Hello, MB advice from experienced vets please - 11/21/10 06:30 PM
My 21 year old DD is heart-broken.
Her BF is breaking up with her after 5 years of dating.
They have been trying to have a long distance relationship these past 6 months.
Both are students in different cities.
She's doing all the wrong things.
Crying.
Ultimatums she can't keep.
Begging.
Trying to guilt him.
Meanwhile, back at the ranch .... I can offer advice. but she is a very emotionally driven girl at the moment. My advice sounds a lot like:
"Whaa-whaa-blah-blah"
Aside from being there to listen, and carefully inserting some principles of living a good life into the conversation ... I decided today I would order her 2 MB books.
The One (new version of Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders)
and Love Busters.
BF wants to still be able to call/text/skype but still says they are:
"Taking a break" ... whatever the hell that means.
I'm OK if this relationship fails.
I just want to provide a safe place for her to fall and materials to help her acquire better skills for the future.
KIDS !!!!!! Adult kids are difficult. They know everything until they need you, then they don't know how to help themselves.
DD21 says the only reason this relationship is failing is the distance.
Well, my H and I see this differently.
It is a relationship that was begun with the assistance of training wheels, and the wheels came off. Now, they find they have no balance.
UGH
Parenting is so hard.
Her BF is breaking up with her after 5 years of dating.
They have been trying to have a long distance relationship these past 6 months.
Both are students in different cities.
She's doing all the wrong things.
Crying.
Ultimatums she can't keep.
Begging.
Trying to guilt him.
Meanwhile, back at the ranch .... I can offer advice. but she is a very emotionally driven girl at the moment. My advice sounds a lot like:
"Whaa-whaa-blah-blah"
Aside from being there to listen, and carefully inserting some principles of living a good life into the conversation ... I decided today I would order her 2 MB books.
The One (new version of Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders)
and Love Busters.
BF wants to still be able to call/text/skype but still says they are:
"Taking a break" ... whatever the hell that means.
I'm OK if this relationship fails.
I just want to provide a safe place for her to fall and materials to help her acquire better skills for the future.
KIDS !!!!!! Adult kids are difficult. They know everything until they need you, then they don't know how to help themselves.
DD21 says the only reason this relationship is failing is the distance.
Well, my H and I see this differently.
It is a relationship that was begun with the assistance of training wheels, and the wheels came off. Now, they find they have no balance.
UGH
Parenting is so hard.