We have several cases of very heroic betrayed spouses and wayward spouses on the board right now who have stepped up to the plate and taken some very tough, courageous, BRAVE actions. I am sure there are many more, but here are some I am familiar with. I do not read every thread, so please feel free to add others!!

TimeToFly: has done an amazing facebook exposure and found {2} girlfriends of his WW's OM. Has struck a huge death blow to the affair

ShawnsNotFunny: did a nuclear exposure, including exposing to the OM's parents. Shawn said the affair died because the OM's "Dutch parents did not appreciate this one bit!" The affair has been KILLED.

Scotland: went into Plan B with a WH who was openly having an affair from her home. He was having his cake and eating it too by telling her he would move out in February. She packed his bags last week and sent him on his merry way with Plan B letter in hand!

Fred: went into Plan B and sent his cakeeating WW packing.

AnneMarie: went into a pitch black Plan B and is doing awesome!

atena: went into a very dark Plan B and moved out

NotSure: this chick has more balls that 10 Texans combined! She not only did a FACEBOOK exposure, but CONFRONTED the OW mano to mano and scared her to death. The affair is DEADER THAN A DOORNAIL and now she and her H in recovery and are counseling with Steve Harley. Do not EVAH mess with this chick!

Mel, thank you for congratulating me by PM, vs public posting. Too much public praise is tough for me.
You are right. Where I get the strength is beyond me.

Way to go BS's!!!

Imagine this icon bending forward instead

I am bowing in awe of your tremedous application of MB!!!

I will only say on my own behalf, that recovery begins with me. I may never recover my M, but if that's how it turns out, thanks to MB and you folks, I will be OK with it.

No problem, Fred. I am here to help.

shaddup, Zelmo!

In all fairness, both of you have been a tremendous help to me. You both present sides of human behavior that I was ignorant about, or did not care to examine: Me.

In the short time I have been a member of the MB community, I feel that I have been enriched. As they say in A.A., you have to listen to everybody, because you never know where the message is going to come from.

Bravo to all those BSs mentioned above (and any others, I also don't get a chance to read all the threads) Special kudos to my sis NotSure, she makes me so proud

I just read through TTF's story and I think he is doing such a great job. I would love to see his story linked to the Exposure 101 thread or somewhere so that newbies can see how powerful Facebook exposure can be. Great job TTF!

Mel often says the same thing to me, Fred. I have seen her come a long way, with guidance.

Lol... thanks! I wish I could go back over my old thread so I could see how everything happened, day by day. Unfortunately, as most of you know, it got lost in the infamous crash of 2009.

Everyone here on MB has been such a tremendous help... ML and my sisters most of all... Thank you all!!!

Recovery is a rocky road, but I count myself lucky to be where I am now.

Also, bravo to all the other heroes here on MB!!!

* applauds !*

Such courage will restore the dignity robbed by an affair. I know this.

There are a few folk here that have provided great support and encouragement to these present heroes.

Thank you for the Wonderings who have provided legal and spiritual advice, Neak and her mom, Just Learning, Mark, Princessmeggy and especially Melody Lane. There are more that I would like to name more but my memory cell is on holiday. There are many more that pop in occasionally to ensure that the advice is consistently good.

It is very encouraging to see folk like Barnboy, BTinBL and Indarkness wise up so quickly. Thank you for paying attention to those that have walked in your place!

Thank you, imagine!

I am just in AWE of the power of facebook exposures. It is a self selected group of the most key ppl in an OP/WS' life, so it saves the BS all the trouble of deciding WHO and then finding contact information. I am very impressed at its effectiveness.

I've said it before, but if I knew MB principles when D-day fell, I would have BOMBARDED it with full exposure of WW's A. As it was, I made some allusions to it, and she got so miffed and "offended" that I wound up taking my comments down.

Today I wouldn't buckle under, and NUCLEAR would take on a whole new meaning.

I am humbled and honored to be included in any heroes list. I have never thought of myself that way, though my DD11 tells me all the time that I am her hero.

MB has given me strength that I did not know that I had (and that I wish I had never needed). There are some things I wish I had had the strength to do differently, but I do know that I am growing and getting stronger every day. I need my WH less with each passing moment and I have all of you to thank for that. I still miss him, but I am not desperate anymore.

All of you here at Marriage Builders are heroes to me - Melody, you especially have given me so much. I have found out that I have so many friends - from those that I know personally here at home and that I never knew cared so much about me to those of you here at MB who care enough to take the time to listen to me and help me get through this. I hope that I am able to help others as you all have helped me.

Thank you!

I concure, the VETS do make a difference when newbies first get here.....their support can make a TREMENDOUS difference when fighting the affair. I know things would have gone much differently in my sitch without the help of Mark, Mimi, Starfish, Schoolbus, Believe, Princess and others.....and the support of other newbies such as Queenie, Lala, TMTS and others made me feel not so alone....

That being said, I too commend all these "newbies" having the COURAGE to stand up to affairs astounds me, even IF I have already seen it before....KUDOS to all

not2fun

Agreed, even though my original "She had an EA and still longs for him" thread was lost in the Great MarriageBuilders Forum Purge of '09, the support and clue-by-fours I received were critical to figuring out how to survive while in Plan A.

Thanks, guys.

Thanks, Barnboy. For reminding me that the "veterans" here also went through pain, misery, doubt, frustration, worry and more, and that's why you're here in the first place.

I value the advice I've received so much that I tend to forget that everyone here has been affected by infidelity. It's a rotten club filled with terrific people.

Again, thanks.

I , too, am truly humbled by my inclusion. I imagine Dude is, as well.

shaddup, Zelmo!

Hero mocking will not be tolerated. Mods will be notified. Expect the worst.

Holy Smokes. That made my day, C. Now, I will be devoting the rest of my day to googling "The Ministry of Silly Walks", "The Bishop" and "Rat Tarts" and "Biggus Dickus".

"Weewease Woddewick"

Thank you, Imagine. I've thought for years that Neak is a hero, too, but it seemed vaguely inappropriate to have your name tossed out by your mother...so I refrained, with some difficulty. As for me, I appreciate the kind thought, but I more think of myself as someone who was too stupid or too stubborn, or both, to quit when it made sense to do so. I'm not sure how much credit an old gal should get for THAT!!

tl

P.S. Anybody who struggles to survive infidelity, especially the people here who doggedly work the steps of the Plans, steps that are generally counterintuitive and can therefore be massively difficult to maintain, are heroes in my book.

tl

notify this!

Mine too.

Double ditto to that!!

at Chisner's video

I'll sick Glen Close on your wabbit.

I am armed to the TEETH, Zelmo! I could bust a cap on her with my eyes closed.

Oh, Okay. Nevermind.

Busta cap? Fort Worth?

I am in awe of RainySweet!!! You kick butt!!!!!

Agree!!! We could have a few more in the class of 2010/2011/2012!

I don't even know what to say. Seriously.

You guys do good work.

Thank you. This will help give me strength today. I need it! Thanks for cheers and prayers!

Hugs!

I'm also glad to see from the lipstick laden bunny at the top of the page, that you all take this so seriously.

This thread needs to be revived for mommyof8.....she is simply amazing!!!!

Well done m8, it takes strength to fight for your marriage and family. It takes courage to expose the A, but it is empowering once you have completed exposure, knowing you brought truth and reality to light.

Yes, well done!!