray hair pretty early in life and unfortunately i took this gene after him (even though i got his good metabolism and have an easy time staying thin so it is worth the trade off ), so i started getting gray in my late 20's, by the time i reached 30 there was no way to hide it any more so i started coloring my hair and have done that ever since.
My DDs used to use funky colors on theirs (just the tips that is all i would let them and i did the coloring) like bright blue and purple and pink. I just use something close to my regular hair (pre-gray that is) which is brown. I alter the shade slightly but some kind of brown.
My H always tells me to leave the gray but i say i am not ready for that yet.
I'll post this here, Mimi, so I'm sure you'll see it. I just figured out which post you were talking about, and it wasn't the one I was thinking of. I thought you were talking about my definition of a Clam post, and since I thought that one was blandly generic and nothing out of the ordinary at all, I couldn't figure out what it was that creeped you out. I just re-read the series of posts, though, and realized you were talking about visiting, etc., with people I didn't "really" know, so now it makes more sense to me.
I'm not saying everybody should do that, but the friends I've made are comfortable for me. Anyone can s-t-r-e-t-c-h their comfort zone, and probably should once in awhile. They don't have to actually rupture it!!
tl
P.S. Unless you were talking about the Clam post, in which case I'm confused again.
Do you know what AJ did today? We had to get the truck serviced this morning, and he sent me off to get a shower while he stayed with the truck - a huge sacrifice. (Don't worry, I thanked him.)
I don't mind my gray hairs so much, except for all the little short guys, 1-3" long, that stick up straight out of my beautiful long tresses. Those annoy me.
Finally finally finally I have been working on my articles on infidelity for a women's magazine. They should be ready to submit within a week, and I'll let you know if anything esciting happens.
I always drove down the road with my skirt hiked up comfortably, often one leg thrown up on the dash.
OK, I want to know how in the dickens you got your leg up on the dash? You were driving a PINTO, for Pete's sake. What are you, anyway? A pretzel? And which leg? If it was the right leg, how did you press on the accelerator? If it was the left, in that dinky car you'd almost have to drape it over the steering wheel to even GET to the dash. All I can say is that I saw no evidence of this remarkable agility when you were driving me!!
I no longer admit to having taught you to drive. What does Neaksis do that I don't know about? I know she's got my lead pedal, but I'll bet she doesn't drive with her foot on the dash! Or does she?
Quote:I always drove down the road with my skirt hiked up comfortably, often one leg thrown up on the dash.
OK, I want to know how in the dickens you got your leg up on the dash? You were driving a PINTO, for Pete's sake. What are you, anyway? A pretzel? And which leg? If it was the right leg, how did you press on the accelerator? If it was the left, in that dinky car you'd almost have to drape it over the steering wheel to even GET to the dash. All I can say is that I saw no evidence of this remarkable agility when you were driving me!!
tl
Well, if the sink incidences are any indication, I'd say the method of driving is right on target.
Oh, and those little 1-3" greys, well, I do color my hair, and they stick up, color and all; they look like antannae. I could prolly pick up NBC without really tryin'.
Oh, and those little 1-3" greys, well, I do color my hair, and they stick up, color and all; they look like antannae. I could prolly pick up NBC without really tryin'.
SL you are so right and with me anyway my hair is very thick and coarse so they feel like horse hair daggone it LOL
I knew I loved ya for a reason! Thought it was just your name because I had a very dear friend named Queenie.
My first car was a Pinto (Paco the Pinto, if you need to know names). I drove JUST the way you did!
Mine was a 77 two toned blue on blue hatchback - the kind where the hatch was the whole window that rose up. I can still hear the swoosh noise it would make when you'd pop it.
Twinkies?
I love all of Ford's "horse" cars....even the Maverick could haul bootay!
Primly: I always kept both MY feet on the floor. I will admit that once a truck followed a friend and me off the freeway after we honked and waved to say "Hi" just before we took the off-ramp. In retrospect, I don't think they were expecting tea. We sure high-tailed it out of there when we saw what them barrelling right behind us. I've never honked at a trucker since--and that's been almost 40 years--unless, of course, they were being excessively annoying, which does happen once in a great while.
And I never taught her to be creative with plumbing fixtures, either.
I finally had to tell AJ ... absolutely no more pulling over any more today, except for potty breaks. My log book was starting to look like a Jack-o-lantern.
"Yes, officer - they told me in truck school that 'nooky break' was a perfectly legitimate log entry."
Probably not till tomorrow morning. *pout* I get very whiny without my showers.
We are going to have to figure out how to pace ourselves, maritally speaking. We keep getting too busy for a few days in a row, then have to make up for lost time. But at least we had 5 or 6 hours snoozing together last night and the night before. Not tonight, though. It is a solitary bunk for me.
Which is probably why I'm still in the front seat propping my eyelids open instead of zzzzzz'ing.
OH MY!!!!!!! I just saw the most amazing thing - AJ says he sees it all the time. Let's just say those people shouldn't throw any stones at all. Their whole giant house on the hill is made of glasss. You can see the wooden framework, but other than that it is a straight view all the way through all the main parts of the house.
CONTEXT!! CONTEXT!! CONTEXT!! I thought you published authors knew that. Here I'm reading along as you discuss "marital pacing" and then come to the above words, and I'm thinking to myself, "AIEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE! You have got to be kidding!" (not that you'd do it, but that you'd SAY it so casually right in front of everybody )...and then I saw the next line which said "hours snoozing" and went "Whew!"
Well, kids are all asleep. Time to follow their good example. I REALLY hate getting up so early in the morning. 40 years of night shift has done nothing to prepare me for getting little kids up and off to school at the crack of dawn!
Anyone use clip on hair extensions? One of the young ladies I work with had them today, and they were quite beautiful. They are made of real hair (best), or synthetic (not as good, but come in pink, blue, purple and green).
You just clip them on and you can't tell. She makes a little pigtail where it clips on so that it won't come loose.
Even for a lively woman such as myself, that is just a TAD excessive!!!
After yesterday's liberal spattering of cow doody and etc I am not such a glowing radiant road warrioress, but give me a few hours and I will reclaim my status.
In the meantime, we are picking up cookies, and the outlet store is right next door. I'll be back. I have a few things to attend to.
So AJ is driving down the road. He holds out his hand, and I put my hand in his. Bending slightly, but keeping his eyes on the road, he kisses my hand.
Awwwww, romantic moment.
Pause. His face wrinkles. "Ewwwww! Your hand smells like cow poop!"
Romantic moment over.
And my hand does not actually smell like cow poop. (In case you wondered.)
Neak, just thought you'd like to know that a swarm of bees is apparently trying to bulld a hive in the flowers right next to your garden. I've got the Dervish watering the plants. The rest of us are safely in the house with the door closed. Haven't heard any screams yet.
And your hand MIGHT have smelled like cow poop, you know. Being in the barn frizzles your nose hairs for awhile. I love barn smell--always have every since I was a little girl--but after you've been in it for awhile your nose loses a certain amount of its sensitivity, at least temporarily.
One of the last times I was at the farm I spent several hours in the barn visiting during milking, just before I got into my nice rental and headed off for Chicago and the flight home. I no longer noticed barn smell until I got into my nice, spiffy little rental car and closed the door. I decided to stop at the town 25 miles away where I was born and check out the hospital, even though the building itself is now a nursing home and there is a new hospital that houses the birthing unit. I got out of the car, enjoyed barn smell all the way up in the elevator and entered the labor and delivery area. The nurse asked how she could help me, and I replied, "I'm a labor and delivery nurse from California and I was born at this hospital. I just wanted to see your department." At that, her nostrils dilated ever so slightly (about 1-2cm, if I were making an EDUCATED guess) and she sniffed delicately at the aroma of pure Wisconsin farm that emanated from me like a thick cloud. I knew what she was thinking, "So THAT'S what L&D smells like in California!"
Life's not fair....I can't even get one day off from work without feeling like they're going to hate me for it and hold it against me. I only have 6 weeks of vacation time(or more) and 3 weeks of sick time. So, I don't think they give a turkey's patootee.
All these people talking about vacation are making me green w/ envy. Green skin is NOT goddessy.
Hey, I work one of those real jobs, too. The difference is, I always put myself first, and always take time off when I can afford to. I'll take mental health days ahead of time. WE (me and then notsowaywardhusband) would take a vacation every year for a week, even if we weren't out of town the entire week. I take every Christmas week off.
You've got to prioritize YOU into the mix of your own life. This year, I'm not planning on going very far from home, but I still plan on taking some time off of work.
Oh, Mimi, I know you are criticizing. I was pointing out to ciderella that you have to make time for yourself when you aren't self employed. It's a must.
When you are self employed, you still have to make time, but you SCHEDULE it, instead of REQUEST it.
I never feel guilty, EVER, when taking time off. I hear people complain all the time about not being ABLE to take time off, 'cause the boss will be angry. If you set the precedent that you will sacrifice your mental health for your job, they'll, generally, take it.
The real world for me is that I am a single mom of two teenagers. I knew that I would not have the business skill to run a business. I knew that it was too dicey for me to think about trying to feed, clothe, house, and educate two children while owning a business. That was not a good or healthy choice for me.
Not that the regime where I am now working is creating a healthy atmosphere.
But, if I wanted to have a home, insurance, food, and clothes, I had to make the choice to be employed.
Seriously considered self-employment but it was just not a rational choice.
I am not complaining that you are getting the vacation. Nope, never, not me.....I'm just jealous and tired and weary.
This evening, I do have my choice of functions. I need to go to fundraiser at son's school.
And, I am the designated adult to accompany my daughter and a horde of her friends when they go from their prom to play laser tag at a place a few blocks away. Gonna be a really crowded night in an area full of tourists and celebrating runners. So, I get to be the adult in the group. So, how do you dress to go from a fiesta themed dinner/dance/auction to prom to laser tag?
Patent leather doesn't really call me. It's cool but I remember, as a 12 or 14 year old, the hard work that went into keeping my couple-of-seasons-old black patent leather shoes looking shiney.
I did, however, treat myself to a new cell phone today. It's the first NEW phone I've ever had. And I got what I wanted!!!! A light blue Chocolate with an MP3 player, chaperone feature, camera, speaker phone, and it's a slider.
Mimi, have you figured out Lucy yet? Lucille Ball as Lucy Ricardo in "I Love Lucy".
Similar to a GPS feature. The cool thing is, I got my daughter the free phone to which I was entitled so we will have same company's service and can call each other free. I could get a family plan for much less than two individual plans would cost.
I am notorious for losing phones - but, I've never had one I liked. Our phones will be able to locate each other. So, if one of us gets stranded on the highway, the other one would know where to find them....or if I lose my phone, she can tell where it is.
My sporty car is a charcoal gray, and when the sun shines on it, it glistens, due to the speckles of orange and silver and blue in the paint. It's very COOL
I had never had a sports car as a young lady, and when the time came to get a new car, I jumped on it. Not a day goes by that I don't appreciate the purchase.
My sporty car is a charcoal gray, and when the sun shines on it, it glistens, due to the speckles of orange and silver and blue in the paint. It's very COOL
I had never had a sports car as a young lady, and when the time came to get a new car, I jumped on it. Not a day goes by that I don't appreciate the purchase.
MY sports car is at station wagon. I have named it a sports car because I need it for all outdoor activities I like to do. Not very stylish but if I have to choose between stylish and having fun I will always go for the fun.
By the way, I washed my car today and cleaned it inside. It is so much nicer to step in to a sparkling clean car.
I got a red patent leather purse last year that I love. I switched to a green leather for the Spring, but will find use for the red throughout the summer. It's a beaut!
It doesn't take oodles of money to be stylish, just have to have an eye for the things that are not flashes in the pan; those classic pieces. You can get a lot of stylish stuff at your local mall or department store.
My mom always swore that I was adopted, because I was so unlike my siblings as a child, in demeanor, that is.
Seriously, though, my sister was a fashion maven when she was younger; she's allowed hard times to come her way as of late, and is not caring for herself as much these days. I hope she gets back to it. Her shoe collection alone was enough to envy.
It really wasn't until the last couple of years that I became interested in my own fashion. I had always been UP with the times, but didn't pay that much attention. NOW, I pay attention, because I think a great fitting, classic outfit CAN boost your spirit and confidence (not to mention the shoes and the purse to finish it off).
Oh, I was watching What Not to Wear the other night, I think it was a rerun, and Stacey mentioned having a great red pump in your wardrobe; that it was the BEST shoe to start with. I'm off to seek mine out. I have gold, and silver, and mauve, and black patent, but no red.
I bought a shift dress yesterday that hugs my body in all the right spots, and is a timeless style.
x called me today. He was trying to get documents in order for our daughter go to Germany w/ group from school. So, he's at the health department and they were apparently having trouble finding her birth records.
He needed to confirm her date of birth so he asked if it was Nov 17, 2000. With quiet amusement, I told him it was 1990. He was only a decade, or is that a century, or is that a millenium off.
From my cousin re a funeral--packed quite a wallop to me! I'm heading for bed. I am totally drained emotionally. I went to Jonathan Frazier's funeral today. Josh worked with him as a Paramedic at Memorial, and then at Life Guard. He threw a pulmonary embolism at home on Friday and died. He was 27, had been in the National Guard, East Ridge Fire Dept, and then a Paramedic. He has a wife and a toddler.
This was truely the saddest funeral I have ever been at--even counting my parent's. I have to hand it to EMS. They went all out for him. The dedicated an ambulance to him and it was first in the procession and draped with black crepe. The brought in Paramedics from other cities to cover Chattanooga and all of Life Guard was there. There must have been 100 medics, East Ridge Firefighter, and some National Guardsmen. All of Life Guard had black material across their badges and every ambulance in the fleet has a black flag on it's antena. The funeral home didn't have any other service today, and there still wasn't enough room for everyone to sit.
When we left to drive to Hixson for the grave side service, there were 4 or 5 ambulances in the lead with their lights flashing, More brought up the rear. The procession was probably 2 miles long. There were police cars and fire dept vehicles blocking the intersections and standing outside of the vehicles with their hands over their hearts, or saluting. Josh drove the #3 ambulance. When the lead EMS vehicles got to the cemetary, they parked in the turn lane and all of those riding in them got out and stood in a line for the rest of the funeral procession to pass by. Then they formed a line at the grave site for the coffin to be carried through the middle of them. Carmen and I drove together, so we stood just behind Josh until the casket and family passed by, then we stood on each side of him.
There were men in Scotish kilts playing bagpipes and drums, and a bugeler to play taps. I counted 14 EMS vehicles from 4 different companies lining the road in front of the cemetary by the grave site. Of course they had the flag folding ceremony--very dignified. Erlanger sent our Helicopter to do a fly over and they were just barely above the tree tops and directly over the grave. Then the Life Guard Medics that had radios turned them up loud and did a radio check on the ambulances that were there, saving Jonathan's for last. They called his rig twice, and of course there was no answer. Then they said Paramedic Frazier, you are relieved of your duties and your job was well done. Rest in Peace. Josh was one of the ones with the Radios.
Carmen and I were bawling through the whole service and my son, who was friends with Jonathan, stood there stone faced and dignified, strong as a rock. I was so proud of him. This D boy is tougher than any D girl, and I knew he was hurting. He indulged Carmen and I by letting us hold his hands and hang on either side of him when we got the chance, which probably made it harder for him to be tough. He did it though and he was awesome. The whole service lasted 3 and 1/2 hours.
And through it all, I just kept thinking, thank God it's not my son. The funeral was beautiful and a wonderful tribute, but NOT for one of my children. I cannot imagine anything so terrible! My kids are my world and I love them so much. This just makes me even more aware of how very wonderful and precious they both are, and of how very, very proud I am of Heather and Josh.
So, tonight, everyone of you hug your babies and tell them that you love them--and then do it again!
Dr. Phil proclaims that, 'The way to achieve inner peace is to finish all the things you have started and have never finished.' So, I looked around my house to see all the things I've started and hadn't finished, and before the morning was over I finished off a bottle of White Zinfandel, a bottle of Bailey's Irish Cream, a package of Oreos, the remainder of my old Prozac prescription, the rest of the cheesecake, some Doritos, and a box of chocolates. You have no idea how freaking good I feel right now.
Sounds like Rella has been to finishing school, hee hee.
Have lots of fun Mimi!
We're going through AZ on our way to the northeastern coast. I'll get to go in at least 2 states I have never been in. I'm trying to talk AJ into taking me to some historical places. Ok, actually lots of historical places.
1: Martha Stewart says: Stuff a miniature marshmallow in the bottom of a sugar cone to prevent ice cream drips. Real women say: Just suck the ice cream out of the bottom of the cone, for God’s sake, you're probably lying on the couch with your feet up eating it anyway.
2: Martha Stewart says: To keep potatoes from budding, place an apple in the bag with the potatoes. Real women say: Buy Hungry Jack mashed potato mix, keep it in the pantry for up to a year.
3: Martha Stewart says: When a cake recipe calls for flouring the tin, use a bit of the dry cake mix instead and there won't be any white mess on the outside of the cake. Real women say: Go to the bakery. They'll even decorate it for you.
4: Martha Stewart says: If you accidentally over salt a dish while it's still cooking, drop in a peeled potato and it will absorb the excess salt for an instant "fix me up". Real women say: If you over salt a dish while you're cooking, that's tough. Please recite with me The Real Women's motto: I made it and you will eat it and I don't care how bad it tastes.
5: Martha Stewart says: Wrap celery in foil when putting in the fridge and it will keep for weeks. Real women say: Celery? Never heard of the stuff.
6: Martha Stewart says: Brush some beaten egg white over pie crust before baking to yield a beautiful glossy finish. Real women say: The Mrs. Smith frozen pie directions do not include brushing egg whites over the crust and so I don't do it.
7: Martha Stewart says: If you have a problem opening jars: Try using rubber gloves. They give a non-slip grip that makes opening jars easy. Real women say: Go ask the very gorgeous neighbor to do it.
8: Martha Stewart says: Cure for headaches. Take a lime, cut it in half and rub it on your forehead. The throbbing will go away. Real women say: Cure for headaches. Take a lime, cut it in half and drop it in a double vodka. Drink the vodka. You might still have the headache, but you won't care!
9: Martha Stewart says: When catering for an evening buffet, calculate food portions and timings a week in advance, so that you're not rushing on the night. Real women say: Nip into Safeways on the way home that evening, and buy everything in packets.
10: Martha Stewart says: When you have finished the preparation for your buffet, wash up and treat yourself to a glass of wine. Real women say: Hide the packets and drain the last of that "pre dinner" wine bottle...
11: Martha Stewart says: Don't throw out all that leftover wine. Freeze into ice cubes for future use in casseroles and sauces. Real women say: What left over wine???
Well, our little secretary wore her F-me red pumps today again and the men were falling all over her. Maybe I'll get me some. Of course it probably helps being only 20.
Lol at both of you! Besides, everyone knows that when you're 20, red pumps don't hurt anyway. All the male admiration makes you float, so it's not like there's any pressure on your corns. Wait, you don't have corns, either.
Most people don’t know that back in 1912, Hellmann’s Mayonnaise was manufactured in England.
In fact, the Titanic was carrying 12,000 jars of the condiment scheduled for delivery in Vera Cruz, Mexico, which was to be the next port of call for the great ship after its stop in New York. This would have been the largest single shipment of mayonnaise ever delivered to Mexico. But, as we know, the great ship did not make it to New York. The ship hit an iceberg and sank, and the cargo was forever lost.
The People of Mexico, who were crazy about mayonnaise and were eagerly awaiting its delivery, were disconsolate at the loss. Their anguish was so great that they declared a National Day of Mourning, which they still observe to this day.
The National Day of Mourning occurs each year on May 5gh and is known, of course, as Sinko De Mayo
Looking good, Neak. Now we have a roadwarrioress amongst us!
Mimi would be proud. I found a member today who didn't look good when hubby stopped by. I referred her IMMEDIATELY to this thread. She is probably burning her sweat shirts and sweat pants as you read.
Where are all goddesses? Just because mimi left to go on vacation (jealous, me, how can you think something like that?) we don't have to desert this thread.
I would really like to have a pedicure but I don't think that I could squeeze in a visit to a salon. I am awfully busy at work at the moment and all my spare time goes to kayaking and going out with friends (it is spring, you know). Any suggestion on what to do yourself at home?
I like at home facials and masks, etc. I try to do home pedicures/french manicures on my toenails, but I'm not really that talented. Hair treatments are always nice and some steam on the face is always refreshing.
Also, a rosemary infusion (water and crushed, fresh rosemary) is SO relaxing rubbed into tired muscles.
And A, a trick to do a French mani - cut masking tape into moon shapes and use it as a guide for the white part. When the white polish dries, take the tape off and then apply your top coat.
It's been awhile since I last posted,,,,been lost in Plan C land...(that's C for confused/crazy/chicken.....lol). But seeing as I finally got out of there, I realized I was needing to get back to where it all began for me......and that is here amongst all my GODDESS girls....lol....
So lets see...run down of where I am...
still sitting pretty at 130 lbs. That would be a total weight lose of 42 lbs. Not too shabby for a mom of 3....have had to get a whole new wardrobe since nothing fit. Even the "skinny" clothes I never got rid of don't fit me.....yeah...now I still need some more clothes, but I got enough to get me started.....
Make-up....still putting on everyday. Still revert to my old ways on occasion, especially when I am doing major cleaning, but that is easily corrected....
Hair....have kept up with my coloring and hair cuts. That in itself is amazing. Also, I keep up with styling it most of the time. Like I said, I slip into old habit once in awhile (usually only for a day....actually, its more like 1/2 day....), but this too is farther than I have been in years....
clothes....keeping up with the trends. Found out I love Express at the mall. Down side?? My DD14 gets frusterated because I now where SOME things that she would wear...she doesn't like that at all....oh well, better to be the "hip" mom than the old maid mom....
Pedi...still get those done regularly....this is actually my treat, because I love getting those....
waxing....keeping up with that as well..Actually found out that when I keep up with it, it doesn't hurt as much...who knew???
So that is where it is at ladies....
now for in GODDESS sanctuary....still lagging there....BUT...I am in the process of turning that around again....
Cinderalla--Neak says to tell you she'll probably be in your area today when it's possible to visit briefly, but she'll let you know later on when the time is more definite. I still haven't clicked on that feminine hygiene products aisle thread yet for fear of the dreaded price check.
Well, my next feat to attempt is making fondant from scratch! EEEEK :eek: It's supposed to taste better than the stuff you can order because it's made with Marshmallow. We shall see.
My DS 6th b-day is coming up in less than two weeks and I am going to attempt to make him an Indiana Jones themed cake; the boulder booby trap scene from "Raiders of the Lost Ark" (as close as an amateur baker can get).
If y'all have any expertise or helpful tips, I'm game.
So, NO, my DH is NOT particularly ATTRACTED to NATURAL BEAUTY...
He likes for ME to "FIX UP" for HIM...
I was in DENIAL when I thought differently...
Makes sense...when WE were FIRST DATING, I would "FIX UP", wear something special, put on that special cologne...you know, the whole MATING RITUAL STUFF..
That needs to continue...shouldn't have stopped...
This is the story of OUR RELATIONSHIP..not necessarily true of others, I know...
We had SO MUCH FUN with Rella, even washing dishes was great!
AJ is big on natural beauty. During the A I dolled myself up, trying to out-glam the OW, as well as not look like a corpse. One of the first times I began to suspect my real H might be back was a few weeks into our real recovery, when he said, "You don't have to keep wearing that stuff if you don't want to, you know. I think you're beautiful just the way you are."
