I only realised i was married to a sex addict about 6 weeks ago. I had initially thought the first 2 DDays were ONS till i discovered a secret phones and tons of women, orgies, sex parties and more. He moved out immediately and its been difficult for me but i am holding up. Recently discovered an STD and then last week one of his women says she is pregnant.

Of course he said he as sorry but from now i dont believe anythig he ever says. There was also some trickle truth which made everything much worse. He has joined an SA group, but as we are not living together and i recently started NC, i do not know how far he has gone there or if he still goes anyway.

I have joined COSA and S-anon and would say that is what is keeping me sane right now. Anyone going through something similar or who went through something similar please do share.

I'm so very sorry.

Do you want to stay married? Have you ever emailed Dr. Harley?

Dear Brainhurts, Not sure yet. I am still so hurt and confused that i havent been able to make a decision. We are currently separated, and he wants to reconcile, but for now i know i want to remain separated but not sure of divorce down the line.

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