Exposing OM when he's a cop? - 12/20/17 07:35 AM
I've only been lurking for a week, or so, but I read SAA and had a session with Dr Harley.
I'm putting together my list of who to expose my WW's affair to and I'm a bit conflicted on OM's family/friends.
He's a local Sheriff's Deputy and I've heard from three separate friends that they knew people who'd exposed a cop's relationship and had been harassed by law enforcement for years. One claimed it was so bad she just avoided the entire county.
FWIW, he's separated from his wife. I don't know when this happened. They were together in October, but he has his own apartment now and, based on his conversation with my WW, he's still fighting with his wife over money, so it must not be a done deal.
Should I be concerned by this enough to NOT expose the affair to his spouse/friends? How does the cost/benefit analysis play out in these sort of circumstances?
I'm putting together my list of who to expose my WW's affair to and I'm a bit conflicted on OM's family/friends.
He's a local Sheriff's Deputy and I've heard from three separate friends that they knew people who'd exposed a cop's relationship and had been harassed by law enforcement for years. One claimed it was so bad she just avoided the entire county.
FWIW, he's separated from his wife. I don't know when this happened. They were together in October, but he has his own apartment now and, based on his conversation with my WW, he's still fighting with his wife over money, so it must not be a done deal.
Should I be concerned by this enough to NOT expose the affair to his spouse/friends? How does the cost/benefit analysis play out in these sort of circumstances?