Everybody is different, and that's just fine, but it sure was good to hear my DH again. I'm not off the hook in the PA category, by any means. Even on the truck I try to look pretty and smell pretty as much as possible. Fortunately AJ thinks I'm cute even when I'm sweaty and scraggly and in need of a shower. (Probably because that gets him started thinking about showers, and then it's only a short step to taking showers....but I digress.)
He gets me body wash and body spray and stuff, once in a great while a little perfume, but all so carefully chosen. I appreciate all the effort he takes.
Well he also "deposited lots of love units in our marriage" today - sorry but that is our new favorite saying, lololol. He took me to such a BEAUTIFUL place, and something he knew I would really enjoy. I'll post my pix after I get them sent to me from my phone.
OH MY...THE "SHOWER GEL" OBSESSION..my secret to the EVER-DELICIOUS BODY AROMA...Yes, my H "smells on me"....
This started with me since D-DAY...
I've been known to have a collection of up to 5 bottles..lined up in my shower stall..using a different one each day...it's AROMATHERAPY, LADIES...
I thought it was just me but the other day I almost laughed out loud at another lady in the grocery store gawking and obsessing over the COLLECTION on the soap aisle...
I've resorted lately to buying ONE bottle there at THE GROCERY STORE, using that until it's EMPTY...
I confess that it is definitely NOT working for me...
Part of my JOIE DE VIVRE is GONE...
Very, very soon I'll be back to B&B Works...
Especially with me beginning to smell like the OUTDOORS...
There's a hero If you look inside your heart You don't have to be afraid Of what you are There's an answer If you reach into your soul And the sorrow that you know Will melt away
And then a hero comes along With the strength to carry on And you cast your fears aside And you know you can survive So when you feel like hope is gone Look inside you and be strong And you'll finally see the truth That a hero lies in you
It's a long road When you face the world alone No one reaches out a hand For you to hold You can find love If you search within yourself And the emptiness you felt Will disappear
And then a hero comes along With the strength to carry on And you cast your fears aside And you know you can survive So when you feel like hope is gone Look inside you and be strong And you'll finally see the truth That a hero lies in you
Lord knows Dreams are hard to follow But don't let anyone Tear them away Hold on There will be tomorrow In time You'll find the way
And then a hero comes along With the strength to carry on And you cast your fears aside And you know you can survive So when you feel like hope is gone Look inside you and be strong And you'll finally see the truth That a hero lies in you
MARIAH CAREY
This is why I LOVE MARIAH..the words to her songs seem to speak DIRECTLY to ME...
I am going out right now to buy flowers to plant in my yard.
Last year, I was too distraught because of the A(still unknown to me at the time), the STD issue and the impending D-day.
And often times, I have said that it would be better NOT to spend the money.
NOT THIS YEAR!!!! I want a beautiful yard to reflect the hard work going on in my marriage and my soul. I am trusting God for a beautiful, fully recovered marriage and I want the whole world to see it.
Jesus warned "He that is not with me is against me; and he that gathereth not with me scattereth abroad" (Matt. 12:30). In the fight against evil there is no middle ground, no gray area, no neutrality. Those who are not actively and vigorously fighting against evil are helping evil to triumph.
{{{{{{{{Mimi}}}}}}}}} You should not leave MB, and I mean that.
I am in Texas, on my way HOME!!! I am very excited!!!!!!!!!! (And Monday is AJ's birthday. I won't really be able to buy him anything, not that that is any obstacle to a creative gal like myself, but I did let him buy a Native American flute, which I will help him learn to play.)
Mimi - Stay here please. You are valued and needed. I'm so sorry that this stuff happened, because it isn't good for marriagebuilding. But I respect you for speaking up. That took courage.
married - I had two posts deleted today. Can't remember how many posts I have here, but a bunch. I've only been edited twice in 5 years, and never have had posts removed until today.
I'm sure Mimi appreciates your support and I know that there are lots of folks watching. Hang in there, let's get past this, and continue being Goddesses and rebuilding marriages.
I just checked for a few old posts myself and they are gone. I wonder if it is because they were before the new board though...maybe they didn't get transfered over??
B, I haven't seen any of the thread or posts that apparently caused a ruckus, but from what I know of you, I almost surely disagree with your posts being edited.
I understand the mods have a difficult job, and am grateful to them for all their work, but at the same time, I do not like the superPC climate where folks sometimes cannot even speak their own truth, honestly and respectfully, without being edited. Maybe I would have agreed with your POV and maybe not, but I wish I had the chance to see it.
We can't take away all option to air differences of opinion without becoming a dictatorship, and that is my big concern.
This was such a wake-up for me. I am not doing so great at staying dolled up like I did before i went to AZ in Feb/March, but certainly more so than before I started on this thread.
Mimi - Stay here please. You are valued and needed. I'm so sorry that this stuff happened, because it isn't good for marriagebuilding. But I respect you for speaking up. That took courage.
Melody can weigh in here or not.
Mimi, I will weigh in and say that I hope you do stay around. It would be a tragedy to see you go.
My flowers are planted(well at least the ones I bought today).
I filled up the window boxes with yellow and coral tuberous begonias and trailing ivy. And I found a beautiful African Daisy. It is lilac with a dark purple center. I picked it up at the nursery, coveted it, set it down, and then I thought, "Hey, this is a symbol of your NEW marriage for the world to see," and I bought it.
I weeded and raked and shaped and watered.
As I worked I got more and more ideas.
This is the first time in my entire life that I don't feel guilty about buying the flowers.
This SUNBATHING GODDESS, took full advantage of the day and spent it outside enjoying a GF company. Sharing, laughing and doing as people have taught me. Building a happy, loving life that is led by G-d.
I'll dossy myself up and head out to my AA meeting tonight and pray like I haven't before to continue to walk in G-ds will and face the evil forces that confront me daily. And REMEMBER it was MIMI who TAUGHT me that I COULD......
"Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things." Phii:4:8
Melody - You know that you were the one that helped me the most through all of my heartache. Just wondering why you continue having a chat group that talks about other MB members and is so painful to others?
"Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things." Phii:4:8
Melody - You know that you were the one that helped me the most through all of my heartache. Just wondering why you continue having a chat group that talks about other MB members and is so painful to others?
Believer, it sounds to me like YOU have been doing some talking about folks behind their backs to me. Would you like to explain this comment?
Ooops, this somewhat MOTHER GODDESS had a wonderful time listening to her children talk about the lacrosse state championships and how they were going over to a friends house to get loaded and drunk..
I love my children and their honestly. How AWESOME they know not to push that boundary. At least today.
Mimi- Sorry, I was just going to sit back and watch, but I really have to come along side my sister (YOU) and support her.
And Mel, I HAVE been on my email today. Haven't ever done that before. But I have 37 emails now from members here, who are not feeling safe. I didn't ask for them to email me.
So let's just continue marriage building without the behind the scenes mocking.
And all I can say about that is I rebuke Satan for coming here.
Mimi- Sorry, I was just going to sit back and watch, but I really have to come along side my sister (YOU) and support her.
And Mel, I HAVE been on my email today. Haven't ever done that before. But I have 37 emails now from members here, who are not feeling safe. I didn't ask for them to email me.
So let's just continue marriage building without the behind the scenes mocking.
And all I can say about that is I rebuke Satan for coming here.
Believer, It sounds to me like YOU have been doing some behind the scenes gossiping. ABOUT ME. Followed by snide insinuations and callouts. That does NOT make me feel "safe" and I would like an explanation.
I agree wholeheartedly because so many of us BS feel like dirt on the ground and this helps us to tap into ourselves and begin to build a new life in ways we never thought of before.
Thanks, Justuss. Please give Melody my email. This is better done one to one.
Believer, if you have an issue you wish to address with me, you may email me at ohmelodylane@aol.com. I have no beef with you, you called me out, remember? I would much prefer you address me directly instead of snide, vague, catty little callouts buried on chat threads.
But he turned, and said unto Peter, Get thee behind me, Satan: thou art an offence unto me: for thou savourest not the things that be of God, but those that be of men.Matthew 16:23
I spent this afternoon with my sister and mother seeing the musical Jersey Boys. It was our gift to Mom for Mother's Day. She absolutely LOVED it, , as we all did. Lots of fun.
I came home and found a HUGE tree limb from the neighbor's tree in my back yard. I worked on breaking it up and getting it out until I cut my knee. Tomorrow I am going over there to ask for their help to get it out.
I figured out that I can not locate the key to the master lock on my outdoor power pole for the pool pump! YIKES! I really don't want to have to call a locksmith. I've searched & searched for that darn key! Maybe it's location will come to me in a dream tonight! ! I am aggravated because I am particular about keeping those kinds of things organized!
Perhaps a massage will be on my list of things to do tomorrow! I think that is an OUTSTANDING Goddess way to deal with the stress!
Hmmm, maybe I should clean my bathroom then take a bubble bath with the bubble bath stuff and candles my daughter got me. Have a glass of red wine w/ it.
Hmmm, maybe I should clean my bathroom then take a bubble bath with the bubble bath stuff and candles my daughter got me. Have a glass of red wine w/ it.
Oh YES! A bubble bath with a glass of wine is most DEFINATLEY on my to do list tonight!
I was just waiting for Baby Bugs to call, which she just did. Seems they got a Slip & Slide at Drac's house today. Lots of fun, but they are still outside & she was cold,,,poor baby!
I really NEED that bath after having to hear the Ho's voice in the background during the call. Gotta wash that sound away with the soothing bubbles, good wine, and the scent of my favorite candles!
Unfortunately, the only electrical outlet in my bathroom is wired to the light switch. The house was built before they invented the light dimmer switch. So, if the lights are out our low in the bathroom, there is not enough electricity to power the radio or cd player. That has to be plugged in somewhere else and dragged to the bathroom!
Good to see the tide of change this evening. Whew.
lotsa goddesses coming out in droves tonight. Good job!
I did some gardening today, pulling weeds, pruning things here and there. me and the little guy threw the football around for a bit. We then went to the cake store to buy food color paste to dye my fondant brown and gray and green, for the Indiana Jones cake. We ended the evening with a dip in the spa.
Talked to DS about right and wrong, and his daddy's choices today, which was prompted by questions DS has had and the thread about telling the kids the truth.
Sat in bed and buffed my fingernails to a high shine, oiling my cuticles. I am too tired to work on my feet right now. May make time for that tomorrow.
You know, I'm still waiting for my favorite album to be released on CD. Don't know that it will ever happen. It's an old Nat King Cole album, "Looking Back".
MIMI, you are such a blessing to so many here, please, don't jump ship. You keep so many straight and on the right path!! For 'rella, maybe you could get some of those LED stick on battery powered lights...you know the kind they sell on TV, you can find them on the "as seen on TV aisle" at CVS. About 10 bucks, 3 or 4 to a pkg. You could stick those under your mirror for ambient lighting..just a thought.
OT if anyone has any cardiac recipes for a guy who is in the dire straights and in the throws of cardiac disease, could you please share them with me? I am working so hard on his diet and now I seem to have all of his blood test numbers well below normal limits....but his cardiac drugs have just elevated his AST, which we are addressing. I just need help with some really good tasting foods. FYI the bratwurst is not your friend, nor is bacon, or butter, or on and on and anything he likes. Doc had a come to Jesus meeting with him and he finally got on board with eating properly after he was told his next stop was bypass. His food affair is almost as hard as his EA!!!! Thanks in advance for all the great recipes and tips I'm sure you will share! GF \
Well, Duh!! I got it over 18 months ago, when his first stents were put in! Him, Nahhh he'd exercise, He'd get it done, never happened. Our cardiologist was too nice!! Well, then he was, not so much now. You know, it was almost like he was still in the wayward mindset. I caught him hiding cashews in the backseat of his truck, sneaking the doritos out of the house that he was gonna "give to his workers" on and on. I finally called DIL and stocked her cabinets with every "wayward food" that was in our house. Now she and my S compain that I don't have any "real" food in our house. When they eat with us, I think they are treated to a very healthy meal. My FWH also is onboard with me now, since his blood levels have dropped and I actually heard him telling DD,RN that , "thanks to me" he is on the right track now. Time will tell. He's losing weight at the rate of 1/2 to 1 lb per week. I think this is good, since we are into YET another lifestyle change. We will get it done, grill season is here, it should be awesome...at least I think it will be if I can just not char the veggies! Thanks for that insight 'Rella, he's gonna hear it tommorow AM. GF
Morningstar Farms has some great ones to try. The Grillers are uber-yummy, and the Chik-patties not far behind. AJ also sometimes grills pieces of canned veggie steak, it's from either Loma Linda or Worthington, can't remember which.
What is too funny, is he's even gotten his brother hooked on Grillers, now. His brother is a "there's room for all God's creatures...right next to the potatoes" kind of guy, but now he eats Grillers and also the veggie bacon every chance he gets.
At least around here, Safeway and some of the super Wal Marts have these much cheaper than anywhere else. (Safeway does not have them cheap all the time, but every couple of months puts them on sale for about $3-3.50 per box. I stock up then.)
There will be little or no cholesterol, and usually 1/3 to 1/2 less fat. Not to mention that since it is a plant product, it digests much more quickly and easily than meat.
Mimi- Sorry, I was just going to sit back and watch, but I really have to come along side my sister (YOU) and support her.
And Mel, I HAVE been on my email today. Haven't ever done that before. But I have 37 emails now from members here, who are not feeling safe. I didn't ask for them to email me.
So let's just continue marriage building without the behind the scenes mocking.
And all I can say about that is I rebuke Satan for coming here.
I have NO idea what this drama was about....BUT...this "feeling safe" crap on these boards really has gone too far. People have a right to express themselves, without regard to MB terms of service, when they are on another site. Do you think I don't know I get slammed from some posters that don't like what/how or to whom I post? Of course I know. Bottom line is, I really don't give a rats behind. The question is...why does everybody here get their panties in a wad wondering what the latest gossip might be....who gives a flying poop?
Post here in a mannner that YOU think is helpful...you will reach people that identify with your style. I haven't changed my posting style one bit from the time I arrived here....no matter what people say about me. I am willing to listen to those I respect and learn from them...but beyond that..it goes in one ear and out the other.
Goodbye threads are ridiculous too. If someone wants to leave...then leave. Stop with the over dramatization of prolonged griping and goodbyes on this board. It smacks of a call out to others to say how wonderful you really are.
Most people are here to help others in the best way that they know how. How about we stick to that and leave all the soul speaking drama for daytime TV.
This here GODDESS was certainly in the BLAHS yesterday and did resort to her FIGHT OR FLIGHT PATTERN which does result in GOODBYE CRUEL WORLD POSTS but does get me that needed ATTENTION...just kidding..but MEDC is onto something there...
We ALL make mistakes and have to just KEEP TRYING..and GET BACK UP ON THE HORSE..that's ALL we can do...
So this morning/today, I'm doing my FULL/ALL-OUT ROUTINE...IRONED my outfit..layered the cologne on the shower gel..all the MAKEUP stuff, of course, ASKED my DH to "take me out" to eat which he loves, makes him feel like he's "DATING"...out to buy groceries and to get my car washed beforehand...
Thanks MEDC, for the reminders. I rarely give a flying fart what people think of me. I appreciate when someone puts my patoot back in line when I'm being an [censored], but otherwise, I am who I am. It's even too much work for me to try and find this chat room y'all elude to. I don't have enough time on my hands to use this board to it's full advantage AND go elsewhere to slam y'all. I'll just slam ya here, okay?
Just doing some cleaning, as usual. The house gets furry during the week, from the dogs and kitty, and I like to clean my room, dust, make it smell nice, change linens.
Maybe I'll actually cook something that takes effort tonight. With just me and DS here, between work and activities, I don't cook nearly as much as I used to. I keep telling myself to get back to it, but I keep finding other stuff to do.
"It's even too much work for me to try and find this chat room y'all elude to. I don't have enough time on my hands to use this board to it's full advantage AND go elsewhere to slam y'all. I'll just slam ya here, okay?"
LOL, SL.........
Do you ever use a crockpot? I got a whole ton of recipes off recipezaar that take less than 5 minutes to prepare for a crockpot. Then I go do other things.
But I love to cook, so that makes a difference. I use the crockpot a lot during the week, because I don't get home from work until 6:00PM and it is nice to have dinner ready.
It must be such a burden for certain folks to be a self appointed savior, while stabbing them in the back elsewhere. But these wise self appointed saviors really should have their own chat room. How else can they maintain their sanity amoungst all of us insane folks.
Speaking for myself, there is only one Savior, and He was nailed to a cross on Calvary. That is where, for me, my salvation lies, nowhere else.
Now what is it about this bubble bath thing that we men don't know about? When i clean up, i prefer to be hit with a fire hose and remark, wasn't that great?
Mediterranean food is supposed to be healthy and many of the dishes in the books are based on vegetables. I have tried a few of them and they are easy to cook and really tasty. I particularly like Briami (baked zucchini with potato and tomatoes) and also stuffed vegetables. Please let me know if you want me to post some recipes.
By the way, I got some advice about cleaning from a pro. One of my friends used to clean offices when she was a student. She has told me that they always did the basics like cleaning the floors and the desks but every time they did something extra, like cleaning the light switches or the paintings or the doors. It was not much work but everything was always clean.
One year ago tonight, the BS limped up to a podium and gave out scholarships as a wounded PTA person.
One year later, 87 lbs lighter, healthier in many ways and so grateful to you, I will gracefully walk up to the podium looking my absolute best with a fresh suntan and presently hand out scholarships with a smile on my face and love in my heart becaue of you who have made a difference in my life. Thank you...
Any success I have tonight is because of G-d, you and AA.
Mimi,
My HEAD'S UP, CHEST OUT AND GRATITUDE ON MY HEART TO BE A WARRIOR GODDESS.
What a totally blessed night. It dawned on me that as these kids starting receiving their scholarships, I had many of them years ago as students at my school. Oh how they have grown and matured.
What an honor for me to hand them out money and be a part of their lives knowing.
This was your victory as well as mine because so many people haven't seen me for a year and they were pretty stunned.
It always touches me when people here, total strangers in so many ways, show me that they love me, believe in me, care for me, cheer for me, cry with me, laugh with me.
ALWAYS TOUCHES ME!
Glad you had such a triumphant night. You deserve it!!!
It always touches me when people here, total strangers in so many ways, show me that they love me, believe in me, care for me, cheer for me, cry with me, laugh with me.
It always touches me when people here, total strangers in so many ways, show me that they love me, believe in me, care for me, cheer for me, cry with me, laugh with me.
ALWAYS TOUCHES ME!
Glad you had such a triumphant night. You deserve it!!!
this night was ALL OURS SUCCESSES because of YOUR hard work in not giving up on me.
I imagined you all out in the audience and I spoke with strength and love in my voice because WE ON HERE, once TOTAL strangers but part of our lives for how long, we don't really know, but then again forever in so many ways. You are right, I think that most of us on here do sincerely care for each other and we can be so proud of that.
And that's G-d's blessing. You are so right JT... G-d turns the horrific stuff into good.
My goodness, you almost lost a whole person there, didn't you? Good for you.
Almost... But this GODDESS still has LOTS to lose and can't let up now.... G-d is counting on her to take care of her new body, spirit and soul while he creates a blessing for her.
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Thanks!! I needed to HEAR that tonight!!
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wish you could KNOW and FEEL how very SPECIAL that you are!!
You are such an INSPIRATION to us ALL in so MANY WAYS!!
One day, G-d willing I will truly understand, but when that day happens it won't be because of me, but because of you and so many others who loved me when I hated myself.
You woman are the inspiration in my life. You are the gift from G-d.
Dueteronomy 29:29 The secret things belong to the LORD our G-d, but the things revealed belong to us and to our children forever, that we may follow all the words of this law.
So, we don't always know in this lifetime. What is amazing to me, though, is those moments of revelation.
How about some quotes from one of my favorite books, AWAKEN THE GIANT WITHIN by Anthony Robbins:
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Every time you worry, break the pattern by being totally outrageous. Stick your finger up your nose, or belt out, "Oh What a Beautiful Morning!" at the top of your lungs.
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Why not make cheerfulness, outrageousness, playfulness a new priority for yourself? Make feeling good your expectation. You don't have to have a reason to feel good--- you're alive, you can feel good for no reason at all!
Hey, I am the mother of a high school senior. She finished her exams for the end of her junior year today. So, I guess that makes her a senior. And Newsweek just ranked her high school as one of the top 25 in the nation.
And tomorrow night, The Diplomat will be here. My house is a wreck. But he is coming to see me....not my house.
Guess what, just being alive in the USA is way better than the life many people have. Life is sweet - even if it's not easy.
Uh, he's the chief representative of the Far Kingdom. We have summit meetings periodically where we discuss such things as cultural exchange and arms negotiations.
You know....these are high level diplomatic meetings. Think "Princess"! Now, what else would I do....see the sights, take visiting dignitaries to see the sights, make small talk, dress up for entertainment opportunities. You know!!!
Well, I keep telling him that he needs to get his employer to relocate his position close to me. The closest office that he would be likely to land in is only 8 or so hours away.
Well, I keep telling him that he needs to get his employer to relocate his position close to me. The closest office that he would be likely to land in is only 8 or so hours away.
I just needed to hand out some hugs today. I am not necessarily in a cheerful mood, but am doing everything I can to get there.....
The sun is finally out....YEAH.....I want to take FULL advantage of that and enjoy it. Especially since more rain is on the way.....(at the rate we are going we are going to end up like the Flood of '93....which btw is the year WS and I got married??? any parallels to that????).
I was in full GODDESS form yesterday. And I am just about there today.
Anyway, I am so proud of you all and our growth in this adventure....
Well, I keep telling him that he needs to get his employer to relocate his position close to me. The closest office that he would be likely to land in is only 8 or so hours away.
You are cordially invited to experience Tiffany & Co as few have. Tiffany & Co is opening their doors exclusively for Team In Training to show off their jewelry to the women of Nashville. You will also learn about how you can earn a limited edition Tiffany necklace for yourself through Team In Training and the Nike Women's Marathon, A Race to Benefit The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society.
Light breakfast and champagne will be served.
Who: Women of Nashville
When: Saturday, May 31, 2008
Time: 9:00 - 10:00 AM
Where: Tiffany & Co The Mall at Green Hills 2126 Abbott Martin Road
So, the deal is - they are trying to get me to sign up to train for and participate in the Nike Marathon for Women....I would choose to walk the half-marathon.
However, I want to mentor for the race as it will reduce my fund-raising goal by about $1,000. That's right, if I take their bait today, I'm signing up to raise about $5,000 for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society. When I did the Country Music Half-Marathon in April 2007, I raised about $2,500.
My daughter wanted to do San Francisco but I'm hesitant because we would need to raise about $10K. I don't know what San Antonio or Phoenix would require.
Team In Training is the world's largest endurance sports training program. They will train you to complete the event of your choice - not to be competitive but to finish vertical.
I have foot issues, a bad knee, hip issues, arthritis in my spine, and 2 herniated disks in my neck. And, I did a half-marathon last year. Was in various kinds of physical distress at time to sign up for the marathon here this year.
My daughter would like to do the Nike Marathon for Women in October but I don't think that will work for us. She would also like to do the San Antonio one which is the weekend of her 18th birthday.
So the breakfast this morning was to create desire to do the Nike so we could get the limited edition Tiffany necklace they award instead of medals. And our fundraising goal would be $4,000 per person. Two people. You do the math.
