Traveling husband has affair w stranger - 03/13/13 09:39 PM
My husband and I have been married for 13 years. He travels a lot for work, approximately 3 weeks each month. Recently he came home disturbed and told me he had had too much to drink at the hotel bar and was flirting with a stranger. He invited her to his room and they had sex. He also told me he had an addiction to porn and has spent more $ at a strip club than any one thing he has ever bought me. He says he is attracted to me. We have a daughter and before the affair, he asked me to renew our vows. We had been in marriage counseling for 9 months. I am blown away. I asked him what he was not getting from me? I give him sex every night he is home, and I try new things, yet it was still not enough. I recently watched a video from this site and have a specific question. In most affairs that are talked about on this site, the first step is to sever relationships with the lover. In this case my husband did not know her name and had to get an STD test because he had symptoms. My question is two-fold. 1. I don't know if I should stay or go. At this point I have agreed to committ to 'trying' to work this out. Thoughts? My second question is: what is reasonable for him to omit or sever ties with? I told him I did not want him to travel anymore, and it is an ultimatum. However, he must travel for work. I just don't think I can do it. Please help.