Lost - 05/19/10 06:51 PM
Hello,
This is my 1st post. I have read most of Dr. Harley's books. I am in a hard place in my marriage. After getting married & having 2 children we found out my husband has another child. I was devastated with this discovery. He has been physically, emotionally & verbally abusive to me for sev. years. And now recently I found out he has had an affair. It's too much for me to take. I believe in fighting for a marriage & trying everything possible to keep families together as evidenced by my staying in this relationship. I'm at a loss. I don;t love him anymore & I don't want to be around him. I'm trying to seek God's will on this & not my own, but I'm not hearing any direction. My husband has been saved now & is trying to be better, but I think it's too late. He loves me & our kids & shows it all the time, but my hearts not in it now. I'm tired of hurting & suffering. I hate that he betrayed our vows & now I have to be the one to decide whether to split my family or not. I was just wondering if there's anyone dealing with all these issues?
This is my 1st post. I have read most of Dr. Harley's books. I am in a hard place in my marriage. After getting married & having 2 children we found out my husband has another child. I was devastated with this discovery. He has been physically, emotionally & verbally abusive to me for sev. years. And now recently I found out he has had an affair. It's too much for me to take. I believe in fighting for a marriage & trying everything possible to keep families together as evidenced by my staying in this relationship. I'm at a loss. I don;t love him anymore & I don't want to be around him. I'm trying to seek God's will on this & not my own, but I'm not hearing any direction. My husband has been saved now & is trying to be better, but I think it's too late. He loves me & our kids & shows it all the time, but my hearts not in it now. I'm tired of hurting & suffering. I hate that he betrayed our vows & now I have to be the one to decide whether to split my family or not. I was just wondering if there's anyone dealing with all these issues?