I do not have a family member with this leukemia, lymphoma, myeloma, or any other blood cancer - THANK GOD. However, I worked with a man who had lymphoma. He did not survive but I did the Country Music Half Marathon in his honor in April 2007 which was a couple of months before he died.
Their coaches can work with you to get from your current status to completing the race. And, trust me, we had members on our team who were in worse shape than me.
If you start training now, you have time to get there by October. San Francisco is hilly but not cable-car hilly. San Antonio in mid-November is flat. San Francisco has Tiffany necklaces. San Antonio has medals. San Francisco may be sold out unless you do it through Team In Training because they hold spots for TNT members.
Yeah, the store where I went for breakfast is about 6 miles from my house.
Here is my photo in a $6000 pair of diamond and pearl earrings and a $25,000 necklace. I did try on a $136,000 diamond ring which fit perfectly. A 3 carat oval colorless diamond w/ a half carat diamond on either side.
The thing is, though, that I was wearing over $30,000 worth of jewelry. But, I will never own that stuff. You know, if I'd never stopped working, if x hadn't left, if so many things.....I could at least have owned those earrings. Not that I would ever have wanted them....something smaller and less expensive would have been fine. Their earrings, after all. But, x leaving removed those possibilities.
However, I'm happier w/out him at home. I don't miss him as I now see him. I miss things he made possible.
But, when I'm not busy screwing up my life for myself, I am far happier now in so many ways.
My children are 15 and 17 now. They were 2 and 4 when their dad left. Though they love their dad, they are beginning to see what he is.....A few weeks ago, he managed one of his displays of dogmatism and arrogance and ugliness aimed at one of the children. When they got home from an evening at his house, my son said to me, "I can see why you weren't happy being married to him." The thing is, I thought (in my denial) that I was happy. I know that I loved him. But, I can't figure out why.
Well, there is a possibility but there is no desire on my part to own things THAT expensive. You know, I could probably find some $1000 earrings that suited me as well. That weren't so heavy. They are things. Sometimes I think I have too many things. Not that I have all the things I would like. I just am not in a place right now to want more things. I'd rather have someone come take care of my yard.
Ah, those earrings....can you imagine how many ways I could find to lose one of them? And just how many places would you wear that kind of necklace. If the person who did my yard chose to give me that stuff, I'd love it and wear it.
I would rather have some more simple earrings and travel to Egypt, the Galapagos, Hong Kong, the Grand Canyon, New Orleans, back to Australia and New Zealand. I'd rather see the world than feel anxiety over losing an earring.
This thread was started all those months ago because we were going to pick a theme. We never did do that. I think it would be nice for us to do something to help cheer us up.
My MOOD INCREASES just by going to CHARLESTON. I don't know exactly why. I don't believe in reincarnation BUT I FEEL like I've lived there in a previous life. I'd LOVE to move there..been DREAMING on it...
I also am a BIG FAN of DISNEY WORLD..the child in me..I didn't like DISNEY LAND as much..you see, you have to TRAVEL over to DISNEY WORLD..like going to a FANTASY LAND...
You're funny - too many things. Yes, I know exactly what you mean. In my corporate days, I used to be a "thing" collector. An old friend who I used to work with was visiting last weekend, and we were talking about all of our "things" because we used to shop together for "things." She's now a junior professor and I own a retail store so we have no money to buy "things" anymore.
Queenie, Mimi
I agree, we need to do a theme this month. I love travel too, but I'm broke for a while so won't be doing any travelling. I travelled a lot in my corporate days and I sometimes miss it. Right now I would love to go to a beach. I've been cooking a lot this week, so how about a gourmet theme month. We can trade recipes. Yesterday I made Eggplant Canneloni which is great!
I understand Germany is very beautiful. But that is one place where I will never visit. The whole death camp thing is too sickening. And I realize that it would have happened in any country, but it didn't.
I worked with a man who freed the camps at the end of WWII, and the pictures I saw are burned into my brain for life.
I think we all should go on a cruise. Maybe just a short one.
I have been to Dachau. It was an incredibly tragic place, with the irony of green grass, flowers, and sunshine. I felt as if it ought to always be dark there, not warm, beautiful, and quiet.
It makes me think of the time of trouble mentioned in Daniel 12:1, which will be even worse than the camps, worse than anything ever before, but as God's people we will be delivered.
Cruises are much happier than anything you can find in Germany. And in my dream world, Israel is safe to visit and go anywhere in the country without a worry.
My perfect trip right now would be to Florida. We went there right after D-Day and stayed for 2 weeks. I want to go to Port Orange and have a breakfast of grilled fish and mimosas at Crabby Joe's and then sit UNDER the pier on the beach all day, reading and talking, until the tide is too high to stay.
And then the next day, ride A1A to St. Augustine and shop on St. George St. and sit on the benches at the fort across the street.
And then go back to my sister's in Oak Hill and LOVE being with her.
Right now, that sounds like heaven to me... ABSOLUTE HEAVEN.
And then I want to go to my favorite place in all the world. Niagara Falls. I have no words to describe how that place makes me feel.
Well Mimi, this D is becoming so financially devastating that I can't even afford to travel in my dreams. Gawd, I hate A's.
Anyway, Believer I think that you have a great idea. We should all go on a cruise. Maybe when I don't have to pay an atty anymore, I can afford it. Where would we go?
W2LE, your idea sounds good too. Florida I could get to by car. I75 South all the way....
My middle name should be GO!!! I want to go almost everywhere relatively safe. I nearly got killed in a hot air balloon crash in Alice Springs Australia in 1986. So, I have a reasonable fear of doing dangerous things abroad.
Of course, I LOVED THE DISNEY CRUISE...on the MAGIC.."Discover the MAGIC, discover the WONDER"..I'll never forget it..AHH... But my next cruise will probably be an ALASKAN CRUISE..I want to see some whales after reading MOBY [censored]...
Well Mimi, this D is becoming so financially devastating that I can't even afford to travel in my dreams.
No problem, you can go on my dream budget
I don't know about cruises though, I think I am too restless for that. I can join if I can get of the ship now and then and walk around in dusty towns and visit the countryside. I love to travel and explore new places, try local food and see what life is like there.
Me and my then-not-W H have travelled a lot. But I think it would be good for me to start building my own memories. I will see what the summer will bring, maybe a visit to a friends family across the country, a place with excellent sea kayaking.
Just a message someone sent me - allegedly written by Andy Rooney, the CBS correspondent.
As I grow in age, I value women over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:
A woman over 40 will never wake you in the middle of the night and ask, 'What are you thinking?' She doesn't care what you think. If a woman over 40 doesn't want to watch the game, she doesn't sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do, and it's usually more interesting. Women over 40 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won't hesitate to shoot you if the y think they can get away with it. Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it's like to be unappreciated. Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40. Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 40 is far sexier than her younger counterpart. Older women are forthright and honest. They'll tell you right off if you are a jerk if you are acting like one . You don't ever have to wonder where you stand with her.
Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons.
Unfortunately, it's not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed, hot woman over 40, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year old waitress. Ladies, I apologize.
For all those men who say, 'Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?', here's an update for you. Nowadays 80% of women are against ma rriage Why? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage!
There are some short cruises to the Virgin Islands, or the Bahamas, or something like that. They always get good ratings. There is a short one here in California to Catalina Island and Mexico, but I think there is a lot of drinking. One review said that the organization, planning wasn't very good, but everyone was so drunk it didn't matter.
Maybe we can have an imaginery vacation. Right in our own home.
My first move would be to cut off the phone - "No calls, I'm on vacation".
Next, no cooking. I would plan to order out and preferably have meals delivered by room service.
Then, a tour of my town (which is beautiful), as a tourist. Rides on the bus, checking out all of the local action, shopping in the little shops I never visit, lunch out.
Then back to my room, no cooking, no housework, no work at all, just lazing around, staying up watching movies very late, sleeping in.......... Then something very fattening for breakfast - crepes??????
Have you ever had the 'Peasant Potatoes' at Le Peep? It's a chain of breakfast/brunch/lunch restaurants. No dinner. Potatoes good enough to make you wanna order an extra order.
Don't have that here in Southern California. But I'm a potato lover. One dinner would be baked potatoes with sour cream and chives, cheese, olives, salsa, mushrooms and bacon, all piled on top.
Then, for me - someone to do my yardwork. I can imagine eating strawberries dipped in chocolate while gazing out my window, watching my much younger yard boy, his muscles glistening in the sun. He would happily take care of EVERYTHING out there, and look good doing it.
Don't have that here in Southern California. But I'm a potato lover. One dinner would be baked potatoes with sour cream and chives, cheese, olives, salsa, mushrooms and bacon, all piled on top.
Then, for me - someone to do my yardwork. I can imagine eating strawberries dipped in chocolate while gazing out my window, watching my much younger yard boy, his muscles glistening in the sun. He would happily take care of EVERYTHING out there, and look good doing it.
Maybe we can have an imaginery vacation. Right in our own home.
My first move would be to cut off the phone - "No calls, I'm on vacation".
Next, no cooking. I would plan to order out and preferably have meals delivered by room service.
Then, a tour of my town (which is beautiful), as a tourist. Rides on the bus, checking out all of the local action, shopping in the little shops I never visit, lunch out.
Then back to my room, no cooking, no housework, no work at all, just lazing around, staying up watching movies very late, sleeping in.......... Then something very fattening for breakfast - crepes??????
LEAVE IT TO BELIEVER!!
I'm for this. I think we ALL should do this at least ONCE A MONTH!
No sites to see in my town but for me BARNES AND NOBLE and COLDSTONE CREAMERY would be on my "GO TO" LIST...
I live in one of the most beautiful places around. At my old house, when sitting at the lake on a clear day, you can see Mt. Rainier as you relax by the water and listen to the children playing.
Wow, Believer, who needs make believe. That is a fabulous idea. I live between B'more and DC, so there would be LOTS to do. I never really considered taking a tour of the two cities for vacation time. I take for granted where I live.
I think I will take some REAL mini vacations with my son this summer. See the monuments, museums, local amusements parks, and cool eateries and shops.
I do so love the beach, though, so my imaginary vaca will have to be in Hawaii...
You know what, when I was about 4 or 5 (can't remember) we travelled from Atlanta to DC to see the monuments and the museums. Someone else must have paid for it, for we were low on the dough back then (circa 1976). I remember going to the Air and Space Museum quite vividly.
I was playing around in the Lunar module (LM) with my sister, having fun imagining floating around in space. I got caught up in the moment, and my sister left, without me noticing. I found myself alone, no family around, wandering thru the museum. A guard found me and paged my mom. Meanwhile my Mamaw is frantic looking for me. When I was reunited with my family, we were upstairs. My Mamaw was at the bottom of the escalator, and saw me. She then embarked on her journey UP the DOWN escalator, walking in one spot for lord knows how long. The guards were asking her, very politely, "Maam, please turn around, you are on the DOWN escalator" "Maam, PLEASE turn around"
They eventually reached her on the escalator, turned her around and placed her on the UP escalator.
The entire time this is happening, my cousin is laughing her face off. When my grandmother reached the top, she SLAPPED HER dead across the face. Then the rest of the family burst out laughing. I know it's not funny, necessarily, to strike a child, but it was very funny watching my Mamaw walk-in-place UP the DOWN escalator. I was laughing thru tears--my favorite.
I think this is one of the FEW memories I have of my grandmother showing me love, for she was a very stern woman. It's a doozy at that. Maybe a little too much info for a Wednesday morning.
Washington DC, besides being home of my Skins, is one of the most amazing cities to tour. The history, architecture, etc is beyond what you would think.
Not to mention, those crabs. How I love them.....
I can just smell them now. Would mind having a cold brew along side them.
My sisters & I have declared "Sisters Day". We will be lounging by the pool (kids in school), snacking, laughing, and there's talk of margeritas, then a pj party!
Well, it's my weekend without DS, so I am headed out Saturday evening to a French Pattisserie with some girlfriends for a martini or two, some appies and desserts. It'll be nice to get dolled up and head out with friends.
Sunday, maybe a wee bit of yard work, then float in the pool, then make hot wings for my sis, with WH's recipe. He learned to dredge the wings in cornstarch, instead of flour, and it crisps them up nicely. It's not the lowest fat thing in the world, but you gotta live a little. I eat salads nearly every day. A hot wing or five isn't gonna hurt.
I get to DC a few times every year to visit my best friend. We always have so much fun just going to ethnic restaurants and shopping. I love Tysons and all of the great malls there. Even Potamac Mills, but I have to be in the mood for that one. The worst malls there are waaay better than our best malls here, if you can believe that.
I'll be back down that way when I get some $. As long as this D is in progress, any extra cash I have is going to the atty.
I haven't spent much time in the DC area lately, mostly B'more. It'll be good to introduce my kid to DC and the monuments, museums, and the spectacular ZOO. I look forward to doing the tour all over again.
I used to skip school (shhhhh, don't tell anyone) and go to the DC Zoo with my friends when I was a senior in high school. Heck, I wasn't smoking, drinking, drugging, so hangin out at the zoo seemed harmless. Afterwards, we would go to some local shop to get a bite to eat. It was like our "Ferris Bueller's Day Off" thing. When the winter turns to spring and those puffy cloud, crisp blue sky days were upon us, we almost couldn't help ourselves. It was too much to ask a young adult to go to school on a day like that.
It'll be good to introduce my kid to DC and the monuments, museums, and the spectacular ZOO.
It will be a TREASURED part of his life. Our boys, now men, are always talking about their trips to DC. Also, their teachers appreciated their contributions to class discussions..."I've been there"..
Costco - do I really want that many of anything besides sugar snap peas
SaveALot - yuck
Target - no SuperTarget - no produce
Whole Foods - like an amusement park in both selection and price
There are no good choices. When you are used to a passable store being 3 blocks from your house, it's hard to gear up for a 5 mile drive to a different store w/ good selection but higher prices
I know I shouldn't be whining. I KNOW that. I just have a need to whine. Breakfast will be frozen chicken croquettes and nacho pasta.
Well, I learned that Super Walmart has better prices than my REGULAR grocery store...
But the thing is, you have to walk so far to get JUST your grocery shopping done..from the parking lot into the store..then throughout the store to find the GROCERIES...
I end up justifying it to myself.."well, at least, I'm getting some more EXERCISE"...
Then, since I've gone through all of this EFFORT, "why don't I BROWSE around in here for FUN?"
Then, I end up spending MORE than I would have spent at my REGULAR grocery store..
So the next time, I go to my REGULAR grocery store..I come back home fussing about the higher prices and THEN..
Back to WALMART to start the JUSTIFICATION and RATIONALIZATION all over again..
LIFE CAN BE COMPLICATED...and this is just GROCERY SHOPPING (rolling eyes)
It is my quarter and I choose not to spend my quarter with the waltons or at kroger. Nope. I don't go there or do that if there is another reasonable alternative.
Well, I learned that Super Walmart has better prices than my REGULAR grocery store...
But the thing is, you have to walk so far to get JUST your grocery shopping done..from the parking lot into the store..then throughout the store to find the GROCERIES...
I end up justifying it to myself.."well, at least, I'm getting some more EXERCISE"...
Then, since I've gone through all of this EFFORT, "why don't I BROWSE around in here for FUN?"
Then, I end up spending MORE than I would have spent at my REGULAR grocery store..
So the next time, I go to my REGULAR grocery store..I come back home fussing about the higher prices and THEN..
Back to WALMART to start the JUSTIFICATION and RATIONALIZATION all over again..
LIFE CAN BE COMPLICATED...and this is just GROCERY SHOPPING (rolling eyes)
Ah, here comes the green monster woman, to have life be this complicated would be AWESOME.
Just because I've RECOVERED my marriage and only CHOOSE to talk about my GROCERY SHOPPING ISSUES on the GODDESS thread does not mean that I don't have OTHER LIFE PROBLEMS..
So you want to hear me WHINE about my OTHER STUFF that's lots more MAJOR than this?
ETA...If you haven't noticed, I REALLY DON'T LIKE JEALOUSY!!
Queenie, I'm proud of you for pursuing financial support for yourself and your children. I know it's hard.
Been there, done that. While fighting my x to save my marriage, I had to file a petition for support and I got everything I wanted except legal fees. You can do this.
DON'T know how bad it will hurt or what they OUTCOME will be, but I WON'T go down fighting. I've come through the worst, I HOPE. I'm NOT the same SELFISH person I used to be and now my CHILDREN need to be PROTECTED.
But the judge doesn't care about anything but what the law says. Personally, I just want to get half his paycheck, not the amount lawyer is asking for and have WH pay the legal expenses for this part. I'll take care of the legal separation that has been filed.
What were you asking for if you don't mind me asking. And how come you didn't get legal fees?
Novels. Going to try to check out 'Reedeming Love' by Francine Rivers - for book club from church. I think it follows the story line of Hosea or Jeremiah or one of the other Old Testament prophets.
Are they smaller hard back books? I actually think I read the book of Ruth and Esther years ago. I remember them to be very good.
I just had a great idea. I don't think my SIL has ever been on a ferry. I am going to see if she wants to go today. I don't want to just take her shopping, that isn't really any fun. But we live in such a pretty area. Maybe we will go to Pike Place and pick up some fish for dinner?
I LOVE going to the USED BOOK STORE..going there TODAY for FUN..
I like to KEEP the books that I like....to read or to refer to AGAIN... so I stopped doing the LIBRARY. If I don't LIKE the book enough to KEEP, I TRADE it in for another one.
The NEW HOUSE will have a LIBRARY..at least lots of BUILT-IN BOOKSHELVES..like my OLD dream house...
I leave the house for a few hours and accomplish the following:
Go to Electronics Express and watch the Belmont Stakes
Buy some rabbit ears for my television so maybe I can watch ABC tomorrow or any other time because today I could only watch NBC and CBS...no ABC or PBS...and I refuse to pay for television these days
Go downtown to an art gallery crawl and go through 6 galleries
Actually found a piece of sculpture about which I had questions but the gallery owner couldn't find the artist to answer them. Met a Marianist monk whose vocation is art (Brother Mel) and he is GOOD!
Stopped at the auto parts place and bought new air filters for my car. Came home and installed one of them. Gonna wait till daylight for the passenger compartment one.
I was able to do all that and you ladies couldn't find someone to enter a single post???
Once upon a time, I went to a session at a religious convention. I went to this session only....not the other three days of sessions. The speaker was a conservative Christian minister who had been divorced and later remarried - to the same woman.
His opinion was there is hope for any marriage - until one of the partners marries someone else. At that time, the previously marriage is irretrievably broken.
Queenie, I spent 2.5 years fighting for my marriage. I had multiple appts with my internist to deal w/ stress related conditions caused by wanting that marriage so badly. After 2.5 years, I decided I had to stop the insanity.....you know, when the doctor tells you that you are a few heartbeats a minute away from tachycardia, you know you have to do something to regain some control. That's how far I went to keep my marriage. That was when I finally succumbed and filed for a divorce.
I wasted a lot of years being depressed about it. So many years that it saddens me sometimes.
"Let go and let G-d"
Queenie, you can only do so much. Your h is just in some spiritual wilderness.
I entertained the idea that my h could come back until he married wife #2. But, the reality is, that the man I married may have been a sham, a lie.
Right now, maybe what you need to do is pray for you to be restored. For you to be healed.....and for your husband to be healed.
A marriage is like a car. It is made of multiple parts.
If the car (marriage) breaks down, you want to fix it. So, you take it to the mechanic (counselor). If he just pokes on it, nothing will really change. First he has to figure out what is really wrong. Then he has to fix the broken pieces (people). As long as the pieces (people) remain broken, the car (marriage) can't be fixed.
Now, you want the marriage fixed. Right? So, you can only do so much. You can pray. You can work on Queenie. But, you can not fix your husband. He has to want to be fixed. Until he is fixed, the marriage can't be fixed.
Now, G-d can work miracles. He does that daily. But, He has given us the freedom to choose many things. And, in this case, your husband has the freedom to choose to remain broken. Until he surrenders to G-d's healing, he may remain broken.
You are not all powerful in this situation. G-d, having given mankind the power to choose, is not all powerful in all situations. Because, we can choose to turn away from Him.
G-d CAN restore your marriage. But, your husband has to choose personal healing and restoration.
I know there are many who might think this view is a bit heretical but there are many examples of G-d not getting His way. Of His children wandering in their own spiritual wilderness.
Queenie, you may just have to Let Go & Let God on this one.
Think about the 12 Steps....we admitted we are powerless. We turned things over to our higher power.
Hope is one thing.
But don't let hoping for something you can't control ruin the here and now!
MICAH 6:8 He has showed you, O man, what is good. And what does the LORD require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.
Going to visit the FOREST in CALIFORNIA was one of my most unforgettable experiences. That's why I thought of you. You are SOLID, girlie. Your EFFECT is FAR-REACHING..
Well, Cinders, THANKS to you and OTHERS here, I've been TRYING to appreciate MY NATURAL BEAUTY. KWIM? Going to Walmart with JUST foundation, concealer, blush, lipstick and mascara..SOMETIMES no eyeshadow and eyeliner...
I love it....Mimi sends me a message that she needs to say something to me. One minute later, I post in reply. And, guess what, her smiley face has gone to sleep so I don't think she's here now!
I think you should leave the link unless they tell you to take it off.
What is this? Where did you find it? It's beautiful. I bet they wear sensible shoes and lots of sunscreen - or maybe not?
It just seems so NOT you! Honey, I don got you all dressed up and dolled up and shoppin' at Tiffany's and me, well, heck, I cain't hardly 'ford no pot to spit in this month.
Leave the link. I gotta go to bed. I want to see it some more. It was so fun and so beautiful.
Oh, did you see my pics on flickr from the show I went to Friday night? I shot them w/ the little point and shoot digital camera I usually carry in my purse. No tripod. No flash. Just sat in my seat and sneaked them. They could be slightly better focused but I was yards away. Next to the last row in the auditorium. Squeezed between teenaged son and fat guy on either side of me. I thought I did pretty well. The guitars were shiny.
I would never have figured you for a shiny horse woman.
It just seems so NOT you! Honey, I don got you all dressed up and dolled up and shoppin' at Tiffany's and me, well, heck, I cain't hardly 'ford no pot to spit in this month.
NO! I probably would not live on a RANCH but I'm VERY DOMESTIC!!
And for you married goddesses, a little advice in spicing up the romantic life, directly from down under.
"Ok, prolly WAY to much info, but if your looking for places, not too many people (although that can add to it) Haybarn, beach (need at least 3 towels)back yard in the day or night, sauna (although i have mixed results with this), while snorkling off shore aways, up the mountain in the snow (be very quick about this one).... all you need is a few minutes and some imagination "
I absolutely LOVE to mow the lawn!! I never thought of being a GODDESS of the lawn mower!! Great idea.
I need to mow mine but we are re-vamping the sprinkler system so there is still stuff all over and things that need finished before we can put it all away.
Get yourself over here immediately....I don't like being goddess of the lawn mower. Half an acre. Gently sloping. Too tall. Poison ivy out there. 83 degrees. Some holes where tree stumps have rotted. And a walk-behind lawnmower.
Great....no gas in the can. No cash on me today. Just had to come in and scrub my hands because that little weed, hidden among the big ones, was poison ivy.
Folks, anyone wanna come weed my yard. Just squirt that particular weed w/ something that is systemically toxic. PLEASE!!!!!
