Unwanted pregnancy and how to support? - 08/14/12 10:44 AM
Hi all,
I am not really sure where to post this... it is not to do with a marriage.
I have just learned that a loved one is expecting a child. A de facto relationship (in Aus this is living together for 6+ months). He is upset. He had made clear he did not want children although clearly did not take action to ensure this. He is frustrated, and I suspect his resentment will grow.
I have not had to face him yet... I heard about the "blessing" from others. I suspect he will contact me tomorrow.
I have mixed emotions. I know he did not want children. I feel he has been conned by his partner, but given my own situation I am hardly objective.
How do I go about supporting him, and what is said when a pregnancy is not planned? I can't congratulate! I think he has made a huge mistake, but want to give the right advice. Given this is triggering me, I want to be sure what the right advice actually is!!!
This relationship is not MB and I know the relationship is doomed. Before the pregnancy I suspected the relationship was doomed. What on earth do I say???
I am not really sure where to post this... it is not to do with a marriage.
I have just learned that a loved one is expecting a child. A de facto relationship (in Aus this is living together for 6+ months). He is upset. He had made clear he did not want children although clearly did not take action to ensure this. He is frustrated, and I suspect his resentment will grow.
I have not had to face him yet... I heard about the "blessing" from others. I suspect he will contact me tomorrow.
I have mixed emotions. I know he did not want children. I feel he has been conned by his partner, but given my own situation I am hardly objective.
How do I go about supporting him, and what is said when a pregnancy is not planned? I can't congratulate! I think he has made a huge mistake, but want to give the right advice. Given this is triggering me, I want to be sure what the right advice actually is!!!
This relationship is not MB and I know the relationship is doomed. Before the pregnancy I suspected the relationship was doomed. What on earth do I say???