Resentful towards my husband - 01/30/16 07:46 PM
Hi,
It's coming to almost 2 years since I've been married to my husband. We both young (26yrs ; same age) and have a beautiful daughter and another baby on the way. But I have been so resentful and biased with him for his past mistakes. I tell myself I want to forget everything and forgive and work on our relationship but It hard since he still talks to the same girls he's cheated on me with. He cheated on me several times before and after marriage. But he always begged for my forgiveness and tried to work it out.
Before marriage, we were in a long distance relationship (different continents) and then started to live together after a year of marriage. I had our first baby while in the long distance.
To be honest I love him so much and I just want to be right for him. Every time these girls call him I just get angry and feel like he's already unfaithful. He admits to flirting with other girls because he gets along with them, and that all men do it so he wouldn't be the first. This kills me. I have been trying to build back my trust in him but I feel like he keeps breaking what I build.... Or it's me who just breaks what I am building. I need to support him and his work because he has done a great job at providing for the family. But my resent for him gets in my way and blocks and clouds my love for him and also pushes him away. Yet I find it hard to avoid it. I need to reprogram my mind and be happy. Should I just give a blind eye. When he picks calls at night from girls, should I just deal with it? He'll come round?
I keep thinking he's unfaithful all the time. Please advise.
Yours Tryan
It's coming to almost 2 years since I've been married to my husband. We both young (26yrs ; same age) and have a beautiful daughter and another baby on the way. But I have been so resentful and biased with him for his past mistakes. I tell myself I want to forget everything and forgive and work on our relationship but It hard since he still talks to the same girls he's cheated on me with. He cheated on me several times before and after marriage. But he always begged for my forgiveness and tried to work it out.
Before marriage, we were in a long distance relationship (different continents) and then started to live together after a year of marriage. I had our first baby while in the long distance.
To be honest I love him so much and I just want to be right for him. Every time these girls call him I just get angry and feel like he's already unfaithful. He admits to flirting with other girls because he gets along with them, and that all men do it so he wouldn't be the first. This kills me. I have been trying to build back my trust in him but I feel like he keeps breaking what I build.... Or it's me who just breaks what I am building. I need to support him and his work because he has done a great job at providing for the family. But my resent for him gets in my way and blocks and clouds my love for him and also pushes him away. Yet I find it hard to avoid it. I need to reprogram my mind and be happy. Should I just give a blind eye. When he picks calls at night from girls, should I just deal with it? He'll come round?
I keep thinking he's unfaithful all the time. Please advise.
Yours Tryan