Get yourself over here immediately....I don't like being goddess of the lawn mower. Half an acre. Gently sloping. Too tall. Poison ivy out there. 83 degrees. Some holes where tree stumps have rotted. And a walk-behind lawnmower.
83 degrees!! LUCKY!!
LOL, your lawn sounds a bit like mine. Mine's all dry now because it didn't rain for a long time until Friday, FINALLY!! It's not all cultivated grass, some is still prairie grass so it gets sparse growth, little tufts here and there.
Really doesn't need mowing but the city b*ches even about the tufts sometimes. And I like to mow but I hate adding to the pollution problem. I guess now I can get that electric mower I've been wanting forever but Gray griped about that they were no good...blah blah blah. (As IF he had even been mowing the lawn AT ALL when he was still here!)
If I lived closer to you I'd be happy to take out that poison ivy for you. I have immunity from Mom AND Dad so I could pull that puppy right outta there!!
Oh Cinderella, that is nasty! Can you spray out poison ivy? We don't have it here.
That is hot weather! We had 88 yesterday and we are at 6500 ft. elevation. Pretty sweltering. Today is 80. 10 days ago it was no more than 40 degress, now 80. We don't get the humidity like that. It is more humid today but not like that (I don't think, I never hear anything about our humidity, but we don't have any local news or weather stations either)
I have an acre yard (minus 2 houses) but not a push mower. Part of the renovation on the sprink system is so we can put in planting beds and then I will have less grass. Not much less, but less. I've been waiting a long time to get this part of the yard landscaped, so I am excited about it! We just planted a row of raspberries the other day...so fun.
Better go see if it is time to clean up the yard mess.....
Ran out of gas w/ front yard half cut. Yuck!!! Gotta go get more. We had a drip line irrigation system but it died from old age. Nearly 20 years ago, we spent $3000 on landscaping. That didn't survive H leaving. I do not care for yardening.
I had a job mowing grass when I was a student. I am sorry but there are no money on this earth that could make me mow more grass than I have to, lol. The biggest problem I ran into was not poison ivy but insects. Once a wasp stung me and I ended up with a 4 inches wide bite on my leg which hurt like crazy.
Cinderella, do you enjoy your garden except for the lawn mowing?
Last week, he got up and went in to my office every morning. At lunch, I took him to art camp and then his dad picked him up.
Hmmmm - I guess I must renew my efforts. See, his dad knows how to do all this stuff that I find anathema. And we all know his dad's not here. I guess we gotta get on the same page with this. If I go to work and earn the money for his food and housing, son needs to get w/ the plan. Perhaps it is time for more manly man lessons from his dad.
Yes, I know that's passing the buck but I don't know how to wind the string on the weedeater. I can't teach him because I don't know.
He will do it when there is enough financial incentive. But, he doesn't do it well.
Don't leave it up to his Dad. He learns how to treat a woman from you. That would include taking care of the yard for her. MY BOYS KNOW HOW TO TREAT A GODDESS!!
I don't have to use a walk behind lawn mower. If I did, I'm sure I would have a lot less grass!! I had a rider for the last 10 years or so, and then H bought me a ZTR mower for his birthday last year! What used to take me 2 hours to mow now takes about 50 minutes. I love it.
I don't like to be in the house in the summer, which is way too short around here. We will start having frost in the morning in about 2 months (we had some just the other day too).
Cinderella, I too caved to my kids whining. I am always busy and they get to do a lot of what they want. YS is now 18 and getting ready to go to college. He still lips off if I ask him to do something and I told him he can either help out or pay rent AND pay me to prepare his meals.
I hired a cleaning service to help with the house (I am outside mowing ) and he made fun of me for cleaning before they come to clean. I told him at 18 yrs. old, he can clean his own bathroom, pay to have it cleaned, or pick up his junk like I asked and the girls will clean it.
I have failed to teach them to take good care of themselves. I gave up fighting with them. Not good on my part. I have help now because I want a clean house but don't have time or desire to do it the way I want it. My H says he hopes I never quit with it because it makes me so happy. (This is a new thing, about 6 weeks since they started coming). I have time to do what I like to do and have a clean house too. Oh, I will not pay to have the boys rooms cleaned. Only the bathroom, since it is also the guest bathroom.
Cinderella, could you hire someone to come get the yard caught up? Just a one time thing, get it all mowed at once, trimmed etc. and then the upkeep would be more manageable. You could start with a clean slate, not behind. Or, find out how much it would cost and then offer that (or less) to your son to do the job.
One summer, we didn't have a lawn mower and we were so busy. We decided to have it mowed for us. The next summer we bought a new mower and then told our son if he mowed it all summer and took care of the lawn he would get a laptop. That is how he got his computer. And this kid now earns his living on the computer. It was the incentive he needed.
Not sure if that would work...as Mimi says, we are all different.
The front yard is done - despite having to stop and go get gas half way through the job. I quit for the day.
I hear you ladies. I gross about $3k a month. I have a mortgage, bills, and two children. And no child support increase in about 10 years. College for one is a year away.
I'd have to get another job in order to pay for the housecleaning (which is one of my dreams) and the yard work.
I totally understand the finances. If we were living on what I could make, we would not have much at all. I also have not been through a divorce. Close, but not yet!
I have so much respect for you as a working mom. I can't even imagine trying to do what you do on a daily basis. The fear of all that you mention probably kept me in a marriage I should have abandoned years ago. ( I'm o.k. in it now, but I never should have stayed through most of it. )
All of the things you mentioned, and you didn't even mention dinner, kids stuff, etc. I feel for you.
You deserve to have a yard keeper and a house keeper!
You deserve to have a yard keeper and a house keeper!
Tell that to my employer. Money is what is keeping me from it. Employer isn't making that possible. In fact, my department of 105 people is losing 6 positions. The state is trying to cut it's workforce by 5% in every department. They have, at present, targeted specific job classifications and, fortunately, mine is not targeted. People who don't take the buyout offer in August are likely to be laid off in January. Guess who won't be getting a raise this summer. Not that a raise would keep up with the increase in insurance premiums.
mal, we all make our choices based on our knowledge, fears, and dreams. I will throw in some prayers for you and your marriage.
Maybe I shouldn't have fought so hard for my marriage but I will die knowing I tried with all I had. I fought because of my beliefs and my fears. Didn't turn out how I wanted but life is sweet.
I fought because of my beliefs and my fears. Didn't turn out how I wanted but life is sweet.
And, that is everyone's dream.
Also, on the To Do List! I was mowing my front yard last night and thinking about how if I didn't get it done last night, WHEN would I be able to get it done?
As I said on Queenie's thread, I've done a much better job these days of cutting myself some slack on the To Do List. I realized I can't do it all WHEN I want to, nor the WAY I want to,,,not ALL of the time. And that's ok. As long as I can keep from putting myself into a guilt trip about it, then it's all good.
Right now, my bedroom looks like a tornado hit it. I'm re-arranging everything and it's a disaster. AND, it's been that way for a week! EEEKK!! The thing is, I just haven't felt like dealing with it, and that is SO not me.
Yet, yesterday I realized how tired I was, so instead of getting bent about the bedroom, I laid down and took a nap. Again, that is NOT me. I felt better when I got up, so it was the right thing to do.
I just think that there are times when a TRUE Goddess can say that she knows her limitations, accept them, and still feel like a Goddess. Today is another day and it will be a good one.
As I said on Queenie's thread, I've done a much better job these days of cutting myself some slack on the To Do List.
I just think that there are times when a TRUE Goddess can say that she knows her limitations, accept them, and still feel like a Goddess. Today is another day and it will be a good one.
Gosh, I have missed you all. I haven't spent nearly enough time on this thread lately.
With all the weird bickering going on today (is there something in the MB water????), I wanted to post some good things going on with me...because as you all know, ITS ALL ABOUT ME....
I have been keeping up with my GODDESS routine that I started back when Mimi first started this thread. I have kept up with my hair (for the most part....I did get it done yesterday, and I was about 6 weeks OVER-DUE.....I would post my "excuses" but I'll spare ya all those...). I have kept up with the makeup, even gone out on a limb and tried some different colors and such.
Clothes are doing well. WS has essentually bought me a new wardrobe, since none of my old stuff fit after the weight loss. The funniest part of that is we have probably spent more money on clothes for me so far this year than we did in the last 3 yrs. combined....sheshhhh...
Weight....still doing well. I did gain 5 pounds in the last month, but I am hoping that is due to the surgery back in the beginning of June. I will be off all restrictions placed on me when I had the surgery on Monday, so I will finally be able to get back to the gym. YEAH.....Also, I am still swollen in my whole mid-section from the surgery, but the surgeon said that would take some time to go down. He said if it hasn't subsided by Aug. 1, then it will be due to me.....anyway, I hate that part, BUT I still fit into my size 4 jeans, so I guess I shouldn't be too hard on myself....
The house, well....it is doing better, but I still have lots of area I can work on. Actually, I am getting off here and hitting the basement, so that will help....
Anywho, just wanted to touch base with all my fellow GODDESSES and say that I love ya all......
You know, I try not to read the bickering about which I hear. I never know it's there. If I run across it, I just quit reading.
N2F, glad you are doing well. I have about 1.5 to 2 inches of hair to grow till I cut it off and send it to Pantene's Great Lengths program. That's my hair thing these days.
I have a ZTR mower and love it too. One of those purchases I appreciate my WH making. Now that I am on my own with the yard, it makes the job much faster, since we have about 2 acres of mowing. I recently had to change the mower drive belt, though. It got tangled up with a tree branch and FLEW off the mower in shreds. :eek:
I changed it and was back in business. Just took three hours of scratching my head until I realized I had to take the deck off in order to install the new belt. It was an AHA and DUH moment all at once.
My sister and I are working to hit a groove with cohabitation. So far, bumpy, but good. She also has styled my hair twice, colored with professional stuff this past weekend. It looks nice. I plan on growing out the hair to shoulder length, keeping some sideswept and lotsa layers. SHe is going to do what they call colorblocking on it, too. It's basically differing levels of the same color, dark to light from bottom to top with lowlights. We're going to wait until the fall, since I'm in the pool and outside so much, it would just wash out and become sun bleached.
The funeral for my UncleB was good; what a diamond that man was. His legacy is one of love and light. Priceless. His daughters (whom he lovingly called one two three and four by birth order) spoke about making sure you really practice LOVING and GIVING. They also said their dad taught them to do all they could, to not quit, and to give love as UNCONDITIONALLY as possible. Truly a good man.
I had a chance to see some of my counsins that I have not in over a decade. DS got to meet his second cousins and great aunts and uncles. It was good to reconnect to my family, my roots.
I'm exhausted, but happy that we made the trip.
Good to see the Goddess thread up tonight. Have a good one, ladies.
BTW, would you keep Kayla Nunn in your prayers. She is the 9yo niece of a friend. She has many developmental and health issues. She is immunosuppressed and has either Lyme's Disease or Rocky Mountain Spotted Fever. Yesterday afternoon, she had a seizure and they rushed her to the hospital where they had to revive her before transferring her to a bigger hospital that could deal w/ her needs better.
I recently had to change the mower drive belt, though. It got tangled up with a tree branch and FLEW off the mower in shreds.
I changed it and was back in business. Just took three hours of scratching my head until I realized I had to take the deck off in order to install the new belt.
You've got to be kidding, SL..LOL..You talk about this like it's SIMPLE...and I'm sitting here thinking, "What the HECK is a DECK of a MOWER..a ZTR MOWER at THAT...What'd you do just SNAP the NEW BELT in..did you have to put it through any LOOPS... ?????
What'd you do just SNAP the NEW BELT in..did you have to put it through any LOOPS... ?????
BWAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAA!!!
Well, there are PULLEYS that the belt has to be LOOPED around. I suppose you could take a huge leap and think of it in terms of fashion, threading the belt back on the mower to show how slim it's waist is.
I've worked on our mowers since I moved into this house, nearly 15 years ago. I also got the pool up and running, with help from PWC. I changed the oil in my car last weekend, before travelling to the funeral in Tenn. I can rotate my tires and flush and fill the coolant, if necessary. I can change a tire, when necessary. I helped PWC install our fencing by digging the 4ft deep holes with the giant auger. I drive like a bat outta H E Double Hockey sticks, but as safely as possible (bats are precision flyer's doncha know :/). I do all the yard maintenance now, mowing, weed whacking, weeding the gardens. It's not perfect; I'm just trying to keep up this year.
I also helped to demo a great deal of the walls in this house and re-drywall, paint, decorate. I helped demo and renovate the bathroom. I've laid laminate flooring once or twice. I've helped hang new doors. There's more, I'm sure. Hmmmm, I've done a lot round these parts.
I'm not ALL tomboy, though. I really enjoy clothes now, and playing with my hair and working with makeup to find that fresh look. It's fun to be girly, too.
Well, there are PULLEYS that the belt has to be LOOPED around. I suppose you could take a huge leap and think of it in terms of fashion, threading the belt back on the mower to show how slim it's waist is.
I've worked on our mowers since I moved into this house, nearly 15 years ago. I also got the pool up and running, with help from PWC. I changed the oil in my car last weekend, before travelling to the funeral in Tenn. I can rotate my tires and flush and fill the coolant, if necessary. I can change a tire, when necessary. I helped PWC install our fencing by digging the 4ft deep holes with the giant auger. I drive like a bat outta H E Double Hockey sticks, but as safely as possible (bats are precision flyer's doncha know :/). I do all the yard maintenance now, mowing, weed whacking, weeding the gardens. It's not perfect; I'm just trying to keep up this year.
I also helped to demo a great deal of the walls in this house and re-drywall, paint, decorate. I helped demo and renovate the bathroom. I've laid laminate flooring once or twice. I've helped hang new doors. There's more, I'm sure. Hmmmm, I've done a lot round these parts.
I'm not ALL tomboy, though. I really enjoy clothes now, and playing with my hair and working with makeup to find that fresh look. It's fun to be girly, too.
Now THAT, to me, is a Fabulous Goddess Description - - to a 'T'!!!
I can't see a problem with that. I would keep the hair simple, though. No updo's or anything fancy. Keep the jewelry simple too. Most of all, have fun.
Ok....I can do that.....I was planning on hair down although it is not the best choice with the neckline of this dress. People are used to seeing me wear it up....... hair up in usual manner ...but I don't usually wear jewels from Tiffany's
It was a wonderful wedding. The only times I've ever cried at a wedding was when they dredged up my own issues.
This evening, though, I cried. It was so touching.
Amie has a 4-year-old daughter from a previous marriage. Andrew has never been married before. That they love each other was so obvious. My eyes started leaking before they got to the vows - nothing from the Book of Common Prayer. When Andrew got down on his knees to talk to Emma and promise her that he would love her always and that he would always be there for her, they leaked even more. By the time the minister started telling Andrew that Amie had no greater gift that she could give him than to give herself, to trust him totally, and to trust him with her daughter, that was it....I think half the people there had leaky eyes. (And, he did say the same stuff to Amie about Andrew giving himself to her.)
The reception was something else. 3 hours of rockabilly. When was the last time you heard "It Wasn't God Who Made Honky Tonk Angels" at a wedding reception? The music was incredible.
who knows....it was very interesting how many people on the dance floor were women. almost no men. the groom danced a few w/ Amie or her daughter. The brides's dad danced a few. The husband of one sister. And one other man. That was about it.
Queenie would have loved it.....they did play Little Queenie.
I called. I went on line. I can't afford 3 tickets at $70 or more. I would have done the $40 ones. So, no concert. We can buy a lot of CDs for that money. Used CDs are a good thing.
I have always wanted to grow up to be Agent 99. So, she gets into scrapes and has to have assistance but she is as smart, if not smarter, than the guys. She's good looking. And, she has great clothes.
Well, same thing happens in the movie. Adventures, scrapes, triumphs, great wardrobe, good grooming.......perfect.
And, it was funny.
Not going to go down in the books as the best movie of the year but it was great escapist pleasure.
OK, so my anniversary was recently, and I took it a lot better than I thought I would. Since I'm still M (nothing signed at all yet), I figured I would celebrate the 35 year mark with a filet mignon. So, bought one on the way home and had that with salad and a little vino. It was a nice night so I ate out on the deck.
Yesterday went out for dinner with a couple of friends (Watermelon Gazpacho and crab cakes) and saw the movie And Then She Found Me.
I read the special PERSONAL STYLE ISSUE of INSTYLE MAGAZINE this morning..
For women 50+:
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Don't ever ignore your birthday, apologize for maturity, or grow older gracefully. Do it FABULOUSLY. The smartest thing to do over 50 is dress as if every day is a special one. Try it: You'll be surprised at how often it is true.
Of course, this was speaking to ME and I was LISTENING...LOL...
Copied from the poster: "The video answers why we are with horses - they make us better, stronger, bigger then ourselves could be without them." "...pass it on to those who need inspiration to suceed when everthing else has failed."
Sauteed some salmon filets in olive oil w/ a little salt, pepper, and dill
Steamed some fresh snow peas and seasoned them w/ salt and pepper, butter, and feta cheese
Steamed some mixed rice
Had a glass of wine
Now, it's time for some moose tracks ice cream!!!
Good for you Cinders. It's almost my vacation and I think having this time to myself I will learn to do just this, cook more healthy and see if I can't start losing weight again.
I went to the hairdressers today and got foils done, and a hair cut. I got out of my trackies, and put on my tight black jeans and maroon ankle boots. I forgot the make up tho. Sorry.
Hi Lil, Why should you be sorry? I don't think that is a goddessy attitude. Be proud instead. You did lots of things yesterday. You can add the make up today or tomorrow. How did your foils turn out?
I want to be a goddess too. Some days I have time to doll up but some days I am busy with other important things
Ladies, by loving yourself, you are goddesses - makeup or not. You don't need cute clothes, great makeup, and more to be a goddess. It is a state of mind.
Hi why Us, I am not sure why but i thought being a goddess was looking glam and fab. Ok, screw the makeup, i look good without it as well. generally only wear eyeliner anyway. Foils turned out great. I am getting blonder each time. hairdresser says another two times and we will just be doing roots and combing solution thru the rest.
Oh my, I just found this thread! Yay for there being Goddesses even here. Ladies, you are remarkable.
I'm having a distinctly non-goddessy day, but isn't it wierd how post d-day can get pretty goddessy? Here's what I've done 'just for me' since d-day.....all things I haven't done since I had my first baby 4 years ago:
Got my nose re-pierced (IC raised his eyebrows and said at least it wasn't a tattoo, then said it suited my face well!).
Bought a new bathing suit (was still wearing those frumpy maternity ones)
Bought and now wear anklets and toe rings!
Went to a musical with Mum and two friends.
Got the last season of S&TC on Netflix.
Did my nails AND kept them maintained for more than a week (Sorry, honey, can you do the dishes again? Nails. Love you!).
Cinder, wish you were cooking at my house! Your dinner sounds lovely. What was the wine? Looking forward to having a Goddess moment every now and then on MB. Thanks, beautiful ladies.
Hi Mama2B. LOL at your IC comment. Post D-day I DID get a tattoo, while on family holiday that WH came to. I also got my ears repierced, so i have 4 holes in one ear and 5 in the other. Am now thinking of getting navel repierced. it got an infection some years ago so i let it close up. I plan on getting braces around christmas, my teeeth are not too bad but I dont like them.
I thought about getting my belly redone, too...mine also got all yucky and infected (very sexy, let me tell you!). I'd need to get said belly back into 'public viewing' shape. I had two kids in just over a year and both of them left behind 'leftovers', the sods.
That said, I have thought about another tattoo....do you regret yours, or is it a good one? I have one on my ankle...ivy vine all around.
I noticed that your dates are all the 'right' way. Do you hail from closer to 0 latitude?
I am from new Zealand, and yes thank you for noticing my dates are around the right way Sometimes i read others and i get very confused I have 3 'good' tattoos and one homejob. I dont really regret any except for the biggest and its not so much regret, as sadness that it was not what i had wanted. I had gone into a guy who was advertising on the radio station my (at the time) DH (now WH) worked at and asked him to do two cherubs, one red head one blonde to symbolise my DD's. He did such a horrible job they looked like demons more than angels. So i went to another chappy, highly recommended and he said if I would let him take before and after shots to advertise what the other guy had done (cos i was about the 5th person who had come in) he would do a $500 cover up for $80. so now i have two roses with tribal and thorns. Its huge, goes from hip to halfway up my ribcage, and almost belly button to small of back. And its still not finshed, ribs hurt.;)
Goddess thing for the day. Spent 3 hours in a spa pool and ate belgium chocolates.
AWESOME!!!
I will spend the day at work, a spa pool sounds like a better place. Oh well, I will do that another day. Yesterday was kayaking for me, tonight it is house cleaning and tomorrow I'm going to my aerobics class. Keep busy and happy is my motto nowadays.
Today, I am driving my children and one of their friends to church camp. 80 miles on the interstate and then I turn off and go another 30 or more. About 100 miles from here, the interstate is closed in both directions. Don't think this is gonna be fun. There are two alternate routes. Both of them are 2 lane roads winding through lots of little towns w/ stop lights and stop signs.
After I get them up there, I have to turn around and come home.
I have returned. Left town at 10 and got back at 7. Stopped for about an hour to eat and take a detour. Visited at the camp for about 2 hrs. The rest of the time was driving. It was more like 150 miles each way. Wasn't bad. Very pleasant up on the mountain compared to the sweltering blanket of soggy air we had here when we left.
I found some $5 "SHADES" today at Walmart with itty bitty Rhinestones on the corners of the frame...lost the HISTORIC PINK SHADES many moons ago..... that helped to LAUNCH the AFFAIR-SURVIVING GODDESS MODE.....
It was a nice adventure.....took another teenager up there. He will be a senior at the school my son will attend in the fall. It never hurts for a freshman to know a senior. My daughter met him when they were in 7th grade together. He is Chinese. Very interesting, indeed.
BTW, congrats on the sunglasses. As for me, I always get the polarized ones. Really helps on cloudyish days. Reduces the glare.
I'm ok. Have been busy. My children were both home last week but gone this one.
I was sitting here this morning thinking I'm just sort of 'adviced' out. Lately, there hasn't been a lot I've felt compelled to say to anyone - unless it was to take a 4x6" to them. (No 2x4" is big enough.) I even put two people on 'ignore' last week because I thought they were, for one reason or another, idiots unwilling or incapable of listening. In all the years I've been here, I've only put one other person on ignore.
My blood pressure is higher than it should be and I haven't been taking the best care of myself. You know how mama's are when finances aren't the greatest.
So, this morning, I was thinking about what I am doing still hanging around this place. My marriage didn't recover but I did. It's been years since I went through the separation and divorce. What need is this place filling for me? How could I better use my time?
Cinderella, how's about sticking to the threads like this one, or a Plan B type thread? There are ladies here who could greatly benefit from your previous experience AND your experiences today.
I don't post much anymore for myself. I do help where I can. Sometimes, the board overwhelms me, so I don't post much on those days, as I know I wouldn't be much help.
There are a couple of newbies that I am keeping up with. I know exactly where they are right now; the FEELINGS rush back when I read their threads. The FEAR is palpable. I wish I could be there, next to them, literally pushing them forth. I see them wilting when they need to come from a place of power; the power to propel their situations in a positive direction for themselves.
One thing that I have always been grateful for was my willingness, without provocation, to seek legal counsel and protect my son as best I could. I see newly betrayed having a hard time with this one, because they don't fully grasp what is at stake. UGH. It's painful stuff.
