At a loss with wife's affair. - 09/12/17 03:12 AM
I am 7 weeks in from DDay. The first 5 weeks I was so lost and emotional. Yes I did the begging and pleading, crying, trying to talk. My world was upside down. I finally caught my head. We were together for 12 years married for 4.5 of them. We also have 1 child. So I found out that my wife had an affair after pulling the truth out of her. It was EA then sexting then physical. We had a rut for 2 years. I can only suspect she had the affair for that long. I told friends and family. Her affair partner was a person I know. He lives an hour away. There is part of me that wants to make us work and another part that says [censored] her. Well after her being on the fence she decided to jump ship. She is now pusing for the divorce. She wants to lie to judges to get what she wants. I have a lawyer Im filing to try and hold out. Im not going to lie to any judge no matter what. I have a feeling that she brought my child to his apt after find out she has logged into my facebook from his city on a laptop that I know had my credentials. She doesn't know I have a lawyer. She will have to wait 10 months to do anything and I will hope my lawyer can set a rule that my daughter can not be around Affair partner. We will see. I am limiting contact with her. Trying to be short and try the 180 deal. This dude (BIFF just like back to the future) is a real piece of work. He cheated on his wife now divorced. Then hit up a married woman, then tried to talk dirty to his best friends girlfriend. Now he has my wife. Im so sick of this. Part of me wants to let her go to fail...lol Part of me is worried for my child. I have to hope the affair ends soon but doesn't seem to be and I do not know how long it has been going on. Im just lost. I have to say one thing. I am grateful for this because i know where I personally went wrong. I was a weak person that placed all my trust on her over me. I valued her more than myself. Dumb I know. I gave too much. She left the house and the car we share my daughter 50/50.
I just don't know what else to do. Once the paper work is signed I figured I would call her and tell her I am filing and she will have to wait. I know she will be pissed. I want to save my family, but I also can't believe this either. IF she does comeback she may still cheat. I don't want to set myself up for failure.
She is lying to people, her other friends have blocked contact with me. She told family that some close friends knew she was going to leave me and that was a lie. help..
What do I NEED TO DO!
I just don't know what else to do. Once the paper work is signed I figured I would call her and tell her I am filing and she will have to wait. I know she will be pissed. I want to save my family, but I also can't believe this either. IF she does comeback she may still cheat. I don't want to set myself up for failure.
She is lying to people, her other friends have blocked contact with me. She told family that some close friends knew she was going to leave me and that was a lie. help..
What do I NEED TO DO!