Husband requesting divorce 3 years after my affair - 04/29/20 09:59 PM
I am 43 and my husband is 45. We have been married for 20 years and have three children all in college.
So I had about 3.5 years ago I had a six-month physical affair that ended horribly when the OM exposed everything to my husband.
We decided to work to fix things and I honestly thought the last two years we had made great strides in reconnecting after the fallout.
My husband agrees that we have gotten back to where we were before the affair, but ultimately feels like the level of passion and enthusiasm I had during the affair isn't possible for us.
He doesn't want to feel jealous of my relationship with the OM, but the nature of my affair has made that extremely difficult.
I understand his reasoning but am not sure what to do about it. We meet each other's needs (or so I thought) and honestly, the affair was because of my poor boundaries and selfish decisions.
I'd like to save my marriage, but I also want my husband to feel as he says wanted and desired.
So I had about 3.5 years ago I had a six-month physical affair that ended horribly when the OM exposed everything to my husband.
We decided to work to fix things and I honestly thought the last two years we had made great strides in reconnecting after the fallout.
My husband agrees that we have gotten back to where we were before the affair, but ultimately feels like the level of passion and enthusiasm I had during the affair isn't possible for us.
He doesn't want to feel jealous of my relationship with the OM, but the nature of my affair has made that extremely difficult.
I understand his reasoning but am not sure what to do about it. We meet each other's needs (or so I thought) and honestly, the affair was because of my poor boundaries and selfish decisions.
I'd like to save my marriage, but I also want my husband to feel as he says wanted and desired.