Anyway, Oh, yeah, the FINANCES. Oy, unfortunately, I 'get' that, too. It's tough, with the price of everything going up up up.
Hope you stick around a bit, cinderella, even if it is only to tell jokes
I agree with Mimi! Just lay low and take it easy for awhile. I did see your blast to someone the other day and scratched my head. Not like you. I think you need to take five and just hang out on the fun threads! Like this one and the Fem Hyg one!! Don't leave us!! I don't post much but read all the time. I love all the jokes and stories you link to.
Some people are just so stupid or such gas bags that I can't help it.
Maybe it's the ADD talking. Maybe it's the live experience. Maybe it's the messes in my own life.
Hmmm, maybe I should go find the blast job and edit it. I do blast once in a while. But, I think I've only done that a handful of times in all my years here.
So, this morning, I was thinking about what I am doing still hanging around this place. My marriage didn't recover but I did. It's been years since I went through the separation and divorce. What need is this place filling for me? How could I better use my time?
Because you are a part of my life that is good, pure and healing and I care alot about you and what happens in your life.
We, specifically need you. I need you to teach me how to heal, keep moving forward and believe that I will survive this.
And because I need you to teach me so I can help others as a way of thanking you and so many others who stayed her for me.
I dunno if I've posted to this thread before or not, but I have a perfect question for y'all, seeing as how I am fashion-challenged. (I have a secret fear that some day my sister will call "What Not To Wear" on me!)
I'm currently in the process of packing to move to a different state. I have a lot of clothes that are in great shape, rather nice, haven't worn in a long time b/c I couldn't fit into them. Guess what - I can now! Or for some of them, I can almost fit, I'm getting there. BUT I don't know if they are too "out of style" to wear anymore. I don't pay much attention to what's in style. I think the only clothes I've ever stopped wearing b/c of style rather than they just were too worn, were acid-washed jeans and white pants with candy-color striping on them. From way back in high school. (I really almost never throw anything away!) In fact I still have them, just not wearing them.
But back to my question - I know enough to not wear the pants from H.S. any more. But what about some dresses, like, what we used to call church clothes? (Except where I live now, ppl go to church in the same clothes they wear to work, except for the elderly women.) Do dresses ever go out of style, as long as they aren't some really weird fad?
E.g., I have two dresses that I just now realized I can fit into. They are A-line I spose - the skirt kinda flares out - and they have shoulder straps and you would wear a shirt underneath. They are corduroy with a floral pattern. The brand is Herman Geist. Are these too outdated? For either the current fashion, or for my age? Or should they go into the Goodwill/Salvation Army box?
Any and all feedback is welcome!
And by the way, I know that my FOO loves Myrtle Beach. Other great places are the Florida Panhandle, like Panama City (GREAT beaches there, white smooth sand with very few sharp shells or rocks to hurt bare feet - we just got back from there as a matter of fact!) and ... what's the place on the coast of GA? I think it's Savannah, Georgia and St. Simon's Island.
I definitely recommend a beach vacation at least once a year if you can. We did that growing up. Nothing like spending time on the beach just listening to the surf, to relax, restore and refresh your soul. My H's folks never did such things, they always do activities and go to "touristy" places (as in museums etc, not beaches) but I think H is now a convert. Yay!!!
Jayne, I love the beach! There is no place on earth I would rather be in the morning, drinking coffee and reading. My husband likes the beach at night, but not me. I like the rising sun and all the hopes and new possibilities it brings with it.
Whatever you do, Jayne..whatever you do...DO NOT WEAR ANY OF YOUR HIGH SCHOOL CLOTHES..that was too long ago for you, Jayne..those clothes are DEFINITELY out of style...
PLEASE, JAYNE, in the name of ALL GODDESSES on this thread and in the world...PLEASE DO NOT WEAR ANY OF YOUR HIGH SCHOOL CLOTHES...
PLEASE, JAYNE, in the name of ALL GODDESSES on this thread and in the world...PLEASE DO NOT WEAR ANY OF YOUR HIGH SCHOOL CLOTHES...
OMG, that cracked me up.
Jayne, I think Tybee Island off the coast of Savannah is nice. We used to camp at Myrtle Beach when I was a kid. It was a blast. You could camp right on the beach there. Don't know if you still can.
And I better not catch you SNEAKING out THERE with one of those dresses on. You can keep one to wear around the house for old times sake..even for HALLOWEEN..but NOT OUT IN PUBLIC for a NORMAL function ...Yes, DONATE. I don't even know if it's OK to donate them for someone else to wear..OH MY...
Jayne - from one Jane to another Jayne - DO NOT wear those high school clothes. DO NOT!!!! Please, back away from them.....Call someone for an intervention, if need be. If you are seriously attached to something, you might be allowed to keep it - preferably to turn into quilt pieces.
As for the beach, The Diplomat is gifting me w/ 3 nights at a hotel in the Savannah area for my birthday. He is 1000 miles away....the room is for the children and me. Hilton Head is only about 30 miles from Savannah.
(Parts of 'Forrest Gump' were filmed in Savannah, did y'all know that?
So, knowing nothing more than they have historic stuff and beaches nearby, we are headed there Thursday. It's been 9 years since I've been to the beach.
My mom used to live between Fort Walton and Pensacola, FL. We went there every summer for several years. My daughter has so many memories of BB, that's my mom, and Grand Jack in Florida that she does not want to go there. Grand Jack was a family friend whose wife died shortly after my dad died. BB and Jack took to 'dating' and should have gotten married. Instead, they lived next door to each other in Florida - a change from the city here where they had lived for years while married (to their respective spouses).
Actually I think those dresses are from college days maybe; maybe a little after that even.
I just had a great idea for a web site service - where those of us who don't know any better, could post pictures of outfits and those more blessed with the talent could give us a thumbs up or down.
Trip is NOT w/ Diplomat. That would be nice......trip is w/ my children.
He could afford to help make this happen. He thinks son, daughter, and I needed a trip. He will be staying too far away. He made my reservations and charged them to himself for my birthday present.
So, I have a goddess mom problem. I am all excited about this trip. My daughter is all excited about this trip.
My son is a stick in the mud and doesn't want to do anything that isn't his idea. He is so much like his father that I could throttle him a lot of the time.
Son doesn't want to go on the trip. Just wants to play on the computer. I could leave him w/ his dad and tell his dad I think an appropriate consequence is no computer. Bear in mind, son does not like new experiences...new things.....so stinking much like his father on this stuff that I find it sickening.
Daughter is 17. Do I leave the 15 year old w/ his dad and stepmother or do I tell him he is going and to get over it. I know he will have an ok time once he gets on the road.
I sort of think girl time would be wonderful. I sort of think we need the family time.
I don't know....I just don't know. ...
I do know it would cost less to leave him at home. You know how those boys can eat. But, I just love him to pieces even if I can't see straight after dealing with him, sometimes. :eek:
Saw that a little while ago, Mimi. My sister had it open and I just couldn't help myself.
I couldn't imagine having my booty hanging out like that. YIKES!
Oh, and I join the ranks that are telling Jayne to ditch the dresses and old clothes. I like the idea of quilting with them. A nice way to hold on to the memories, of WHATEVER you did in those clothes
In the post screen, right above the box where you type, there is a box w/ a smiley face....if you click on that, you can see the emoticons. If you click on one of them, they will appear in your text. At the end of it. If you need to move one, you can cut and paste.
They can't throw it away if it's a souvenir and not to wear, can they???
And no, I do not intend to let my body parts hang out in the breeze, in front or in back! My outfits are more like #6, 18, 19, 20, 21 (some do's and don't's in there) but they don't fit well since I've lost weight. The ones I'm giving to Goodwill are more like the little picture on the bottom of #1 (a don't) and also #2 (a do, but I'm too old, right?).
I wish I looked like #27!
Thanks ever so much for feeding my paranoia, it was getting hungry...
(Hey, I just made that up. I'm kinda pleased w/myself!)
Looking for some advice and hope that a few GODDESSES around here will be able to help....
This GODDESS has in fact turned the page on the big five 0... :RollieEyes:
...and, seeing that today I had such an unusual RIDE on the emotional rollercoaster...I am now wondering if..HORMONES!?!?! ...are starting to get into the mix..urgh!
Just wondering what signs I should be on the lookout for as a....BS in Plan B having turned the page on the big five 0?
...and yes, I know that, too :RollieEyes:...I may just be fishing for an 'excuse' for my emotional day! ...can't blame me for trying
Hey, I look for excuses, too. Yesterday, I had a case of total screaming meanies. Maybe it was hormones. Maybe it was getting out of synch w/ my meds. Maybe it was stress. Dunno. But, I do regret it.
Meanwhile, for your edification:
Get Your Mammies Grammed!
For years and years they told me, Be careful of your breasts. Don't ever squeeze or bruise them. And give them monthly tests. So I heeded all their warnings, And protected them by law. Guarded them very carefully, And I always wore my bra. After 30 years of astute care, My gyno, Dr Pruitt, Said I should get a Mammogram "OK," I said, "let's do it." "Stand up here real close" she said, (She got my boob in line), "And tell me when it hurts," she said, "Ah yes! Right there, that's fine." She stepped upon a pedal, I could not believe my eyes! A plastic plate came slamming down, My hooters in a vise! My skin was stretched and mangled, From underneath my chin. My poor boob was being squashed, To Swedish Pancake thin. Excruciating pain I felt, Within it's viselike grip. A prisoner in this vicious thing, My poor defenseless tit! "Take a deep breath," she said to me, Who does she think she's kidding?!? My chest is mashed in her machine, And woozy I am getting. "There, that's good," I heard her say, (The room was slowly swaying.) "Now, let's have a go at the other one." Have mercy, I was praying. It squeezed me from both up and down, It squeezed me from both sides. I'll bet SHE'S never had this done, To HER tender little hide. Next time that they make me do this, I will request a blindfold. I have no wish to see again, My knockers getting steam rolled. If I had no problem when I came in, I surely have one now. If there had been a cyst in there, It would have gone "ker-pow!" This machine was created by a man, Of this, I have no doubt. I'd like to stick his balls in there, And, see how THEY come out!
This machine was created by a man, Of this, I have no doubt. I'd like to stick his balls in there, And, see how THEY come out!
... I find this comment could apply to a lot of MAN-made machines...requiring a lot of muscle power to operate...even down to a simple can opener sometimes!
...guess it's up to the ladies to...speak up or do something about it! :RollieEyes:
...OTOH, I have come across some fancy bottle openers created by some very thoughtful inventors requiring very little muscle-power! ...so, any men who read my above comment who may take offense, please ignore it...
I just have to tell you: I am officially wearing nail polish for the first time since I was a teenager. It feels really nice and I strongly recommend it.
My "nail history" is that I kept my nails really short for many years. I used to do jujutsu and it was mandatory to cut the nails on hands and feet as short as possible. I liked them that way and kept them like that after I stopped going there.
Last autumn I went out for drinks with some girls from work. One of them said that she cares more about her nails than hair or make-up, because she sees them in front of her all day and it makes her feel good when they are pretty. I showed her my nails and she said OMG, why do you do that to yourself?
After that I let them grow and kept them half long with no polish. Now I have added polish too and I am simply fascinated by them. My finger nails are light pink and shiny and my toe nails are dark red. I don't know if I should have the same color on both. I liked the dark red on my toes but I thought it was too bright on my fingers.
Makes me feel like I should go on a lingerie run to the store.
BUT, my fingernails aren't the greatest. They grow out for a couple of months. Then, they all break off - every last one of them. After that, they all grow for a while before breaking off. This is life history. Right now, we are finishing the break cycle. What color should they be? What color should my twinkle toes be?
Makes me feel like I should go on a lingerie run to the store.
Of course you should. Just remember to tell us what you found. Keep talking, I consider myself to be a lingerie-oholic.
Originally Posted by cinderella
BUT, my fingernails aren't the greatest. They grow out for a couple of months. Then, they all break off - every last one of them. After that, they all grow for a while before breaking off. This is life history. Right now, we are finishing the break cycle. What color should they be? What color should my twinkle toes be?
Good question! What do you like? I just love the dark red I've got on my toenails but I would look ridiculous with that on my hands. I will try the shiny light pink on my toes too.
A trip to the lingerie store is in order. I suggest Victoria's Secret. Very nice things.
I confess that I have a lingerie fetish. My grandmother used to tell me to always wear perky panties, just in case I ended up in the ER.
Then, during college, I worked in the emergency room. All I can say is, when you go there, they may have to cut off your clothes. And sometimes it wasn't very pretty.
Thinking seriously of getting a frontal mammery enhancement. Geesh I wish I was a real godess, I could just point and they would grow all by themselves Mind you I could try to
Well, for years I was a 34D until my body underwent spontaneous expansion. Weight Watchers starts tomorrow. I have the hips to match that chest. I would love for them to be smaller. My neck and shoulders and back might like that too.
Cinderella, have you tried this webshop: Figleaves They have sizes for all women and offer free returns. I have ordered from there and was happy about it.
Pre A I was a 10C which I think is 32C in your numbers. During the A I dropped down down down and gave up trying to find anything at 6A, mostly cos there was nothing to put in anything! Now I have gained a little weight and am back to a 8B which is a 30B...I think.
Wanna hear something interesting....if I sit quietly, breathe deeply, and think about relaxing as if to make my body do so, I can get my blood pressure down to a level that makes the doctor's happier. I can actually do that. I did not know I could do that until a couple of weeks ago.
So, what my blood pressure is depends on the circumstances in which it is checked.
You know, we've been seeing each other since January 2001. However, neither of us can get out children out of high school for almost 2 years. So, until then, there are no decisions to make. It is as it is. His employer does have an office in my city. But, no positions near his level. Nothing related to financial planning & analysis. Stuff here is more related to sales and service of their systems (fire & safety systems for commercial/industrial facilities such as restaurants/schools/hospitals/office buildings). My employer has my type stuff just about exclusively in my city.
All hair removal methods have tricked women with their promises of Easy, painless removal ** The Epilady, scissors, razors, Nair and now...the "Wax". Read on......btw don't drink anything while reading this!
My night began as any other normal weeknight.
Come home, fix dinner, play with the kids.
I then had the thought that would ring painfully in my mind for the Next few hours.
"Maybe should pull the waxing kit out of the medicine cabinet. So I headed to the site of my demise: the bathroom. It was one of those "cold wax" kits. No melting a clump of hot wax, you just rub the strips together in your Hand, they get warm and you peel them apart and press them to your leg (or wherever else) and you pull the hair right off. No muss, no fuss. How hard can it be?I mean, I'm not a genius, but I am mechanically inclined Enough to Figure this out. (YA THINK!?!) So I pull one of the thin strips out. Its two strips facing each other stuck together. Instead of rubbing them together, my genius kicks in so I get out the Hair dryer and heat it to 1000 degrees. ("Cold wax,"yeah...right!)I lay the Strip across my thigh. Hold the skin around it tight and pull. It works! OK, so it wasn't the best feeling, but it wasn't too bad. I can do this! Hair removal no longer eludes me ! I am She-rah, fighter of all wayward body hair and maker of smooth skin Extraordinaire. With my next wax strip I move north. After checking on the kids, I sneak back into the bathroom, for the Ultimate hair fighting championship. I drop my panties and place one foot on the toilet. Using the same procedure, I apply the wax strip across the right side Of my bikini line, covering the right half of my hoo-ha and stretching Down to the inside of my butt cheek (it was a long strip) I inhale deeply and brace myself....RRRRRRIIIIPPP!!!!**
I'm blind!!! Blinded from pain!!!!.... OH MY GAWD!!!!!!!!! Vision returning, I notice that I've only managed to pull off half the Strip. CR*P! Another deep breath and RIPP! Everything is spinning and spotted. I think I may pass out...must stay conscious...must stay conscious. Do I hear crashing drums??? Breathe, breathe........... OK, back to normal. I want to see my trophy, a wax-covered strip, the one that has caused me so Much pain, with my hairy pelt sticking to it. I want to revel in the glory that is my triumph over body hair. I hold up the strip! There's no hair on it. Where is the hair??? WHERE IS THE WAX??? Slowly I ease my head down, foot still perched on the toilet. I see the hair. The hair that should be on the strip...it's not! I touch. I am touching wax. I run my fingers over the most sensitive part of my body, which is now Covered in cold wax and matted hair. Then I make the next BIG mistake...remember my foot is still propped Upon the toilet?**
I know I need to do something. So I put my foot down. Sealed shut! My butt is sealed shut. Sealed shut! I penguin walk around the bathroom trying to figure out what to do and Think to myself, "Please don't let me get the urge to poop. My head may pop off! What can I do to melt the wax? Hot water!! Hot water melts wax!! I'll run the hottest water I can stand into the bathtub, get in, Immerse the wax-covered bits and the wax should melt and I can gently wipe it Off, right??? WRONG!!!!!!! I get in the tub - The water is slightly hotter than that used to torture prisoners of war Or sterilize surgical equipment - I sit. Now, the only thing worse t han having your nether regions glued Together, is having them glued together and then glued to the bottom of the Tub...in scalding hot water. Which, by the way, doesn't melt cold wax. So, now I'm stuck to the bottom of the tub as though I had cemented Myself to the porcelain!! God bless the man who had convinced me a few months ago to have a phone Put in the bathroom!!!!!
I call my friend, thinking surely she has waxed before and has some Secret of how to get me undone. It's a very good conversation starter "So, my butt and hoo-ha are glued Together to the bottom of the tub!" There is a slight pause. She doesn't know any secret tricks for removal but she does try to hide her laughter from me. She wants to know exactly where the wax is located, "Are we talking cheeks or hole or hoo-ha?" She's laughing out loud by now...I can hear her.I give her the rundown and she suggests I call the number on the side of the box.YEAH!!!!! Right!! I should be the joke of someone else's night. While we go through various solutions. I resort to trying to scrape the wax off with a razor. Nothing feels better than to have your girlie goodies covered in hot wax, glued shut, stuck to the tub in super hot water and then dry-shaving the sticky wax off!! By now the brain is not working, dignity has taken a major hike and I'm pretty sure I'm going to need Post-Traumatic Stress counseling for this event. My friend is still talking with me when I finally see my saving grace....the lotion they give you to remove the excess wax. What do I really have to lose at this point? I rub some on and OH MY STARS!!!!!!! The scream probably woke the kids and scared the dickens out of my friend. It's sooo painful, but I really don't care. "IT WORKS!!... I get a hearty congratulation from my friend and she hangs up. I successfully remove the remainder of the wax and then notice to my grief and despair.... THE HAIR IS STILL THERE........ALL OF IT!
So I recklessly shave it off.Heck, I'm numb by now. Nothing hurts. I could have amputated my own leg at this point.
It's 2:36 a.m., this morning we moved out of (yet another) house and have driven all day, including a border crossing requiring applying for a work visa, we're in a tiny hotel room, H and the kids are(were?) asleep and I'm shaking the bed with silent laughter at this point:
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Using the same procedure, I apply the wax strip across the right side Of my bikini line, covering the right half of my hoo-ha and stretching Down to the inside of my butt cheek (it was a long strip) I inhale deeply and brace myself....RRRRRRIIIIPPP!!!!**
I'm blind!!! Blinded from pain!!!!.... OH MY GAWD!!!!!!!!!
As I continue reading the laughter turns to not-so-silent giggles and tears are in my eyes... just when I think it can't get funnier it does... I'm sure H is awake now.
If any man ever says any of this stuff to you, your reaction would be considered justifiable homicide. I'll even serve as a character witness on your behalf.
(most of that was just space filler ) so thinking of the 'joke' I posted... what sort of other alternatives are there to shaving, or waxing? Keep in mind that some products are NOT international.
LOL! I got out my junior high school yearbooks this morning and showed the 7th and 8th grade pictures to my daughter. She agrees with me that this haircut looks like many of the girls' haircuts from that part of my past.
:RollieEyes:
No wonder I am having trouble coping with it. :MrEEk:
I am just saying there is a resemblance between this 'do and those haircuts. But, everyone else is loving this cut. I love the fact that everyone else loves this cut. And, Mart didn't have a whole lot to work with after he cut off the hair. So, here we are. I don't know what it 'should' look like. I'm just happy that I lost that TOO long hair and that someone else will benefit from it. And, I know I will get over it.
I don't know.....Because it is more fashionable than what I did have because what I did have was seriously overgrown and usually up in a ponytail or a wadded up bun or the twisty-halo-thing.
I have trouble w/ the skin below the corners of my mouth. It's gotten rough and dry w/ occaisional breakouts. Just not happy making. Dermatologist says it could be related to toothpaste. All-natural, baking soda, whitening, hyper-flavord, all those factors could be related. She recommends the most basic toothpaste available.
Shucks, no great compliments on actually putting on my makeup!?! I'm not the makeup wearing goddess some of you are. I thought it was a big deal. :RollieEyes:
Yeah, cow poo would cause an increased need to shower.
Don't cry deary....you'll smear all that lovely make-up......
Actually I am VERY VERY proud of you and all the "GODDESS" work you have done....you have come very very far....and kudo's to you....but even without all your "GODDESS" work you are still awesome to me....remember, you were my HERO last week....
BTW, I took 2 showers yesterday too....the needed one in the morning, the "fun" one in the afternoon....
Since I'm doing a monolog, I guess I'll ask myself how many goddess points I should give myself for sending the massage therapist an email aking about an appt for tomorrow afternoon.
BTW, almost all the nail techs around my area are Viet Namese. Don't know why but they almost have a lock on the industry?
I have concerns about this..but probably not a good topic for the GODDESS thread. I don't feel comfortable with the way the owners treat the techs in my area...
Cinders,
It really bothers ME seeing the two stars..is why I don't post on the thread...
Mimi, are you serious about the stars? If so, why does it bother you?
In reality, I feel like I am floundering in my personal life right now. Today, I happen to feel like death warmed over.
I did, however, take my 2 children and our German student to a family-appropriate restaurant/dance hall place last night so German student could go home and say she went line dancing.
Work is as boring as it could possibly be with major changes staring us in the face but we don't know when it will all be implemented. Then, whenever things are implemented, it will all break loose.
Mimi, are you serious about the stars? If so, why does it bother you?
LOL..I'm SERIOUS..prolly CLASSICAL CONDITIONING...I was one of those who was almost compulsive about trying to make STRAIGHT As..even in COLLEGE..pulled it off in MY MAJOR..well, ALMOST..a couple of Bs that still bother me...I ADMIT TO MY PERFECTIONISM..long story...
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In reality, I feel like I am floundering in my personal life right now. Today, I happen to feel like death warmed over.
I have some personal issues. I messed up. I HATE messing up - HATE making mistakes. He is being supportive but this is something I TRULY MESSED UP. And, only I can fix it. I'm trying but running into stone walls. Driving me nuts.
I have some personal issues. I messed up. I HATE messing up - HATE making mistakes. He is being supportive but this is something I TRULY MESSED UP. And, only I can fix it. I'm trying but running into stone walls. Driving me nuts.
I am feeling unworthy these days.
How can WE help if you don't fill us in...can you give a CLUE????
It's a financial mess....working on it...doing all I can...and it will end up being ok. I'm working on it.
I just had an a-ha moment. I know what depression and anxiety feel like. The last few days, I've been feeling really icky and thought it could be related to that. Today, I did a little research on an antibiotic I've started (remember, the face breaking out frustration). Anyway, among the side effects are dizziness, drowsiness, headaches, and tummy issues. Some of the symptoms could be the same!
