How does the never contact an ex-lover work? - 11/18/14 05:36 AM
I'm trying to figure out how this "never have contact with an ex-lover" rule Dr. Harley has works. My wife & I divorced a year ago ,because of her fling with her ex-husband. She claims she did it only because we were having conflicts with our blended family. I have two children and she has two children with him, and we have one together. The last 6 months we have been working on and considering reconciling, but there is a constant issue of her having to contact with her ex-husband in regards to their children, seems like a slap in my face at times - maybe I'm too sensitive. This week her daughter is turning 11 and her dad, the ex-husband/fling, is throwing her a birthday party at a gymnastics place. The daughter wants her mother their too, because most of her friends do not know her dad (he lives 4hrs away) and most likely will not come because of that reason. I can appreciate wanting both parents to be at a birthday party, so how would Dr. Harley's rule on no contact between an ex-lover work in a situation like this, or even ongoing where we reconcile, but there is still a cloud of resentment (still angry) from me because of what I can see to be unnecessary communication and excessive at times between her ex-husband and her?
Appreciate any advice you can give.
thanks
Appreciate any advice you can give.
thanks