URGENT PLEASE HELP...Exposing to OW H, in-laws - 04/05/11 06:56 PM
I only recently discovered this site and it has already helped me immensely. I could really use some immediate advice and wisdom from you all. I plan on posting the full story soon but for now I will just try and sum up.
I have been with my H for 8 years, I'm 35, H is 32 and we have 2 children. The OW is married, they are both 28 and they have no children.
This a had gone on from Jan 2010 and exposure was Dec. 2010. After exposure, I learned that the OW had been diagnosed with Leukemia earlier in the year and her prognosis was dire. She was also about 13 weeks pregnant with my H's twins. She said dr's told her if she carried to term she could die and "babies" were already sick. The 2 times my H went to her city to visit was because she was dying in the hospital.She had come to our state 4 or 5 times. They work for the same company.
After much investigation I learned that she was never sick and dying, never was pregnant and had been perpetuating lies in attempts to keep a "relationship" with my H. He said he wanted to end it a long time before but with "babies" involved he didn't know what to do. We had been on the verge of divorcing for awhile.
I had a lot of conversations with the OW, her best friend(who also works at their company and was in on the lies as well) and have spoken to her brother who has only known her for a year. He was one of the ones that had given me confirmation on all of these lies. I have tried to find a way to contact her H but it has been impossible. He knows she cheated on him once but they are trying to work it out. He has no idea about any details. I found out his parents info and am considering calling his mother today. I feel her H has the right to know and I also know she has cheated on him before. They have been married 4 years. I am nervous to call his mother but I know the OW has no remorse and she has continued to use friends to threaten us. I have wanted to make sure I am not being vindictive but almost feel an obligation to expose the truth before she hurts anyone else.
Without going into anymore detail...Should I call the OW's MIL? What do I say?? Thank you for advice..I'm totally stressed out and I want this to stop..
I have been with my H for 8 years, I'm 35, H is 32 and we have 2 children. The OW is married, they are both 28 and they have no children.
This a had gone on from Jan 2010 and exposure was Dec. 2010. After exposure, I learned that the OW had been diagnosed with Leukemia earlier in the year and her prognosis was dire. She was also about 13 weeks pregnant with my H's twins. She said dr's told her if she carried to term she could die and "babies" were already sick. The 2 times my H went to her city to visit was because she was dying in the hospital.She had come to our state 4 or 5 times. They work for the same company.
After much investigation I learned that she was never sick and dying, never was pregnant and had been perpetuating lies in attempts to keep a "relationship" with my H. He said he wanted to end it a long time before but with "babies" involved he didn't know what to do. We had been on the verge of divorcing for awhile.
I had a lot of conversations with the OW, her best friend(who also works at their company and was in on the lies as well) and have spoken to her brother who has only known her for a year. He was one of the ones that had given me confirmation on all of these lies. I have tried to find a way to contact her H but it has been impossible. He knows she cheated on him once but they are trying to work it out. He has no idea about any details. I found out his parents info and am considering calling his mother today. I feel her H has the right to know and I also know she has cheated on him before. They have been married 4 years. I am nervous to call his mother but I know the OW has no remorse and she has continued to use friends to threaten us. I have wanted to make sure I am not being vindictive but almost feel an obligation to expose the truth before she hurts anyone else.
Without going into anymore detail...Should I call the OW's MIL? What do I say?? Thank you for advice..I'm totally stressed out and I want this to stop..