Mimi, you could meet up with us. We could teach you about the joys of sharing needles, you could find a local group to share with, and you could learn the joys of being able to clothe yourself in what had, a few weeks earlier, been nothing but a pile of string.
And it would give a whole new meaning to the "joy of SEX".
Now, you goddesses know that, if someone who doesn't know what this discussion is about should wander by, they are going to think we are being really naughty women. But, in reality, we aren't. Sometimes, the needle users just find a lot of joy in a stash enhancement expedition and in seeing how a different pair of needles feels in your hand.
Neither am I. I know I crocheted a blanket for my daughter before she was born.....I can't remember crocheting one for my son. But, he's survived without it.
I have found a Reader's Digest book I have to be excellent at helping me knit....haven't really ever gotten terribly excited about crochet. Maybe someday.
Even hookers need to have a good stash from their SEX trips.
Well, today I'm cleaning house in between posting. So far it is looking good. I got the cleaning bug suddenly. My neighbor (who cleans for a living) told me about this excellent cleaner called "The Big Orange". You can get it at Smart N Final - don't know if y'all have that store nearby. Anyway, I got a gallon of the stuff and have already gone through 2 bottles. It cleans EVERYTHING.
Nothing like a freshly cleaned house. I must be nuts, but I do like to clean. I probably like the results better than the action, but it makes me feel good.
I like a clean house, but don't really like to clean. But I'm on a roll now. Been taking down the curtains and washing them, cleaning the oven, YIKES, hope this lasts.
You go out to the LYS (Local Yarn Store) and buy yarn [which you may or may not be going to use immediately]. You take the yarn home and put it with your other yarn in your stash. You then have a ready resource of materials to use for some future project.
A LYS is not the same as Michael's or JoAnn. A LYS is a locally owned store, possibly a member of the NFIB.
Sharing needles would let you try out a set of needles before purchasing them or let you use some for a particular project.
This is big time OT, but I can't figure out how to add a new topic ..so here goes.. my little fellow, the mini shnauzer is once again having seizures. His first were 2 1/2 yrs ago. He's been holding since. He started "clustering" last night with like 3 in a row lasting up to 15 minutes. He has them at midnight, 6 PM, and 6 AM. The vets tell me he has probably got a tumor, 2 1/2 yrs ago. He's a little cancer survivor, and the sweetest little thing ever, however he is just 12 yrs old. I got him cause they were supposed to live a long time, like 15 yrs. The vet will see him Monday. I am just sitting here, with him on my lap, waiting for the "witching ' hour, midnight, before we sleep. He's on 37.5 mg Pheno barb twice a day. Anybody with a similar circumstance? I am so afraid his end is near, and I love him so much!! GF
Thanks, Mimi. If he was bigger, I would call him my rock when I went thru my FWH's EA. He would sit on my lap and look at me as if he "understood". As it ends up he was my little "pebble" He was my little 15 lb protector when I was sick. He would prance around the bed and face off anyone whe entered my room..FWH nd all!! He is soooo funnty. GF
I don't know anything to say except "I care" - - I have never dealt with that problem. I have lost pets but have never dealt with seizures. I have already said a prayer for you and your 'baby'.
My Boston has seizures and is also on Pheno twice daily. Haven't noticed any since she started the meds though. She is a lot younger than your baby, which may be why it works so well for her.
I think I've started having hot flashes...not bad but something's going on.
And, my dermatologist prescribed this medication that you have to take at least 1 hour before eating or two hours after eating; you can't take it less than 2 - 3 hours before or after taking your vitamins; and, it can cause dizziness, drowsiness, headaches, and tummy issues. I only have 3 more weeks of this.
Oh my! I think I figured out that I used to work with the sister of Ann Patchett, a writer with several best sellers to her name. At on time, I had some work duties which were, for political reasons, reassigned to Heather Patchett. Ann has a sister named Heather. There are other reasons for me to think I've got this right.
I do too....Bel Canto was incredible (all those political twists)....Magician's Assistant was very interesting with the myriad relationships. I'm reading Truth & Beauty right now.
That's how I made the connection. At about the right time, I worked with a Heather Patchett (AP has a sister named Heather)who would have been about the right age in the right geographical location. What are the odds?
I'm not sure I've read that one. "Truth and Beauty" is so weird you wouldn't believe it. Just weird - true story about her friendship with Lucy. It's weird - maybe because I can't remember ever having such a friendship.
I won the award for "Most Bizarre Use of Pumpkin" in the pumpkin cooking contest at church tonight.....for Pumpkin Sausage Lasagna.
Pumpkin Sausage Lasagna
Estimated Time(s): Preparation: 20 min Cooking: 50 min Ingredients
1 container (15 ounces) light ricotta cheese 2 tablespoons BUITONI® Refrigerated Freshly Shredded Parmesan Cheese 1 teaspoon Italian seasoning 12 ounces sweet or hot light turkey sausage casings removed 3/4 cup LIBBY'S® 100% Pure Pumpkin 1/2 cup dry white wine 1/2 cup chicken broth 1 container (15 ounces) BUITONI® Refrigerated Roasted Garlic Marinara Sauce 8 no-boil lasagna noodles 1 1/2 cups (6 ounces) shredded mozzarella cheese divided 1/3 cup hot water
Directions PREHEAT oven to 350° F.
COMBINE ricotta cheese, Parmesan cheese and seasoning in medium bowl; mix well.
HEAT large, nonstick skillet over medium-high heat. Add sausage; cook, stirring to break into pieces, until browned. Transfer sausage to paper towel-lined plate to drain.
ADD pumpkin, wine and broth to skillet; cook over medium heat, stirring frequently, until bubbly. Stir in sauce and sausage; heat through.
SPREAD 1 cup sauce mixture over bottom of 11 x 7-inch or 13 x 9-inch baking dish. Top with 4 lasagna noodles. Spread 1 cup ricotta mixture over noodles. Sprinkle with 1 cup mozzarella cheese. Spread 1 cup sauce mixture over mozzarella cheese; top with remaining 4 lasagna noodles, remaining ricotta mixture and remaining sauce mixture. Sprinkle with remaining 1/2 cup mozzarella cheese. Pour water around edges of lasagna. Cover with foil.
BAKE for 40 to 45 minutes or until bubbly. Let stand for 10 minutes before serving.
NOTE: Can substitute BUITONI Refrigerated Marinara Sauce. If this is preferred, add 2 cloves finely chopped garlic when cooking sausage.
Ann Patchett. For real. I recognized her from last weekend. She had on a coat that she should have avoided.
Rode the elevator down with her (went to symphony) and talked before we got on...while we were on it...and afterward. I did work with her sister. The room was stinky hot where she did her presentation. We talked about her line she used that was great advice for life. And we talked about my bizarre experience at the book festival where I was the only audience member who made it all the way through the presentation.
She is a real person....at the symphony with her parents.
We're talking about a deepish orangy red single breasted coat with lots of detailing above the waist, a tall shirt-type collar that came almost up to her ears, a belt like a trench coat, and a poufy skirt that hung like a cross between a balloon valance and a lampshade. There was nothing about this coat that merited anything other than donation to a thrift store.
But, she was very pleasant. Acted like she remembered seeing us. Yeah, we were only a small drop in the bucket last week and that was only one of how many presentations each year....
Think of yourself as attractive. No one has the right to judge how you look but you, and if you decide to be good-looking then that is what you will portray and that is what you will be!
Well, you should have seen me yesterday working in the pumpkin patch at church. I was a true 'fashion don't' but I had a good time and was happy. I even took a boombox and my hula hoop. Hooping among the pumpkins in front of a church on one of the busiest roads on this side of town. I felt marvelous! Even if I would have embarassed my daughter.
Yeah.....I KNOW better than that! After my stint in the pumpkin patch, I went to the grocery store then to some friends house. They didn't roll their eyes - I told them where I spent my afternoon and they took it well....especially since I brought the chips and salsa (mix jar of medium salsa, can of drained whole corn, and can of drained black beans). They loved my salsa even if they didn't love my look.
Oh, I was wearing my "Our Lady of Perpetual Responsibility" t-shirt. It was SO appropriate.
Mimi, I was none too happy about it but I was pleased to run into no one that I knew. It wasn't my usual grocery store. Do I get credit for going to a store at which I do not often shop?
"Be fashionable. This one is a given, but a lot of people don't realize how wrong they are in the clothes they wear. Learn about your body type, height, skin tone and preferences. Discover yourself, and fashion will come to you."
I am going to be the pretty, pretty popcorn princess prancing 'round the party tomorrow evening. I volunteered to do man the popcorn machine at a birthday party tomorrow evening.
My children are gone tonight (to their dad's)
Gotta get ready for Fall Fest at church Sunday night. I was going to make a mermaid costume and decorate my car like a yellow submarine but it ain't gonna happen in this lifetime (this year). So, I will set out my inflatable pumpkin and ghost (they are only 3-4' tall). Get out my PVC skeleton. Fill my plastic bag pumpkin-man.
May go by fabric store and get some sheer material to make a sort of dress thing from and wear that over black pants and black turtleneck with some fairy wings. Think that would be ok?
May go by fabric store and get some sheer material to make a sort of dress thing from and wear that over black pants and black turtleneck with some fairy wings. Think that would be ok?
Sounds GREAT to me. I've never been good about costumes.
I dropped by mainly to share with you CINDERS or any other avid readers about the "WONDERFULEST" website that I found last night called GOODREADS. I encourage you to check it out!!
Rid yourself of your insecurities. If your shoulders are slouching and you have a scared look on your face you will look bad even in a Gucci and Manolo shoes.
I dropped by mainly to share with you CINDERS or any other avid readers about the "WONDERFULEST" website that I found last night called GOODREADS. I encourage you to check it out!!
You want to give me more options....I'm reading 'Truth and Beauty', 'Run', 'The Bullfighter Checked Her Makeup', 'Rome 1960', and a book by 'The Tall Pine Polka'. Plus, I have two new Mason-Dixon knitting books. And, I have a couple of knitting projects underway. AND, Tuesday night is reading group so I will be given a new reading assignment.
I ENJOY books BEST when I SAVOR the ONE book that I am reading. I get lost in that particular TOPIC or WORLD..it's what THE AUTHOR wishes from the READER...
I learned this in the BOOK entitled, "HOW TO READ A BOOK"..
That I fully understand. However, I lose books if I carry them around too much. Or, I might leave the lunch break book at the office and be bookless for the weekend.
So this GODDESS is claiming that her food has been clean from sugar for almost 7 days today. I'm still awake so I can't claim today totally, but I am claiming the 6 days past.
I am having lamb chops, yams, broccoli and hollandaise sauce. All clean food.. Let me clarify my successes a little more. The hollandaise sauce is made from homemade mayonaise that I whipped together on Friday. The yams with butter and brown rice syrup. Oh yummmy.....
My friend who is addiction-prone says it has to do with the fact that sugar is required for fermentation so the sugar content in alcohol is high. Therefore, sugar is often a problem for alcoholics and they often need to eliminate both substances from their diets. Bread can be a problem, also.....yeast....sugar.
I'm not an expert. I've never battled that type of addiction but that is what I have heard.
Hey Queenie, I've done the candida diet before! I used to do it about once a year, when I would start getting too many symptoms of a yeast infection. The first two weeks were always hard but after that I'd love it. I'd have so much more energy, I'd lose weight, and food tasted so much more, um, vibrant. Like I could taste the sweetness just in green beans, or yams, etc.
I have missed you all. I just wanted to throw a quick GODDESS idea out there.
Since its the day after Halloween, all those Halloween stores are trying to get out of dodge as quick as possible. My idea is to get there ASAP and buy yourself some new "outfits"... . That's right, some of those super sexy costumes that most of us wouldn't dare be caught dead in, BUT secretly wish we could pull off. I say DO IT ANYWAY.....
Can you imagine dressing up in a "personality" you've always wanted to try on for a while, then put away???
Nothing like a little vixen gansta get-up to get your H's blood flowing!!!!
A little bored in the bedroom???
Try the super sexy army get-up....that will add a little spice tonight....
Can't get Hubby to take his eyes off the football game tomorrow???
How about a trampy cheerleading at half time to get his attention???
The point being, this is something WE can do for our H's that most would NEVER IMAGINE we would.....
And while you are at it, you can pick up other costumes for future use....
Playboy bunnies for Easter, Baseball chick for baseball season next year (you can REALLY stretch him out in the 7th inning...)
Anyway, I thought I would pass this on. When I took my kids to get their costumes, I really admired the costumes and thought "Why the heck not???". I wouldn't dare wear these out in public (even with my new found "GODDESS" figure) BUT who says I can't give H and myself a little something something while we do a little "something something"???
It has been 11 months since I first posted on this thread (I think I was on here from the get-go....) and let me tell you all, the changes I have gone through are amazing. While I do believe in the power of personal change, you all have been my mentors and cheerleaders.
Mimi, the original true GODDESS, many thank you and kudos to you.....you have inspired and pushed us to be our personal best, set by OUR own standards.....
And all my lovely GODDESSES (Char, Luna, Queenie, Cinders and I could go on FOREVER...)....THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU....
If I where to see a video replay of where I was a year ago today, I would venture to guess that I would have had no make-up on, my old-trusty-GODFORBID-SHOULD-I-GO-OUT-IN-PUBLIC sweatpants (control the shruddering Mimi.... ), my hair in its usual pony-tail with its 8 months of roots showing, "caterpillars" above my BEAUTIFUL eyes, and 42 pds. of excess weight on me.....
NOW,,,,,we ALL know what initally brought on my changes, but it really wasn't till I read HNHN and the chapter on Physical Attractiveness coupled with this thread, that those changes TRULY began to come about and STICK......
So, JUST HOW FAR HAS GODDESS NOT COME???????
I tell you this very TRUE, very REAL, place-me-before-God-I-am-NOT-lying story....(and if anyone needs VERIFICATION, you may ask Lala, as I was talking to her a meer hour after this happened....).................
On Wed. I did my usual routine. Went to work, with make-up on, hair all done and looking as good as it can in a hairnet, and clean clothes. I got off work, took my shower and gussied myself up for the day. My outfit consisted of a gorgeous black turtle-neck 3/4 sleeved sweeter, handsomely cut blue-jeans, 2 inch black heeled boots (I am only 5'3"....most of my shoes are heeled now.....), a silver bracelet and faux diamond earrings. Hair was done, playing around with my curliness and the new "do" lately, and make-up done.
I had an appointment with my counselor that day, so off I went. Afterwards I came home, and got busy with the normal "mom/wife/womanly" duties us GODDESSES usually do. WS had seminar this night and I wasn't expecting home early and knew it would be a late night for him.
Anyway, I go to clean up the kitchen and I see that my kitchen sink is still clogged (noticed it the day before and had done the Liquid Plumber route....didn't take....). Well, being as I am a plumber's daughter and am well-versed in the workings on pipes (my dad will come and do whatever I need, but I HATE calling him when my kitchen is clogged because I hate getting the "you should never use your garbage disposal" speech.....). Soooooo, I set about cleaning out under my sink, taking apart the pipes, and finding the clog. Which, I did find and unclogged. I then put my pipes back together, ran some water to "double" check my work (of which, I am most proud of..... ), put all the cleaning products away (which BTW, needed to be purged anyway....) and set about cleaning the rest of the kitchen.
After a little bit, I decided I wanted a juice and went to the Convientant mart down the street. The girl working that night is one that I see regularly and her and I are quite friendly.
Anyway, she commented immediately on how "cute" I looked that night and wanted to know where I was going, joked about how she should join me. I laughed and said "no where...at home tonight". She said that this was a shame to waste my good looks and cute outfit on a night at home......to which then I said, "Honey, I did all this just to fix my clogged up pipes..."....
She looked at me and said that she admired a woman who knew plumbing AND could do it in HEELS.........
So fellow GODDESSES.......THAT IS how FAR I have come.....TODAY I even unclog nasty pipes in make-up and heels........
She looked at me and said that she admired a woman who knew plumbing AND could do it in HEELS.........
Wow. That's REALLY impressive. I wish I could be like that.
Your "before" picture looks a lot like me now: no make-up on, sweatpants, hair hanging limp and last haircut was 8 months ago, "caterpillars" above my eyes, and about 30 pounds overweight.
Hey Queenie, I've done the candida diet before! I used to do it about once a year, when I would start getting too many symptoms of a yeast infection. The first two weeks were always hard but after that I'd love it. I'd have so much more energy, I'd lose weight, and food tasted so much more, um, vibrant. Like I could taste the sweetness just in green beans, or yams, etc.
Hey Jayne, I just saw this. It is a GREAT food PLAN.... I have a wonderful cookbook for sale if you like recipes....
Last year, it was almost a year ago when I really committed to learning the plans and working them to the best of my ability. I was someone who hated herself so deeply for so many reasons. SO MANY REASONS...
What I have come to learn is that my journey was one of spirit, mind, and body. My G-d saw that I needed to learn how to live in a place of self-acceptance for who I started out as, who I had become and who I am becoming. Self-acceptance of myself for all the blessings, all the mistakes and all the good that does live inside of me.
I commit to my new life today, I commit that I am a TRUE GODDESS because the light that lives inside of me, while have been dulled, burned and then is shining because G-d is shining in me. G-d gives me the strength for self-acceptance to move forward and live the life he designed for me.
I wish that it may be so for those who are still struggling or for those of us who have gotten beaten down lately and just need a reminder that we are PEFECT because G-d has plans for us and knows where he is leading us.
Copied from my thread on Other Topics! They told me it needed to be on the Goddess thread!
Originally Posted by cinderella
I have a 30+ year old toilet. It is leaking from the connection between the bowl and the tank. I can dry the sucker out and try to figure out what is wrong and repair it.
After all, I did remove it and reinstall it once upon a time. Something I did fixed a problem it had with running slowly even when not in use.
Or, I could install a new toilet. I have had no problems with a low-flow budget quality toilet installed in my son's bathroom.
I'm not really afraid of doing this task. Just don't know whether I would be smarter to repair this toilet or get a newer one instead.
So, those of you with more plumbing experience than me.....which do you think is the wiser option?
Now on with the goddess thread. I am in the midst of staging my home. No, not going to sell it, but just very interested in all the shows on TV about how to do it.
It involves getting rid of junk, personal items, and fixing everything up.
Now on with the goddess thread. I am in the midst of staging my home. No, not going to sell it, but just very interested in all the shows on TV about how to do it.
It involves getting rid of junk, personal items, and fixing everything up.
Tonight, I worked at the concession stand at son's school's football game. When I got there, I asked what the tiaras were for. The other women told me they were for us to wear so we could be the Concession Queens. I told them I wanted to be a princess so that, if something big went wrong, I wouldn't have to be responsible for it.
I just came from the ENT's office. After doing all the hearing tests, again, they have decided I have a mild to moderate hearing loss. It's logical to go ahead and do hearing aids before I lose any more of my hearing. For some reason, not having to work as hard to hear keeps you from losing your hearing as fast. He thinks it's probably hereditary.
It's not real severe yet....I just lose words in paragraphs especially if you aren't speaking very distinctly and if there is a whole lot of noise. He thinks it's hereditary because my mom can't hear doodly or squat. She waited too long for hearing aids.....forgot how to pick out the sounds she wanted from the sounds she didn't. I don't want to wait too long. But, this is a $3,000 thing and most insurance won't pay anything to speak of.
Well, it's mid-afternoon on Friday and I haven't gotten dressed yet. Home with the impending cruds. Sinuses really hurt. I think I'm going back to bed. Just got up 45 minutes ago.
I totally forgot about this thread. I posted here once or twice just after d-day. Just found it again and it made my day! Thanks, ladies.
Cinderella, I hope you feel better soon. It's hard to be a Goddess with a snotty nose, huh? (Equally hard with a toddler with a snotty nose...they have NO respect for dry-clean-only outfits) Sending you an imaginary bowl of homemade chicken soup.
I underestimate my Goddessness, but a pp made me think about how I looked and felt after d-day and compare that to today. New haircut, new colour, well-groomed brows, regularly shaved legs, I found the eye-shadow colour that I wore at my wedding the other day, thought it had been discontinued....bought it and it looks FABULOUS! I've lost weight (gained some back with my too-short-pregnancy, but that's going away), I choose clothes that don't all look like PJs and I have a very cute nose ring that DH loves, loves, loves. And, for some reason, my pre-children shoes seem to be fitting again, so I wear those FM-pumps a lot these days. Nice! Guess I'm getting my Goddess back.
Just as I was about to go to sleep, daughter called. Her dad had picked her up at school and bringing her home - and was going to do some plumbing work for me. GREAT!!! This meant I had to get dressed. x can be civil now and then.
I hate this time of year.....it's not yet 5 p.m. and it's already dark.
I think I'll go knit.
Thanks, everyone, for your kind wishes for perkiness in the next few days. (Sunday is d's birthday party - I have to get psyched up to amuse 20 teenagers at church in the youth group room.......don't know who is coming. The agenda is let them play games (board games, pool, ping pong, skeeball, foosball), watch movies (whatever daughter chooses), order pizza, eat cake (sometime tomorrow I will have to bake that thing), and generally hang out.
Gotta see that we have cups, plates, forks, drinks, and the associated stuff.
Cinders, I;m so sorry about your hearing loss. I don't understand why insurance wouldn't cover something like that?
As for your daughter's cake, surely her and a couple of friends can put something together? Just tell her you don't think you should be handling food cos you;re not well enough. You wouldn't buy a cake if you thought a sick chef had made it!
Tuck! Thanks! I think I'll go to Costco tomorrow and see what they have. I generally don't like grocery store cakes. The only bakery around here is mui mui expensive.
Mimi here? Well, I've been trying to do the goddess thing - sweatshirts gone, ratty nightclothes gone, legs and pits shaved, makeup on, hair styled, perfume on, FM pumps ready.................
I spent last Saturday going through my closet and got rid of about half my clothes. It was completely stuffed with things I hardly wear at all - and in thin sizes and fat sizes. I eliminated the fat ones, and everything that doesn't look GREAT on me.
Took them all to the women's shelter where they put together free outfits for job interviews for battered women.
I LOVE my closet now - can actually find things. Sometimes less is more.
And I still have a little Mimi in my mind, telling me to always look my best - kind of like having Clinton and Stacey (from What Not to Wear) following me around.
I am VOLUNTARILY getting a haircut today. All these years I've had long hair and loved it. But, I NEED a haircut. If I didn't have this thread reminding me to embrace my goddessness I might not be doing this.
See, I want to be able to put it up (I loved doing that for dressing up), I might not do this. But, my hair looks less than perfect these days....less than cute and perky....so I need to get it shaped up. I hunted down the hairdresser Wednesday night. When I finally got to him, he said that 'we need to get you in for a cut before the holidays' and I laughed. Because that was exactly what I was thinking.
Don't usually post on this thread...really don't post much at all anymore, but do read. Just wanted to pop in and say glad you're back...you were missed!
PRACTICE THE GODDESS MODE DAILY...PRACTICE..PRACTICE..and you will feel GLAMOUROUS and FABULOUS...
Believer HERE has got it:
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I've been trying to do the goddess thing - sweatshirts gone, ratty nightclothes gone, legs and pits shaved, makeup on, hair styled, perfume on, FM pumps ready.................
It's OK to PASS on the FM PUMPS except for those SPECIAL OCCASIONS...
This goddess in training asks to be excused today.
