Hi LA -
One thing I do know...my DH didn't feel he had influence on his sons...so he didn't take his own actions/choices seriously. Choose to believe you're vital, influential in your son's life...what could be the downside?
No downside at all. It's something that I'm just admitting to myself - the various ways in which I've failed DS. We had a talk the other night and I shared some of what I'm dealing with, and where I hope to go, and some of the things I hope to accomplish with him (in terms of our relationship). It's a starting point.
Getting ahold of, and keeping control of, my anger is key. That, coupled with realizing that he's 13, not 5, and his way is not necessarily my way (nor should it be). Lots of opportunity here - if I take it.
As far as stuff goes, I have no problem having the occasional use stuff (like Christmas decorations). I want to get rid of the old electronics (cellphones, computer components), outgrown kids toys, and general junk that we've managed to accumulate in the last 6 years.
Are you getting any RC time in the new town together? I'm thinking all the cheap stuff you figured out how to do...which means you get ready-made-value from it.
RC time? Remote control? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Nope. Not really. To be honest, I haven't even tried. Any RC time we have will most likely be at my initiation, and after 2 years of dealing with essentially the same old, same old, the motivation and energy is just not there.
I've made my request to MP. She knows what I want from her. Beyond that, it's out of my control. She meets me there, or not. She meets me soon, or later. Sooner is much preferable to later, because at some point later may become never, even if she's there.
But all that is tomorrow. Today is now. Matthew 6:34. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />