Husband on dangerous ground. I'm scared. - 09/22/17 05:27 PM
Hello everyone
I never thought I would be on this site again, but here I am.
I was here back in 2006 after my husband had a long term affair with a psychopath that tried to poison me. That is past and have gone through hell trying to move on from it.
I am devastated once again.
We have read every article and book but I don't have the strength to try anything right now. I'm trying to just get through the next 10 min.
The thought of ever having sex with this man makes me want to vomit.
Now I found he is on many bottom of the barrel dating sites including one which most are cops.
The gals he is talking to are 20-39, he is 62. He talked to them late at night after I go to bed. He has a tablet which is hard for me to get around to find things. I am still looking and find more every day. I think he may have bought another tablet because now (yesterday) I find conversations in the trash in his email which was empty before. He may have a secret cell phone but I haven't found it yet.I am worried for my children and grandchildren that he will get caught up in one of those stings. Been a lot of arrests around here.
When I confronted him, he said he had no intention of ever meeting anyone. Even after I showed him emails saying things like he was looking for long term sex, he is ready and distance is no problem, etc. I saw one from a gal that said "just let me know the details". Sounds like plans to meet to me. He must think I'm stupid.
This all started around the middle of August. He never comes home from work and is gone on weekends until I discovered this on his tablet. A lot of money is missing from around that time also so I feel he did meet up with someone. I keep finding more on the tablet but have only found his part of one email, etc. Now he comes home right after work.
I think he bought another tablet because I now find emails in the trash that was empty before. I'm searching for a secret phone because several girls gave their phone numbers.
He's going through the routine again of saying he's sorry and he will never do it again. Yah right.
I am disabled (auto immune disease) and stress causes my immune system to attack various organs.
Due to my lack of energy and brain fog, I can't keep up to him to check on him. I can't take being lied to anymore.
His last affair caused me to lose my job, our business, almost our house and my life.
In 2006 I bought all the books and we went through counseling with Steve Harley. Didn't help at all. We just ended up $8,000 in debt we couldn't afford.
I don't know what to do. I can't afford an apartment because rent is more than my disability. I feel so trapped with no where to go.
Thank you for reading
Rebooted
I'm 61, WS 62
Married 43 years
3 grown boys
I never thought I would be on this site again, but here I am.
I was here back in 2006 after my husband had a long term affair with a psychopath that tried to poison me. That is past and have gone through hell trying to move on from it.
I am devastated once again.
We have read every article and book but I don't have the strength to try anything right now. I'm trying to just get through the next 10 min.
The thought of ever having sex with this man makes me want to vomit.
Now I found he is on many bottom of the barrel dating sites including one which most are cops.
The gals he is talking to are 20-39, he is 62. He talked to them late at night after I go to bed. He has a tablet which is hard for me to get around to find things. I am still looking and find more every day. I think he may have bought another tablet because now (yesterday) I find conversations in the trash in his email which was empty before. He may have a secret cell phone but I haven't found it yet.I am worried for my children and grandchildren that he will get caught up in one of those stings. Been a lot of arrests around here.
When I confronted him, he said he had no intention of ever meeting anyone. Even after I showed him emails saying things like he was looking for long term sex, he is ready and distance is no problem, etc. I saw one from a gal that said "just let me know the details". Sounds like plans to meet to me. He must think I'm stupid.
This all started around the middle of August. He never comes home from work and is gone on weekends until I discovered this on his tablet. A lot of money is missing from around that time also so I feel he did meet up with someone. I keep finding more on the tablet but have only found his part of one email, etc. Now he comes home right after work.
I think he bought another tablet because I now find emails in the trash that was empty before. I'm searching for a secret phone because several girls gave their phone numbers.
He's going through the routine again of saying he's sorry and he will never do it again. Yah right.
I am disabled (auto immune disease) and stress causes my immune system to attack various organs.
Due to my lack of energy and brain fog, I can't keep up to him to check on him. I can't take being lied to anymore.
His last affair caused me to lose my job, our business, almost our house and my life.
In 2006 I bought all the books and we went through counseling with Steve Harley. Didn't help at all. We just ended up $8,000 in debt we couldn't afford.
I don't know what to do. I can't afford an apartment because rent is more than my disability. I feel so trapped with no where to go.
Thank you for reading
Rebooted
I'm 61, WS 62
Married 43 years
3 grown boys