Friday and Saturday were party nights and I was a party goddess. Cute little dresses and cute shoes, knockout makeup and hair. The party yesterday had the theme headwear and I took the chance to try really long hair extensions. Fun! I don't do FM shoes but I had a pair of bordeaux colored knee-high boots with the same effect. I got home from both parties at 2 am in the morning and crashed in bed.
This morning I had planned to go ice skating but when I woke up I realized that I don't feel well. I don't drink alcohol but I feel nauseous, I guess it is because I went to bed too late and had food at strange hours.
So today I will recharge my batteries, go through some papers and cook a nice dinner for myself. I have showered and cleansed my face but I don't plan to put on any makeup. But at least I don't look sloppy and I know that tomorrow I will be back in clothes that look great.
I have showered and cleansed my face but I don't plan to put on any makeup. But at least I don't look sloppy and I know that tomorrow I will be back in clothes that look great.
Thank you Mimi! It is good to see you. How are you?
I have been very busy the last month and today I had a chance to get as much sleep as I really needed for the first time since I don't know when. I enjoy my work and I do lots of interesting things when I'm free but sometimes it's just too much.
Well, I learned today that a bra has a 6 month life span. Who knew?
I decided that I needed all new under garments, so went to the mall. The clerk measured me and I commented that my bra doesn't fit like it used to. When she asked how old it was, I told her and she raised her eyebrows. Said they only last 6 months. Now, I'm too embarrassed to tell you how old most of mine are. In fact, I was so embarrassed I came home and threw most of them out. Suffice it to say that none of them were only 6 months old.
I only had enough money to buy one, but decided to get one per week until I get a new supply. Geeze, next they'll be telling me that under pants only have a 3 month life cycle.
Well, I learned today that a bra has a 6 month life span. Who knew?
I didn't
Is that from the date of purchase of from when you start using it? I have a tendency to buy clothes when I stumble across something I like which means that I have a supply of bras at home that I haven't used yet.
But honestly, if a salesperson told me that the product she is selling has a limited lifetime I would accept it with some reservation. On the other hand I am always in favor of buying new underwear. So what did you get?
I heard that a long time ago.....Tucktummy is probably our resident expert on bras.
The lifespan of a bra would, I think, be contingent on how much you wear them and how you wash them. I don't know where they get that figure but that elastic could easily lose it's stretchiness.
Every time I go bra shopping, they tell me I'm wearing the wrong size. Maybe that's because they've been through 5 years of pregnancy and breastfeeding (and counting). They seem to change every few months, but I haven't bought a new one in 3 years. Guess I know what to put on the Christmas list!
Sometimes I think getting rid of corsets wasn't such a great idea...
Had a Goddess moment at church of all places this weekend. New church, and at least 3 people came up to us at coffee hour to tell us we were a cute family. I did spend quite a bit of time on the hair and make-up that AM, plus made sure the boys' shoes were polished and shiny, hair brushed like choir boys and pants and vests wrinkle-free. Nice to know it was noticed!
The party went ok.....I was expecting 15 kids and had 8 or 9. They played Life. They ate pizza. They watched Waterboy. They ate cake. They talked. Everyone who came is a high school senior so it was good for them to have hang out time.
On the bra thing gals, she said that they just lose their shape after about 6 months. Of course, I guess it does depend on how you treat them. They recommend hand wash, rotate them (like tires) but everyday, and store them with cups nestled inside of each other.
This is too much like work.
BTW - I bought Wacoal ($54). The saleslady said they were good. She's also the one who told me about the 6 month shelf life. I also bought a bridge in Brooklyn from her......
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HOW do you rotate a bra??? You mean, like wear it on your back? Inside out?
I can't believe y'all are talking bras! A week or so ago I asked my mom to send me some new bras, mine had stopped "holding me up". I thought I'd be a little goddess-like and try to wear clothes that fit better. I'll give you a hint how old some of mine were: up until recently I still would occasionally wear nursing bras if the others were dirty.
I had no idea they had a shelf life either.
So my mom sent me 3 bras, and they were all over $50 each! One was over $60! Last time I checked I thought they were $18! Is my mom overspending (like she tends to do) or is this actually the going rate for reasonable bras for middle class folks?
I thought you might be, just based on this conversation. You Goddesses sound like a very, well, uplifted group of ladies, indeed! I told you once, long ago, that I was very inadequate Goddess material. My idea of bra shopping involves whatever looks the most like what I want as I hurry through Wal-Mart. If I'm really going "high-end", I might look at JC Penney's once in awhile. However, when purchasing for a couple of 60-year old boobies, short of a couple helium balloons attached to the nipples, there's not a lot that can be done to perk them up. Might as well go Economy Class.
Thanks Cind! My mom has a history of spending way too much money just for the sake of waving a price tag around. And lately I've had to bail her out of a financial bind. So that's why I was cautious.
However, when purchasing for a couple of 60-year old boobies, short of a couple helium balloons attached to the nipples, there's not a lot that can be done to perk them up.
T&L:
YOU ARE MOST DEFINITELY GODDESS MATERIAL!!
Mainly because you are a HOOT!!
Plus, some of my favorite NIGHTGOWNS ("Secret Treasures") were bought at WALMART!!
Plus, AGE is not a FACTOR..I'm closer to your age than to most of the others here...
there's not a lot that can be done to perk them up
Well, it's sort of embarrassing to admit, but I have (on occasion) stood in front of the mirror and lifted them up in my hands just to make some cleavage again, for old times' sake. My, that brings back the mammaries.
But eventually I have to let them go. Arms get tired, you know?
I just came online to show Neaksis what I had posted and found out that I posted, not only on Neak's computer, but with her identity as well. If SHE'S also standing in front of the mirror holding up her breasts, she's never confessed it to ME!!!
We were talking about bras and someone mentioned husbands holding your breasts. Someone else mentioned holding their own in a mirror. And someone else mentioned how you steam up the bathroom mirror......but we have NOT discussed plumbing today!
We were talking about YOU, once you brought your perky little pieces of fluff into a conversation which also included a bathroom mirror, and from there on out the subject just got naturally moist-ish.
Well, I'm ready for Thanksgiving. Got all the groceries bought, table decorations ready, turkey soaking (per instructions of Melody), pies started, and will be up at 6:00AM to start the cooking.
Well, I used to cook in my sweats. But Miss Mimi got me over that. No, tomorrow I will be up and showered and dressed beautifully by 6:00 AM. Complete with my apron.
BTW - I bought Wacoal ($54). The saleslady said they were good. She's also the one who told me about the 6 month shelf life. I also bought a bridge in Brooklyn from her......
Thanks why. I think it was a good choice too. I'm so happy with my new bras. Amazing how good you look in sweaters with the right bra!! Also amazing how comfortable they are. Who knew?
I pitched all of the old ones!! Onward and upward as they say
Believer, I'm going to spend Thanksgiving lunch with my mom in her nursing home. I have to get over the "gross me out" factor (they miss their mouths, talk with food in them and it runs out etc). The one lady that she sits with talks constantly but makes no sense. It's tough, but fun too.
My new friend (neighbor) invited me to dinner at her brother's house, so I accepted. Normally I don't, but I need to start getting out more so thought I would go. I won't know anyone and will feel wierd, but hey, it's time to quit sitting at home alone.
So, two Thanksgiving meals today should do wonders for the fit of my jeans (which are already hard to button), and my energy level.
Chai - You will never regret spending time in the nursing home with your mother. And I know exactly what you mean. When my MIL was in there, I visited with my 2 sons - one a baby, the other 3, every day.
It got where there were old folks lined up to greet us at the door, and they LOVED the kids. I got involved with picking up things at garage sales for Bingo prizes. It was lots of fun, and they really appreciated any little thing.
When MIL got out, I used to see 2 of the residents at the shopping center. They were on state aid, and got to leave during the day, but only had $1.00 a day for spending money. They used to ask for change and great me like a family member.
ChaiLover, I am glad that you took the chance to celebrate Thanksgiving with your mother. I am sure it means a lot to her to have you there. I hope you had a great Thanksgiving dinner too with your new friends!
Tonight, I put on my makeup and a shirt in one of the school colors then drove to my son's school to volunteer in the concession stand at a football game. Once there I put on my official 'concession stand queen' tiara and worked diligently for 4.5 hours.
Cinders, you are such an inspiration with the make up girl.
I have been so slack on that lately. Just haven't felt like it, HOWEVER, I have been more of the domestic GODDESS last few days. My entire apt was cleaned from top to bottom, my bedroom rearranged and I'm cross stiching again. I miss that....
Ladies, I kid you not when I talk about that tiara....they were given a stash of tiaras for the women to wear while working the concession stand.
I love the tiara idea! Of course you are the Queens of the Concession stand, no doubt about that.
Originally Posted by QueeniesNewLife
Cinders, you are such an inspiration with the make up girl.
I have been so slack on that lately. Just haven't felt like it,
Queenie, have you found some makeup that you really like? I did not like to wear makeup because my face felt dirty and it clogged my skin. Now I use mineral makeup and I don't even feel it. But I also think that you should wear makeup because it makes you feel good about yourself and not just because you are supposed to.
Hey, if it matters, I might spend more than 2 or 3 minutes on it. However, if it's not a special whoopdedoo, you better enjoy the fact that I spent that 2 or 3 minutes.
You guys must have that NATURAL BEAUTY...or the GIFT OF YOUTH...
There is NO WAY I'm going there with natural beauty.
I'll say that I don't need make up to make me look prettier. I am truly blessed with wonderful skin, just the right natural blush and with my tan, I'm good to go.
Just the enhancements of mascara and lipstick.....Which is done for the second day in a row.
But there are those moments when a cat eyes on this girl just knocks off my eyes and I am GORGEOUS.....
In fact, when we first got into the Amway business I had make-up applied to see what I would look like because H had always told me he liked the natural look and I didn't wear any...
So fixed up I got. And almost everyone LOVED the difference or at least said it. NOT hubby, NO NO NO.... His comment was to look straight at me, look me over and say well it's different in that judgemental tone he used on me when he called me stupid in his own way.
Needless to say I was horribly embarrased because not only did I pick up on it, BUT everyone else who heard it.
Now if he was into physical attraction I can tell you without a DOUBT, he didn't improve his choices in OW. Miss looking over 55 because she is a CRACK HO....
Well, my x married a woman who was not an intruder in our marriage but wife #2 isn't as attractive, well educated, or well-cultured as me.
All this would have been unneeded if he had done what he was supposed to. But that is water over the dam now. And I wouldn't have him back even if I could have him on a silver tray with an apple in his mouth.
Now if he was into physical attraction I can tell you without a DOUBT, he didn't improve his choices in OW. Miss looking over 55 because she is a CRACK HO
I would say PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS is not high on your WH's list..
But, I have you to know that there are plenty of FOXY LADIES over 55...as in Mimi turning 54....FABULOUS AFTER 50 as Bugsy would say...
cinderella, mimi, queenie: FWIW, I always think of you as gorgeous
I realized when I read the last posts that maybe I will recover from the affair. One year ago I would have started ranting about OW but I did not even think about it. My only thought was that everything about the affair and OW is boring and I have other things to do I don't feel any need to compare myself to OW BUT she is still a skank and that is something I will never be.
Today's look: Black v-neck knitted sweater, knee-length jeans skirt, my bordeaux colored knee-high boots, cute jewellery and of course tasteful makeup.
I have just returned from Breakfast with Santa at church. It was fun and chaotic. The children, mostly preschoolers, had lots of fun. I read picture books about Auntie Claus, Space Elf Sam, and the Angel Pig.
sounds like you have had a busy morning. I went to my AA meeting, and then tanned this morning. Am sitting here getting ready to do some cross stich and wait for the boys to get up and go to costco.
I think that I have been a bit too lax on my aa meetings and am planning to go to one again tonight.
This morning is lacrosse registration and I noticed that I have been dropped from the email list letting us know. My selfish, self-centered mind is hurt, because I still have a child who plays. But like all things, when my ego gets involved, I ask G-d to remove my crap and help me just let it be and not get a resentment. Their loss....
This afternoon, I took a long nap, took son to library as daughter had gone to a football game, went to Big Lots, got gyro plates and came home to eat. Did a tad of housekeeping - not much - bickered w/ son over his laundry and the pet smell coming from his room. Now I'm here but, as soon as I get off, I think I'll knit a bit.
I'm glad you're here. Sounds like a restful PM. I went to costco, spent a little too much money, but it's all food, so ok.
Came home and have been sitting on my bed listening to my YS get mad at Xbox while I am reading on here and cross stitching. A relaxing day.
I thought about going to another meeting tonight, but I don't want to lose my parking space, naw... I don't want to leave son alone....
Tomorrow I was planning on going to a friend's house starting at 9:00 to meet with a rabbi concerning the state of our temple, then at 1:00 going to make knishes. Never have done that before. But honestly, I am really just wanting to stay at home, be a mom, relax, and cross stitch while i watch tv. My skins are on tomorrow night.
Do you think there is a fine line between resting, taking care of yourself and isolating?
There is NOTHING wrong w/ wanting to stay home and be a mom.
For tomorrow, we wanted to go see a play but that would set us back about $100. We missed getting our family (including dog) picture made w/ santa so, if we want dog in the picture, we will have to spend $35. The play would be a bit risque and I'm not in the mood for that - though it would be riotously funny - so, I vote for see Santa, go see my mom, clean up den and start on the Christmas tree. I need to bake cookies for something tomorrow evening and something else Monday evening.
There is NOTHING wrong w/ wanting to stay home and be a mom.
For the normal person, NO. For this addict/alcoholic who hasn't been going to so many meetings lately, it might be.
So, I went because I just felt like I needed to be around people who would call me on my crap and tell me I am blowing air.
It was a good meeting and I'm glad I went. YS had the place to himself which is good for a someone his age.
I have decided to stay home tomorrow and be around instead of running around. It keeps me focused or just not so hectic and crazy. I love being home now. That sure has changed.
If you need me to formulate a healthy diet plan for you, just let me know. We've been working on this in Nutrition class for the last couple of weeks. I have a list of questions for potential clients for several different healthy menus to lower risk of diseases & health problems.
Charlotte
Would goddessy princesses qualify? I need to drop some weight and get my cholesterol and blood pressure down.
Where are all beautiful goddesses? Are you all at home cooking and fixing up for the holidays? :happyholidays:
I have my daily routine of skin care, pretty clothes, make up, nails and so on. I have also started to do a short program of toning exercise every day. I used to do that before I married but I stopped because I was embarrassed to lie on the floor and do sit-ups. It works!
But I feel like I should go to the next step in the goddess training. Any suggestions?
Oh well, I can always cook the most awesome Christmas food and make candy to give away as gifts.
I'm here - but I don't like posting only to myself. I'm the most princessy goddess or goddessy princess you've ever seen. I am so awesome that my 18 yo daughter asked to wear my new Christmas scarf to school today. I finished it Saturday. This is Tuesday and she's already borrowed it, 'because I don't have on anything festive' was her reason. I didn't either but I let her borrow it. I was pleased.
Well, that's as much fun as knowing my supervisor can watch every move I make or hear every word I say. I'd much rather have a conversation with him than have him listening over the 5 foot high wall.
I'm the most princessy goddess or goddessy princess you've ever seen. I am so awesome that my 18 yo daughter asked to wear my new Christmas scarf to school today. I finished it Saturday. This is Tuesday and she's already borrowed it, 'because I don't have on anything festive' was her reason. I didn't either but I let her borrow it. I was pleased.
Wow... An 18 year old girl is a tough judge of fashion so you are rightfully proud. How did you make the scarf?
Used about size 18 or 19 knitting needles and 2 strands of cream colored Plymouth DreamBaby (an acrylic/nylon baby-weight yarn) and one of Sirdar Tuscany in Harlequin . Long and skinny. Tassel on each end.
The Tuscany yarn is a multistranded yarn. One strand has sporadic tufts in it....lavender, fuscia, sage green, light blue....and a few silver sparkles.
I actually went outside this morning and hadn't checked my eyes closely. I took off my mascara, or so I thought, but when I went to the fake and bake salon I looked in the mirror and almost scared myself. Talk about BLACK EYES.... No MASCARA, NO LIPSTICK....
Then we won't tell her that I went to the used bookstore last night. I walked out, put my foot down on a small piece of metal which was laying there in the dark - waiting for an unsuspecting victim so it could launch itself across the sloping parking lot - fell on the ground, uttering a 4 letter word, got up, checked the knee of my jeans, drove home and put ice on my boo-boo. We won't tell her that the entire lower inside quarter of my left kneecap is skinned and that it's swollen and ugly.
We will tell her that, though I didn't wear makeup today, I had removed all of yesterday's makeup and washed my hair. So, I could have done worse.
Yes, come and kiss my booboo.....besides, the weather is great compared to what you're having.
My son was with me and he handled it great. Checked on me, got car door open, rounded up my items and got them in car, and moved the offending piece of debris. Some strangers were nearby and they came to check on me also. The man offered me a hand up which was very helpful. It hurt, just being thrown on the asphalt is painful, but I survived. Knee's gonna have a beauty of a bruise, I bet....still not fully developed. But, it's a beautiful skin....thankfully, I did not tear a hole in my new jeans.....$6.99 at BigLots and they fit me better than my $35 Ralph Lauren jeans.
You must do a stash run between Xmas and NY's. Plan to stay over and we can do a few cool projects.
OK, I plan to be the ultimate goddess for court tomorrow. My goal is to have WH's atty look at him and tell him what an idiot he is to throw away a classy old broad for a BBQ (Bar-btch Queen). I'm hanging on to a comment that WH made on Dday - that OP was just a BBQ and that I was class. He knew he could take me out and be proud. I'm running with that one.
I have a fairly new Sigrid Olsen tan suede outfit that I bought after WH left last year. The skirt is long with a little flare at the bottom. The jacket is the same suede but with knitted arms that match in color. There is a lot of detail that I would try to describe, but I wouldn't do it justice. I have a black turtle neck to wear underneath.
Yesterday while at the mall, I bought a pair of boots to wear with it. Higher heels than I normally wear (3"), but they were so cool I had to have them. Brown with buckles at the bottom and the top. $200 reduced to $110.
I had my hair done on Wednesday. I was blonde for many years, then went auburn about 10 years ago. I had her put really blonde streaks in it this time. I also had my brows waxed and tinted. I may be 54, but I'm still in pretty good shape and I can still get into a size 4. Not sure how long I'll be able to do that as things are moving, but I'm going to go with it while I still can.
So I think I am ready. I'm going to do my best make-up and hold my head high. Hopefully the judge won't look at me and think that I don't need the support. LOL. Instead, I hope he looks at me and thinks that I DO need the support to keep looking like that!! LOL.
So tomorrow I'll be the Court Goddess. I just hope that I don't break into tears. That would ruin the make-up, not to mention what mascara would do to the suede. I don't want to think about it.
Chai, I have to confess.....forgive me! Oh, I've done a shocking thing.... :MrEEk:
Any projects in the near future will have to be affordable..... :twobyfour:
Remember the LYS near me that is closing? Well, I bought myself a major project....
The Filatura Di Crosa book was 50% off ow it was $7.50. Then there were the 11 balls of pink aMAIZing corn fiber at 30% off so they were about $6 apiece. I'm going for the peplumed jacket.
My children leave Christmas day....I don't go back to work till Monday. I could do a stash run....but I have to deal w/ my dog and don't want to spend money on boarding when I could spend it on more stash. She's a housebroken mutt. Sleeps willingly in her crate. She's the fly in the ointment because my children won't be in town to deal with her.
If I could come up with a solution for her, I'd be out of the house ASAP.
With the children gone and my mom going to my sister's and my sister won't speak to me, I could use the diversion.
I spent Thanksgiving having a pity party and I don't want to do that. I've been asking The Diplomat about New Year's but I don't think that's gonna happen. I may have my own plans for the afternoon of NY Eve. I may buy myself a bowl game ticket and go see a local team play here in town.
Nope, dead serious. I have a Boston Terrier who is a nut case. There is not a dog in the world that can be worse than she is. Her nickname is Psycho Pup. Besides, if your dog will stay in a crate, we have one at the shop. I put Psycho in there when she goes to work with me.
She's about 32 pounds of blue heeler and terrier. Spoiled rotten. Loves everyone.
If you are serious, I can do this. My email addy is cinderella4mb at yahoo.com
I know you can figure out how to make that work.
As far as I am concerned, I can make this work on Christmas weekend because my children will be home on New Years day and I have to work Monday - Wednesday of that week.
BTW, I am no size 4...more like a 14. (my divorce diet weight loss wasn't permanent)
I would like to shed some pounds but it hasn't happened yet.
But, I am the most beautiful me that G-d could have made....and I don't need makeup or a tan or the latest, greatest clothes for Him to love me or for me to be worth His love.
Merry Christmas to all goddesses! Happy holidays to goddess Queenie, I hope I don't forget anyone.
:happyholidays: :wavingsanta: :MerryChristmas:
Cinderella and Chai, I wish you good luck with your projects. I will see if I can find something fun to do, I got inspired by Cinderella's sparkling scarf.
Okay, Goddesses, time to check in. Do you all have everything ready for the holidays? Sparkling clean home, warm and welcoming, food bought and ready, old sweats thrown out, nails and hair done, breasts perky, smelling good, pumps ready?
Okay, Goddesses, time to check in. Do you all have everything ready for the holidays? Sparkling clean home, warm and welcoming, food bought and ready, old sweats thrown out, nails and hair done, breasts perky, smelling good, pumps ready?
This is where the rubber meets the road.
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Currently under siege by an allergy attack? I can't stir up any more dust at present. It will have me out for the entirety of the holidays if I do.
Okay, Goddesses, time to check in. Do you all have everything ready for the holidays? Sparkling clean home, warm and welcoming, food bought and ready, old sweats thrown out, nails and hair done, breasts perky, smelling good, pumps ready?
This is where the rubber meets the road.
Sheesh, just reading the list made me tired. Well, let's see; I just got back from AZ, so I completed shopping this evening, which means I get a D- there.
Um, the house, she ain't ready, but it's MOSTLY clean - B-
My house is ALWAYS warm and welcoming--A+ + + + + + (a la Christmas Story)
old sweats, um, hmmm, well, I plead the 5th
Toenails are a pretty pink--A+ ( I don't do the fingernails, but they are manicured and nice)
Breasts are as perky as possible for this 36 year old--they are quite nice, though, if I do say so myself, and since I'm the only one who is around them ever, I'd have to say so myself. We'll call that a B+ (or if size matters a C+ )
I smell good, yes, thanks for asking.
Pumps, well, no, since I was doing the aforementioned Christmas shopping--tennis shoes. I guess that gets me a D- again
Now, I'm gearing up to bake some cookies with DS tomorrow and begin preparing the Christmas FEAST. Then, after DS goes to bed, I'll wrap his presents (that Santa has so graciously provided) and then sit back and relax...
I have everything bought but my mom's gift. Actually she and I haven't exchanged gifts in years. Her flaky memory and my budget make that acceptable. So, all the buying except some groceries is done.
I have had an allergy attack and am not at all happy. I am doling out orders to my children tomorrow. They have to get some stuff out of the living room so we can have our annual hot dog roast in the fireplace. The wood should be dry enough. I'm looking forward to it - unless it further shuts down my nose.
Ok, so I am in goddess mode. Nice dark wash jeans--trouser cut, lovely blouse, pretty sweater, nice makeup/hair and such, cute little slippers on. Gearing up to make some cookies with DS, when he arrives home very shortly now.
The house is becoming more of a wreck as family arrives, so I'm marking that off the 'to do' list. It's a losing game...
