Just exposed an emotional affair during separation - 11/22/15 07:02 AM
Hi
New to MB but have read lots on the site. A month ago my husband left us (on my birthday, I might add) and I've suspected a large factor is an emotional affair (I suspect the most physical involvement is a kiss out two but not sure) co-worker. After snooping I've confirmed my suspicions of the engineering involvement.
I immediately informed my spouse and his lover of my discovery and gave them two days to come forward to the lover's husband as I would be contacting him myself that day.
I've been told that the lover's husband has been contacted and that they have committed to no longer texting or ride sharing. But they work together...
At this point my husband is definitely in withdrawal and has been for some time. He has been resentful of me and even called me "emotionally abusive." I've recognized that I engaged in many love busters, mostly criticism... He has moved in with his mom and is just living it up with old friends, drinking and partying (he's never had a drink in his life before he left).
He is very angry at me for exposing things (just happened last night). I fear I have ruined my chances of getting his forgiveness and working on reconciliation. I'm just terrified I did the wrong thing.
New to MB but have read lots on the site. A month ago my husband left us (on my birthday, I might add) and I've suspected a large factor is an emotional affair (I suspect the most physical involvement is a kiss out two but not sure) co-worker. After snooping I've confirmed my suspicions of the engineering involvement.
I immediately informed my spouse and his lover of my discovery and gave them two days to come forward to the lover's husband as I would be contacting him myself that day.
I've been told that the lover's husband has been contacted and that they have committed to no longer texting or ride sharing. But they work together...
At this point my husband is definitely in withdrawal and has been for some time. He has been resentful of me and even called me "emotionally abusive." I've recognized that I engaged in many love busters, mostly criticism... He has moved in with his mom and is just living it up with old friends, drinking and partying (he's never had a drink in his life before he left).
He is very angry at me for exposing things (just happened last night). I fear I have ruined my chances of getting his forgiveness and working on reconciliation. I'm just terrified I did the wrong thing.