Wife's friendship with her ex Co-worker - 11/25/15 03:39 AM
My wife basically has very limited number of friends and she does not have habit of being regularly in touch with them.
My issue started when I started seeing Messages of her ex Co-Worker in Messenger.Messaging started after he got another job. Messages are of normal nature like hi, how r u etc(Which I saw). Recently messages also comes as SMS.
Since the messages were normal I did not bothered. My doubt started when I accidentally saw message history of few messages both incoming and reply in her mobile. Messages were deleted. She is having other male friends also but none of them message or call frequently. Also bill of her mobile come to my mail id since it is a combo number from which I saw messages sent to this person many times. Most of these were on my absence at home.
I spoke to her and told her that this guy does not seem genuine. She said she just replies his message as he frequently messages and nothing else. She also messaged the guy not to message her in night as I dislike.
After expressing my concern She is not in touch with the person. But she has not yet disclosed the reason for hiding friendship. I have gone through doctors 'Surviving Infidelity' Post. I am trying to work on it now. It often hurts me why she hide the friendship from me. To the best of my knowledge I am more or less sure that there is only friendship and nothing else. Awaiting your valuable advice on rebuilding trust in my married life
My issue started when I started seeing Messages of her ex Co-Worker in Messenger.Messaging started after he got another job. Messages are of normal nature like hi, how r u etc(Which I saw). Recently messages also comes as SMS.
Since the messages were normal I did not bothered. My doubt started when I accidentally saw message history of few messages both incoming and reply in her mobile. Messages were deleted. She is having other male friends also but none of them message or call frequently. Also bill of her mobile come to my mail id since it is a combo number from which I saw messages sent to this person many times. Most of these were on my absence at home.
I spoke to her and told her that this guy does not seem genuine. She said she just replies his message as he frequently messages and nothing else. She also messaged the guy not to message her in night as I dislike.
After expressing my concern She is not in touch with the person. But she has not yet disclosed the reason for hiding friendship. I have gone through doctors 'Surviving Infidelity' Post. I am trying to work on it now. It often hurts me why she hide the friendship from me. To the best of my knowledge I am more or less sure that there is only friendship and nothing else. Awaiting your valuable advice on rebuilding trust in my married life