Is your husband still drinking?
Have you read my story?
My H admitted to being an alcoholic right after D day.
He told me he would quit.
Before that, he had claimed: "I will cut back on my drinking" ....
several times. It's what alcoholics say when they are having life problems but cannot face the music of sobriety.
I told my H that I was happy he would stop drinking, but it was not good enough for me. I said that unless he joined AA, went to meetings and kept going to meetings, I would no longer remain married to him.
It was powerful incentive. I was serious. I was not blustering. I was not afraid to be alone. I was not afraid he would never come back. Why?
Because I knew I was in competition with alcohol more than I was in a competition with OW. If H loved
Miss Alcohol more than he loved being my husband, then so be it.
17 years later ........ He's sober. He goes to meetings. He is a speaker at meetings. He has a lot of male AA friends to support his sobriety. He has proper boundaries. He adores me. He has empathy and is honest. He is a reformed man.
Got it now?
LINK to abbreviation of Pepperband story