Do I know everyhting now? How do I know? - 11/15/17 08:12 PM
For months my husband denied all accounts of an affair. I asked him SEVERAL times about text messages. Over an almost two month period, he continually denied any messages. He was deleting all of the messages. Messaging had been going on for at least 6 months. He is not a techy guy and relatively new to his iphone. So when text messages were deleted he yelled �I wish you would believe me I don�t know how to run that thing�. His affair partner was a Christian Reform and he defended himself by using that she is religious as a defense. He originally said they were �just friends�. I found out he was driving by her place, and he lied about that too. He met with her and he lied about that too. Many lies about many things.
But I hacked into his phone with Wondershare. (Thank you to this forum) And found out the truth, or some of the truth�I am not sure.
I found months of parts of messages, often incomplete and no dates etc. I did find out that they had been sexting, nearly every day. Found that she was sending pictures in her bikini and her bra. Found out he ahd been driving by her place and that they had met a couple of times, to fondle one another.
I confronted him and he admitted the things I found out, but he has not really provided any additional information. He insists that it was only fondling, but that they did bring each other to orgasm (I found that out). He denies any kissing, any oral sex, or intercourse.
We are reconciling and working on our marriage. Seeing a counselor and read a few books. I feel that he is not telling me everything. I have a hard time believing that I accidentally found EVERYTHING out. Also that they were not kissing. Sexting revealed fantasy of oral sex but nothing to confirm it. He says I know everything but I am having a hard time believing this. I have questioned him SEVERAL times and he consistently denies it. But he consistently denied the affair to begin with.
He is completely transparent now. But how do I know that I have all of the details of what did happen? Or should I not be concerned? I feel I should know how far it went. But I feel that if I can�t find proof I will never know? And never believe him? Or do I just assume the worst.
We are building trust back, but only because I can confirm and find proof to back up what he says, I assume that that is going to be the way for a while until I get comfortable that he is back on the right track.
But I hacked into his phone with Wondershare. (Thank you to this forum) And found out the truth, or some of the truth�I am not sure.
I found months of parts of messages, often incomplete and no dates etc. I did find out that they had been sexting, nearly every day. Found that she was sending pictures in her bikini and her bra. Found out he ahd been driving by her place and that they had met a couple of times, to fondle one another.
I confronted him and he admitted the things I found out, but he has not really provided any additional information. He insists that it was only fondling, but that they did bring each other to orgasm (I found that out). He denies any kissing, any oral sex, or intercourse.
We are reconciling and working on our marriage. Seeing a counselor and read a few books. I feel that he is not telling me everything. I have a hard time believing that I accidentally found EVERYTHING out. Also that they were not kissing. Sexting revealed fantasy of oral sex but nothing to confirm it. He says I know everything but I am having a hard time believing this. I have questioned him SEVERAL times and he consistently denies it. But he consistently denied the affair to begin with.
He is completely transparent now. But how do I know that I have all of the details of what did happen? Or should I not be concerned? I feel I should know how far it went. But I feel that if I can�t find proof I will never know? And never believe him? Or do I just assume the worst.
We are building trust back, but only because I can confirm and find proof to back up what he says, I assume that that is going to be the way for a while until I get comfortable that he is back on the right track.