Stay or go? - 09/27/21 07:54 AM
Hi I been married for 5 years been with him for 15. We have two young children. A few weeks ago my husband told
Me had trouble paying bills because of having too much responsibilities on the house bills. He thought it was unfair which led him to racking up debt. I understood his frustration even tho he mentioned in passing before so I helped him out. After helping him out , a few weeks late I find out he’s having a flirtatious relationship with a Co worker who he admits he likes a little. After confronting him, he lashed out and said he never wanted to be a family man never wanted a suburban like or kids. He doesn’t feel the same about me. He says I changed and I’m not fun anymore.( sorry we have a family now it’s not all fun and games) he doesn’t want to go marriage counseling . He says there’s no point. I confronted the girl. He said she apologized to him but they still work with each other. He holds a lot of resentment from the past to justify his reasons for stepping out of the marriage , resentment for childish stuff done before marriage. He said the marriage can’t be salvage and he’s been wanting to leave for awhile. But hasn’t left. He said he still has responsibilities to the family but he doesn’t have anywhere to go or have the finances for it. He says he feels guilt and is sad about the situations . I asked him why he doesn’t leave and he said it’s a heavy decision. I’m confused … He says he cares about me and loves me to a certain extent … he said he wanted a fresh start but not with me and doesn’t want us to disappear out of his life either … should I stay or go?
Me had trouble paying bills because of having too much responsibilities on the house bills. He thought it was unfair which led him to racking up debt. I understood his frustration even tho he mentioned in passing before so I helped him out. After helping him out , a few weeks late I find out he’s having a flirtatious relationship with a Co worker who he admits he likes a little. After confronting him, he lashed out and said he never wanted to be a family man never wanted a suburban like or kids. He doesn’t feel the same about me. He says I changed and I’m not fun anymore.( sorry we have a family now it’s not all fun and games) he doesn’t want to go marriage counseling . He says there’s no point. I confronted the girl. He said she apologized to him but they still work with each other. He holds a lot of resentment from the past to justify his reasons for stepping out of the marriage , resentment for childish stuff done before marriage. He said the marriage can’t be salvage and he’s been wanting to leave for awhile. But hasn’t left. He said he still has responsibilities to the family but he doesn’t have anywhere to go or have the finances for it. He says he feels guilt and is sad about the situations . I asked him why he doesn’t leave and he said it’s a heavy decision. I’m confused … He says he cares about me and loves me to a certain extent … he said he wanted a fresh start but not with me and doesn’t want us to disappear out of his life either … should I stay or go?