My Emotions are All Over - 10/19/16 08:48 PM
Hi
I'm new here and basically found this site while searching how to survive an affair.
My husband of 9 years was caught in my home by my 21 year old daughter. He was getting a blow job (which he claims he stopped because he didnt feel right about it).
This was 2 weeks ago,
My husband is a DJ and met this person at a party. He was doing events and she got friendly with him. He said he wasn't attracted to her but she was "cool" and easy to talk to.
My husband claims nothing went on til that day 2 weeks ago when she called him while I was at work saying she was in the area visiting a friend. He gave her our address and met her downstairs. They chatted and she offered to take care of him by way of a BJ
I'm so angry typing this but anyway...
He claims she was going to do it right there on the side of the building in the alleyway but someone came. Disgusting. He selfishly invited her up and said he only wanted a BJ. I don't know what to believe but he's consistently stuck to this story. Although he did admit to talking to her on The phone and meeting outside to chat when he was in her area (4-5 times)
He said she wanted more but he told her no. He felt guilty.
Well when my daughter came in he pushed the girl out In The hall In Her panties. Guilty as sin. Begged my daughter not to tell me so he could.
Fast forward and he's been very apologetic and transparent. One momnt everything seems to be getting back to normal and the next I'm upset all over again.
When this first happened I put him out for 3 days, he was begging and pleading. He's even cut all contacts with this girl. Even blocked her on social media.
However I have an image of she and him in my head and I can't get it out. Her with her mouth on my husbands....piece it's awful.
Did I take him back to soon? How do I get these thoughts out of my head?
I'm new here and basically found this site while searching how to survive an affair.
My husband of 9 years was caught in my home by my 21 year old daughter. He was getting a blow job (which he claims he stopped because he didnt feel right about it).
This was 2 weeks ago,
My husband is a DJ and met this person at a party. He was doing events and she got friendly with him. He said he wasn't attracted to her but she was "cool" and easy to talk to.
My husband claims nothing went on til that day 2 weeks ago when she called him while I was at work saying she was in the area visiting a friend. He gave her our address and met her downstairs. They chatted and she offered to take care of him by way of a BJ
I'm so angry typing this but anyway...
He claims she was going to do it right there on the side of the building in the alleyway but someone came. Disgusting. He selfishly invited her up and said he only wanted a BJ. I don't know what to believe but he's consistently stuck to this story. Although he did admit to talking to her on The phone and meeting outside to chat when he was in her area (4-5 times)
He said she wanted more but he told her no. He felt guilty.
Well when my daughter came in he pushed the girl out In The hall In Her panties. Guilty as sin. Begged my daughter not to tell me so he could.
Fast forward and he's been very apologetic and transparent. One momnt everything seems to be getting back to normal and the next I'm upset all over again.
When this first happened I put him out for 3 days, he was begging and pleading. He's even cut all contacts with this girl. Even blocked her on social media.
However I have an image of she and him in my head and I can't get it out. Her with her mouth on my husbands....piece it's awful.
Did I take him back to soon? How do I get these thoughts out of my head?