Newbie looking for advise/support - 08/15/14 02:18 PM
My husband and I have been married for 28 years. About two months ago I discovered he had been having an affair for about two to three months. Initially he said he wanted to separate. He claimed our house felt cold and our relationship was just about the kids but said he did still love me. Over the last few years life just got in the way. Between kids work and taking care if his parents and my dad I didn't focus on us. I took a lot for granted. I felt like I was part responsible for him straying and would so anything to keep out marriage together. I had a huge wake up. He remained at home but there were times he would spend time with her. Then he said he wanted to work things out and claimed he ended things with her. The nights were great. We reconnected physically and at night would find him hugging me theough the night. He did not have any contact with her for about one week then she texted him. He then said he was confused. Things got heated and our two teenage girls found out. The next day he said he did not want to lose his family and agreed tongi to counseling. We went that day. He came home and sent the other girl a text that he was done and did not want to lose his family. He then deleted all her info and blocked her. This was a little over a month ago and he has not had any contact. We are starting to connect again. We just went away for the weekend. I am hopeful but am still so scared. I am trying really hard. Should I be hopeful? Any thoughts or recommendations for me to help keep him. Hiw to make him really stay and re fall in love with me more. Make him happy?