16th wedding anniversary completely heartbroken - 04/27/16 08:24 AM
Today was my 16th wedding anniversary and my husband spent it at another woman's house and he is still there. I am so depressed and trying to finish with school (graduate next month). This weekend I found out he was with another woman and he agreed to work on the marriage, but refused to give up contact with the other woman saying he had no else to talk to. I do not have anyone to talk to myself and we both live very hectic lives I am in school full time and work parttime. He is in school fulltime and works full time. He spent the night at her house a few times and sneaks off with her. When I confront him he denies it and has started hiding his cell phone. But when he went to the bathroom I saw it and was telling her he was really into and she said she felt the same. I blew up and was so angry. We talked this weekend and agreed to work on the marriage, but I said it would be very hard to do with her in the picture. I have finals in the next few days and I cannot even think about school even though I need to pass these classes to graduate. On top of that a close relative is very sick and that is just adding to the stress. He has spent the night over the woman's house twice and is currently spending our 16th anniversary with her, but claims he has not touched her at all. I have been through his side through everything and he is acting very weird towards me. Refusing to answer my phone calls or texts, he has not touched me in weeks. He claims that I did not want to agree to marriage counseling this weekend, I told him I that but I wanted to wait until after finals week. I want to do marriage counseling and I told him that today over the phone. But he claims he needs to think. Our lease is up at the end of the year and I am thinking about suggesting counseling for 6 months and if it does not work out then get a divorce. But I do not want a divorce, but my heart is aching terribly. He just told me earlier this month that he was so happy we got married. Last month we were planning a trip to celebrate our anniversary. But now he claims he has been unhappy for a long time. If that is the case why did he not tell me earlier. I have an exam tomorrow and I all of this has been causing me not to study. I don't know what to do, at some points I lash at him and other times I want to be with him. To top it all off this other woman talks about how she is such a Christian woman and goes to bible study. I wonder if bible tells her it is okay to sleep with a married man.