No Contact for Betrayed spouse - 12/19/11 04:07 PM
Wife had a brief affair a few years ago with a guy I knew from work. We are well on the way to recovery but I have one thing that I still question.
The AP lives in the north part of the valley and we in the south. Not really any chance for face to face contact. My wife is committed to NC and she hasn't for 2.5 years. I believe she is sincere in it all being over.
My problem is the AP and I are in the same industry and occasionally I will come across his name or even a picture or references to him in a conversation. It seems like I am still trying to protect my wife from being triggered by a mention of him in any way. I go out of my way to make sure they have NC even inadvertently.
I'm starting to wonder of this is affecting me negatively though.
Anyone have any comments on this?
The AP lives in the north part of the valley and we in the south. Not really any chance for face to face contact. My wife is committed to NC and she hasn't for 2.5 years. I believe she is sincere in it all being over.
My problem is the AP and I are in the same industry and occasionally I will come across his name or even a picture or references to him in a conversation. It seems like I am still trying to protect my wife from being triggered by a mention of him in any way. I go out of my way to make sure they have NC even inadvertently.
I'm starting to wonder of this is affecting me negatively though.
Anyone have any comments on this?