Too many triggers - 11/27/16 11:09 PM
Good afternoon. I have been reading this forum for quite some time now and have decided to post as I am beginning to lose hope.
I have the same affair story as alot of others on here. I let someone else meet the needs that didn't get met at home........fell in love, bailed on my family blah blah blah. So
shameful.
My affair has been over for a year, and we have been working on recovery for a good 8 months but it seems like every time I feel we are making progress one of us gets triggered again. I don't feel like we are making any progress.
My husband has no feelings left for me, and I understand why but reading here makes me think there may be hope for us.
We have a comfortable life together but there is absolutely no sense of intimacy. We both feel like we are just putting in time but for what, until when? Is this going to be our life now?
We have been reading the books together; His needs Her needs and Love Busters, and doing all the suggested activities, but none of our feelings have changed at all.
Where do we go from here?
I have the same affair story as alot of others on here. I let someone else meet the needs that didn't get met at home........fell in love, bailed on my family blah blah blah. So
shameful.
My affair has been over for a year, and we have been working on recovery for a good 8 months but it seems like every time I feel we are making progress one of us gets triggered again. I don't feel like we are making any progress.
My husband has no feelings left for me, and I understand why but reading here makes me think there may be hope for us.
We have a comfortable life together but there is absolutely no sense of intimacy. We both feel like we are just putting in time but for what, until when? Is this going to be our life now?
We have been reading the books together; His needs Her needs and Love Busters, and doing all the suggested activities, but none of our feelings have changed at all.
Where do we go from here?