Happier than I have been in a long time, even though I'm flat out broke at this point--LOL.
Now, all I have to do is prepare the cookies for Santa and try to stay awake to spy him as he places MY gifts under the tree...
my sweet pooch went out with me while I did some clean out work in my car. She got covered in pricklies. I guess I gotta brush her and bathe her. Wouldn't want her stinky through the holidays.
censored again....I promise I didn't say anything worthy of censoring. I don't even remember what I said. These filters are really strange. Oh, well.....
Today is my D-DAY ANNIVERSARY..not sure I would recall it each year if it wasn't on NEW YEAR'S EVE...YUCK...
I wanted to share this on OUR THREAD..
In DISHONOR of the the FOW on this day..I've been GODDESSY today...
I dressed myself up in an OUTFIT that I knew my husband would particularly LIKE..nothing VERY SPECIAL..just stuff I know that gets to him...if you know what I mean...
He had to go off to do some business..and has been calling me repeatedly since he's been gone..for no special reason..."I'll be HOME soon"...
Mimi, we love you. Thank you for challenging us to reach our goddess potential.
I didn't look so goddessy today but I took care of myself. Had a second opinion w/ different ENT then I went to a football game I wanted to attend....all by myself. And, by the 4th quarter, I had worked myself up to cheering.....I went just for ME!!!
Well, Happy New Year, goddesses! I'm starting out on the right track so far - exercising to get rid of any holiday bulges.
Also, I'm FASCINATED with yoga, especially the SF aspect. Does anyone here do it? Apparently, you can practice and SF gets TWICE as good!!!!!!!!!
I was watching a show yesterday where men in Japan do yoga, and get so good at it that they can lift bricks with their member!!!!!!!! I couldn't believe it.
"Mindfulness - an awareness of the present moment, also a key component in yoga -- proved especially beneficial in a study, cited in the article, that asked women to study pennies in detail. The coins were then collected, and each woman was asked to find her original penny. Every woman was successful. "In our experience, (nearly) all women feel that they have a problem with remaining focused; they are highly distractible," the article states. "However, after this penny exercise, they accept the notion that they can focus their mind if they so choose." The study then went on to encourage body-awareness exercises, which eventually had a sexual goal."
Yeah, a fine lot of good improved SF would be for me..... However, I can comprehend how yoga may improve SF. As for me, you can't improve what you do not have.
I'll try to get that book, Mimi. I have a Thai friend that lived with the monks and is always telling me about mindfulness. At first, I didn't even know what it is, but going to practice it.
...in the training of the mind we learn to let go of the thoughts and feelings that pull us out of the present moment..emphasis is not so much on the problems in our lives as on the connecting wtih the clarity and health of the mind itself. If we can do this, our problems become workable, opportunities to learn rather than threats to avoid...The emphasis is on what is RIGHT with us..acknowledges our disturbing emotions but sees them as covering our ESSENTIAL GOODNESS...
Ahhhh..I LOVE THIS...
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..our darker moments and most upsetting feelings are an opportunity for uncovering our natural wisdom, if we choose to use them that way...
I love the Wii and our family gets so much use out of it! We don't have to pay to go bowling, we can play it on the Wii. It's great. And, WiiFit is nice too because you don't feel like you are working out alone. I would definitely say get a Wii.
Mimi, we want you to be verbal, too.....well, verbal in a written way.
BTW, after being a slug yesterday, I took a shower, lotioned my body well, and blew-dried (?) my hair....No make-up but I moisturized. I think I will now go cook something enticing. Homemade banana bread from scratch.
In case you all didn't realize, one week from today (1-10-09) will be the one year anniversary of this thread....I say we all plan something "GODDESSY" for ourselves this day....even if it is something like a new bottle of nail polish....
For me, this thread has meant the world. It helped get me back on my feet and find the inner GODDESS in ME.......
I also hope everyong reports back and let each other know what way we are going to "Celebrate" the GODDESSY day.....
Ok, I didn't want to thread jack so I thought I would post this here and say what I had to say.
Originally Posted by mimi_here
I see IT for what it IS..what it WAS...it's THERE..but can't HURT ME anymore...'cause I UNDERSTAND IT...
Mimi, You are a very insightful person. I enjoy reading what you write and I always get a lot out of it. How have you gotten to the point that you wrote about?
TRYING TO FIND MY INNER GODDESS BEFORE I GO SQUASH A CO-WORKER!!!!!
For organizational reasons, I do not like for people to touch my things! Do NOT move my things unless I give you permission! Now, in case I haven't told you, I do NOT like for people to move my stuff without me knowing. See, I have too much trouble finding things. If youmove one thing, I sometimes have to rearrange everything to find something because it wasn't exactly where I left it.
I guess you could say I am anal about that. I know I'm an ADD adult and I don't like for people to move my things.
So, today is the first day I have been at work since NYE. I took Friday and Monday off.
When I came in today, I saw that someone had taken down all the Christmas decorations and move things around in my cubicle. :MrEEk: :twobyfour:
I asked my supervisor who took down my things and he said he guessed I'd have to talk to Vera about that. Vera is his best buddy at work. Vera and I have different supervisors. Vera has taken advantage of me at different times but she has a good heart and would give you the coat off her back.
BUT, SHE MOVED MY STUFF!!! I am steamed. :MrEEk: :twobyfour: :MrEEk:
cinderella, I hope you squashed your co-worker in a supreme goddessy way. I'm sure she won't do that mistake again.
I read something in ChaiLover's thread a while ago that has been in the back of my head. It was about body posture, about lifting your chest with your abdominal muscles.
I think that body posture makes a huge difference for the overall impression. If you have an average look but a splendid body posture, people will turn around when you walk by and you will feel so much better. If you are slouching, no good looks in the world will make you pretty. It is very harmful to you back too.
So: back straight, tummy tense, chest and chin up.
I have been out of work too and have spent most of the time at home reading and skiing. Since I have not had any social obligations I have had lots of time to walk around in my comfortable home clothes.
Is mimi coming running? Good!
I was going to say that I have some skirts made from jersey that I use at home. I think they are excellent for relaxed days, they look nice but are very easy to pull on and wear. I also have a couple of tunics that I like to stroll around in.
But how do you keep up a goddessy mindset when you just have two cats to please? For all I know, they consider themselves to be the most goddessy creatures in the house.
Today, the culprit in the undecorating of my office came to me and said that Christmas was over and it was time to take down my Christmas tree. I told her that it was my tree and I would take it down when I was ready. She gave me a little grief but accepted it and went away.
Well, one of the benefits of being an ADD adult is that you are really creative. You ponder, stick words in, see what happens, look around, and one thing leads to another.
Actually, on another thread, someone said something like, "I enjoy being a girl". I knew there was a song like that so I checked it out. Then I looked through all the related videos and, somewhere, I found that link. It's so unlike the video from the original version that I thought it was a natural.....Xena singing about femininity!!!
Get this....I have just signed up to do my second half-marathon. I am doing it to raise $3000 for Gilda's Club Nashville. Here's the scoop!
My daughter wants to run a half-marathon. I can walk one. We wanted to do it together. Her grandfather has small cell lung cancer. I have lost several friends and loved ones to cancer. This was a natural.
Cinders - I feel the same way about ppl moving my stuff!!! I can usually find just about anything, or even tell you exactly where something is on my desk, which pile, how far down... as long as no one has moved anything.
And Xena rocks! Thanks for that video.
One last thing... for signing up for your second half-marathon! Since it's your second half, will you be able to claim you've done a full marathon after?
2 years ago, I did this same half marathon with Team In Training. This time, my daughter chose the group. Unfortunately, I won't be able to claim a full marathon. But, most people never do one - much less 2.
Tonight, my daughter (AKA - the drama queen) got all upset because we may be too late ordering her senior pictures for her to have her picture in the yearbook....so she says.
Well, I don't have the pictures. I don't know what she wants. I do know she didn't like any of the formal ones. She has the telephone number for the place - not me.
I let her rant a minute then said I was tired of always being blamed for everything. I seem to remember her father thinking everything that was wrong was not his fault...it was always someone else's.
Then I walked out of the room. Didn't really storm out. Let her rant a minute and then left. Quietly.
When I finally spoke too her again, I told her I wasn't mad. I was just tired of always being the person at fault.
I think I'll get up and get ready in the morning and then tell her that I don't have the pictures and I don't know what she wants. And, if I really wanted to be passive aggressive, I might tell her this as she gets out of the car at school.
Why do people always mention the important things at inopportune times?
WHEW!!! I just went and talked to her. I told her, again, that I wasn't mad but it seemed that she had blamed me for all of it and I reminded her that she had some responsibility, also. I don't know what her plan will be in the morning. I will ask her to get them and the info before we leave.
I'm glad I ranted here and then went to clear the air before she fell asleep. I will sleep better.
I think I'll wait until I'm 107 to remarry. Divorce Care says wait 1 year for every 4 that you were married, so that should just about be the right timing for me. I've started scouting the nursing homes.....
You were married 35 yrs or so...35/4= almost 9. Nope. You don't have to wait that long...
Oh my....I am overdue by ....do I include the 3.5 years we were separated? 21/4= 5+ and it's been over 10 years.....hey, that means I qualify for 2 husbands!!!
You were married 35 yrs or so...35/4= almost 9. Nope. You don't have to wait that long...
Cool, I guess I just FEEL like I'm 98 right now.
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Oh my....I am overdue by ....do I include the 3.5 years we were separated? 21/4= 5+ and it's been over 10 years.....hey, that means I qualify for 2 husbands!!!
Oh joy..... Double Infidelity. Wasn't there a movie by that name?
I am suppposed to have coffee this morning with a guy I went to high school with. I don't know if this is a friend thing or an exploratory meeting. And, I have to put my makeup on. And, I don't have a dime with me. He works in my building but for a different organization. I see him in the elevators a couple of times a year. I don't know what brought this on. Haven't seen him in ages but, almost every Saturday, he goes in where my daughter works.
It was fine. Coffee w/ old friend. Interesting. It's a shame that, despite living in same town as when I was in high school, I have so little contact w/ the people from my class. There were only 98 of us and, for all intents and purposes, I only have contact with one person on a regular basis.
My favorite shoes are my black leather Birkenstock Bostons. Not beautiful but expensive and comfortable. I have narrow feet so I can't get by with the knock-offs.
For those of you not familiar with ChaiLover's thread, WH filed for D, please check out the last several posts. She is facing the eminent crisis of providing care for her addict-daughter's newborn. This is a new crisis in Chai's live and she could really use some help. As the mother of a grown woman, she has nothing, REPEAT - NOTHING for this baby...no bed, clothes, food, bottles. There is talk about a cyber-shower for our friend.
Stunning is in the eye of the beholder. I thought she looked merely ok.
What was with those puke green gloves? Good grief, some company would have been deliriously ecstatic to make her a pair to match her dress. Her dress for the balls was ok. The lines were good but the fabric looked, to me, like chenille flowers. Beyonce's dress was WAY better.
I would have preferred those classic lines in a fabric like dupioni.
I felt the gathers or pleats at the neckline conflicted with the beading on her dress for the inauguration. General feeling around my racially very mixed office is that her dress for the inauguration was not figure flattering and that the color was not flattering to her skin tone.
General feeling around my racially very mixed office is that her dress for the inauguration was not figure flattering and that the color was not flattering to her skin tone.
My opinion...she has a GREAT FIGURE..like a MODEL.. and prolly could pull off almost anything...BUT..I AGREE about the COLOR being UNFLATTERING...
She's just SOOOOO PRETTY to me..in the face...and "PRETTY IS AS PRETTY DOES"...so gracious, fun-loving, well-spoken..I think we could be FRIENDS...I'd like to hangout with her...maybe give her some FASHION ADVICE..take her shopping...
1 - don't gather that skirt so much...make it more circular...takes weight off her midsection (I have it too and I know to avoid gathered skirts)
2 - didn't like the color or the shape or the neckline or the putrid gloves (again, it's just my opinion - I'm fine with you loving it - but, in my office, across racial lines, we didn't like it on her)
3 - painful...lose that belt
4 - 7 - all much better, I find these quite nice from what I see
8 - lower that neckline and flair that skirt, like the color, all I see are hips, tummy, thighs - Laura didn't do much better
9 - do not let either woman wear that dress again - ever. YIKES!
11 - excellent
13 - though the dress is straight, the sleeves and necklace create balancing interest...good look
14 - outstanding
15 - merely ok
16 - shape is ok...not the colors/stripes
17 - good
18 - not good - at all....will only increase midsection of body but I love the color
19 - can't tell much
20 - see that bow? A stripe of brown piping from that bow to the hemline might have saved this. Again, I think she needs skirts fuller at the knees. PLEASE!!!
21 - not good...it's a skirt thing.
22 - good
23 - nice lines but doesn't work on her - in my opinion
She is a very striking woman. I love the fact that some of her clothes are from normal lines, especially J Crew.
The photo of Joe and Jill Biden dancing on the presidential seal was stunning. There were also some wonderful photos of the Obamas - I especially liked the ones where they were really looking at each other.
And Aretha looked just like she should have looked.
Cinders, my dear, you are becoming quite a FASHIONISTA....
I LOVE IT!!
2 and 4 are my FAVs..she looks SOOO PRETTY in those particular photos..I know a broken record from me..but she's GOT IT..NOW..in regards to her MAKEUP..even though I don't particularly like those OUTFITS...
18..I'm loving that her arms are so TONED..the FIRST LADY definitely has a workup routine..
LIKE ME she has those BOWED LEGS..my H finds them SEXY..I find them YUCKY..
She ought to stick to the WINTER COLORS and stay away from the YELLOWS and ORANGES..but who asked me...LOL..
No yellow and no puke green for the woman....none....never...what was with the white lining in her coat for the inauguration. She NEEDS 'winter' colors.
A FRIEND of mine met her and talked to her on MONDAY during the DAY OF SERVICE in DC!! She says that she was so gracious..that she just came over and started talking to her. She says that she is WONDERFUL and BEAUTIFUL!!
You know, all those la-di-da people the media keeps passing before our eyes are nothing more than people. For all their fame and beauty and riches, they still get bad breath and they still fart - just like us.
"ALWAYS have your TIC-TACS...hold in, if possible, or execute QUIETLY..regarding the other unmentionable noted above.."
I didn't realize that TIC-TACS worked for the THAT!!!!!!!
Fellow Goddesses - just bumping this up for another potential goddess who was wearing an oversize Paul McCartney tee all day yesterday............
I'm proud of myself today, because I FINALLY took everything out of my closet, vacuumed, washed, mended, sent to dry cleaners, organized, and donated and gave away. I tried everything on and got rid of about half of it. I found whole new outfits, still with the price tags on them!!!!!!
I have a question. I lost a stack of weight on the A diet, and i had to buy some new clothes. Now I have given up smoking and assume I will gain some of the weight back.
What should I do about the clothes? I am too scared to throw them away in case I get back to pre A size, but I need to buy a few more things to clothe myself at this smaller size...I essentially have two wardrobes.
Now I have given up smoking and assume I will gain some of the weight back.
You probably will gain back SOME...step up your exercise program...
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What should I do about the clothes? I am too scared to throw them away in case I get back to pre A size, but I need to buy a few more things to clothe myself at this smaller size...I essentially have two wardrobes.
I AGREE WITH B!! GET RID OF THE OLD CLOTHES!! Of course, buy some NEW if you can...symbolic of your NEW LIFE...STRETCH OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE...include some stuff your HUSBAND would like to SEE you in...I love SURPRISING my H with OUTFITS that I know he would like..don't forget the WHIFF of COLOGNE...
I had a supervisor who quit smoking and picked up some weight. The doctor told him that he was better off without the tobacco but with the weight than he was smoking and slimmer.
ps...and my finger aren't crossed as I write this.....
But you do need to work on your grammar..
YOu aren't the first to tell me this.....maybe I'll take english next semester.....
But I do promise you, I have not worn any sweats in nearly a YEAR....in fact, about a month ago, WH and I were out shopping and he got himself some sweats for the gym. Then he looked at ones for me and said I should get myself some.....
I was HORRIFIED....I told him no thanks. I have my nice work-out clothes for excercise, and my cute lounge pants for the house, but never again will I wear sweats. I even mentioned that if YOU heard him say that, you would :twobyfour:.......
You probably will gain back SOME...step up your exercise program...
OKKKKKKKKKAY.
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AGREE WITH B!! GET RID OF THE OLD CLOTHES!! Of course, buy some NEW if you can...symbolic of your NEW LIFE...STRETCH OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE...include some stuff your HUSBAND would like to SEE you in...I love SURPRISING my H with OUTFITS that I know he would like..
Did, done, have (new clothes). Most of my clothing was always bought with him in mind anyway, he likes tight, short, red, lacy...
But I would get rid of the larger size clothes - too tempting. Instead, just drink water and eat right when you crave food.
Invariably, when I used to hang onto larger size clothes, I tended to grow back into them.
My problem is that I wasnt overweight before losing the weight. So really I am not sure about the chances of not 'growing' back into them. But I think it is time to overhaul/hiff some of the things that I have been hanging onto from a few years ago when I actually was fat.
I hope you get a kick out of this! ---------------------------------------------- I had an a-ha moment. I am so sorry. I really blew that one!!! I apologize if you, or anyone else, found the previous link hurtful...
Well, since after the WRECK (not the ear infection), my left ear has not felt right. The more internal difference is that it feel full. The external difference is that the sensations in the skin are diminished in comparison to the right ear.
I have seen 3 otolaryngologists
[color:#FFFFFF].............. 1 internist
.............. 2 chiropractors
and (as of today)
.............. 1 neurosurgeon
and NO ONE seems to give a rat's patooty that something is wrong and asofreekylutely NO ONE seems to care or know who I need to see to get a clue.
I just yelled at the neurosurgeon. At least one day a week, he does clinic in my chiropractor's office. On the way out, with my eyes blazing and full of fury-tears, I told the woman at the chiro's office that I had just wasted my time and money and I had never been treated so dismissively by a doctor. She looked shocked and, with a waiting room full of people, I knew better than to say anything more.....I just charged through and out the door.
When you've been to really good doctors and keep getting referred in a circle, it's frustrating. I'm getting nothing but circular referrals.[/color]
My Valentine's Day flowers died....got them on Friday. And took them home with me. I was the only one in the area who got flowers so it was a big deal.
(By Saturday, they were wilting. By Sunday they were dead. Monday, I got ready to throw them out and called the florist to report the sad news.)
I got flowers today to replace the dead ones. Folks in the office don't know that. Now, with today's delivery, everyone in the office is wondering what's up.
I told them, "I told him there better be roses every Monday until there are diamonds." They are all puzzled.
In the morning, it is supposed to be about 40 degrees and raining. It will feel like it's about 30 degrees. Group training is scheduled for 7 miles at 7 a.m. Does anyone see a problem with that?
Well, I did too. Got up at 10 a.m. instead and spent 2 hrs trying to get out of the house so daughter and I could go to the wellness center where we have a membership for 2 more months.....It was all I could do to TRY to stay with the plan.....my body was miserable on the treadmill....miserable on the track. TVs they have for diversion had nothing worth watching. Didn't have batteries for my radio. Couldn't keep mp3 player (castoff from daughter) on anything tolerable. One knee brace bothered my knee. The other thigh and hip hurt. One foot bothered me off and on. Felt like I wasn't properly fed prior to this....but I ate the normally appropriate stuff. Book I took to read while on the treadmill....I can read while walking....was so horribly bad that I left it there for some other poor unsuspecting soul (no wonder it was in a free book bin).
I managed 5+ miles - not 7. And the world won't end.
Well I see the goddess's are back. So, how are we all doing without Ms Mimi here to crack the whip??
I do still wear sweats to work...I HAVE TO. But pretty much the minute I get home I change into Jeans and a pretty top.
Today, I wore a lovely black one with 3 frilly layers around the middle - better looking than the description would suggest. A bit low cut in the bodice...
I didn�t notice myself but Flick tells me while we were walking around town today lots of men would look at my chest, look at Flick then look elsewhere
I wear makeup 'almost everyday now, and on the days I don�t, I can hear Mimi telling me "its just 10 minutes"
Helllooooo, Goddesses! I have a slightly different persona that some of you may connect with -- I call it my inner rockstar! And let me tell you, she is rocking the world full-force today! Some days I just need to break out the boots and let everyone know just what an amazing woman they are dealing with. I highly recommend it!
I found a tip on a blog to use Colonial Dames Vitamin E oil as a moisturizer or overnight mask. OMG it makes the few deep forehead lines I have disappear. I also use it instead of eye cream. Affordable. Can buy it on ebay and amazon.
This is not a pic of me, but it is pretty close to what my HAIR TINSEL looks like on my "grey is the new blond" hair.
At age 61, I get to do whatever the hail I wanna.
I just saw this hair tinsel on Beverly Hills Housewives. One of them had this on their head. it is very pretty.
Hey BS, we have to love ourselves. If we don't how can we expect it from these crazy aliens.
I have been in the dumps, shed buckets of tears, and spent days in bed feeling sorry for myself. Very attractive ....NOT.
I was always the fat frumpy girl. Now I shop - FOR ME, I exercise FOR ME, I take time for myself.
I was out a few weeks ago and someone asked me if I had any new "love interests" and I said yes I do -- ME. I am in love with myself and it is wonderful.
Tip for today - homemade facial. 1 egg, 2 tablespoons honey, 1/2 teaspoon apple vinegar (not white), mix all together and leave on face till dry. Face glows!
I found a tip on a blog to use Colonial Dames Vitamin E oil as a moisturizer or overnight mask. OMG it makes the few deep forehead lines I have disappear. I also use it instead of eye cream. Affordable. Can buy it on ebay and amazon.
Susie, is this the actual oil or cream. There are 2 different types. Would like to try it.
I rub it on the forehead and pat around the eyes, let skin rest, and after a few minutes pat a light layer of serum like regenerist or burt's bees everywhere. I give it all a chance to absorb (5 mins or so) before putting on any makeup.
I am pretty amazed with the results. You can use it on lips or other chapped skin. Let me know your thoughts after you try it
For Goddesses looking to sneak in extra calorie burning here and there, if your kids/H have Kinect for xbox, try out Dance Central. (You can check out youtube video demonstrations) My sister has lost a couple lbs playing it. It is super fun...my kids and niece play too.
Yo goddesses! Just got back from a quick trip to Ulta to do some goddess pruning (gotta do upkeep now n then).
They have minis of STRIVECTIN for 15 bucks! Enough for almost a month! Woo hoo! Originally 135 smackeroos!
I also went nuts there. Got the new eye booster serum which is physican's formula's version of latisse. The new version also can double as eyeliner and is only 10 bucks! I want super duper longer lashes!
I also got the makeup lady to help me with an updated lip look. So, got a rosy nude lip pencil (make sure it's just a little teeny bit darker than your natural lip color, none of the dark outline lip looks as that's yuck), then she showed me the most freakin' awesome lipstick in the world! It's called "lip of luxury" by too faced and even smells like champagne! used color called "free love" to fill in. Then swiped some of the bare escentuals buxom lips in Trixie on pout and upper to give some more shimmer and to plump more.
I swear though. That lipstick is the greatest ever! It isn't lip-stickey, is a little more substantial than gloss, and is just got the most glam rhinestone topped cap for putting on wherever you feel like it!
Just had to say, if you want a pinky/nude lip with oomph, that's the way to go! And used their coupon online on their site, printed it off and used it! (3.50 off)
LOL!
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