My wife out of the blue said she doesn't love me anymore and said she has been just going through the motions for along time. Moved out within for weeks. Have 3 kids at home. Sharing kids now. Says she needs time to see if she can find any feelings left for me. Is not even at a point to even talk and work things out. She is afraid that her feelings for me are gone and will not come back. She is cold to me and says she just needs time. What needs to happen in order for her to find that love that she once had for me?17 years of marriage. Told her I am sorry for draining her emotionally and I did not realize the extent of her emotions that she kept inside. How can she find that love?

Could there be another man? If you think there could be (heck even if you think there isn't), head over to General Questions II on the Infidelity forum, or place your question under Emotional Needs, both of which get more traffic.

My first thought was that there's another man lurking in the background. People don't usually announce they've fallen out of love and shift out, just like that, to live in a flat somewhere, leaving the spouse, the kids and everything familiar behind. It doesn't make sense that she's gone to an empty flat leaving all her possessions and familiar things behind her.