Top Reasons Why I Won't Expose My Spouse's Affair - 08/30/10 09:09 PM
Thought I'd start a list of reasons people give for not exposing and thus sabatoging their own shot at recovery.
1. My spouse will lose their job.
Better that your spouse lose his/her job than you lose your marriage.
2. It will drive them away.
They�re already gone. Your spouse has left the building and is looking at new and improved (they think) property down the road.
3. It�s mean and vindictive.
No, it�s not. It�s actually a kindness and the best thing you can do to restore your marriage. Exposure is not done in a mean way, but actually in a loving way.
4. My spouse has already told everyone about his/her affair.
WRONG! Waywards lie about this A LOT. You, as the BS should be the one to do the exposing.
5. I had an affair first and my spouse didn�t expose me.
Exactly why your marriage is in trouble. You never recovered properly from the first BOMB that was launched by you.
6. This is a private matter and I don�t want people to think badly of my spouse.
Okay, go ahead and live the lie. You�ll either lose your spouse completely or your marriage, if the wayward does come home, will NEVER be all that it can be because you haven�t truly recovered.
7. You people are just bitter.
Feel free to add more.
1. My spouse will lose their job.
Better that your spouse lose his/her job than you lose your marriage.
2. It will drive them away.
They�re already gone. Your spouse has left the building and is looking at new and improved (they think) property down the road.
3. It�s mean and vindictive.
No, it�s not. It�s actually a kindness and the best thing you can do to restore your marriage. Exposure is not done in a mean way, but actually in a loving way.
4. My spouse has already told everyone about his/her affair.
WRONG! Waywards lie about this A LOT. You, as the BS should be the one to do the exposing.
5. I had an affair first and my spouse didn�t expose me.
Exactly why your marriage is in trouble. You never recovered properly from the first BOMB that was launched by you.
6. This is a private matter and I don�t want people to think badly of my spouse.
Okay, go ahead and live the lie. You�ll either lose your spouse completely or your marriage, if the wayward does come home, will NEVER be all that it can be because you haven�t truly recovered.
7. You people are just bitter.
Feel free to add more.